The June LIW Small Talk Thread

[sunnyd]

Elle, I love the Maggie. Boo for no ''real life'' pics though!

 

[stepcutgirl]

Yay Misskitty!

Elle-What the crap is world of warcraft?!

 

[princesss]

Elle, I love that dress!

Guys, I''m going nuts here. BF and his sister got into a major fight, and it just stresses me out like nothing else. I''m so sick of this. 4 years and it seriously has never let up (well, I guess 20 years, but I''ve only been around for 4). At this point I just leave the room when they fight, but it''s really the only thing that makes either of us dislike being here.

Do any of you have to deal with watching your SO fight with somebody on a regular basis? How do you handle it? I just kind of pretend it''s not happening, but I feel like a self conscious background actor in a bad movie. You know the one that suddenly remembers they''re supposed to do something, and so they awkwardly do 5 different things and none of them are right?

 

[Lauren8211]

Thanks! I hope it works. The bridal place just called and said I can''t order it and get it in time.

That means I''d have to buy a sample dress, but the sample is a size 8.. and ... ugghghhhh. I''m SO frustrated. I feel like crying.

World of Warcraft is an online role playing game. Does that help? LOL

P - Never had to deal with watching FI argue/fight with anyone. Doesn''t sound very pleasant though! Yuck! Sorry.

 

[stepcutgirl]

Elle-not really! But I asked my bf and he plays starcraft which I think is similar.

Princess-Aww. Do you live with her or she with you?

 

[Bdiddy26]

Elle don''t cry! Have you tried finding it online? If you know what size you need and are positive you want that dress I see no reason you couldn''t order it online or something. I found this website and it can get you the dress in 20 days http://www.topbridaldress.com/product.php?productid=3292 I hope this helps!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/15/2009 3:17:33 PM
Author: Bdiddy26
Elle don''t cry! Have you tried finding it online? If you know what size you need and are positive you want that dress I see no reason you couldn''t order it online or something. I found this website and it can get you the dress in 20 days http://www.topbridaldress.com/product.php?productid=3292 I hope this helps!

I saw that, but I don''t think it''s an authentic dress...

The size chart doesn''t match Maggie''s size chart, and its a lot cheaper.

I''d be hesitant about trusting a site like that.

 

[Squirrly]

aww elle i''m sorry you''re having trouble finding it non-sample

but you did get in it, walk around in it, and get out of it successfully

so if nothing else maybe that''ll work

princess- M hasn''t really fought with anyone in my presence, but i tend to get very protective of him when other people do things that hurt him (his really good friends from back home that he set up moved up their wedding and he was unable to attend since he was in iraq at the time, and he had to find out through his mother that they had a kid, not even that she was pregnant!

ahem) so maybe it''s a good thing i don''t witness any fights? sigh, and he''s made me promise to be nice to them if they show up to our wedding too. absolutely not fair and completely no fun.

 

[ladypirate]

Elle, Bia--WHERE ARE YOOOOOOOUUUU???????

 

[Squirrly]

LP/Elle can either of you talk to ally in rl? or possibly ask freke if she''s ok, her last post was a little scary
it might just be that i like to worry but usually when i worry everything''s ok.

 

[ladypirate]

I know Freke emailed her tonight--I hope she''s ok too.

 

[Squirrly]

thanks for letting me know, i might be silly, but even though i don''t really know her, i''m not going to sleep well til she posts again.

 

[FrekeChild]

I''m worried about her too Squirrly...

 

[princesss]

Sorry to interrupt the Ally talk (though I''m very concerned for her as well).

Re: BF and his sister. BF and I talked tonight. A lot. I told him that it weirds me out because when I see him fight with her, it''s like he''s not the same person, and it''s disturbing. He''s a sweet guy with me, but vicious with her. She''ll escalate the fight, and he''ll go with it and then throw in some name calling. And I personally don''t feel like name calling is fighting fair. So he said he''d try not to do that, and he did take responsibility for taking things there, but...it''s weird. He''s not my BF when he fights with her. And it''s so weird because we don''t fight like that. We fight fair. No name calling. No bringing up outside issues. We stick to the subject at hand, and we stay respectful. But they just...don''t. And it turns my stomach.

Plus this trip it''s been made abundantly clear just how much she dislikes me. And that sucks. I try to stay nice and show her respect, and I get none of it back. It''s just so bizarre. And really...she''s got nothing to base it on. I honestly believe it''s just because I''m dating her brother, and she hates him so she hates me. I''m not saying we''d be friends if we met on our own, but I doubt she''d use up the energy to hate me (and show it) if we''d met in a different context. I just try to stay neutral, and not respond to any of her jabs, or acknowledge when she undercuts me and throws very thinly veiled insults my way. I feel like acknowledging it would make it worse, and if I just stay above it, eventually she''ll get sick of trying to get under my skin and seeming to fail.

Tomorrow is a big family dinner where we''re all meeting her boyfriend. I was looking forward to it, but now I''m dreading it. I''m dreading it because he was on the phone when they were fighting, and he heard my BF at his worst. I''m dreading it because who knows what she''s said about me. I''m dreading it because I don''t know if he''ll come in with an open mind or if he''ll come in combative, and ready to fight his girlfriend''s battles. I''m dreading it because I don''t know if I can take another uncomfortable family meal. I love his family, and I want to love her...or even like her...and I''d really like to respect her. But it''s so hard when literally the only side of her I''ve seen is viciously attacking my BF and disrespecting me.

Add to all that the fact that I chipped a tooth tonight, so I have to find a dentist tomorrow for a filling I don''t want to have to pay for, and I''m just generally dreading tomorrow. Dentist visit, big dinner, and going back to NC. Because as stressful as this trip has ended up being, BF and I realized that we want to move back here. We''re just unhappy in NC and really happy here. So that''s nice. I just don''t want to go back tomorrow, but I don''t really want to deal with her while we''re here, either.

Sorry for the long rant. I don''t think this deserves its own topic, but I had to get it out somewhere.

 

[purselover]

Aww I''m sorry princess! I hope dinner goes okay tonight, I feel like this has been a rough week for people and it''s only Tuesday

 

[Patiently_Waiting]

Aw princess, don''t feel bad - vent away any time! We''re here for you

Good luck with dinner tonight - hugs

 

[misskitty]

Oh, princesss, I''m sorry! Just be yourself at dinner, and don''t give this guy any reason to believe the gf''s venom. If she''s the only one being awful, it''s going to be very obvious.

 

[Jessie702]

Awwwww. im sorry princess...

O and Good Morning all....its gonna be a long day, i can already tell

 

[princesss]

Thanks, guys. I''m just so stressed thinking about it. Plus, I decided to wait until I''m back in NC to see a dentist, so it''s a little bizarre to feel this hole in my tooth.

I hope everybody is having a better day than I am!

 

[Jessie702]

well, i hope you get to the dentist AS SOON as you get home. You dont want the hole to get worse

 

[pluck15]

Hey Princesss:
I know this is random, but I was reading through this series of posts, and noticed you said something about women''s ultimate.... do you play?? I play ultimate too!

-Pluck

 

[princesss]

Date: 6/16/2009 1:28:38 PM
Author: pluck15
Hey Princesss:

I know this is random, but I was reading through this series of posts, and noticed you said something about women''s ultimate.... do you play?? I play ultimate too!


-Pluck

Heck yes I play! I love ultimate. Where do you play?

 

[Dreamgirl]

Hey there LIWs and formers!

Still busy around these parts but elle, I just posted in your fun wedding gown thread! I''m so excited for you!!!

 

[Squirrly]

freke- thanks for posting in ally''s thread, and i really hope she''s feeling better than she was at her last post. depression sucks, the emptiness past that is worse though, and i really hope she''s not there and never feels it.

princess- i hope your dinner goes well, holey tooth and all! i suppose if nothing else you can completely distract yourself by thinking about how weird your tooth feels? not that spending an entire night thinking about a holey tooth without making any bad puns and ending up snickering hysterically in the middle of dessert sounds like the most fun (but my family and friends already know i''m crazy so i can get away with that

)

best guess as to why he seems like another person when he''s fighting with her is because when he is, he''s being crazy sister''s brother as he has been his whole life around her. i know i''m different around my sis than when i''m with my friends/FF

 

[Dreamgirl]

princesss- Hopefully you can get that tooth taken care of very quickly! That doesn''t sound good at all!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 6/15/2009 10:13:43 PM
Author: ladypirate
Elle, Bia--WHERE ARE YOOOOOOOUUUU???????

AHHHH!! LP I''m so sorry! I completely forgot!

I suck! We haven''t played in so long that I kind of fell out of the habit!

Forgive me?!

 

[Lauren8211]

Damn princesss, that is awful!

Brother/sister relationships are obviously different than romantic ones. If they hate each other as much as you say they do, it''s not surprising that they don''t respect one another when they''re fighting. It''s hard to fight fair with someone you can''t stand. It doesn''t really speak about your BF, since he treats you well.

I can''t believe she''s so blatantly rude to you. How immature.

Sorry about your toof! Hopefully its taken care of quickly!

 

[pluck15]

Date: 6/16/2009 3:18:54 PM
Author: princesss

Date: 6/16/2009 1:28:38 PM
Author: pluck15
Hey Princesss:

I know this is random, but I was reading through this series of posts, and noticed you said something about women''s ultimate.... do you play?? I play ultimate too!


-Pluck

Heck yes I play! I love ultimate. Where do you play?

So, this is kinda confusing but here goes....
So I started playing back in college (I went to Cal Poly San Luis Obispo), so I played for 3 years on that team. Now I work for a consulting firm, and I live in CA, but I work in Boise, ID during the week. So I joined a league out here and play every Wed night. And then occassionally when we get enough people, I play pick up on Sundays back at home in CA. Hope that makes sense,...my life is crazy and travel filled right now! Where do you play???

 

[pluck15]

And btw Princesss, just finished reading your "rant" about the fighting siblings and the big dinner! That sounds awful. But as long as you try to be the bigger person, and continue to give her no reason to hate you, and try to concentrate on conversing more with the parents and other relatives, I''m sure you''ll get through it just fine. Just don''t let her insults get to you since you know they can''t be true since she has no basis! You will be ok! Here''s some happy thoughts

to help you get through the night!

 

[princesss]

Well, I had an interesting chat with BF''s mom about the whole thing. Suffice it to say, while the arguments do not reflect who my BF is, they may actually reflect who his sister is. Interesting. I kind of feel bad for the girl.

Happily she and her BF ate before coming over, so I just saw them for a few minutes. She was giddy. Hopefully that''ll rub off on her more and she''ll be nicer. I realized I''ve never actually seen her happy. It was kind of...weird. She was running all over the place, and it was like somebody put her on fast foward and the button got stuck! He seemed nice enough, and very happy to see her, so that''s good.

And I have an appointment to get my tooth looked at tomorrow. I just have to keep it from getting worse until then. *crosses fingers*

Oh, and pluck, I play here in Charlotte. League play on Thursdays, and I want to start playing pickup on Sundays. And maybe Tuesdays. My BF plays, too, and it''s good times.