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blondie23

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I''ve been a lurker on this site for over a year and just recently got engaged. My fiance and I have decided on a destination wedding in either Mexico or Hawaii. After looking at mara''s post about hawaii and how she found her vendors through the knot, i created an account to see if i could find some good tips.

Little did I know that some of the girls on the Knot are MEAN and RUDE. They make comments to posters that are so out of line i couldn''t believe it! I was too afraid to even post in fear of getting a verbal beating.

I don''t post often, actually hardly at all, but I have never seen people act like this on PS like they did on the Knot. This forum is great!!!

AND, Mara''s posts were much more helpful than anything I found on the Knot.

that is all...some of my frustration and ramblings.
 
Yeah, I''ve seen that a bit. All I can figure is that those posters are girls who are terribly unhappy with themselves, their cheating fiances, or their lives!!!
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I also don''t really post on theknot for the same reasons, unless I am posting on one of the local boards. They really need to get a good moderator over there!

Don''t let it get to you, and post more here on PS!!!
 
Date: 5/7/2007 12:11:44 PM
Author: neatfreak
Yeah, I''ve seen that a bit. All I can figure is that those posters are girls who are terribly unhappy with themselves, their cheating fiances, or their lives!!!
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I also don''t really post on theknot for the same reasons, unless I am posting on one of the local boards. They really need to get a good moderator over there!

Don''t let it get to you, and post more here on PS!!!
Ditto! ask away, you will get lots of friendly help here.
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I''ve noticed there are some crazies on the knot. Some of those girls are absolutely obsessed with their wedding!
 
Thanks ladies for the kind reply. I was just in total shock. Mara had some really great ideas that I hope to duplicate (only in Maui).
 
I''m moving my reply over here...

I hate the knot. I''ve experienced the same thing you did. The catty remarks weren''t directed at me, but at other people who posted totally innocuous questions. I was disgusted. I only read the message boards for my state (RI) which seem to be better that the main boards but still. I think we have a nice group of people on here who are in the planning or post wedding stages. I like asking questions here.
And in addition, the knot perpetuates bad etiquette and inacurate planing and budgeting information.
 
hi blondie! sorry that the knot is such a drag...i actually only used the Destination Hawaii board for my planning, i also found that the other areas of the knot were definitely not a place i wanted to hang out. but the Hawaii section seemed to have some good recommendations and for the most part people were nice and i got my questions answered when necessary. of course there were a few nasty posts as well, but for the most part i was able to sift through it all and find what i needed. but i'm glad that my posts were helpful!! i often wondered how people planned something like a DW without the internet?! i can't imagine scouring through like a Hawaii phone book to find vendors or something!
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anyway have fun!!!
 
Alright, like HH, I''ll move my reply over here too:

I don''t know much about the knot, but I do know that I am endlessly touched by the way the ladies (and guys!) here at PS give their time to help each other and the total strangers who pop up, support each other, cheer each other on and advise each other. Here we are from all over the world, very well off and struggling to make ends meet, younger and older, all kinds of religions, colours, and ethnicities, different professions, outlooks, etc., and the ladies here are respectful, helpful, and understanding. And they seem to help just because they take pleasure from helping.

Yes, PS is a truly great little virtual community. I admire you ladies so much!
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Stick with us, Blondie. We''ll look after ya.
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ETA: congrats on your engagement.
 
omg i was curious too see what you guys were talking about and when i went into their "LIW" forum i swear some one over there was saying how she may cut a bridesmaid because she is now pregnant and wont fit into the dresses...what a friend huh?!!
 
I could see if a friend said 'I'm going to be 8.5 months preggers at your wedding... I may be tired. I may go into labour... could I NOT be a bm?' And you saying 'Of course! Or you can play it by ear!' But to say 'You're PREGNANT?!? You're OUT!' That's, well, not very friendly.

ETA: But I haven't read the actual person's post, so I supposed I shouldn't comment.
 
Yea there''s absolutely no moderation over there. Like I said, the local boards seem to be okay but the general boards are cut throat. Anyone who''s not a regular is deemed a "troll." The pregnany BM is just one example, they get worse...it makes me so sad to see people get cut down for simple questions. And heaven forbid you post a link to your bio in your replies, they''ll pick you, your groom, your plans, your relationship, EVERYTHING apart. I swear these are all the girls we knew in hs who picked on us to make themselves feel better. It''s like because they''re online manners don''t matter and people''s feelings don''t matter either.
 
Really?! That''s terrible.
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Yeah almost every board I went to was terrible, especially the Not Engaged (Yet) board. But I''m going to try and take ya''lls advice and check out the local Dallas/Fort Worth board and see what I can come up with. It also just made me really sad. It''s like these people are bullies in cycberspace..don''t they have a real life to go live?....I want to say to them "stop commenting on everyone else''s life and go live your own!". I mean even after I made my first post about a price mix up with Cartier, everyone here was still really friendly even after I gave wrong information (on accident). Anyway...

I want a destination wedding and my finace wants a local Texas wedding, and well our parents....ahhh don''t even get me started. My mom has decided that the wedding MUST be in Colorado even though she''s not paying (which she doesn''t have too) nor is she helping me plan..ugh. Anyway, I''ll try the local boards.
 
i was wondering what a troll was....geez its like those women never grew out of their higschool phase...thanks everyone on PS for being nice and welcoming
 
Yea a troll is the label they use for anyone they don''t like. Lame.
 
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