The last 9 days....

[diamondsgirl22]

So as you ladies know, my bf has promised and assured me that he really wants to ask me to marry him by the end of October. I checked up with him last night about the timeline and he said nothing has changed and was very quiet. So i am really hoping that he keeps his promise in asking me by the end of October and that nothing interfers with his plan.
We both are so busy this week, with my job as a marching band colorguard instructor and his as an instructor for the hornline. We are going to compete in our last competition in Syracuse, NY on sunday with practice all this week so that will leave my bf with Monday, Tuesday, or Wednesday to ask unless he wants it to be interesting and ask me during this busy week or when we go away with the band to the back to back competitions over the weekend. Who knows, but he will be asking me one of the 9 remaining days in October so cross your fingers for me! Let the countdown begin!

I feel myself becoming more nervous each and every second!

Stay with me as we all find out if a guy can really keep his promise and surprise a girl!

Sorry if i just sounded like the TO BE CONTINUED.. of a soap opera!

 

[Tuesday]

That''s so exciting! I don''t know which would be best, to try to catch you off guard when you''re busy and less likely to expect it or to wait until the last minute when things are a little more quiet.

My BF has said he would propose by Thanksgiving, so I''ve got a ways to go yet, but I know how it feels to get a little more nervous each day! This weekend was the first quiet time we had together since he got back from a conference, and several times he made a point of saying specifically that he was looking forward to spending the rest of our lives together, which makes me wonder if it''s going to be sooner than later.

Good luck, and try to enjoy the excitement! You''re in the home stretch, so do your best to have fun with it. Congrats!

 

[dps777]

That''s very exciting! I completely understand how you feel. My boyfriend told me before mid-November so though not as soon as your deadline, it''s close enough where I am very anxious as well.

 

[Smurfysmiles]

haha well my bf told me before the year 2026 for pete sakes
i guess i''ve got a lot longer to wait

 

[redfaerythinker]

I''m sorry but you know what I zoned in on in that whole post? COLOR GUARD! I''m in the Tiger Guard in Clemson University''s Tiger Band... I love it so much... yay... and also yay to the nine day countdown!

 

[Smurfysmiles]

any exciting news yet?

 

[mimzy]

i am so jealous! hopefully the days will fly for you!

 

[diamondsgirl22]

no unfortunately not. he seems to be more and more quiet overall as a person. I mention a lot though that there are only so many days left in october for the truthful fact that there are only 8 or so days left, and also to push a little and see what he says.. and he just rolls his eyes at me. he asked me last night what the day was and i smartly relpied by saying that there are only 8 more days left in the month and walked away when really he wanted to know if i remembered that it was only one more month left until our 4 year anniversary. it was great to see the look on his face though..

each day it gets a little closer to either him asking me or me ringing his neck on Halloween none the less

8 days left today!!!




yeah my guard will be defending their 4 year new york state championship title this weekend. maybe i can upload a video on you tube of my girls or something and post the link here for you ladies to watch if you are interested. especially you redfaerythinker. hmmm...

 

[diamondsgirl22]

and yes you read that right RFT, my band is from PA but we compete in NY competitions. We are the only pa band though that goes to Syracuse, NY each year for championships.

Still no sign of a proposal....

 

[dps777]

You should get a manicure before you leave!

 

[diamondsgirl22]

double posted. sorry!!

 

[diamondsgirl22]

yah know what?!? i AM getting a manicure before we leave! tonight actually! I dont know if he would even want to ask over the weekend because we are on a schedule all weekend long because of the band. maybe he will take me away outside at a random tree or something while we have what little free time we have. maybe he is coordinating with the 2 directors of the band on when he can take me for a little bit away from the band. it is very beautiful during fall up around syracuse. hmm.. i just wish i knew what was going on! and if it isnt over the weekend then the three days after that are free which is good but who knows...

I did tell him that i wanted him to ask me before the band season was over so that i could share it with all of the kids because a lot of them i talk to often about when he will ask and how it means a lot to me.
i dont want to have him do it in front of everybody but how will i share the news with them if band is over with yah know?
he said yah i guess and did the eye rolly thing that guys do. he knows that it is important but then again the end of band is next friday. november 2 so he could be dumb and do it after the october deadline saying that he did ask me before band was over so he didnt break the rules!!

so maybe this is the weekend or maybe not but either way i have less than 2 weeks left.

I hope that this time the magic mani will actually work!

 

[dps777]

Well at least the mani will help you to focus on things that are within your direct control..right? That''s how I feel. Leading up to our mid-November deadline, I plan to get manicures on a weekly basis! Regarding the weekend, wait and see what he has up his sleeve (or in his pocket)

I feel that we often times try to predict their every move (at least I am guilty of that leading up to the proposal). I am trying SO hard to not ask any questions and set any expecations (even if just in my head) so I can fully enjoy the ride.

 

[diamondsgirl22]

yes i try to feel that way too. either way it will happen in a matter of days. but it gets really hard sometimes.

lol. I have really been wanting to try what is called a Brisa manicure. have you heard of it before? it is basically gel on your fingernails. it helps to keep them strong and it lasts about 2-3 weeks. it has to be refilled with gel because obviously your nails grow but do you know what i mean? it is expensive the first time like 60 dollars but after that it is just as much as a manicure like 25 dollars to get it refilled where your nail grew out. i figure hey if i am getting a manicure every other week why not spend the money to get a brisa gel one and have it last longer?yah know? So instead of paying for manis that only hold up for about a week if that, get one that holds up for 2 or 3 and just get the upkeep you need on them. i hope it works but for this week i guess that i will have to go with the good ole'' mani. i have to be extra careful not to damage my nails too much i have to have it hold out for 8 days.

 

[aljdewey]

DG22, I''m glad you''re so close.....and since you are, I hope you won''t mind if I make a suggestion.

Stop hinting.

Stop talking about it to him.

If he''s on track with his timeline, and if feeling like he was able to surprise you is important to him, you''re ruining it.

You don''t have much longer to go. In your shoes, I''d clam up about it, enjoy the magical time that is happening right now, and immerse yourself in the moment. Don''t ruin it.

 

[dps777]

Agreed with the above comments. Get your manicure or that special mani and enjoy yourself right now. I am guilty of being more impatient now than I was six months ago and appreciate the fact that it is a special time and don''t want to ruin it. So take a deep breath and enjoy your "me" time tonight while you get your mani. And then - do not say anything!!

 

[diamondsgirl22]

So i got my mani and i managed to bang a few nails on random objects which it kind of messed them up a little but you cant really tell. which is one of the reasons why i just made an app. to get a brisa manicure next thursday. YAY!

hope it holds up better. i asked him last night if he still is planning on keeping his promise and how it would be november soon and he said not if i dont stop talking about it and gave me a cute look sooo. i am officially shutting up about it! No more talking about when with him because i want him to be able to surprise me and not hve my mind on it by talking with him about it. it will be hard not to bring it up but i think that i can deal esp. since there is one week left where i dont know what day he will choose. it relaxes me but i just still wonder if he will keep his promise.

It just seems too easy. i know a lot of you ladies have been waiting and thinking that it was the moment for a long while and still no ring and my bf is saying in less than a week we will be engaged and he gave his promise which he does not do unless he is serious. i pushed him a lot in the past months but how could he just be ready all of a sudden yah know? it just seems too good to be true. i guess that it feels weird to me because i have been waiting for a long time and he said in less than a week. My feelings are just being different in a n understandable way but still confusing.

But more now then ever before, i can find myself not mentioning it to him a lot easier. which is good because i told him i dont want it to be forced and he said he knows that i am worried about that. so i guess by not mentioning it to him it will give him the privacy he needs to get it done. which is good i want him to have all of the privacy he needs which is why i am keeping my mouth shut.

To go with him having privacy, he has went home early both monday and tuesday. last night he said that he had to help his dad so he left at about 6:30 and today he said that he has to go to into the penisula to fix his duck blind.hmmm. he also had to help his friend 'move' yesterday... all of those places are by the mall and all of the jewelry stores. i doubt that he just went to all of those places and that was it. he has never been this busy in a LONG time. i would ask him what he was doing and he would not give specifics at all..

very much not like him at times lately...

It is funny because if he said that he was asking me by the end of october then that is 7 days after today. which brings me to, i really am hoping that it doesnt get to like the last 2 days because that means that it has to be on 1 of those 2 days so i will be expecting it BAD even if i try to make myself not. I am sure that he knows that which makes me think that he will do it over the weekend or on monday. but maybe he wants me to think that he will not ask me and then do it. i just dont let myself believe that he can do something that great and sneaky and big, yah know? i am just almost in a dream state believing that in less than 7 days he will ask. i also have a feeling that something will happen and it will be put off. of course that could be me thinking that nothing ever goes the way it is supposed to which has happened to me a lot. Okay, i always leave a long post so today is the day that i officially shut my mouth about it and relax and be happy that i get to spend the weekend with him even if we are with the band all weekend.

 

[diamondsgirl22]

i know my posts are long but i just had an ephiphany. he told me a about 1 or 2 months ago that i would not be home when he asks me and that i will not be able to walk home or go home if i wanted to because it would be really hard to as he put it. Which i am not jumping to conclusions but that lines up with the weekend because:

We are riding coach buses up to Syracuse, NY on Saturday night with the marching band so about a 5 hour ride.
Once we get there i cannot leave to come home until the buses leave because it is my ride home. We are leaving about 9pm Sunday night. Sooo... that is the only clue ever that matched up with anything. i am not getting my hopes up though just happy that i have some hope. Still keeping quiet and just enjoying the ride..literally.

 

[bluebubbles]

Good Luck. I am very excited for you. It will be one less LIW in the world.

hehe




==> It''s easier getting an MBA than getting an MRS.<==

 

[diamondsgirl22]

so i was at my bfs house and his sister is visiting from where she lives now with her new husband. she also is an instructor for the band so she will be going to new york with us and the rest of the band over the weekend. she said that she was excited for friday and i asked her why. she said that i was going to help her straighten her hair for the weekend(she has naturally curly hair) and i said yes that i forgot but i still would. she then went on saying that we could do each others nails and do facials and have a girl night, and that B wasnt invited, just the girls.

this is just very weird because we have never really been that close the past 4 years. we hang out a few times but B was always around. She also said that we could bond. wow, very unlike her to be all about me and "bonding". she is going back down to where she lives with her husband after the weekend trip but still, very strange.

she did want to know from B when he was asking so maybe she knows and wants to get some bonding time in because after she leaves i will be more a part of the family and she wont see me for a while. also B was all happy yesterday unusually. i said something about how i was a sexy mama and he said that i wasnt a mama yet. he never says stuff like that ever. and later on we were cuddling and i said that i was having some weird dreams lately and he said that if you count marrying you and having kids with you. very random that didnt even make sense! he has never said anything of that sort before. i just think that maybe since he is asking soon that he is thinking more and more about the future which from the way he is acting and what he has been saying lately, that he has the ring in his possession...

FYI: i wont probably be on here tomorrow night before we leave so wish me good luck and i will most definetly post here on monday afternoon to tell you ladies what happened over the weekend. Hoping for a proposal but if i had to i could wait until the end of next week...it is getting easier and i like the way that he is acting

 

[dps777]

Good luck! Enjoy the weekend and keep us posted!

 

[tberube]

Date: 10/23/2007 1:58:32 PM
Author: aljdewey
DG22, I''m glad you''re so close.....and since you are, I hope you won''t mind if I make a suggestion.


Stop hinting.


Stop talking about it to him.


If he''s on track with his timeline, and if feeling like he was able to surprise you is important to him, you''re ruining it.


You don''t have much longer to go. In your shoes, I''d clam up about it, enjoy the magical time that is happening right now, and immerse yourself in the moment. Don''t ruin it.

couldn''t agree more!