Bia
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in that case...he deserves to be figuratively castrated and told no! (hehehe)Date: 1/7/2010 11:13:36 AM
Author: vc10um
I just want to be done compromising, lol. I want *my* wedding, dammit, since I''ve already compromised on two huge things: 1) we''re having it in Kansas City for HIM and HIS family; and 2) I''m letting his family''s rugrats come because it''s important to him. I feel like I should be done now, right???Date: 1/7/2010 11:08:55 AM
Author: Bia
Honey, just explain to him that there are PLENTY of ways for his family to be included that don''t involve sweeping up confetti at the end of the evening. TRUST ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Date: 1/7/2010 10:59:33 AM
Author: vc10um
YAY!!!
Ugh. I''ve just been having an awful morning. A just told me this morning (stupid me for asking) that he wants to get married *in* a church, *by* a pastor. We''re not currently church-goers. He doesn''t have a church or pastor back in KCMO. Neither of us is baptized into a faith we''re comfortable with (me Catholic, him Baptist). The importance to me of such a thing: negative 5, on a scale from 1-10. I want to get married outside by someone who means something to us (I''d really love his dad or his mom''s dad). AND he can''t articulate a single reason why it''s important to him other than if we weren''t, it would feel ''weird''. He also informed me that in the past, his family has washed the dishes and cleaned up the venues after his family weddings. When I told him that won''t be necessary, he responded with ''but they like to feel needed''.
I feel like he wants a pot luck. Barefoot. In someone''s backyard. And I want white tablecloths and centerpieces and...and...and...
And I''m subsequently having an AWFUL time concentrating on work.
It''s going to be fine. If the church thing is important to him, consider giving in. But make sure he compromises on the wedding you desire as well - as in a venue with tables, centerpieces, waiters and not a bbq pit in site!UGH.
Stupid boys.
He''s much more ''involved'' than my FI...even more than me actually LOL! Get him when he''s feeling really sweet and cuddly and ask him if the church wedding is really that important. Explain that you''ve done quite a bit of compromising to give him a wedding at home but that you ask a little of the same from him.
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