The May LIW Small Talk Thread

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:03:29 AM
Author: princesss
So I had a mini freak out last night. I feel like I''m not going anywhere, like I''m just stagnant and not progressing towards my goals at all. I also feel like a freak because everybody around me is buying a house/getting engaged/getting married/having kids and I just feel like a little kid and totally NOT an adult who is ready for that kind of stuff. Seriously. The two 22 year olds I work with own homes and one is a mom, the two 25 year olds own homes, and the 24 year olds are all engaged or married. Nothing like that to make you feel like a freak for not being ready for any of it. I was talking about all of this and BF looked at me like I''d grown two heads.

''Honey, you''re not going to feel like an adult until you get your Masters. How long have you been dreaming about that?''
''Since I was 14.''
''Exactly. You haven''t accomplished the goals you set for yourself, and you don''t feel right until you accomplish your goals. That''s just how you are. So, look, you''ll graduate with that at what, 27? 28?''
''Yeah.''
''And when do you think you''ll be ready to get married?''
''I dunno...4 or 5 years?''
''Which is when?''
''After I....oh God, I''m NOT a freak! You''re right.''

Thank goodness for having him around. I get crazy sometimes, and he can pull the subconcious motivation to things and lay it out and have it make sense. So we decided to sign up for community college courses, and I''m going to study for the GMAT and then take courses for my MBA here for a little while, because my company will pay for them. In the mean time, I can take French classes because that''s another goal I want to accomplish. I''m just one of those types that has to have something to reach for, I guess.

Princesss... believe me I''ve been there. It is SUCH a frustrating feeling.

I''m a goal freak too. now that I''m graduating in 4 weeks, and I can''t afford grad school... I''m all like...

what the CRAP am i going to do?

It''s scary. I don''t like it.

I always feel like i''m behind... and as long as I keep comparing myself, I always will.

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:03:29 AM
Author: princesss
So I had a mini freak out last night. I feel like I''m not going anywhere, like I''m just stagnant and not progressing towards my goals at all. I also feel like a freak because everybody around me is buying a house/getting engaged/getting married/having kids and I just feel like a little kid and totally NOT an adult who is ready for that kind of stuff. Seriously. The two 22 year olds I work with own homes and one is a mom, the two 25 year olds own homes, and the 24 year olds are all engaged or married. Nothing like that to make you feel like a freak for not being ready for any of it. I was talking about all of this and BF looked at me like I''d grown two heads.


''Honey, you''re not going to feel like an adult until you get your Masters. How long have you been dreaming about that?''

''Since I was 14.''

''Exactly. You haven''t accomplished the goals you set for yourself, and you don''t feel right until you accomplish your goals. That''s just how you are. So, look, you''ll graduate with that at what, 27? 28?''

''Yeah.''

''And when do you think you''ll be ready to get married?''

''I dunno...4 or 5 years?''

''Which is when?''

''After I....oh God, I''m NOT a freak! You''re right.''


Thank goodness for having him around. I get crazy sometimes, and he can pull the subconcious motivation to things and lay it out and have it make sense. So we decided to sign up for community college courses, and I''m going to study for the GMAT and then take courses for my MBA here for a little while, because my company will pay for them. In the mean time, I can take French classes because that''s another goal I want to accomplish. I''m just one of those types that has to have something to reach for, I guess.

i know how you feel. i *think* i have may found a job that i can see myself doing for years. at 26! a lot of people around me have houses, careers and families. but then i think about how if i had bought a house 4 years ago, i know i would be those unfortunate few in forcloser. i would also be in a loveless marriage and probably hating my job.
its all about putting it in perspective!

 

[princesss]

That''s exactly it! I keep looking at other people to see where I "should" be, but that''s a pretty terrible way to go through life. I need to stop. I''m on the right path for me, and that''s what matters. I just hadn''t realized how much I was comparing myself to other people, and how that was affecting me. But it was like the most obvious thing in the world to BF. It''s just funny because the only people we''ve seen lately that are the same way (big goals that they''re working towards) are in a band that''s freaking signed on Mercury records, has a CD out, and are touring. But when I think about how I measure up with them, I feel like we''re on a similar page. But people with babies make me feel like I''m coming last in some race I''m not sure I want to be running!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:15:14 AM
Author: princesss
That''s exactly it! I keep looking at other people to see where I ''should'' be, but that''s a pretty terrible way to go through life. I need to stop. I''m on the right path for me, and that''s what matters. I just hadn''t realized how much I was comparing myself to other people, and how that was affecting me. But it was like the most obvious thing in the world to BF. It''s just funny because the only people we''ve seen lately that are the same way (big goals that they''re working towards) are in a band that''s freaking signed on Mercury records, has a CD out, and are touring. But when I think about how I measure up with them, I feel like we''re on a similar page. But people with babies make me feel like I''m coming last in some race I''m not sure I want to be running!

Wow. At 23, babies make you feel behind?

I''m 26, and I still don''t feel behind without babies.

A *tiny* bit behind on engagement...but definitely not babies.

I''ll take a pass on the kids for now, and feel just dandy about it.

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:15:14 AM
Author: princesss
But people with babies make me feel like I''m coming last in some race I''m not sure I want to be running!

well said!


total random side note (sorry to digress!) but does anyone find it weird how they can memorize phone numbers by touch, but never the actual number?

 

[princesss]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:17:11 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 5/22/2009 9:15:14 AM
Author: princesss
That''s exactly it! I keep looking at other people to see where I ''should'' be, but that''s a pretty terrible way to go through life. I need to stop. I''m on the right path for me, and that''s what matters. I just hadn''t realized how much I was comparing myself to other people, and how that was affecting me. But it was like the most obvious thing in the world to BF. It''s just funny because the only people we''ve seen lately that are the same way (big goals that they''re working towards) are in a band that''s freaking signed on Mercury records, has a CD out, and are touring. But when I think about how I measure up with them, I feel like we''re on a similar page. But people with babies make me feel like I''m coming last in some race I''m not sure I want to be running!

Wow. At 23, babies make you feel behind?

I''m 26, and I still don''t feel behind without babies.

A *tiny* bit behind on engagement...but definitely not babies.

I''ll take a pass on the kids for now, and feel just dandy about it.

More that I feel behind people who feel capable of taking care of babies. Like, they feel adult enough to have a baby and I''m still expecting somebody to tell me I should never have been allowed to adopt my cats because I''m not old enough!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:25:15 AM
Author: princesss

Date: 5/22/2009 9:17:11 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 5/22/2009 9:15:14 AM
Author: princesss
That''s exactly it! I keep looking at other people to see where I ''should'' be, but that''s a pretty terrible way to go through life. I need to stop. I''m on the right path for me, and that''s what matters. I just hadn''t realized how much I was comparing myself to other people, and how that was affecting me. But it was like the most obvious thing in the world to BF. It''s just funny because the only people we''ve seen lately that are the same way (big goals that they''re working towards) are in a band that''s freaking signed on Mercury records, has a CD out, and are touring. But when I think about how I measure up with them, I feel like we''re on a similar page. But people with babies make me feel like I''m coming last in some race I''m not sure I want to be running!

Wow. At 23, babies make you feel behind?

I''m 26, and I still don''t feel behind without babies.

A *tiny* bit behind on engagement...but definitely not babies.

I''ll take a pass on the kids for now, and feel just dandy about it.

More that I feel behind people who feel capable of taking care of babies. Like, they feel adult enough to have a baby and I''m still expecting somebody to tell me I should never have been allowed to adopt my cats because I''m not old enough!

I''m fairly confident I will never feel adult enough to have a child, and will just have to take the plunge when we are reasonably financially stable.

I guess as a kid I felt like there would be some epiphany moment where you wake up and feel like an "adult."

The older I get, I realize that doesn''t happen. You always feel like "you" but your judgment and decision making skills get stronger.

The fact that I now have the reasoning ability to see something I like for 20 bucks, talk with FF about it, discuss whether its a necessity, and put it back even though I really want it... well.. that''s HUGE for me. That makes me feel like a big girl now!

 

[Bia]

Morning everyone.

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:29:14 AM
Author: elledizzy5


The fact that I now have the reasoning ability to see something I like for 20 bucks, talk with FF about it, discuss whether its a necessity, and put it back even though I really want it... well.. that's HUGE for me. That makes me feel like a big girl now!

ooh i love that feeling!! the other day i REALLY wanted to get my nails done (which i never do) and thought better... then bought milk and eggs.

eta - morning Bia!

etax2 - honestly, sometimes i feel bad for those who are younger than me, and have already had to "grow up". I still get to go out, make bad decisions (and then learn from them) without serious problems.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:35:09 AM
Author: Bia
Morning everyone.

Morning, B!

How are you feeling today?

 

[Bia]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:37:09 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 5/22/2009 9:35:09 AM
Author: Bia
Morning everyone.

Morning, B!

How are you feeling today?

I went to the doctor yesterday and he confirmed that I have strep

The good news is I have plenty of antibiotics now, so I'm sure I'll be fine. I am already feeling better after a good nights sleep.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:36:23 AM
Author: jcarlylew

Date: 5/22/2009 9:29:14 AM
Author: elledizzy5


The fact that I now have the reasoning ability to see something I like for 20 bucks, talk with FF about it, discuss whether its a necessity, and put it back even though I really want it... well.. that''s HUGE for me. That makes me feel like a big girl now!

ooh i love that feeling!! the other day i REALLY wanted to get my nails done (which i never do) and thought better... then bought milk and eggs.

eta - morning Bia!

etax2 - honestly, sometimes i feel bad for those who are younger than me, and have already had to ''grow up''. I still get to go out, make bad decisions (and then learn from them) without serious problems.

Amen to that, Jcar!

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:40:28 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 5/22/2009 9:37:09 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 5/22/2009 9:35:09 AM
Author: Bia
Morning everyone.

Morning, B!

How are you feeling today?

I went to the doctor yesterday and he confirmed that I have strep

The good news is I have plenty of antibiotics now, so I''m sure I''ll be fine. I am already feeling better after a good nights sleep.

Yeah, you''ll feel 100% in no time.

I havent had strep in YEARS! Yuck!

Are you at work?

 

[Bia]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:42:17 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Yeah, you''ll feel 100% in no time.

I havent had strep in YEARS! Yuck!

Are you at work?

no. my boss told me to take the rest of the week off. with the long weekend and all, it''s really slow.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:44:25 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 5/22/2009 9:42:17 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Yeah, you''ll feel 100% in no time.

I havent had strep in YEARS! Yuck!

Are you at work?

no. my boss told me to take the rest of the week off. with the long weekend and all, it''s really slow.

Lucky. I realize you''re sick, but as sad as this sounds, I''d rather be sick at home than healthy at work. Blah!

 

[Bia]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:45:12 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Date: 5/22/2009 9:44:25 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 5/22/2009 9:42:17 AM
Author: elledizzy5

Yeah, you''ll feel 100% in no time.

I havent had strep in YEARS! Yuck!

Are you at work?

no. my boss told me to take the rest of the week off. with the long weekend and all, it''s really slow.

Lucky. I realize you''re sick, but as sad as this sounds, I''d rather be sick at home than healthy at work. Blah!

I believe you

 

[princesss]

Aww, B, I''m sorry to hear you''ve got strep. It sucks. But at least your boss is understanding. Could be worse, right?

 

[audball]

Morning ladies! This is officially day 5 of my pressure headache...if this doesn''t clear up over the weekend, I''m going to have to go to the doctor.

 

[Squirrly]

Date: 5/22/2009 9:17:31 AM
Author: jcarlylew

total random side note (sorry to digress!) but does anyone find it weird how they can memorize phone numbers by touch, but never the actual number?

yup! also, if it''s a number i''ve dialed a lot, when i have my phone on silent i hear the beeps the numbers make when pressed in my head.

mornin all

dust for you guys to get an early weekend. normally i would''ve been at work for 4 hours by now, but they let me off since i fly out this afternoon.

as far as FF''s friends go, we''ll be one of the last couples to get engaged/married. even with the 10ish weddings i know of this year, 4 are military friends of his (though i knew one of the girls from college) and the rest, minus the one i was just in, are people who just graduated, so i don''t feel too behind yet.

no munchkins for me for awhile. FF is mineminemineallmine for at least 6 years after we get married, unless for some odd reason he won''t be enough to take care of (not likely)

sick boys can be just a little difficult

 

[jcarlylew]

Bia - sucks about strep

but i agree with elle - i''d rather be home too! (i kinda miss my broken foot days)

 

[Bia]

LOL It could definitely be worse. My boss is very nice, thank God.

 

[Squirrly]

glad you know what it is B, hope you''ll feel better soon enough to enjoy this weekend!

aud, sorry your headache''s going on so long. i would''ve poked a hole in my head by now to get the pressure out, i admire your patience with your head

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:10:09 AM
Author: Squirrly
i would''ve poked a hole in my head by now to get the pressure out, i admire your patience with your head

isnt it weird how to visualize that, it really would seem to work, despite the whole mangling yourself and making it worse in real life?

 

[audball]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:10:09 AM
Author: Squirrly
glad you know what it is B, hope you''ll feel better soon enough to enjoy this weekend!

aud, sorry your headache''s going on so long. i would''ve poked a hole in my head by now to get the pressure out, i admire your patience with your head

Hahha, I can totally picture that in a cartoon.

 

[Squirrly]

if life was a cartoon it''d work magic. then next time i get horrible cramps FF would let me perform that hysterectomy i''ve been threatening to.

i just realized when i go into labor for the first time i''m going to be yelling at the doc telling him to cut the dang thing out of me.

perhaps i should find a more peaceful solution to think about before then...

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:19:17 AM
Author: Squirrly
if life was a cartoon it''d work magic. then next time i get horrible cramps FF would let me perform that hysterectomy i''ve been threatening to.


i just realized when i go into labor for the first time i''m going to be yelling at the doc telling him to cut the dang thing out of me.

perhaps i should find a more peaceful solution to think about before then...

epidural.

 

[Squirrly]

i''m scared to death i''ll move too much and the thing will damage my spinal cord and i''ll get paralyzed

i know it''s highly unlikely, but i really don''t trust my ability to not writhe in that case.

 

[jcarlylew]

oh great, now you''ve made me paranoid!

well, im sure when the time comes, you''ll know what to do.

 

[audball]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:38:20 AM
Author: jcarlylew
oh great, now you''ve made me paranoid!

well, im sure when the time comes, you''ll know what to do.

Simplest solution to this problem is to not have any children

Furbabies don''t cause this much anxiety.

 

[jcarlylew]

Date: 5/22/2009 10:42:17 AM
Author: audball

Date: 5/22/2009 10:38:20 AM

Author: jcarlylew

oh great, now you''ve made me paranoid!

well, im sure when the time comes, you''ll know what to do.

Simplest solution to this problem is to not have any children

Furbabies don''t cause this much anxiety.

except for when bowser gets a hairball and starts horking everywhere. yes, i said horking. that what it sounds like.
or when he decides that biting my toes because god forbid i''m on HIS side of the bed.
silly pooch. i still love em!