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The Official TTC Thread!

InLuv - keep on sharing (especially pictures
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) miley is adorable and I''m super envious of the idea of getting a christmas puppy!! Sorry to hear about AFF and her rather unexpected appearance
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I''m out too
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This one was tough, because I was really feeling optimistic due to the combination of our stellar BD-timing, the recent BFPs on this thread, and the fact that, while embarassing to admit, I may just believe in Christmas miracles . . . I even went ahead and bought a package of tests at CVS. Then on Christmas evening, the dreaded early spotting (DPO8) started
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. I had the fleeting hope that maybe it was like LittleL''s implantation bleeding, but I knew.
I''m really hoping that festy, fisher, blushing and anyone else testing will have far more merry news to share
 
InLuv, how great that Miley is getting more comfortable in the crate! What great practice for being parents. I''m sorry to hear about AFF. If it makes you feel any better, my LP has been anywhere between 13 and 15 days, but I know how disconcerting it is to have a sudden change in an otherwise totally regular cycle.

Lovely, I''m sorry you''re out. See below for my shared experience this cycle...

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Right, CD 1 here. InLuv, this was my first 29 day cycle and your first 26 day cycle. Do you think our cycles are synching up over the "internets?" Boo hiss crapski. I was hopeful this cycle too, as I had multiple days of nausea starting at around 3 DPO, and ending around 11 DPO. Makes me wonder if something went wrong at implantation. Anyhoo, DH and I agreed to go ahead and set up an appointment with an RE. I cried a little having that conversation because I never thought we''d get to that point. Now that I''ve made the appt. (first one I could get was Feb. 20!!!) I feel much more relaxed. I think I may even take a cycle off from temping. I still need to check with insurance to make sure they''ll cover a 35 year-old who''s only been trying for 6 months. Really it''s been more like 5, but they don''t need to know that. My doctor''s office indicated that no matter how old you are, they may only cover you if you''ve been trying a year.

I''m hoping we''ll still hear some good news from BB, Fisher, etc...
 
Hello Ladies!

Hope everyone is doing well.

Kaleigh, Sha, Pandora, Peony, Sunkist and BB - Thank you for the kind words and sticky vibes.

I'm still hanging in! I POAS'd a few days ago and the prego line was darker than the control line, so I suppose that is a good sign. With the m/c I only got super light BFPs, so I guess that is something. My (*)(*) are also super tender, which is something new. But I *really* don't want to get my hopes up. I did last time and well, blergh. So yeah.

Peony - How are you doing? I hope you and your DH are taking care of yourselves! As for me, this time feels much different for me than last time. I'm finding myself feeling much more tentative and way less excited. I think my feelings would best be described as ambivalent towards being prego at this point. I'm sure it is some sort of defense mechanism, so that if things don't go well, I won't be as sad, but we shall see. I have my first OB appointment schedule for January 28, so hopefully we'll get some good news then.

LuLu - I'm sorry. Man. Last cycle DH and I had perfectly timed BDing and nada. It is so hard when you know you are doing everything you can to make it happen, and it doesn't. Feh AND meh.

InLuv - I'm glad Miley is getting comfy in her crate! And puppy clog all you want, the only requirement is that you POST MORE PICTURES!!!!!! And I'm sorry that AFF showed up early. That just stinks. As for the wonky cycle - well, it stinks. My cycles vary between 26 and 32 days...and clearly, my O date can range from CD 13 to CD 17 or 18...but I hear you on the unpredictability adding another layer in the 7 layer crap salad that TTC can be. FWIW, I got KTFU the first time following my 26 day cycle, so I don't think it is anything to worry about!

Festy - How are you doing? ETA - we were posting at the same time. I'm sorry to hear you are out this month. Sigh. I hope that it ends up that you have to cancel that appointment with the RE! Taking a step back from temping and all that might not be a bad idea. I know I needed to do it for my own sanity...I was driving my nutty self even nuttier. Which is a real accomplishment. It was nice to have a month without any pressure, if that makes sense.

BB - When are you testing?

Fisher - Hope you are enjoying California!
 
Sorry to hear about the stupids AFF''s showing up, InLuv, lovelylulu and Festy....
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Hopefully the new Year will bring good news and new beginnings.

Today is CD8 for me - my last day on Clomid. I wasn''t really feeilng any side effects but today I feel a bit wonky. Oh well, it''s my last pill today. We''ll see what this cycle brings! I''m kind of anxious about timing BD, but have ordered some f OPK''s to help with that and are just waiting for them to come in.

Question, do you let your DHs/partners know when you''re ovulating/when you need to have more BD? Or do you just initiate more around that time?
 
Sha - I think you''ll find some pretty varied responses to this question. DH knows when I O and when we need to get busy. For whatever reason, it didn''t bother him to know - but I think some other ladies have had different responses from their DHs.
 
Sorry Festy & Lulu...
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Man, I was so hoping for another BFP before 2009. Looking out for Fisher and BB!!

Sha -- Because my cycles have been very predictable until now, I''ve always let DH know when our fertile days are at the beginning of my cycle and try let him initiate when the time comes. He didn''t really like it when during the first cycle I hopped in bed and said "Ok, get on top, let''s make a baby!" I didn''t really say that but he said it felt like I did, lol. He said it was too much pressure. He prefers not to talk about a baby right before or during and he said if felt too mechanical. Now that my cycle O day is moving around a bit, I may ask him to let me initiate but promise to keep quiet about a b-a-b-y and not actually say anything about "baby making" lol. Men are so sensitive sometimes.
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Thanks, LL, InLuv and Sha...what can you do? I really hope I can get through a cycle without temping. O happens pretty reliably between CD 13-15, so it shouldn''t be a problem. I also have the added benefit of getting the sore nips after O, which is a bonus.
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Sha, when we first started trying I would tell DH what our "target day" was. In addition to being wrong, this turned out to backfire on me because he thought that meant there was only one important day. Then I would try to give him a 5 day window when he needed to not be traveling. So the long and the short of it is, he pretty much knows. He has no problem with my initiating BDing though, so it''s really not an issue. He also knows that if I''m the one initiating, then we NEED to be doing it!
 
Hi, Ladies. I''m back in this thread again. We went for our first doctors appointment and the bloodwork came back fine. She sent me for our 9 week ultrasound and we saw the baby on the screen and thought everything was fine. Got a call the next day and the nurse told us there was no heartbeat. I did a repeat ultrasound to make 100% sure since I was not having any symptoms, but still no heartbeat
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I had a D&C last Tues. The doc said wait 3 months before trying again, so I guess we will start trying again in late March or early April. Just wanted to say hi and hope everyone had a great holiday.
 
Steph so sorry
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Steph, I''m so sorry to hear this.
 
Steph, So sorry to hear the sad news. My thoughts are with you and your family.

I am on CD 4 here, AFF finally came after a 10 day course of progesterone. That officially made my last cycle 102 days. I am hoping for a much shorter one this time. I am now officially temping as well.

DH and I had a big party for both of our families on Sunday and there were lots of kids in the house. It was adorable to see DH with all the little kids. He is going to be such a good dad. We were also both really excited because it was the first time our 1 year old puppy was around a lot of kids. He is very protective of us, so we weren''t sure how he would act towards kids in the house. Turns out he was great. He let the kids pet him, walk him, play fetch with him and everything. He was even gentle with our 9 month old niece and 3 year old nephew, who were grabbing his ears and chasing him (we had to teach them to be gentle with the puppy) Of course, he is an animal and we would never leave him alone with a little kid no mater how gentle he is, but it was great to see that he was so good around them. At one point DH took our puppy for a walk with about 6 little kids - it was so cute to see them all clustered around him trying to hold his hand.
 
Awww, Steph, I''m so sorry for your loss.
 
Steph -- I''m so sorry for your loss.
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November -- I''m sure it was great to take a little glimpse into you & your DH''s life with kiddos! How fun!

*More super glue sticky dust to LL!!*
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I guess yesterday wasn''t CD1. I had flow but it stopped in the morning and hasn''t been back since. Super heavy spotting I guess. I''m sure AFF will be here tomorrow at 14 DPO right on time
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CD28...
 
November, wow, I''m glad you were able to get AF to show up. Here''s hoping to a MUCH shorter cycle next time!

InLuv, um, do you want to discuss the elephant in the room or shall I? If you don''t then mum''s the word!
 
Date: 12/30/2008 11:36:58 AM
Author: Festy
November, wow, I''m glad you were able to get AF to show up. Here''s hoping to a MUCH shorter cycle next time!

InLuv, um, do you want to discuss the elephant in the room or shall I? If you don''t then mum''s the word!
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Lol, my dear optimistic Festy...
The thought also flew past my mind, but yesterday was 12 DPO. Seems a little late for implantation bleeding and spotting is normal for me pre-AFF anywhere between 11-13DPO with AFF starting on 14DPO. This spotting was just a tad different than in the past. Nonetheless, I''m 100% sure I''m out this month.
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CD28/13DPO...
 
Ok, sorry.
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I forgot that pre-AF spotting is normal for you. Does it usually stop altogether like this before the real thing gets going? I know every time I start spotting I hope hope hope it''s just implantation spotting, but it always comes the day AF is due. Rat farts.
 
Hi guys, I''m new to this thread, so I haven''t read through all of the previous pages of posts, but I just wanted to check in & get some feedback.

I already have a son who is 2, and he was conceived by accident, although his birth was very welcome :) My son was conceived a few months after I got off BCC, while we were using condoms, the day after my period ended, so I couldn''t believe that I was pregnant, yet I was. Since we didn''t have any trouble conceiving the first time, when I was 29, we figured that we would wait a couple of years to try for the second, and now that I''m 32, we''re trying for our second.

We have just been doing things naturally since mid-October, but no success yet. I have thyroid disease, which makes my ovulation cycles pretty irregular, so my cycle is normally between 28 - 40 days, depending on the month - that makes it difficult to predict ovulation. I''ve tried using the at-home ovulation testing, with no success - even though I read the directions, I must be testing on the wrong days, because it never tells me that I''m ovulating, yet I''m getting my period once a month.

I know that we''ve only been trying for 3 cycles, and it normally takes longer than that, but I guess I wanted to get some feedback on how long does it take to conceive normally? What is the average amount of time? How much longer should we keep trying "the natural way" until we should get concerned? Are there any tips you guys can recommend? Any particluar brand of type of ovulation testing/prediction you recommend?

We are not at the point of medical intervention yet, and probably wouldn''t think about going that route until we have been trying for a year (I would be 33 at that point), and I think we both feel blessed with one child, so we''re not sure that we would even want medical intervention down the road, if things didn''t happen naturally. My husband feels more strongly about the "let fate decide" method, but more recently I find myself feeling increasingly disappointed that we haven''t conceived yet, and I may want to see a dr. in a few months if we havne''t conceived by then.

It''s funny, because I was never sure that I wanted kids, then I thought I would just be happy with my son (and I am!) but now that he''s getting older, the urge to have another is really kicking in ...

Anyway, I look forward to any feedback or advice you may have.
 
InLuv, Rats about AFF coming! I don''t think I have mentioned it yet, but your new little pup is the cutest! I read your whole story in the other thread and I think it''s so great that you were able to rescue during the holidays.
 
Date: 12/2/2008 7:33:41 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

I also wanted to post some stats again for everyone about how long it takes to get KTFU, just to put it in perspective. These are from a poll on the ovusoft website. All the women were healthy, had no identified fertility or health issues, and all were charting.

1 month 23% (352)
2-3 months 23% (345)
4-6 months 18% (274)
7-10 months 13% (194)
11-12 months 4% (73)
13-18 months 6% (99)
19-24 months 3% (51)
>24 months 6% (95)

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I guess there are sometimes when AFF is welcome. glad to see you november!

Vespergirl - welcome! I re-posted the above from DD to give you an idea of the length of TTC (note that all these ladies were charting). I think that I recall that the average was somewhere around 6 months, but I''m sure that someone can chime in if I''m wrong. best of luck to you and your DH!

Your post about the potential for "interventions" made me remember that I wanted to start another poll about this - basically, before starting TTC, I was pretty much a we''ll let nature take its course and if it is not meant to be then it is not meant to be. Now that I''m seven months trying, my feelings are starting to shift. I just made an appointment with a specialist to have an initial fertility workup and I suppose I''ll have to reassess after that those results. All the while on the phone and still now, I can''t shake the thought that I do not want to go down the path of medical interventions due to the emotional, not to mention financial drain. Both DH and I are open to the idea of adoption, but a large part of me wants the experience of being pregnant, having a baby . . .The poll would basically be aimed at women who had the whatever will be will be attitude and were able to conceive. Basically asking them, would they consider medical assistance when previously they wouldn''t, now that they realize what having a child in their life means. (hopefully, i''ll manage to be a bit more articulate)
 
Awwww Steph.....I''m sorry for you loss as well. That must have been hard.
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I hope the New Year brings you new
blessings and lots of sticky vibes.

Littlelysser, InLuv, and Festy, thanks for sharing your stories re: O''ing and your DH knowing/not knowing. Very interesting! I''m wondering whether I should let DH know that I should be O''ing earlier this month (hopefully) because of the Clomid, or whether I should just seduce him at the right times. I think he might freak out a bit if he knows beforehand, but on the other hand...I don''t want him to say he''s tired or something, at a crucial moment. Hmmmm.....

On another note - my mother came over to viist yesterday. So she''s washing her hands in the bathroom and says offhandley, "Oh, I was talking to a teacher girl today... she has a daughter 14 years old. I was asking her if she didn''t want any more and she said she tried and tried but it''s not working, because she''s been on the pill for 8 years, and her doctor says being on the pill for that long probably caused her body to go into early menopause".

So I''m standing there thinking..."OK....and what does this have to do with me???" Then she continues... "So that might be why nothing has happened yet for you.... It''s been 6 months since you''ve been off the pill right? Maybe your body is still adjusting.... you know....."

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Uhm.....Thanks Mom. We haven''t even been trying for 6 months, but anyway...

Then she goes...."You know, everytime I talk to Aunty Sxxx" she asks how you''re doing and if any babies yet..... So I told her no, but hopefully soon......"

Then she goes "BUT DON''T LET ME PRESSURE YOU, DEAR!!"

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Date: 12/30/2008 2:38:36 PM
Author: Sha
Awwww Steph.....I''m sorry for you loss as well. That must have been hard.
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I hope the New Year brings you new
blessings and lots of sticky vibes.

Littlelysser, InLuv, and Festy, thanks for sharing your stories re: O''ing and your DH knowing/not knowing. Very interesting! I''m wondering whether I should let DH know that I should be O''ing earlier this month (hopefully) because of the Clomid, or whether I should just seduce him at the right times. I think he might freak out a bit if he knows beforehand, but on the other hand...I don''t want him to say he''s tired or something, at a crucial moment. Hmmmm.....

On another note - my mother came over to viist yesterday. So she''s washing her hands in the bathroom and says offhandley, ''Oh, I was talking to a teacher girl today... she has a daughter 14 years old. I was asking her if she didn''t want any more and she said she tried and tried but it''s not working, because she''s been on the pill for 8 years, and her doctor says being on the pill for that long probably caused her body to go into early menopause''.

So I''m standing there thinking...''OK....and what does this have to do with me???'' Then she continues... ''So that might be why nothing has happened yet for you.... It''s been 6 months since you''ve been off the pill right? Maybe your body is still adjusting.... you know.....''

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Uhm.....Thanks Mom. We haven''t even been trying for 6 months, but anyway...

Then she goes....''You know, everytime I talk to Aunty Sxxx'' she asks how you''re doing and if any babies yet..... So I told her no, but hopefully soon......''

Then she goes ''BUT DON''T LET ME PRESSURE YOU, DEAR!!''

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Sorry Sha! My mom is also pressuring us because she wants a grandchild so badly so I can relate! We made the choice to not tell her we are TTC though, so she thinks she is just pressuring us to start TTC. I''m glad I didn''t tell her because I''m sure the pressure would get worse! Mothers mean well but sometimes they just stay the wrong thing!
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sha, I can totally relate. Like Inluv, DH and I made the deliberate choice of not telling our families we were TTC. However, everytime we see my mom there is the inevitable comment (or 50) about having a baby. During Thanksgiving it got so incessant that the following day during a lunch out I tried to politely tell her that we've been trying for six months, it's not going well and the comments are not appreciated. I thought that might keep it at bay, but over christmas if we weren't hearing things like "when you have a baby" etc it was the seemingly monopolizing conversation about my 1-year old nephew drove me crazy. it's all so insensitive/ oblivious and i don't really know what else to do seeing as I've already had the please be more sensative conversation.
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Thanks for all the well-wishes girls. Ya''ll are all too sweet. So, if you have had a miscarriage and you don''t mind sharing with me...how long did you and your DH wait until trying again. My doctor said they don''t recommend trying for 3 months, and I think I will take her advice and wait, but just wondering if anyone else here has been through it. Thanks:)
 
Hi Vesper, welcome! I mostly lurk in the diamond forums now, and have been reading your thread about a new setting with interest. (Thumbs up, btw!) I''m 35, have been actively TTC for 5 months, and been off BC for 6 months. I just made an appointment for an infertility consult because this is our first child and if something is wrong we''d rather know now. I''m grateful to Lulu for posting those stats again as a reminder that I shouldn''t panic. But TTC is so all-consuming that it feels like it''s been longer than it has. I assume you are on medication to regulate your thyroid? Did you have it checked before starting to TTC? I ask because I have hypothyroidism and my dr. checked to make sure my levels were normal before we started trying.

Sha, I *hate* that roundabout way of asking! "So-and-so is wondering..." Really? Tell so and so I said she''s a you-know-what! I kid. There simply is no right way to bring it up no matter how sensitive one tries to be. Best to not mention it at all.
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Sorry you have to deal with this.
 
Date: 12/30/2008 3:01:51 PM
Author: steph72276
Thanks for all the well-wishes girls. Ya''ll are all too sweet. So, if you have had a miscarriage and you don''t mind sharing with me...how long did you and your DH wait until trying again. My doctor said they don''t recommend trying for 3 months, and I think I will take her advice and wait, but just wondering if anyone else here has been through it. Thanks:)
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Hi Steph. I''m so sorry about your miscarriage. I had a miscarriage in October and my doctor told me to wait 2 cycles. I don''t think there is a true medical reason for that, other than to be sure that your cycles are "normal" again so they can date the pregnancy when you get pregnant again. We only waited one cycle after the miscarriage to start trying again.
 
Thanks, Tiffany. I wasn''t sure if there was a medical reason or for just the dating the pregnancy purpose. I did have to have a D&C with mine, so maybe that is why she said 3 months. I have an appointment next week to get checked out, so I will ask. Thanks again!
 
Hey Steph. I am so terribly sorry about your miscarriage.
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I had one exactly a week ago, though it was earlier in the pregnancy. You''re the one with the little boy, right? Did he know about the pregnancy, and if so how is he dealing with the news? *hugs*

As far as the waiting, I think it''s very likely that you can start trying sooner than 3 months. As I understand it--though I''m not a dr.--the general recommendation of 3 months is somewhat arbitrary and takes into account things like emotional healing. If you had a D&C you might have some uterine abrading, but I wouldn''t be surprised if your dr. said that you''d only have a wait a month or so if you''re anxious for trying again. I know I am! The issue with dating is largely eliminated these days with early ultrasounds, especially if you are charting. Feel better soon sweetie!
 
Date: 12/30/2008 8:38:35 PM
Author: peonygirl
Hey Steph. I am so terribly sorry about your miscarriage.
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I had one exactly a week ago, though it was earlier in the pregnancy. You''re the one with the little boy, right? Did he know about the pregnancy, and if so how is he dealing with the news? *hugs*


As far as the waiting, I think it''s very likely that you can start trying sooner than 3 months. As I understand it--though I''m not a dr.--the general recommendation of 3 months is somewhat arbitrary and takes into account things like emotional healing. If you had a D&C you might have some uterine abrading, but I wouldn''t be surprised if your dr. said that you''d only have a wait a month or so if you''re anxious for trying again. I know I am! The issue with dating is largely eliminated these days with early ultrasounds, especially if you are charting. Feel better soon sweetie!
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Thank you so much Peony. So sorry about your loss to. Yep, I have the little boy and he was part of the surprise when I announced it to my husband (he was wearing a big brother shirt) so he''s known since the very beginning. He was really distracted by Christmas and so he didn''t mention anything about the baby for about a week, but yesterday he drew a picture of the family and drew a baby in mommy''s belly. Then he asked me when the baby was going to come out of my belly, so I had to sit down and tell him something. He is just 4 so I knew he wouldn''t understand everything really, so I told him that Mommy and Daddy thought we were having a baby, but the doctor checked and found out we''re not having one just yet, but maybe we will really soon. Well, he got really upset and started crying and said, "Mommy you lied to me!" He said it over and over until my husband got him to calm down. It was really sad and really hard and I didn''t know he was going to take it so hard too. Anyway, we got him calmed down, I just think he was really excited because we made it a big deal that he was going to be a big brother....lesson learned, next time we will wait until 12 weeks to tell the little guy.
 
Vesper those stats Lovely posted are pretty accurate even based on more mainstream medical evidence. So six months is "average" with most women gettin KTFU ("knocked the F*** up") within 12 months.

I think that since your cycles are a little irregular you *may* want to consider adding some non-medical methods to your TTC arsenal to help you time your intercourse so that you hit your fertile days, which are typically only about the 2-5 days before ovulation occurrs. The most difficult thing about irregular cycles is trying to predict when you ovulate. The number of days between ovulation and your period is constant (within one or two days), so if your cycles vary from 28 to 40 days, it means that your day of ovulation varies by as much as 12 days from month to month--so one month is may be on CD (cycle day) 14, for example, and the next month it could be on CD 26! So how do you know when it will happen? If you just have sex as usual (assuming 1-2 times a week) then the odds of actually having sex during your fertile phase. So things can take a lot longer if you just go with the flow, so to speak. But there are a couple really simple things you can do to increase your odds that don''t involve doctors, medications, testng or any type of interventions!

First, you can start charting, which is what many of the women here do. This involves taking your temperature each morning using a special basal body temperature thermometer, monitoring your cervical fluid, and (optionally) monitoring your cervical position... This is very simple once you get the hang of it and most women who start find it interesting to learn about their bodies. You can get information about it at www.fertilityfriend.com or in the book Taking charge of Your Fertility, or by reading this whole thread
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If you don''t want to use full-on charting, you can also time your intercourse by monitoring your cervical fluid. Basically your vaginal secretions (cervical fluid-- CF) change throughout your cycle and will alert you when you are fertile. In the days before you ovulate, your cervical fluid become watery or it becomes very copious and slippery, like raw egg whites. So basically, you can "sample" your cervical fluid by inserting two fingers into your vajayjay and then looking at the goo you pull out! haha... it is not for the faint of heart, but it will tell you in no uncertain terms when the best time to have sex is! But some women fin dthat their CF is a little hard to interpret, so it isn''t always the clearest sign.

The final thing you can do is try to figure out a broad "fertile window" estimate, and then have sex every second day during this time period. Subtract 10 days from your longest cycle in the past 6 months OFF birth control (in your case 40) and then subtract 16 days from your shortest cycle (in your case 28)... this will give you the latest possible day you could ovulate (because the shortest amount of time from ovulation until your period is about 10 days) and also the earliest you could ovulate (because the longest amount of time from ovulation until your period is about 16 days). So the most likely time for you to ovulate is between CD-12 and CD-30. So you can just try to have sex every two days within that time, counting the first day of your period as CD 1. But that is a lot of sex for most of us, and you have a child so that may not be reasonable! Plus, it isn''t very "laid back" if that''s what your DH wants.

In my opinion, the simplest method is to monitor your CF and make sure you have sex at least 1 or 2 times when your CF is fertile. It may take a couple months to determine when you have fertile CF, but once you figure it out then you can sort of be more spontaneous about having sex.

Anyways, hope this helps!
 
Date: 12/30/2008 9:51:52 PM
Author: steph72276


Thank you so much Peony. So sorry about your loss to. Yep, I have the little boy and he was part of the surprise when I announced it to my husband (he was wearing a big brother shirt) so he''s known since the very beginning. He was really distracted by Christmas and so he didn''t mention anything about the baby for about a week, but yesterday he drew a picture of the family and drew a baby in mommy''s belly. Then he asked me when the baby was going to come out of my belly, so I had to sit down and tell him something. He is just 4 so I knew he wouldn''t understand everything really, so I told him that Mommy and Daddy thought we were having a baby, but the doctor checked and found out we''re not having one just yet, but maybe we will really soon. Well, he got really upset and started crying and said, ''Mommy you lied to me!'' He said it over and over until my husband got him to calm down. It was really sad and really hard and I didn''t know he was going to take it so hard too. Anyway, we got him calmed down, I just think he was really excited because we made it a big deal that he was going to be a big brother....lesson learned, next time we will wait until 12 weeks to tell the little guy.
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Oh Steph that must have been so hard! I''m so sorry!

I have had two friends who had the same experience as you, with "missed miscarriages" that required D&Cs around 9 weeks. In boths cases, they waited a cycle or two before trying again, but I don''t know if that was because of doctor''s orders or not. I think Peony is correct that it isn''t medically necessary, and is probably more about dating etc since you may not have a regular cycle post D&C. My one friend, whom I am closer to and so have more details, said it took about 60 days for her period to return after the procedure, and IIRC she began TTC again that cycle and got pregnant in the second cycle TTC after the mc.
 
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