The Official TTC Thread!

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 5/23/2008 12:19:54 PM
Author: lisa1.01fvs1


Had the HSG and all tubes are open, no blockages and DH''s swimmers are good (53 million and motility a 3+ out of 4).

We will time BD this week and next cycle try IUI.


Lisa

Hey Lisa, that''s great news!! Are you feeling more optimistic as you get each piece of positive information? I hope so, things as so much simpler when their aren''t a whole host of issues.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 5/23/2008 4:01:52 PM
Author: Independent Gal
Hey Dreamer, another over-30 and just off BCP over here. My cycles have been TOTALLY wacked out... super short (21 days) then long (31 days). It''s normal for cycles to be wacky for a while off BCP. Even for several months.

So try not to worry.

The thing is, if I understand correctly, even if your luteal phase ends up short-ish, you can do something about it. It''s easy to treat. So everything will turn out fine and there is really nothing to fret about!

Indy, high-five for the over 30s! I think we get hit worse than the young''uns coming off the pill. Lucky, eh?

What cycle day are you on? We must be pretty close now, since I was so early this time around.

 

[snlee]

Thanks great news, Lisa! Lots of baby dust to you and everyone else TTC!

 

[Independent Gal]

I'm on Day 9 I think. 8 or 9. I can't remember exactly, but something like that.

This from the girl who, when asked at the doctor when her last visit with Aunt F usually has no clue. (And no, not a visit from my REAL aunt F of BWW forum fame, who come to think of it has a lot in common with the figurative Aunt F... she's a pain in the nether regions, makes me upset and angry, and is entirely 'lune-y-toons').

Seriously, I lose track of time and don't know which day of the week it is mostly, never mind how many days since my last visit. But I am writing my temperatures down now so I suppose I could just count!

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 5/23/2008 4:41:47 PM
Author: Independent Gal
I''m on Day 9 I think. 8 or 9. I can''t remember exactly, but something like that.

This from the girl who, when asked at the doctor when her last visit with Aunt F usually has no clue. (And no, not a visit from my REAL aunt F of BWW forum fame, who come to think of it has a lot in common with the figurative Aunt F... she''s a pain in the nether regions, makes me upset and angry, and is entirely ''lune-y-toons'').

Seriously, I lose track of time and don''t know which day of the week it is mostly, never mind how many days since my last visit. But I am writing my temperatures down now so I suppose I could just count!

Lol Indy you crack me up.
And I''m the same way...I NEVER knew when my cycles were. I used to make up dates. lol. But now I''m obsessive about keeping track.

 

[E B]

DD,

I'm sorry about the short luteal phase. Like you said, it's probably wackiness from being off the pill. Fingers crossed for longer luteal phases and pregnancy ASAP!

I'm still on vacay so I haven't read all the updates, but good luck to everyone in the 2WW and those gearing up to O!

 

[mela lu]

Oh crapcrapcrappers DD! I'm so sorry that your pesky aunt came and that you're feeling down. hang in there - this is a natually over-sensitive time so stay strong. what I'm trying to pick up is that 'always positive' attitude that so many have here (lisa for example. you are an inspiration!) Well, the good news DD, is that you're one cycle smarter All of this will ultimately help you in your journey.

So, Blein and Amber - when are you guys going to test? I'm pretty positive I'm not pg - so I may not test (until IIIIIFFFF AF doesnt show up on Monday). I dont know. I'm just so on the fence about it.

Lisa - good luck good luck good luck. I feel like with your perseverance and amazingly postive attitude, that your time is gonna come so soon. I'm crossing my fingers and toes for you. you totes deserve a BFP

BB - I'm really envious at how proactive you've been charting and temping. I'm a dummy who is just hoping and mucous'ing her way thru it. I think i may have to start jumping on the charting train if i get a BFN this cycle. Will you be my sponsor? hahah.

Tomorrow will be 12DPO. sigh.

 

[AmberWaves]

Okay, sooooo just tested. BFN.

Oh well. No AF yet, still hoping she''ll show up today or tomorrow.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Amber, until AF shows you can''t trust the tests entirely, so it''s still possible!

I just went to the book store and bought Taking Charge of Your Fertility. What a super interesting book! The best, and most thoroughly disgusting part, is the real life pictures of the different types of CF. Super disgusting, but really really informative. Now I feel more confident in my ability to "name" and categorize my CF. Not to mention to added benefit of watching my DHs face when I say, "look at this picture, honey!"

Based on this, I don''t actually get full-on EWCF. My most fertile CF is more watery.

I''ll let you all know any interesting tidbits I come accross. One interesting point: she defines the luteal phase differently than FF. She says it starts on the day of your first elevated temp above the cover line, and then continues up to and including the day before your AF shows up. Ovulation may happen on the day of that first elevated temp, or it may happen the day after. For me, my first elevated temp was the day before my FF-estimated O-day. If I count the way TCOYF recommends, my luteal phase this month was 10 days. Blushing, does this way of looking at your temps change the estimate of your luteal phase from last month? Just curious.

Anyways, food for thought, it is a very interesting book I highly recommend it.

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

Snlee, Mela, DD and everyone here

It is always so nice to visit this thread and read about the inner workings of babydom.

Mela - such nice words of encouragement. I don''t consider myself to be an uber positive person - just neurotic and
very intense with a killer streak of perserverance!

What would life be w/o semen analyses, HSG''s and bloodwork out the yin-yang? I always learn enough to be a good advocate for myself.

Just a typical day in my life. I approach most barriers with a blitzkreig mentality. I think this accompanies my OCD.

Sticking w/ the clinical keeps me away from losing my mind totally.

Amber, DD''s right test again unless the aunt is in town.

 

[Independent Gal]

You''re pretty darn awesome, Lisa!

 

[AmberWaves]

All righty. AF has appeared (with a vengeance!). The good news is that it''s directly on my 27/28 day cycle. Bad news- I have to go out to a fancy dress party with mad cramps! Damn!

 

[mela lu]

Amber - Nooooooooooooooo!!!!!!! i was totally focusing some mad-up baby dust for you! Oh, I''m so sorry that your aunt came. damn her! Alas, a new cycle begins.

Hang in there girlfriend! We''re all in this together and next cycle we''ll be together again. waiting. wallowing. wishing. wah wah wee wah.

Lisa - you are amazing. nothing short of amazing. Keep up that attitood!

So, it''s Blein and I. We''re the two left. sigh. I''m having a weak moment where I want to go test. I just feel like the odds of preggs are so slim....that I may as well just test and put myself out of misery. hmmmmmmmmmm. what to do. I swore that I was going to just wait until Monday. What''s a girl to do.

 

[mela lu]

I just tested.































one faint line. OMG!!!!!!!!! DH doesn''t believe it. He wants to go buy every brand on the market for a retest. haha

 

[Dreamer_D]

Yaaaah Mela

, post a picture of your test! I love to see those faint lines!

 

[mela lu]

OMG we can''t find our camera!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RATS! I''m tearing up the house. AAaahhhhh. It''s faint. but it''s there. holy hannah I''m freeeeeeeeking out!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 5/24/2008 8:27:02 PM
Author: mela lu
OMG we can''t find our camera!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! RATS! I''m tearing up the house. AAaahhhhh. It''s faint. but it''s there. holy hannah I''m freeeeeeeeking out!

LOL! Everything will be okay! Just breath, the blastocyst needs oxygen!

How many DPO are you anyways? Just curious...

 

[mela lu]

13 DPO. breathe breathe breathe.

AF is due this Monday. holy MOLY! I am shocked. okay, let me talk this out. I was REALLY REALLY tired the past week or so. Like, dragging my heals tired. and hot. really realy hot (and it ain''t hot here in Canada right now). all this, I just put out of my mind as ''imaginging'' the symptoms. Now that I think about it - they were realy symptoms! whoa. And those cramps I had the other night (wed night) MUST have been implantation cramps. they were b-a-d. I was worried AF was coming very early for some reason - but no, no no no that was lickle eggo going for a deeeep dive. madonna. I''m scared slash SO HAPPY! I''m totally going to retest tomorrow morning

 

[mela lu]

DH is SO in denial. Im going to the drug store to get some more tests to "prove" to him that there are no such things as false positives! Heeeeeeeeeeee!

 

[Independent Gal]

Congrats Mela! That''s great news!

Hey, as a very nervous over-30, can I ask how old you are?

 

[mela lu]

I am 30 on the dot. Glorious 30.



I''m retesting in the morning for DH (with my first pee). See you gals then - and thanks DD and IG for the nice words. I''m still in shock.

 

[snlee]

Amber, I''m sorry AF came. Boo! But I am glad it''s right on 27/28 days, which means not long before you can try again! Lots of baby dust to you!

mela lu, CONGRATULATIONS!

How exciting! That is funny your DH doesn''t believe it! Go pee on more sticks and prove him wrong!

 

[AmberWaves]

Yay!!! Mela!!!! Congrats! How excited are you???? Gotta love the DH.

 

[lisa1.01fvs1]

MELA where is that test pic???????

Congratulations - so that's BFP's for NF, PAVE, EBREE, anyone else sorry if I missed u!

INDY you are too sweet! Here's to the next cycle and new beginings! Oh and I'm an ancient crone (39) so don't worry if I can do it so can u!

AMBER that aunt has gotta be related to me! She's so persistent. Sorry but here's to CD1!

So the next 2ww'ers are: ME, DD, INDY and AMBER?

That leaves BLENHEIM left for now and MELA to urinate on as many sticks she can get her hands on just to be on the super safe side.

And where is that pic of the stick (or did I already mention that?)

 

[Dreamer_D]

Hey guys... wellllllll I don't know if I got my period after all. On friday my temp dipped to 36.4, just below my cover line of 36.45, and I had some bleeding. But Saturday my temp spiked back up to a whopping 37.3, and today it is still high at 36.8. Also, Saturday the bleeding slowed to look more like pinkish CF, and this morning it is still only brownish CF. I don't even really need a pad or anything.

Could this be implantation bleeding? If my temps weren't so high the last two days I would think it was a wonky period, but during my period last month my temps were consistently only 36.4, and even that light period was much heavier than this. Could there be another explanation for the temp dip and rise and the spotting??

I am not testing yet, even if I am PG I am only 11 DPO.

Mela, we eagerly await your pee covered stick!

 

[mela lu]

Oh Dreamer this must be so frustrating!

Are you shooooooooooooooor you dont want to pee on some cheapy sticks? I mean, in theory, if that bit of bleeding was implantation, than your body should already be releasing the hormone needed to test! I''d say go for it! Honestly. You never know?! I got bored and antsy waiting and did it for peace of mind (to a good outcome). I dont think there is any harm in you doing just a wee lickle pee - maybe just a 5 second pee...

DH totally believes now! haha. A fresh morning urine gave clarity to the sitch. LOL. He even said (without promting) that on the Thanksgiving long weekend, we can set up the nursery!

A man. A man offered that

I was floored.

I''m going to my mom''s soon. I HAVE to share the news (even though its early) as if I was to miscarry (knock knock knock on wood), I''d share that with her too. we''re tight.

Well gals. Maybe I''ll borrow Mom camera to document the BFP. i''m so sorry we''re such dorkus'' and LOST our camera!!!!!!!!!!!!! So here is the Q. If I get a BFP and there is no camera to document it, am I still preggs? (LOL)

ta ta for now!
PS. Blein - how much longer for you??????????????????

 

[Independent Gal]

Here''s a question for y''all: will you actually wait till month 4 before telling your loved ones and friends you''re knocked up?

Say I actually end up knocked up. The idea of not telling anyone for 3 months strikes me as weird. I remember when my ex-step-mom got knocked up with my sister and they didn''t tell me for 3 months and I was really hurt and offended (I was into the young teens at that point). And one of my very close friends didn''t tell me until month 4 and I was pretty devastated that she kept such an important event in her life secret for so long.

Of course I wouldn''t mention it casually to co-workers and things, but doesn''t not telling your friends and family feel weird? If something goes wrong, then surely you''d want their support if you needed it.

Plus, it seems to me that all this secrecy around miscarriages, how common they are, that many people we know have had one, just makes it isolating. Miscarriages are normal and common and maybe we shouldn''t be trying to keep that secret since that makes it seem like something shameful. Sure it''s sometimes sad (though I have friends who say that, in the first couple of months, it was disappointing, but didn''t feel like mourning feels), but losing a parent is sad, and we don''t keep THAT secret.

Anyway, I was just wondering about your thoughts on this.

 

[Jas12]

Ella-cute story! I talk about you PSer''s all the time, but it is ridiculous b/c i have to use the screen names so i i''ll say things like "diver said" or ''Tgal" mentoned--hehe, sounds comical. I know what you mean about the annoying conflicting advice--i am going thru that while reading stuff on sleep. I think the only major thing you have to keep in mind when mixing solids is to only mix if the baby has had the item you are mixing with before (which is your case) so that if an allergy develops you know it''s the sweet potato b/c they have had the cereal.

Neatfreak--i think what you are probably feeling/seeing is bloating right now--i remember thinking i had gained tummy weight from the first month! But i didn''t actually get the hard round little belly till nearly half way thru the pregnancy (around week 17-1 Everyone is so different \, my aerobics instructor was pregnant at the same time as me but almost 3 months behind and she was bigger at 6 months than i as at 9. it just really depends on body shape, height, muscle strength etc. Embrace it, you have the best excuse x2 to have that tummy!

Independentgal--i really think it is just a personal choice-many ppl find miscarriages really really devestating-esp if you were trying for a while or desperately wanted a child--the thought of having to have to say ''i lost the baby'' over and over when ppl inquire is tough i am sure so i didn''t tell friends till 12 weeks for this reason. I do agree that close family is different--if i were to miscarriage i would want familial support--but iguess this all depends on your relationship with your family to begin with. I am close to mine so i felt it was necessary to tell my parents and sister close to when i found out i was pregnant.

So my big Cohen news--He rolled over!?!?! I had him on his tummy (as the start of his ''tummy time'' exercise) and he was fussing a bit so he pushed himself up slightly with this hands and flipped onto his back! Followed by instant happiness lol--it was neat--my mom and Charlie saw it too and my mom was flipping out. I think it was more a fluke than anything , not purposefull (i don''t think they usually do this till around 3 or 4 months) but it was neat nonetheless.
I also get a kick out of pretending he knows what i am talkign about. Co has this terrible habit of latching really firmly when he eats and then yanking his head away from the breast with my nipple still in his mouth--it is so painful. So yesterday he did it and I said very sternly, while looking him in the eye "NO Cohen, that hurts mommy"!--well, the little monster turned his head downward away from me and gave the biggest, sauciest grin you could imagine. Charlie and i burst out laughing and that just fueled the fire, cuz he was just smiling away--ohhh boy, i am gonna have my hands full!

 

[Independent Gal]

Date: 5/25/2008 11:21:23 AM
Author: Jas12


Independentgal--i really think it is just a personal choice-many ppl find miscarriages really really devestating-esp if you were trying for a while or desperately wanted a child--the thought of having to have to say ''i lost the baby'' over and over when ppl inquire is tough i am sure so i didn''t tell friends till 12 weeks for this reason. I do agree that close family is different--if i were to miscarriage i would want familial support--but iguess this all depends on your relationship with your family to begin with. I am close to mine so i felt it was necessary to tell my parents and sister close to when i found out i was pregnant.

Yeah, I definitely agree that it''s each to their own (as with most things! hurray for freedom and privacy). And I honestly don''t know exactly how I''ll feel when my turn comes. I''m going back and forth between ''absolute secrecy'' and ''why would I be secret?!?" That''s partly why I was interested in what other people plan to do or have done and what their reasons were.

Oh, and I want to make very clear that I didn''t mean to suggest that miscarriages are never devastating! I would bet that most women DO find them devastating. But some don''t and it''s important for women to be able to talk about that experience as well if they want to without being judged (which I think is how one of my friends felt... that she was expected to be devastated and she wasn''t and people were thinking ''what is WRONG with her?!'').

I am trying to figure out what I want to do when the time comes. I''m really not sure. It''s such a strange thing to keep something like that secret, but then, even if you only tell your best friends, they may tell their friends. Sometimes information control is tough. I would reeeeeally want to tell my grandmother, but if I did, she might tell my crazy aunt. And that would be awful.

So, ladies, what are the rest of you thinking you''ll do? Whom will you tell and how soon?

 

[sbde]

Congrats Mela!!

Can''t wait to see that BPF pic