The Official TTC Thread!

[LadyBlue]

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Steal, I'm sorry. I know how frustrating it is, mostly when you feel and think that it's the month. Sending you hugs and better luck the next month..

Random, Congrats

Bella, Good luck in the 2WW , dust to you.

 

[Bliss]

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Congrats, Random_thought!!! That's a clear line! Sometimes the line can be fainter or darker depending on how concentrated your urine is (and therefore hCG) so... CONGRATULATIONS! Even if one is fainter than the other, those are still nice dark lines.

Steal, sorry about this month... but maybe it's your body gearing up to be pregnant soon?

Bella, lots of dust for your 2WW!!!!!! Thanks again for all the helpful advice and suggestions - you are a godsend and an ANGEL!

How's my girl, dcgator? Super hugs to you, I've missed you! Your time is coming soon! *dust dust dust*

Wow, maternity benefits are so amazing in other countries!!!! I think that's tremendous and speaks so much about how much respect and time are given to new moms and their babies. I wish it were that way here in the U.S. Maybe one day!

 

[brightlight]

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Congrats Random_thought!!!!!!!!!!!

Steal, sending you lots of hugs! I know it hurts so much sometimes, but please don't ever stop hoping.

Bella, good luck in the TWW!

Dreamer, I'll look up the link and post it later for you.

AFM: I'm pregnant!!!! We're so thrilled and excited!

 

[Bella_mezzo]

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EEK! Brightlight!!!!! Congrats!!!!

 

[charbie]

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Yay brightlight and random! Super sticky bean dust! We were in need of some good news around here.

Dc: glad the HSG showed no issues. I hope its what ur system needed for a little boost this cycle.
Steal: I really thought you might be preggo. I saw that you had a post in the preggo thread the other day and was hoping you were announcing over there, too.
Bella: how much longer til testing starts??? I'm on pins and needles for you, dear!!!

I'm so freakin jealous of other countries mat leave! Ill be (eventually) taking 3 months. Of that, 6 weeks will be ST disability, paid at around 60%, and ill get I think 4 weeks from my employer at about 80%. Ill supplement with 2 weeks of vacation. Question for the ladies who are in countries with wonder mat leave policies...what would happen if you became pregnant again quickly? Say within your first few months on leave...so you come back to work and then just go right on leave again for a years time? I'm ready to be smacked in the face here...but I have a feeling there are some system suckers here in the US who would just stay pregnant all the time to keep getting paid and not work. Its pathetic, but I could see laborers out there who would. I'm pretty liberal, but sorry to say this is the truth.

CD 12. DH was in town for the weekend, and he was informed he needed to be very careful I'm fascinated by how the body works. I've been temping, and today had a pretty significant dip, so I'm guessing that means ill be ovulating soon...right on track. No CM to speak of, which I'm sort of surprised by. I've noticed EWCM before, so the fact that its not here is a bit odd. Oh well. Just more things to take note of.

ETA: edited for spelling issues.

 

[dcgator]

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Hello Ladies,

Ahh, another Monday. Where did the weekend go ? I hope you all had a good one though.

Bella - So, what's the word on your end dear? Hopefully AF is far far away and you have some good news for us. Fingers crossed lady! Btw, that sucks about your company's "maternity leave". Hopefully you can figure something out when the time comes (which will be soon, I think )

Po - BFP's for everyone! I would love for us to all have them before Christmas. What a wonderful present that would be indeed. I really wish we had such generous leave policies in the U.S., but it definitely varies from company to company here.

Modern - Thanks for the well wishes. That's awesome about your program's leave policy too. How nice.

Kennedy- How are you doing. Where are you in the 2WW? I know that it can be a PITA, but it's just part of the whole process. Good luck this month!

KTF - You never know, I mean it only takes one day, right? I imagine you are well into your 2WW now, how's it going so far?

Steal - I am sooo very sorry to hear that AF has showed up. I totally understand the disappointment, so we are here to be your sounding board if you need to vent. One thing though, you mentioned that you now have a 19 day cycle. I am bit confused though b/c didn't you say you were 11 DPO and you O'ed on CD11. How did you get a 19 day cycle? As for me, yes, all is good since the HSG. The cramping went away after the next day, and I got down to BD'ing that day. In fact, it's a good thing that I did BD so soon after, b/c I O'ed on CD12, so it didn't leave much window for error. And my DH isn't getting his SA till Thursday now, since he has to abstain for 3-5 days before the sample is given. But, he is all on board with it, so that is definitely helpful. We both had all our bloodwork done this past week, so the SA is the last piece to the puzzle, so to speak.

CDNinNYC - Nice to see you back in here, even if lurking. Do you think you will come back for real soon? We would love to have you back! Either way, take care.

Random_thought - Congrats on the BFP. I second what all the other ladies said about the tests. However, should you want further clarification, you can call your Dr. an go in for beta tests to keep track that your HSG is indeed increasing. Good luck!

Bliss - Hello my dear Thanks for stopping in to check in on us. I am hanging in there. I had the HSG this month, and then tried to catch my eggie. DH and I feel good about this month, but I guess we will find out in the next week or so. Wish us luck! As for you, you need to post some more belly pics. I bet you look absolutely adorable and have a nice little basketball forming in front

Charbie - Thanks for the shout out. Yep, everything looks good on my side. We will just wait for the final test, the SA, and then we will be ready to move forward with the next step. That's really cool that you have been able to figure out your cycle. I hope that you didn't catch you eggie this weekend (wow, that's kinda weird to say, lol). Good luck with the continued tracking!

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AFM, I am officially 3DPO. When all was said and done, we managed to hit O-1, O and O+1. FF only gave me a "Good", but thats decent, considering the earlier O (at CD12) and the HSG on CD10. So, DH and I digging in for the 2WW. We both feel really good about this month, but I guess we will see. The cool thing is though, if we do get KU this month, the baby would be due right around our 2 year anniversay However, if it doesn't work out this time, we will have another game plan for the coming months. For the rest of the ladies in the 2WW, may we be blessed with patience, and for the ladies trying to catch their eggies, good luck, and enjoy your BD'ing marathons!

 

[dcgator]

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Congrats Random_thought!!!!!!!!!!!

Dreamer, I'll look up the link and post it later for you.

AFM: I'm pregnant!!!! We're so thrilled and excited!

Umm, how did you just throw that in there Ms. Brightlight...CONGRATS to you and your DH!

So do we get any other details? How far along are you? When/How did you find out? How did you tell you DH?

I wish you a VERY happy and healthy 9 months!

 

[NewEnglandLady]

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Random_Thought and Brightlight, a big congrats to both of you!!! Yay!!

 

[Bella_mezzo]

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DC- Sounds like you guys timed things perfectly this month! hope the SA goes well for your DH and that the HSG just opened those tubes right up so things could whoosh right through

 

[Keepingthefaith21]

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DC - Crossing my fingers and toes that things go well for you! I am happy to hear you and DH got right back to business the day following your testing.

Steal - There are no words. I, along with many other on this board, absolutely understand how you feel. The sadness is consuming and frustrating. I hope that you are able to find your strength, even if it means you need to take a little bit of a break. I am sorry this month was so confusing.

AFM - I think I am completely out this month. A day after I posted on here that I had a confirmed O and went forward full steam, I started to bleed again. I had hoped it was just O bleeding but eventually I realized I was hoping against odds. I called my OB who wants me in the office to begin testing for polyps and other fun things. I am still on the fence about whether I truly feel physically and emotionally strong enough to have more tests and possible surgeries. I was sincerely hoping the MC was going to be the absolute worst for us...but it looks like that may have only been the beginning. Right now, I am just letting myself feel whatever fustration and sadness I need to feel and giving myself plenty of space to decide when I think I am ready to move foward with additional testing. I am not sure I could take another dose of bad news and am more content to spend my time basking in the bliss of ignorance.

 

[moxie.moo]

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hi everyone,
Longtime lurker, first-time poster. My husband and I have been married nearly 3 years. Our careers are shaping up, bank accounts and life insurance are as ready as they're going to be, we bought our house about a year ago, paid off one car and replaced an unsafe one... So, we are finally "ready" to start TTC now that we have our lives in a bit more order. Actually, full disclosure is that we already did start trying last month--I had been off HBC for 6 months and was having clockwork 29 day cycles. (I totally had the, 'woah, mother nature is crafty!' moment when things seemed to work like they were supposed to.) So, we used opks, did our thing when we had some positives (as well as before and after) and I had my first late period EVER in history... I was 5 days late, kept testing negative, and started losing my mind. That's when I decided maybe I would come out of the shadows and post here because the crazy was starting to show IRL. Still a little hesitant about the online forum, but I'm not ready to come out to friends and family--there's enough pressure for babies there already. So there you have it! I'm now on CD4 and hoping for the best (ideally we'd have a summer baby for work/vacation reasons...and then God laughed at me).
-m.m.

 

[Steel]

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Bella: Thanks for the sympathy. Booooooo to AF. I have my fingers crossed for you this month. Ignore the boobies – I swear I will never even give a second glance to a ‘symptom’ as long as I live, or at least until the next 2WW, No I take it back, never again will a fake out symptom take me over to the dark-side! Good luck to you honey. I hope on hope this is your cycle. Dustdustdust.

Gaby: I am so sad. Really I was convinced. Bah humbug. Thank you for the kind words.

Bliss: Haha! I love it. Gearing up to be preggo! It sounds lovely but I doubt the little eggies need a pep talk to get themselves in order! Or perhaps they do? I hope you are doing well. I must get myself over to the pregnancy thread and see if you have posted another pic. I thought you looked so cute in the last pic I saw.

Brightlight: So glad you got knocked up! Congratulations! Sticky sticky dust Mamma! Thank you for the kind words – I feel so down about it all.

Charbie: Hi there! It is so funny to learn what is going on with out bodies. Did you ever check out mybeautifulcervix dot com Tres cool pictures showing various cycle stages.

Dcgator: Well done with your O timing. I’m go glad you managed to get it on this cycle. I don’t know what that test was like but I never feel like sexy time after my lady-doctor appointment so you get a gold star + for this month. I can’t tell you how much I wish this is your cycle. I really think you are due a great big fat positive. I will keep you in my thoughts. dustdustdust I’ll explain about the CD 19 mistake down the bottom.

KTF: I love you for saying that. I feel so stupid. Thank you very kindly for your support, I need it today. I kinda told DH I wanted a break but he wants to keep going. I said I feel like it is all up to me. We can’t BD every day (we did in the beginning but have been advised against it, plus DH is away a lot) so it is up to me to work out O day and if I miss it, it really is my ‘fault’. I hate pee sticks. I really do. It was fun in the beginning but the shine has well and truly gone and I am so sad that it might not happen for us.
I am truly sh1t sorry you are going though it right now KTF. While I respect your decision to put off testing, IMVHO, Get the tests done. If there is something they may be able to treat it sooner rather than later and if not then you might get peace of mind. Ignoring something rarely is the best course. Also if you are down now then you might be more accepting if you need further treatment rather then when you are fully healed emotionally & physically. BTW: I didn’t know a polyp might be bad news. I was advised I might have one on one of my last visit but she didn’t seem to give two hoots just put me on a wait list (I’m still waiting 1 year on).

Dreamer: Thank you for your thoughts. I feel like an ass. Lutheal phase is 14 days, I O’d 2 days early making it a 26 day cycle. I posted and ran yesterday so I didn’t see my mistake.

Ryan Claire: Thinking about you.

Random thought: Congratulations, sticky dust to you.

AFM:
Dcgator & Dreamer are right. I cocked up my last post. I had a 26 cycle day this month not 19, it was the 19th August and I read one number and typed it without thought. Still 26 days is shorter than usual; stress with the death and funeral of DH's Granny, but I was still 28 days when my Dad died - I looked back to check. Who knows? I O’d on the 6th and was due to O on the 8th and then have my usual 14 day lutheal phase. I am very angry and sad because I was so convinced that I would have put a bet on it. (not that I gamble) So although, I wanted a break, the long and the short of it is that we are going again. We both really want to fall pregnant; I just would love that it be less emotional and less difficult. I have bought DH a multi-vitamin for the swimmers, but now that I look at the pills I’m sure I’ll be returning it; the pills look big and he is not great with pills never mind large ones, and I’m starting the soya today. Can’t hurt eh? Warning: On a ranty comment I feel sensitive when ‘strangers’ (i.e. never posted here before) to the thread just pop in to announce that they are pregnant. Um, great. Now who are you, and you do read this thread; we are t.r.y.i.n.g over here? I kinda feel it is like Angelia Jolie popping into a weight watchers thread to say – hi guys yeah I’m naturally skinnnnnnnyyyyyy, see ya, tubsters. But bear in mind I’m having a bad couple of days. Perhaps Admin would sticky the just barely preggo thread so that posters feel they have somewhere else to go that will actually get traffic? I don't know. ETA: I even feel bad re-reading this because I know it is just sour grapes and I really wish PS'ers the best of luck in their lives. I really do.

On other news: I got my hair done and it is just so-so. Why is it so difficult to get a great colour done - I'm never happy unless I do it myself; the roots are a darker shade than the body and I paid €80 for this! At least the cut is great.

 

[Steel]

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hi everyone,
Longtime lurker, first-time poster. My husband and I have been married nearly 3 years. Our careers are shaping up, bank accounts and life insurance are as ready as they're going to be, we bought our house about a year ago, paid off one car and replaced an unsafe one... So, we are finally "ready" to start TTC now that we have our lives in a bit more order. Actually, full disclosure is that we already did start trying last month--I had been off HBC for 6 months and was having clockwork 29 day cycles. (I totally had the, 'woah, mother nature is crafty!' moment when things seemed to work like they were supposed to.) So, we used opks, did our thing when we had some positives (as well as before and after) and I had my first late period EVER in history... I was 5 days late, kept testing negative, and started losing my mind. That's when I decided maybe I would come out of the shadows and post here because the crazy was starting to show IRL. Still a little hesitant about the online forum, but I'm not ready to come out to friends and family--there's enough pressure for babies there already. So there you have it! I'm now on CD4 and hoping for the best (ideally we'd have a summer baby for work/vacation reasons...and then God laughed at me).
-m.m.

Hi Moo. I love your name. Are you anon here or 1st time post ever? Either way welcome. Congrats on almost 3 years, it is great that you have found yourselves in secure postions and you must be over the moon to be finally TTC! It is so exciting. Sorry nature was messing you guys about last cycle; that was mean. But AF is considered something of a crafty witch with a B. She certainly has tricks. Gotta keep an eye on the crazy - but we love it here; every bit of crazy another poster lets out makes us look more 'normal' as a group. I have kept quiet about TTC too. FYI: Lots of us use the amazon opk sticks - they are cheap. May you be blessed with your summer baby - there are no jinxes here.

 

[moxie.moo]

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hi everyone,
Longtime lurker, first-time poster. My husband and I have been married nearly 3 years. Our careers are shaping up, bank accounts and life insurance are as ready as they're going to be, we bought our house about a year ago, paid off one car and replaced an unsafe one... So, we are finally "ready" to start TTC now that we have our lives in a bit more order. Actually, full disclosure is that we already did start trying last month--I had been off HBC for 6 months and was having clockwork 29 day cycles. (I totally had the, 'woah, mother nature is crafty!' moment when things seemed to work like they were supposed to.) So, we used opks, did our thing when we had some positives (as well as before and after) and I had my first late period EVER in history... I was 5 days late, kept testing negative, and started losing my mind. That's when I decided maybe I would come out of the shadows and post here because the crazy was starting to show IRL. Still a little hesitant about the online forum, but I'm not ready to come out to friends and family--there's enough pressure for babies there already. So there you have it! I'm now on CD4 and hoping for the best (ideally we'd have a summer baby for work/vacation reasons...and then God laughed at me).
-m.m.

Hi Moo. I love your name. Are you anon here or 1st time post ever? Either way welcome. Congrats on almost 3 years, it is great that you have found yourselves in secure postions and you must be over the moon to be finally TTC! It is so exciting. Sorry nature was messing you guys about last cycle; that was mean. But AF is considered something of a crafty witch with a B. She certainly has tricks. Gotta keep an eye on the crazy - but we love it here; every bit of crazy another poster lets out makes us look more 'normal' as a group. I have kept quiet about TTC too. FYI: Lots of us use the amazon opk sticks - they are cheap. May you be blessed with your summer baby - there are no jinxes here.

1st time ever poster... I stumbled on pricescope back when we were wedding planning in 2006, but I've always been too shy to post anything. I've followed all of you since about six months ago (maybe longer) and I'm familiar with nearly everyone's comings and goings and ups and downs, at least in this thread--funny how you can feel like you "know" someone even when that's not at all the case. Anyway, I'm so sorry you're feeling frustrated with the pop-ins. I can imagine it feels like everyone else blinks and they're pregnant when you want it so badly, you are trying so hard, and others' stories are a mystery. Wishing you the best!

 

[Steel]

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1st time ever poster... I stumbled on pricescope back when we were wedding planning in 2006, but I've always been too shy to post anything. I've followed all of you since about six months ago (maybe longer) and I'm familiar with nearly everyone's comings and goings and ups and downs, at least in this thread--funny how you can feel like you "know" someone even when that's not at all the case. Anyway, I'm so sorry you're feeling frustrated with the pop-ins. I can imagine it feels like everyone else blinks and they're pregnant when you want it so badly, you are trying so hard, and others' stories are a mystery. Wishing you the best!

Shy!
hahahhah Wait till we are asking you about your cervical positions & fluid! muwahh hahahahahahha .


Good point about not knowing if there was a story behind the blow-in BFP.


Hopefully I'll blink now and all of us in the TTC thread will be carring a little tiny baby come the New Year. I for one would love to buy an extra teeny tiny stocking to hang over the fireplace at Christmas, but if not, I know what I'll be asking Santa for this year and it is not a malibu barbie dream car.

 

[brightlight]

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AFM:
Dcgator & Dreamer are right. I cocked up my last post. I had a 26 cycle day this month not 19, it was the 19th August and I read one number and typed it without thought. Still 26 days is shorter than usual; stress with the death and funeral of DH's Granny, but I was still 28 days when my Dad died - I looked back to check. Who knows? I O’d on the 6th and was due to O on the 8th and then have my usual 14 day lutheal phase. I am very angry and sad because I was so convinced that I would have put a bet on it. (not that I gamble) So although, I wanted a break, the long and the short of it is that we are going again. We both really want to fall pregnant; I just would love that it be less emotional and less difficult. I have bought DH a multi-vitamin for the swimmers, but now that I look at the pills I’m sure I’ll be returning it; the pills look big and he is not great with pills never mind large ones, and I’m starting the soya today. Can’t hurt eh? Warning: On a ranty comment I feel sensitive when ‘strangers’ (i.e. never posted here before) to the thread just pop in to announce that they are pregnant. Um, great. Now who are you, and you do read this thread; we are t.r.y.i.n.g over here? I kinda feel it is like Angelia Jolie popping into a weight watchers thread to say – hi guys yeah I’m naturally skinnnnnnnyyyyyy, see ya, tubsters. But bear in mind I’m having a bad couple of days. Perhaps Admin would sticky the just barely preggo thread so that posters feel they have somewhere else to go that will actually get traffic? I don't know. ETA: I even feel bad re-reading this because I know it is just sour grapes and I really wish PS'ers the best of luck in their lives. I really do.
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I have to admit that I was a little apprehensive about announcing I was pregnant here for this reason and was considering just going straight to the preggo thread. I didn't want it to seem like I just popped in to get my congrats and leave. I used to post here regularly but stopped 2-3 months ago. I hoped that some of you ladies still remembered me. The drive-by knock-ups was actually the reason I stopped posting. I felt no ill will towards them. Maybe they were lurkers. Who knows? Who wouldn't be thrilled? Maybe this was the only place they could share their news, b/c they were keeping it a secret IRL. It became hard on me emotionally, b/c it just kept reminding me that I still wasn't pregnant. It seemed like women kept popping up who got pregnant quickly. I kept thinking, "Well, if all these women are getting pregnant so quickly, why aren't I? Maybe something really is wrong with me."

Btw, I think I mentioned this a couple months ago, but I tried soy milk for the past two cycles. I don't think it was THE reason I got preggo, but it did help me ovulate earlier! I was consistently ovulating past CD20. The cycle before I started drinking the soy milk, I ovulated on CD28. However, I was sick that cycle. According to my signs, I think I was probably going to ovulate on CD21-CD22, but being sick delayed it a week. Anyway, I drank two cups every morning on days 5-9. Mine had 46 mg of SI per cup, so I took 92mg total every day, which is the suggested lowest amount from what I've read. I ovulated on CD17! This was the earliest I had ovulated since the first month we started TTC. I decided to try it again this cycle to make sure it wasn't a fluke. This cycle, I drank my two cups on days 3-7. I ovulated on CD18. So, I think it helped me ovulate 3-4 days earlier. If I wasn't pregnant, I was going to not drink the soy milk my next cycle to see when I would ovulate without the SI.

Also, I have a problem with big pills too, and I just break them up into smaller pieces and drink orange juice with it to mask the taste. I read vitamin C is good for sperm motility, so you might want to ask your DH to try taking the pill like that if they're too big.

I'm so sorry for your DH's and your loss. I know this has been an incredibly stressful time for you and you feel down, but please know it does get better. It's ok to hope even if it does lead to disappointment. This was my eighth cycle actively TTC, and I felt so incredibly sad at times. I would sob when I was alone, b/c I didn't want DH to know how hard it was on me since it would just stress him out and bring hm down. I just kept reminding myself that all those low moments were worth it. Now that I'm at the other end, I can honestly say that they were. I think those hard times have made me stronger and less afraid of this new wonderful journey ahead.

 

[fieryred33143]

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Congrats RT

Congrats Brightlight I do remember you from when you posted here previously.

Sticky dust to you both!

Steal-RT, I don't think, has ever posted in here under the RT name. But it is a new name and under the old name, RT did post in here. I suspect she figured everyone knows what her former name is. Most do not.

Yes there are a lot of lurkers here. I am one. My PS routine is open FHH, read 12-36, newborns, preggo, and then this thread before moving on to other areas. I think when you are invested in the thread (either through participation or reading daily), you understand that this is not a light thread. Yes, there are the moments with joking about bding session, jerkstores, and the overall helpful/loving atmosphere. But it is not the kind of thread where you pop in without having invested any time in the thread to announce you are pregnant before moving on. That is what the preggo thread is for. I don't think we need another sticky. I think ladies just need to feel ok with posting in the preggo thread

Wishing you, and all the ladies here, the very best

 

[modernsparkler]

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Steal- SO sorry this was a wacky cycle. I thought too this would be it for you. Don't beat yourself up for giving into the signs. We all need to keep up the hope through this process.

Ktf- sorry about the abnormal bleeding. Maybe its still your body trying to figure things out after the mc and hopefully things will get back on track soon.

DC- sounds like you timed things well! Thinking good thoughts for the sa!

welcome moo and congrats to the bfp's!

Sorry to those I missed. This is a short blackberry post because I am poolside in Hawaii! I had a long wknd and my mom and dh worked together to plan a little mother daughter vacay! We used to take little trips and dh wanted us to have a last little hurrah pre baby. Well timed pre o I might add! Headed home today to start the wait for o.

 

[random_thought]

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Congrats RT

Steal-RT, I don't think, has ever posted in here under the RT name. But it is a new name and under the old name, RT did post in here. I suspect she figured everyone knows what her former name is. Most do not.

That's right Fiery Although, when I was posting under the last name I DEFINITELY was not ready to be a mama. I still don't feel completely ready but really, who ever does! Although I have to say we are in a MUCH better place financially, just a little shocked emotionally still

 

[Dreamer_D]

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Steal I totally think it is stressful to feel like you have to identify O day *or else*... it sounds like you have a fairly regular cycle so have you thought about just doine every other day for, say, CD 8 - 16 (or thereabouts)? I mean, covering some window around your usual ovulation times plus or minus a couple days. EOD is a simple method and works very well for many and takes out the guess work.

brightlight Congrats!

charbie Technically you have to work 600 hours in the previous 12 months in order to collect gov't leave payments, so you would need to work at least 15 weeks or so full time before you could collect for another mat leave. If you did not qualify for that, then I suppose you could claim social assistance. But really, if you are willing to have kids for the money then I am guessing you don't hold a very good job, and 55% of minimim wage (which is the gov't benefit) is hardly a big payday. And social asssitance is not much more. At my work, though, I think if I did not qualify for the gov't portion up then my employer would pay the whole amount. But there are not many professors who milk the system like that, in fact we have very few kids as a profession, so it is safe for them Yes, a small percentage of people may take advantage of the system, but it is such a small number that it does not phase me, personally. I look at it as just part of the cost of living in a country where I get free medical care and maternity leave.

 

[brightlight]

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Thank you to everyone for your kind words!

Bella, Thanks so much! I really hope you get your BFP this cycle! Sending you lots of dust!

Charbie, Thanks! Glad to see you back here! Get to BDing girl! Do you check internally or externally for ewcm? Sometimes, it'll just be hanging around inside. I used to notice a lot of ewcm but then noticed less once we started TTC. Go figure. Btw, I've browsed the website Steal mentioned, and I think it indirectly helped me get pregnant. ETA: I just remembered that you won't be TTC for a few months - you just stopped taking the pill in preparation for TTC. So, in your case, DON'T get to BDing! I was wondering why your DH needed to be careful when I read your post. I thought he needed to avoid someone or needed to not get physically injured.

DC, Thanks! I didn't know if anyone would remember me and wasn't sure how detailed I wanted to be. Now that I know some of you remember me, I'll fill you all in on the details below. I think FF puts a lot of weight into days O-2 and O-1. From what I've read, sperm does through a process once it's inside the woman's body before it can impregnate the egg. If I remember correctly, it's called capacitation and can take up to 12 hours. I think that's why it puts so much weight on O-1. If you BD on the day you ovulate, the spermies may not have enough time to go through the whole process since the egg lasts only 12-24 hours depending on when you BD in relation to when you ovulate during the day. Keeping my fingers crossed for you that ths is your month too!

NewEnglandLady, Thank you so much!

KTF, I'm so sorry for everything you're going through. Did your OB say whether you needed to have these tests right away? Sending you lots of hugs.

Moxie, Welcome! Feel free to share your inner crazy here!

Steal, Thanks for your kind words too and all your wity humor!

Fiery, Thank you so much! I lurk on the newborn thread and loved seeing pics of your little girl! I particularly loved that pic of her trying her birthday cake. She had this look on her face that said, "OK, what's next? Can I open my presents now?" She has the biggest, sweetest smile!

Congrats again R_T! We got our BFPs on the same day!

Thanks Dreamer and Modernsparkler! Enjoy your vacation!

AFM, I had noticed my post O temps were unusually flat. Usually, they have a see-saw pattern. This was before the embryo could have implanted. So, I didn't think anything about it. My boobs also were not sore until around 5 dpo. Usually, they're sore right after. My body has tricked me before, so I thought it was trying to trick me again. Anyway, like any true TTCer, I took a test irrationally early at 7dpo and got a negative. I decided to POAS b/c my temp had gone up that day. It was no longer flat. Even though I knew it was early, I convinced myself I wasn't pregnant. I was having crazy, vivid dreams all week, was more tired than usual (not dramatically), and hungrier than usual I needed to have another full meal everyday. I also woke up feeling a liitle sick in my tummy once or twice. It felt like when you hold your pee for too long. So, I just assumed I had to pee really bad. I normally have 11-13 day LPs, and my temp starts dopping a couple days before. 11 dpo comes around and my temp hadn't started dropping yet. I thought maybe I'm just having a longer LP, and my temp will start dropping the next day. I also noticed a little thick, creamy cm the night before, but I've had creamy cm before AF before. So, again, I didn't read into it. For the heck of it, I decided to POAS that night when we got home b/c DH kept telling me all day he thought I was preggo. It turns out he was right. I got a dark second line! I called DH into the bathroom. Ladies, trust your man! There may be changes that are subtle to you, but they may be huge to your man.

Anyway, I was hesitant about posting this next part but I think I got pregnant this month b/c I found my cervical os, and it wasn't where I thought it was! Like I mentioned earlier, I was checking out the mybeautifulcervix site mainly b/c she has a tipped uterus and I was trying to figure out if it's better for me to lay on my tummy after BDing. So, I decided to check my cervix. I had always known my uterus was tipped, so I assumed my cervical os was tilted up. Well, it wasn't there. So, I felt around, and my uterus is not only tilted back but also to the right! So, my os was up and to the left basically pressed up against my left vaginal wall! No one had ever told me that before. I think they figured the term "tilted" covered both directions. I don't think any sperm was being deposited directly into my os or close to it. If it was was, it was less than what should be. I think it was going underneath and behind my cervix. This month we positioned ouselves slightly differently to get the sperm closer to the os. Then I laid on my back with only my right hip elevated and then on my left side to try to pool the sperm near my os. If you've never felt your os, I suggest you look for it just to make sure it's where you think it is.

Like I mentioned before, I also took SI to help me ovulate earlier. I also did a few fertility yoga positions at home to improve circulation in my reproductive area.

Alright, I gotta pee really bad. It's amazing to me how much more I have to pee.

ETA: Sorry if I missed anyone. I got an error message the first time I tried to post this and some of my post was missing when I hit refresh.

 

[Steel]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Brightlight: Of course I remembered your posts and am genuinely delighted that you are finally pregnant. I’m kinda glad that you said you were also irked by some previous posts. You must know I didn’t mean you, that is why I added the bit about never posting before. So don’t give my post a second thought. I am very sensitive and feel that the TTC journey is not just personal it is raw.
I really hope the soy does something – I have heard people swear by preseed, soy and other wonders but as long as it doesn’t hinder it is worth a shot in my book! I was really sad to read that you were so upset in your journey – I can really relate to the quiet sadness. Thanks for the tip about big pills. But I’m humbled to say that DH didn’t even blink when I showed him, he just opened the bottle and took one. I love him so much I can’t even tell you.
I really appreciate your kindness; please know that I wasn’t having a pop at you. You deserve to be in a big bubble of happiness – or should I say; a little bundle of happiness.

Fiery: Many many thanks for understanding. The FHH topics are very ‘real’ to me. And thanks for letting me know that RT is a returning poster. I didn’t know that and I was wrong then. I did think RT’s style was familiar when posting in FHH but only in the sense that 'this person was used to posting in forums' I certainly didn’t recognise her in any way. I would really love if the preggo thread were used for drive-by BFP's.

RT: I am wondering now who you are!

Modern: Thank you so much. I really would kick myself in the a$$ if I could.
Is there room for a little one by the pool? Just promise you won't look at my white pasty legs.
Any lady would be happy to have a mother/DH conspiracy which leaves her poolside in Hawaii! Wowzers. And you get to go home all tanned & geared up for some Autumn lovin’! Sounds perfect.

Dreamer: Awh, you make me feel better. DH is away for what works out as 1 solid week in 4. It is difficult but possible to BD both everyday and every other day in the fertile period for most months but the reason we dropped that is because it has been our Dr.’s consistent advice to conserving swimmers for O day. We ignored him and did every day then we did every other day and still no luck. So perhaps the Dr. was right. Now we are tracking O day and seeing if that works. Last month was the 1st attempt at that approach.

Brightlight: I am intrigued by your positioning info. I will look into it. Hmmm.

 

[random_thought]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

I really want to apologize (specifically Steal) if I offended anyone with my drive by bfp posting I only posted here because I know how knowledgeable you all are from posting before and was a little disgruntled at the results the test gave me. I'm always lurking in here and privately cheering you all on! Once again, I'm sorry if I upset anyone

 

[Laila619]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Warning: On a ranty comment I feel sensitive when ‘strangers’ (i.e. never posted here before) to the thread just pop in to announce that they are pregnant. Um, great. Now who are you, and you do read this thread; we are t.r.y.i.n.g over here? I kinda feel it is like Angelia Jolie popping into a weight watchers thread to say – hi guys yeah I’m naturally skinnnnnnnyyyyyy, see ya, tubsters.

I agree with you Steal. They ream other posters out on The Bump for doing this on the 'getting pregnant' topic. It's rude and tactless IMO.

 

[random_thought]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Warning: On a ranty comment I feel sensitive when ‘strangers’ (i.e. never posted here before) to the thread just pop in to announce that they are pregnant. Um, great. Now who are you, and you do read this thread; we are t.r.y.i.n.g over here? I kinda feel it is like Angelia Jolie popping into a weight watchers thread to say – hi guys yeah I’m naturally skinnnnnnnyyyyyy, see ya, tubsters.

I agree with you Steal. They ream other posters out on The Bump for doing this on the 'trying to get pregnant' topic. It's rude and tactless.

Once again, I want to apologize. I honestly was not trying to offend on purpose. I just had posted here before and felt I could get better advice in this thread than in the pregnancy thread which I had not ventured into before I would never purposefully try to rub it in anyone's face. In all honesty, I was worried that the fainter line maybe meant I was miscarrying early and I knew some members who had posted in here before that had had early mc's as well and thought they might be of some help. I really am sorry, I feel really badly.

 

[Steel]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

I really want to apologize if I offended anyone with my drive by bfp posting I only posted here because I know how knowledgeable you all are from posting before and was a little disgruntled at the results the test gave me. I'm always lurking in here and privately cheering you all on! Once again, I'm sorry if I upset anyone

I was wrong. Because as Fiery said, you are a returning poster. I didn't know that. You must realise how much it felt like another drive by to me. But let that be that. You are not the first person I thought just popped in to share a BFP you are just the person who posted when I said it. I was going to moan about it sometime. I do hope that lurkers will post and share with us here. But if not, I* hope that they will share the BFP with the preggo thread. I know, I'm going straight to hell. But hopefully before I do, I'll get my BFP or I'll have been in hell already.

So, please, please don't let me make you feel bad. I don't want that. You are pregnant. What could be better? Enjoy every moment and give your tummy a little pat from me. God, it starts early; already you have strangers trying to touch you!

*Edited for easier reading.

 

[kennedy]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Hello Ladies,


Kennedy- How are you doing. Where are you in the 2WW? I know that it can be a PITA, but it's just part of the whole process. Good luck this month!




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AFM, I am officially 3DPO. When all was said and done, we managed to hit O-1, O and O+1. FF only gave me a "Good", but thats decent, considering the earlier O (at CD12) and the HSG on CD10. So, DH and I digging in for the 2WW. We both feel really good about this month, but I guess we will see. The cool thing is though, if we do get KU this month, the baby would be due right around our 2 year anniversay However, if it doesn't work out this time, we will have another game plan for the coming months. For the rest of the ladies in the 2WW, may we be blessed with patience, and for the ladies trying to catch their eggies, good luck, and enjoy your BD'ing marathons!

Thanks so much for thinking of me. I'm mostly a lurker on these boards, so it's really nice to be called out. To answer your question, I'm on Cycle Day 23 of a very regular 30-31 day cycle. I don't know for sure when I ovulated (I don't temp), but I think it was around CD 13-14. The waiting is agony indeed. I've been having lots of symptoms, but have no idea if they mean anything or if they're all in my head. Symptoms include: sporadic nausea (not unusual for me), sore boobs (also not unusual), one episode of pinkish brownish spotting about a week after I might have ovulated (implantation spotting??), extreme irritability (poor DD and DH), and a runny nose despite not being sick (read somewhere that can be a sign). These might all add up to something or they might be the delusions of someone desperate to be pregnant. I am doing my best not to test until I actually miss my period (IF I miss my period), but it's very hard.

I am keeping my fingers crossed for you that this next cycle is it!

Congrats to Brightlight and Random Thoughts!!!!

 

[Steel]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Warning: On a ranty comment I feel sensitive when ‘strangers’ (i.e. never posted here before) to the thread just pop in to announce that they are pregnant. Um, great. Now who are you, and you do read this thread; we are t.r.y.i.n.g over here? I kinda feel it is like Angelia Jolie popping into a weight watchers thread to say – hi guys yeah I’m naturally skinnnnnnnyyyyyy, see ya, tubsters.

I agree with you Steal. They ream other posters out on The Bump for doing this on the 'getting pregnant' topic. It's rude and tactless IMO.

I really appreciate your support Laila. I felt bad posting it and still feel bad more so because I upset RT. But I really think this is not a thread to appear and announce great news to those trying and wanting and waiting and praying without knowing how that might be received.

 

[dragonfly411]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

Congrats to the BFP's!!!!!!!!!!

I'm keeping up with all of you ladies. I didn't get to keep track of my charts this cycle as much as I'd hoped due to some serious sleep issues and studying, which would have thrown my temps out the door I think . The good news is I have more time than some of you ladies.

I hope you all know how much those of us who lurk and aren't ACTIVELY trying yet are cheering you on, at least I am from my corner. I check here daily to see how you ladies are doing and am trying to keep up with BFP's and other news from each lady in here.

Anyways, I mainly wanted to send congrats to the BFP ladies.

I also wanted to ask about soy. I have read that it can inhibit the absorption of calcium, is there a way to counter this? Take more calcium? Just in case any ladies have that issue in the future, it might be good to have the info in here.


Steal - I'm sorry about AF but glad you were able to figure out the length of the cycle. Mine was all over this past time and I know that I was frustrated with it the one time.


PS despite the wonky cycle, I seem to be OV right on time.

 

[CDNinNYC]

Re: The Official TTC Thread!

CDNinNYC Well I got it close I was going on memory, not in HR myself.

You were very close, Dreamer. I was going on memory myself since I haven't worked in HR in a few years but I was being an annoying smarty-pants. Hope you weren't offended.

DC, thanks for the shout-out! I've been lurking in my good mood days and avoiding when the baby-mania gets a little too much for me. I've found I'm much more emotional/sensitive these last couple of weeks and not sure what to make of it. Wishing you the best this cycle!

Steal, you were brave enough to post what many, including me, were thinking. :HUGS:

Alright ladies, this is a big step for me. I think I'm dipping my toe back in. Let's see how the One-Tube-Wonder does this time around. I'm really scared the odds are against me and it's gonna be a lot of disappointment. Feel free to ignore if the crazy gets me.

I'm on CD3 right now and on my second day of SI. Let's see if it does its magic again.

To everyone else,