Top new engagement annoyances...

[Independent Gal]

That Tacori with the baguettes is "hot"!

My fi is ALWAYS putting his smudgy paws all over my diamond too. It''s like he has to stroke it or something Whyyyyy?!?! Why does he do that?! But I have to remember that holding FI''s hand is more important than having a clean diamond. Right gals?

I totally have the velveeta feeling about my ring too (did I get that right?). I LOVE

my ring so much. That Tacori is, like, hot, but my ring is, like, on fire! I can''t get over it. I love it more and more and more and more and more and more and more and more...

Lucky me!

 

[princesss]

Mini threadjack to say:

Aim_turbo, that is a hot dang ring! I love the swooshy thing the prongs do. It is the kind of ring that gives you that rush of happiness when you look at it, you know? It''s a hot, happy ring.

 

[ladyciel]

Hehehehe, I already warned FF that when he holds my hand after we're engaged he is to keep his grubby mitts off the rock. Right now, in anticipation of getting engaged, he likes to rub that spot on my finger when he holds my hand (feel free to vomit if it's too much for you to handle

). If need be, I'll switch sides with him and make him hold my right hand. I love him, I really really REALLY LOVE him, but thou shalt not mess with my sparkle. Period.

 

[Aim_Turbo]

HAHA Travelinggal I laughed out loud when I read the reference to Paris...That''s Hot!!! Hilarious! Oh I wish I lived in LA, I live in Toronto and the leaves are already falling off the trees! I''m in the music industry so I would love to be right where the action is!

Thanks for all the compliments on my ring! I love the swooshy claws too!

 

[vizsla]

LOL - this thread is funny! you girls are funny!!!

i do have to throw in a few "interesting" comments i''ve gotten...

i have 2 1/2 eternity bands for my engagement ring.. so, needless to say i''ve gotten my fair share of head turns and scrunched up noses when i show them my "bling" -

so far my favs have been.... "oh, hmmm, so... did he (pause) pick that out (pause) himself?" (in that... i can totally tell your disappointed kind of way) - i''m not! i hinted extensively to what i wanted and "that''s iiinnnntttteeerrreeeesstttinnnnggggg" - to which my respond was "by interesting do you mean classic and understated?"

geesh some people.....

you should have seen the look on my FMIL face when i told her that we had ordered a sapphire eternity band for my wedding band (priceless).... no one gets it... that''s ok

 

[decodelighted]

Date: 8/28/2007 5:15:23 PM
Author: Aim_Turbo
please see the hotness you have requested below Deco!!

Houston, we have HOTNESS!!! Omigod I loves it & can see why you do too!! It''s SAUCY!! Is the band alternating sapphires & diamonds?? Can''t quite make out the color -- assuming its dark blue. *turning up the A/C*

IWantAPrettyOne -- now that I''ve renewed my OBSESSION with your e-ring in the "faces" thread ... um, can I TRY IT ON???!!!!

 

[Stephanie]

Date: 8/29/2007 12:45:17 PM
Author: vizsla
so far my favs have been.... ''oh, hmmm, so... did he (pause) pick that out (pause) himself?'' (in that... i can totally tell your disappointed kind of way) - i''m not! i hinted extensively to what i wanted

I forgot about this one! My FI and I picked out everything and he had it all put together without me knowing. With such a huge purchase, I wanted him to be knowledgable and savvy to get the best rock for our budget. So yes, I knew what it would look like and I had tons of input, but I don''t care. My stone has fire, sparkle, and is perfect for me! There wasn''t any less magic in our proposal just because I knew what the ring would look like...

 

[Aim_Turbo]

Yep Deco there are purplish blue saphires on either side alternating with 5 point diamonds..you crack me up!

 

[incmisirlou]

id be lucky to get a 1ct, lucky

she was just saying there was no way to top her ring, although on PS i have seen many gorgeous larger AND smaller rings

 

[Cassian]

wow, i can''t imagine what gets into people to try to make someone feel less than completely excited about their engagement ring. I love big sparkly diamonds as much as the next girl, but i think some people put way too much emphasis on diamond size and not enough on the man behind the ring. i know people who have gone through men until someone finally got them i a diamond big enough for their standards. she thinks diamond size is also directly related to how much a man loves you.

i think its all about point of reference. personally, i think 1 carat diamonds are big. of course, i have diamond shrinkage syndrome everytime i look at the SMTR thread, but i can''t stop! i am addicted to it. my center stone is 1.01 ct. in my area and circle of friends, this is a huge diamond, and i live in a pretty nice area. it is by far the biggest of my family and friends, and bigger than most people i come across. i was speechless when my finace wanted to get me a 1 carat because i thought it was huge, and much bigger than i would have ever dreamed of picking out myself, but if i lived in LA or somewhere like that, i know i would be the one with the small ring.

i don''t think the verdict is set. PS is land of freakishly large diamonds compared to the average world, but i think most people feel 1 ct diamonds are a serious hunk of rock!

anyway, back to the thread. My fiance and i have been together for 6 1/2 years, he is 29, i am 27. 2 things we get relentlessly are, "it''s about time!", and, when you gonna have kids? all his friends and family have all had all their children out of wedlock, and most are still unmarried and have different baby daddies. can people PLEASE let us get married first before we have children?!?! what ever happened to first comes love, then comes marriage, THEN comes baby with the baby carriage?

i also have a confession to make. i secretly like having the biggest prettiest ring of anyone i know. is that wrong?

 

[Harleigh]

LOL Cassian! I totally agree! Heaven forbid any of us actually get married before we have kids! I''m 35, he''s 41, and everyone keeps asking how soon we''ll have kids. I have had numerous female problems throughout my younger years, so we''ve known for over 18 years that I may never actually be able to "give birth" and he has always been okay with that. My answer to these people who are so carelessly rude is "Why do we need kids? I have 20 darlings with me every day!" Then I have to hear about how different it is when you have your own, blah, blah, blah, which does nothing for me if I can''t have any! We have decided that if we want kids that badly, we''ll adopt, but until then, I will make one heck of an aunt!

And I, too, secretly love that my ring is bigger and prettier than anyone else''s that I know...that is unless of course you count my mom''s rocks...then I don''t have a shot in hell! (Mine may be a honker by every day standards, but she has 4 very beautiful boat anchors, and she sadly wears them ALL at the same time, 2 on the right and 2 on the left!) Obviously she set my love of diamonds into effect at a very early age...

 

[whenharrymetsally]

Date: 8/28/2007 8:31:10 AM
Author: iwannaprettyone
1. Puts nasty greasy germy fingers all over the diamond while saying ''ooooohhh is purdy''.
2. Asking ''how much did he spend?''
3. Asking ''how big is it?'' Ummmm big
4. ''can I try it on?''...uhhh, NO. Never. Don''t ask again.
5. Saying something along the lines of when I get mine it will be bigger/ better etc (WHAT????)
6. Huge cell phone bill.
7. When''s the date? (immediatley post proposal)
8. ''So when are you planning to have kids?'' Geez, haven''t even set a date yet!
9. ''Are you pregnant?''- seriously do people have no cooth?
10. ''is it real?''
11. ''you shoulda asked for a bigger one!''
12. ''You''re engaged?
13. ''What took you so long?
14 ''Can I be a bridesmaid???''
15. ''Engaged? To a man or a woman?''- lmao Deco hahahah
16. ''weddings are expensive''- and your point is??? Hah
17. “it’s not what I woulda picked”- well thanks it''s a relief because I HAVE TO WEAR IT AND NOT YOU!!!!!!
18. ''So what''s his big flaw? Why isn''t he married yet?''- because he was waiting for ME, back of lady lol
19. ''YOU BETTER INVITE ME'' (accompanied with the puckered mouth) - ummm and who are you again???

Oh god!! These are killing me!! hahah #1, 2, 7, 8, 9 and 19 have ALL happened to me!! Lately, my pet peeve is running into people that i haven''t seen in years and years...and having them ask "am I invited to your wedding?" If they demand it..i would say NO!..but what do you say when they ASK you nicely if they are invited??? Ugh!!

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 8/29/2007 10:58:51 PM
Author: whenharrymetsally

Date: 8/28/2007 8:31:10 AM
Author: iwannaprettyone
1. Puts nasty greasy germy fingers all over the diamond while saying ''ooooohhh is purdy''.
2. Asking ''how much did he spend?''
3. Asking ''how big is it?'' Ummmm big
4. ''can I try it on?''...uhhh, NO. Never. Don''t ask again.
5. Saying something along the lines of when I get mine it will be bigger/ better etc (WHAT????)
6. Huge cell phone bill.
7. When''s the date? (immediatley post proposal)
8. ''So when are you planning to have kids?'' Geez, haven''t even set a date yet!
9. ''Are you pregnant?''- seriously do people have no cooth?
10. ''is it real?''
11. ''you shoulda asked for a bigger one!''
12. ''You''re engaged?
13. ''What took you so long?
14 ''Can I be a bridesmaid???''
15. ''Engaged? To a man or a woman?''- lmao Deco hahahah
16. ''weddings are expensive''- and your point is??? Hah
17. “it’s not what I woulda picked”- well thanks it''s a relief because I HAVE TO WEAR IT AND NOT YOU!!!!!!
18. ''So what''s his big flaw? Why isn''t he married yet?''- because he was waiting for ME, back of lady lol
19. ''YOU BETTER INVITE ME'' (accompanied with the puckered mouth) - ummm and who are you again???

Oh god!! These are killing me!! hahah #1, 2, 7, 8, 9 and 19 have ALL happened to me!! Lately, my pet peeve is running into people that i haven''t seen in years and years...and having them ask ''am I invited to your wedding?'' If they demand it..i would say NO!..but what do you say when they ASK you nicely if they are invited??? Ugh!!

How about, "Um, we''re trying to keep it a small, intimate affair?" or, "Nothing''s set in stone as of yet?" I know I''m not much help...heck, I can''t even get my own BM''s organized...lord help me when we get to the actual guest list!!!

 

[Glow]

Hahahahaha! I can''t believe these responses!

I haven''t had any negative reactions so far. What I get is a congratulations!

Most of the comments from my ring are from married or engaged men -- they''ve done the shopping before so they seem to appreciate nice rocks. They go, "He did very well!"

Nothing negative so far! (crossing fingers)

The funny thing is, I have been engaged before and then, I let everyone try on my ring. Even strangers who ooohed and ahhhhed. I passed it around to my girlfriends all the time. It was a nice ring, too.

But this time, I am totally head-over-heels in love and it''s so special I daresay I wouldn''t let anyone try it on! Is that wrong?

I''m so in love I never want anyone else to wear it because it''s special and totally magical! In fact, it makes me laugh because I wasn''t like this the first time around. But this man is the love of my life.

We are all so blessed, aren''t we?

 

[Tacori E-ring]

It has never bothered me when people ask the size (I get curious about other people''s ring too but am too chicken to ask) or for close friends or family to try on my ring. My SIL has worn it for hours at a time before. I don''t mind plus it is fun to see it on someone else''s hands (always looks bigger to me).

But I do think it is rude when someone asked if it was real. Or ask the price (I just lie and say I don''t know). Someone once told me (twice) they would be scared to wear something so expensive (kind of passive aggressive comment if you ask me!) Or asked if they were invited to the wedding (when we were not even really friends).

 

[iwannaprettyone]

sure Deco, come to Texas, doll...

 

[Cassian]

Date: 8/29/2007 10:45:18 PM
Author: Harleigh

And I, too, secretly love that my ring is bigger and prettier than anyone else''s that I know...that is unless of course you count my mom''s rocks...then I don''t have a shot in hell! (Mine may be a honker by every day standards, but she has 4 very beautiful boat anchors, and she sadly wears them ALL at the same time, 2 on the right and 2 on the left!) Obviously she set my love of diamonds into effect at a very early age...

with my ring being big by out here''s standards, people are always coming up and oohing and ahhing at my ring when they hear we are getting married, and my finace loves it. he told me one time after a guy grabbed my hand and was like holy shit, that he loves it too when people do that, he says its like a mini ego boost.

 

[ice_princess]

One of my best friends did no5 when I showed her my ring. She pulled up her nose at my ring and then said: ''I want a BIG diamond when I get engaged''. I was so shocked. It''s just so rude and I wasn''t sure how to respond. She actually didn''t get the one she wanted in the end and had to have 4 small diamonds set to look like the big one she wanted which surprised me because she was so ADAMANT that she wanted the best and biggest diamond ever.
Anyway, we sort of drifted apart so we''re not friends anymore but still...

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 8/31/2007 8:43:35 AM
Author: ice_princess
One of my best friends did no5 when I showed her my ring. She pulled up her nose at my ring and then said: ''I want a BIG diamond when I get engaged''. I was so shocked. It''s just so rude and I wasn''t sure how to respond. She actually didn''t get the one she wanted in the end and had to have 4 small diamonds set to look like the big one she wanted which surprised me because she was so ADAMANT that she wanted the best and biggest diamond ever.
Anyway, we sort of drifted apart so we''re not friends anymore but still...

LOL!!! Sounds like she got what she deserved!

 

[luckystar112]

So far, the weirdest part of being engaged has been getting congratulated by an ex-boyfriend via text message. Can you say awkward?!?!?!?

 

[luckystar112]

Date: 8/29/2007 10:21:14 PM
Author: Cassian
.I love big sparkly diamonds as much as the next girl, but i think some people put way too much emphasis on diamond size and not enough on the man behind the ring.

You''re generally speaking, right? Because I hope you didn''t get that impression from me. I would have said yes if I was proposed to with a rotten carrot.

 

[iwannaprettyone]

I got a new one today..."engaged, really? I didn''t see that on MySpace..."

ARE YOU KIDDING ME....is that were the world is?

 

[Cassian]

Date: 8/31/2007 8:41:31 PM
Author: luckystar112

Date: 8/29/2007 10:21:14 PM

Author: Cassian

.I love big sparkly diamonds as much as the next girl, but i think some people put way too much emphasis on diamond size and not enough on the man behind the ring.

You're generally speaking, right? Because I hope you didn't get that impression from me. I would have said yes if I was proposed to with a rotten carrot.

YES! i was generally speaking. that wasn't directed with anyone here. it just seems like in general popular culture, as well as most of the violators spoken about in this thread, that women place way too much emphasis on the size of the ring OVER the quality of the relationship. someone i know personally is like that, and it just makes me mad, but then again, she'll never have the kind of love i have with my fiance, so i guess its all fair in the end.

 

[armata14]

Ooh, two more...

- Where is it going to be?
- I''m invited to the wedding, right?

I have also must have heard "Have you set the date?" a million times!

And the comments on the size of the ring...SO ANNOYING! It''s never big enough! Well, it''s big enough for me, absolutely beautiful and exactly what I wanted, but most importantly from WHO I wanted it to be from.

 

[armata14]

HERE HERE!!!!!!

 

[Haven]

Lucky--Your ring is GORGEOUS! It is absolutely stunning, DO NOT over think the size and worry about what constitutes "small" or "large". Size is so relative, and it has so much to do with where you live, your age, your means, and most importantly--your personal preference. And none of that matters anyway, because your ring is perfect exactly the way it is.

I was engaged once before, I was very young (21) and my ex proposed with a .22 ct RB. At the time, I was ecstatic, and it reflected who we were and what we could afford. Now things are different, I''m older and so is my BF, we both have very good jobs and we squirrel away loads of money by living far below our means, so we can afford a bigger ering at this point in our lives.

Anyway--back to the thread. I''m not even engaged yet, but after dating three years we''ve gotten so many "when''s it going to happen, already?" type questions that I''m sure we''ll be forced to endure the "it''s about time!" reactions once we are engaged.

I love reading these posts, girls! And I''m so sorry that you have to go through some of these horribly rude exchanges.

 

[Harleigh]

Date: 8/31/2007 8:36:07 PM
Author: luckystar112
So far, the weirdest part of being engaged has been getting congratulated by an ex-boyfriend via text message. Can you say awkward?!?!?!?

LOL, luckystar...I forgot that one of my exes sent a congratulations via TM, also! Too funny!

It said, "Heard your news-I''m happy for you..."

My thought was, uh, yeah, right!

I kindly replied, "Thanks, I''m very happy!", and no more has been said about it since! =0)

Just a funny little reminder about that one!! Now at least I don''t have to worry about running into him at the store one day down the road and having to break it to him all over again, right?

 

[Harleigh]

Also, just went to the funeral of my FI''s grandma yesterday attended a few family gatherings throughout the day. Well, as we''ve all discussed on here, apparently, his dad''s entire side of the family wants to come to the wedding in Hawaii (via inviting themselves yesterday), so FI says to me, "Honey, the wedding''s gonna be bigger than we planned!"

Now, the whole point of our going to Hawaii was to AVOID the whole big wedding thing, but his thought is, if they want to pay to come, then we''ll pay to entertain them for the wedding... Since I adore his father''s side of the family, they truly seem to love me, and I really don''t have that much family of my own, I have decided to take the attitude of "Bring it on!!!"

Since we haven''t been able to nail down any plans in Hawaii yet, I guess it''s really not a big deal, but all day yesterday I heard, "Woohoo, we want to come to Hawaii for the wedding!" and "Well, that date won''t work for us, can you move it up a few weeks?", etc..., along with some other silly comments I won''t bore you with!

I AM taking comfort in the fact that I know how excited these people are for us to finally get married after 15 years of back and forth, so now I just have to figure out a way to get over my stage fright in front of so dang many people!

 

[ulualoha]

Ok, here are mine:

1) Are you sure you want to marry him...duh, I got engaged didn''t I?

2) Did you get the ring appraised, how much is it worth? RUDE!

3) How come you haven''t met his family yet? Uh, the live in a different state! Do you want to pay for the airline tickets?

4) Are you sure you want to marry a man of a different ethnic background than you....ok, paraphrased...but need I say more!? Damn that one made me really mad!

5) I don''t want to be your MOH because I can''t wear the color I want to wear and I don''t like your fiance (after they committed and this was 2 weeks before the wedding might I add)....uh...ok...next!

I so don''t miss those moments!

ulualoha

 

[partyjewels]

So you really want to marry him?

So you like it big like that huh? (referring to my 1 carat diamond), I could never wear something like that...it seems kind of gaudy to me.

I've also gotten the "So when are you guys having kids?" We get asked this all the time by his family members and even some friends. I don't get it! I know people have babies out of wedlock all the time, but whats weird is that the people who are asking us this frown upon it! It's even worse anytime they see my Fiance holding his 3 month old niece. Everyone tells me how natural and good he looks holding a baby, and nudges me or lifts their eyebrows as to say when are you having one?

It's about time! (Yep, I think everyone gets this no matter how long (or not) you've been together.)