Top new engagement annoyances...

[iwannaprettyone]

And todays...for those following...

Are you going to lose some weight before the wedding?


AHHHH HAHAHAHAHAHAH....wax your tash-----quote from Maisie.

 

[partyjewels]

Just thought of another one after seeing the are you going to loose weight? (which I also got asked, it''s like gee guys, thanks for making me feel even worse about my current weight problem!)

One of my sisters, about 3 minutes after I told her and she already told me that she had better have input on the dresses if she''s going to be in the wedding, she asked if I was going to start going tanning. I have a very fair complexion and don''t get the chance to go out in the sun too much, and when I do I always lather up with sunblock. When I told her no she was so surprised, and said that well she just thought I''d like to look good for the wedding. WHAT?! Thanks sis!

 

[sera]

Last night in my interpreting class we had a deaf-blind guy come to speak to our class... well not sure if you''ve seen how they communicate, but they place their hands on the interpreter''s hands who is signing so they feel the signs... he felt her ring and made a comment about the big rock and all I could do is giggle thinking of this thread

 

[Elmorton]

The evil cousin of "It''s about time!":

"Wow. I''m so happy for you guys...but isn''t this a little soon?"

This was DH''s best man''s reaction. DH and I been together for two years, three by the time we were married - we definitely weren''t making any snap decisions. DH hadn''t mentioned a thing about his proposal to any of his friends, so we caught several people very off guard. Still...can''t say the comment didn''t irk me a bit...or at least make me paranoid that others were thinking the same thing!

 

[Elise]

oh man don't get me started. my personal bad experiences are:

- having people try on my ring without asking. i'm pretty possessive about my ering (for good reason!) and i had even specifically instructed my jeweler that he was not to display it or show it to other customers while it was awaiting my collection. one of my secretaries asked to see my e-ring, which i showed to her on my hand. she then asked me to remove it (!!!) and without asking, she put it on and didn't take it off for sometime, scrutinising it closely as if to spot an inclusion! needless to say, everyone was shocked and it's been a few months and i'm still pissed.

- people asking right down to the last detail about the ring (what colour, what clarity, how much we paid for it, and what metal it is made of)!!! i mean, i would gladly share this info with pricescopers as we have a common love and appreciation of beautiful stones but where i come from, they sniff at anything less than an F and a VVS (mine's a G VS2) and i hate having to justify why we chose what we chose. once i had this friend ask me all of the above without seeing the ring, and then exclaim "what! you paid so much! but it's ONLY a G!" mind you, i did loads of research on pricescope and am quite satisfied that we paid a fair price for it. it was really ironic that when she did actually see the ring, she loved it.

- having my friends scold me for having a much more expensive ring than the norm here. related to this, having friends "suggest" that i agreed to marry my FI because of the ring! ()

- getting nagged about losing weight for my wedding. i'm 120 pounds and of average height and would like to tone up for the wedding through exercise but i enjoy my food and intend to continue enjoying it.

- being told what to do at my wedding. this didn't actually happen to me (crossing fingers it never does) but i was pretty appalled when i heard about this bridesmaid telling the bride what colours she cannot have for the bridesmaid's dresses!


thanks for letting me vent. it's been cooped up inside for way too long!

 

[sputat]

Newly-engaged me: "He proposed! I''m engaged!"

Girlfriend''s response: "Congratulations... I''m so happy for you... Beautiful ring."

She said it in the blandest, dead monotone, borderline sarcastic voice.

She changed the subject straight away. I never brought it up again.

 

[firstbase32]

My least favorite was the random gifts that we got....my g-ma bought us this bear that''s wearing a weird oufit and sings some song. She sounded so excited about it and when I opened it I was like ohhh awesome...but really had no idea where we were going to put it. I think it''s still at my parents house in my old bedroom lol It was a VERY nice thought..but just kind of didn''t really have a place for it.

 

[firstbase32]

another thing that i began to hate was when people would say...."do what you want it''s your day and it''s all about you two.".......BULLLLLLLLLLLLL CRAPPPPPPPPPP lol....at the end of the day whatever decision we made they questioned why we did it or offered other suggestions...it seems people only said that just to make themselves feel good before they gave their "much needed" advice.

 

[anchor31]

Date: 9/20/2007 3:19:52 PM
Author: firstbase32
another thing that i began to hate was when people would say....''do what you want it''s your day and it''s all about you two.''.......BULLLLLLLLLLLLL CRAPPPPPPPPPP lol....at the end of the day whatever decision we made they questioned why we did it or offered other suggestions...it seems people only said that just to make themselves feel good before they gave their ''much needed'' advice.

DITTO!

My sister, while I''m having an argument with my parents about the guest list: "Dont let anyone tell you what to do or who to invite... It''s your day, MAKE it your day! If I were you, I would not invite so and so, and I would invite so and so."

Gee, thanks sis.

 

[HollyS]

Date: 9/20/2007 3:19:52 PM
Author: firstbase32
another thing that i began to hate was when people would say....''do what you want it''s your day and it''s all about you two.''.......BULLLLLLLLLLLLL CRAPPPPPPPPPP lol....at the end of the day whatever decision we made they questioned why we did it or offered other suggestions...it seems people only said that just to make themselves feel good before they gave their ''much needed'' advice.

Amen, sister!

Let me add another recent experience:

The firiend (elderly woman who introduced the FI and me) who INSISTED that she wanted to throw a party or shower for me, and then didn''t do a damn thing -- until my sister (MOH) had one last weekend. We''ve been engaged over a year, and set the actual date in early June. It''s now September. Now, I didn''t expect this lady to have a party/shower because her health has deteriorated over the last year; her son has terminal cancer; she is legally blind and relies on others to help her, etc, etc, etc. BUT, she is the Queen of Passive/Agressive Behavior on top of needing to be the center of attention in every situation, so she starts *whining* as soon as she receives her invitation, and continues *whining* through my entire shower. I type *whining* that way because it''s so subtle, most people believe they''re mistaken about her meaning. Nope. She really did intend to wound. I had forewarned my sister and another guest about her behavior, and sure enough, she didn''t disappoint her audience. The topper, however, is that she INSISTED that I produce a guest list for her own party; then she proceeded to plan a tea for the weekend before my wedding -- when I should be finishing up my move into our new home. (insert deep heavy sign here)

 

[HollyS]

And, come to think of it -- I''ve got something else that trumps the previous gripe. Just found this out:

My ''best friend'', apparently, over the years (13 of them!), has told mutual friends that the FI would never propose to me and our relationship would be over when I left him for being a commitment phobe. Nice.

But, it doesn''t end there. Oh no. When we started looking at rings, her opinion to our mutual friends was "he''ll never buy her a ring". When the ring came, it was "well, she has the ring, but they won''t get married".

I should have known, after all, to my face she did this:

When we set the venue, and paid for it -- she said to me "So, you''re really doing this?"

Oh, and there''s the horrible dress she tried to talk me into. I never took her with me again; I had the distinct feeling she was hoping I would look crappy. I''ve left her out of the details, because she has been completely unsupportive of any decision or detail she caught wind of. She''s lucky I haven''t rescinded her invitation.