Update, I don''t know when, but I know when it won''t be ...

[SeattleSparkle]

So I thought I''d do a little update on my situation. So after my boyfriend got me all excited about ring shopping and what not (which led me here ...) and I fell in love w/ a fantastic setting ... I''ve been kind of wondering when this whole thing is going to take place (tomorrow or next year?)

So I was "casually" asking him about it (b/c I noticed his interest level in the whole process has greatly diminished) and it won''t be until he atleast graduates from law school in June. *sigh*

Bad News: I won''t be getting anything super sparkly for our 5-year anniversary, or for Valentines Day ... so no posting pictures any day soon.

Good News: I''ve been guaranteed to be hanging out with the LIWs here for quite some time yet. lol.

 

[rainbowtrout]

I''m sorry...it''s amazing how far away June can seem when it comes to proposals, even though it''s just a few months!

 

[SeattleSparkle]

So, I''ve mentioned to him that there is an LIW list, and he says to me, "Oh! So the goal is to become #1 right?" And I say, "No!!"

He used to be sooo sweet about this whole thing, and now he''s turning into a little stinker.

 

[JDgirl]

I understand that you''re disappointed, but when you think about it, June really isn''t that far away. The time will pass before you know it. Any chance he could be trying to fool you into thinking it''ll be later so it''s a total surprise?

 

[SeattleSparkle]

Haha, I really don''t think so.

And it will be after June ... that''s when the "waiting" can officially start I guess .... now knowing that it won''t happen earlier.

Merp. What was the point of getting me all excited by asking me to look at rings?? I totally wouldn''t be like this if he hadn''t asked!!

 

[anchor31]

Date: 1/11/2006 7:59:14 PM
Author: SeattleSparkle
Haha, I really don''t think so.

And it will be after June ... that''s when the ''waiting'' can officially start I guess .... now knowing that it won''t happen earlier.

Merp. What was the point of getting me all excited by asking me to look at rings?? I totally wouldn''t be like this if he hadn''t asked!!

I totally know how you feel. My SO looked at rings in my face in early January 2005, so I started expecting a proposal. I found this site and officially became a LIW in September. Turns out it will be in 2006, most probably in the second half. So... well, guys are weird that way. It is disappointing, though. I''m sorry to hear it''s happening to you too. But I am glad you''ll be staying!

 

[larussel03]

Date: 1/11/2006 6:01:01 PM
Author: rainbowtrout
I'm sorry...it's amazing how far away June can seem when it comes to proposals, even though it's just a few months!

That is sooooooooooo true! My bf and I may move in teh fall (end of Aug) for him to pursue his PhD, and I feel like that's so close, yet potentially having to wait until April for the proposal (deadline) seems like FOREVER!

Anyways, boys need lotsa time to figure these things out. Just be patient and think that by THIS TIME NEXT YEAR YOU'LL BE ENGAGED!!!

 

[SeattleSparkle]

MAYBE I''ll be engaged .... I did not appreciate the comment from his aunt, (not really sure how it came up) ..." Oh, you have a good 10 years yet before you need to get married." 10 years!!!

 

[SoonIHope]

Ohhh, Seattle, I''m sorry! That is disappointing...but I have to admit that once I got a more firm date for when my proposal was going to happen, I was just suddenly able to NOT think about it for once! So maybe see if he can give you a definite "before ___" deadline, because for me the hardest part was not knowing how far after the "at least until" time it would end up being. Then, knowing that it still wouldn''t happen for a while, but it WOULD happen before X, I was able to just kind of sit back and wait without stressing. Not sure if that would help you or not, but I recommend just seeing if he''s willing to give you a "before ___" since it COULD make a difference! Good luck either way, and June really is NOT that long from now!!!!

And don''t worry, I am POSITIVE your boyfriend isn''t going to go by the "ten years" guideline.

 

[sunkist]

Seattle I''m waiting for June to come too!! Let''s just fast forward the calendar, OK?

My BF just told me the other day that he''ll probably be proposing some time after we graduate in June. When I actually think about how fast it''s going to pass I get soooo excited! So I''ll be starting a countdown with you -- 6 months to go!!

 

[Cailet]

Seattle - I know just how you feel!! In Sept my BF started bringing up getting engaged and asking about what kind of ring I would like. So off to the interenet I went in search of all things wedding/engagement/jewelry related. Then in December (after already finding the lovely LIWs) we had a talk about realistic timeframes and ended up with the end of this year as our "deadline". So in the big picture not too long to wait really - but once you get it all put in your head, you want to be engaged NOW! LOL

Anchor - looks like you and I are in the same 2006 boat!! I''m really not sure WHEN this year (although he has been dropping hints lately that he knows that I wanted to be engaged by the time I was 30 which - yikes! - will be in April so maybe not as long a wait as I am guessing??)

At least we all have each other to vent/listen/chat with!! I think I would be going crazy if I couldn''t log on and check in on everyone''s progress!! Makes me feel much more sane to know other people are feeling the same way!! We will all suffer together!!

 

[Mimikins24]

Well SeattleSparkle, it looks like we have unfortunate things in common!!! My BF first took me ring shopping in September and we had been looking pretty seriously. In the last month, he has basically stopped looking at anything (I mean he was looking more during final exams than he is now)!!! So I wonder how to interpret that all?!?

I agree that you should discuss a time line with him if you think it will help put your mind at ease. Unfortunately for me though my BF won''t tell me anything because he feels the proposal should be a surprise. Silly boys!!! But seriously I think that there is a lot of pressure on our guys to have a wonderful proposal. I''m sure your BF just wants to give the ring and proposal his full attention, and he doesn''t feel like he can do that until he has finished up law school (which is soooo time and mind consuming)!!! It sounds like he has already done the research to learn what you like and now he can just relax and wait until the timing is right.

Good luck and stay positive --- June is not so far away. He already knows you have fallen in love with that setting, and I''m sure the proposal will be great and at the perfect time!!! Come back and vent here to keep your sanity --- there are so many of us in the same boat!!!

 

[SeattleSparkle]

Thank you all, I realize you are in the same boat! I know that he thinks deadlines are dumb, he doesn''t want to set-up for failure ... whatever. I think I have yet to sway him into thinking that getting engaged should come before buying a house (hello, I''d also like to own ''our'' house!!)

In the meantime, I am trying to put my energy into looking for a dog for me to adopt. I''ve wanted one for forever and I think I just need to do it ... I think I''m either going to get a mini dachshund or a mini schnauzer (I actually prefer bigger dogs, but I live in an apartment.)

Maybe that will keep me distracted long enough ...

 

[AmberWaves]

Seattle, I''m sorry for the bad news! This boat is getting crowded, no? I have a mini-dachshund. He is SO cute. He''s my avatar, too. I love mini-schnauzers, but keep in mind that their coats are super high maint. The dachsies could be, too. If you get a wire-haired. The thing to remember when getting one of these: long hair=good temperment, short smooth hair= okay temperment, wire-haired= bad temperment. I think I spelled that wrong, temperment. Hm. Anyway, they are sweet! I love mine. (god, I love my weiner?) We also live in an apartment, and it''s fine (a little noisy). Don''t worry, time flies when you''re on PS! I know I''ll be waiting here with you until at least April- but could I ever leave the LIW? Nope.

 

[caligal]

I hear ya! We looked at rings online last June....and I think after our last talk I''m looking at late summer- ohh maybe my birthday in August!!! I sure hope so as I''m turning 30- yikes! How fun- we adopted our doggie this time last year! Check out www.petfinder.com- has tons of shelters where you can still adopt wonderful dogs and search for breeds.

 

[SeattleSparkle]

I think I''m just now getting over the excitement part and into the anxious part of this whole process...

I''d probably be better off if I had known nothing, but then again, I''m a little bit of a control freak and definitely want to pick out the ring I''m going to wear for the rest of my life. Oh, well, can''t go back now.

 

[LaurenThePartier]

Date: 1/11/2006 6:08:13 PM
Author: SeattleSparkle
So, I''ve mentioned to him that there is an LIW list, and he says to me, ''Oh! So the goal is to become #1 right?'' And I say, ''No!!''


He used to be sooo sweet about this whole thing, and now he''s turning into a little stinker.

Hehe, #1 LIW checking in.