Wedding shower

[momma mia]

Don you think its impolite to invite dreinds to a shower if there not going to be invited to the wedding? Can''t we just celebrate with a group of friends? Everyone knows the expense of a wedding and the difficulty with a wedding list.

Momma Mia

 

[ammayernyc]

Can''t you just have a party and call it a party instead of a shower or engagment party?

 

[larussel03]

I would think that if I were invited to a party themed a "shower" then I would be invited to the wedding as well. If not then I''d probably be a bit hurt, esp b/c you bring gifts specifically for the bride or couple getting married to showers, but not to parties.

I''d just call it a party.

 

[IrishAngel7982]

At the risk of sounding mean, I think it''s incredibly rude to invite people to a shower if you have no intention on inviting them to the wedding. To me it''s like saying "We want your gifts but we don''t want you to share in our special day."
I''ll never forget my 2nd cousin''s bridal shower when I was in high school...a group at our table (the shower was at a banquet hall) asked if we had gotten our invitations yet because they hadn''t received theirs. The bride''s mother stopped by the table to say hi and they questioned her, and she said "If she took you off the list I''ll kill her." I couldn''t believe it...we just thought that was so inconsiderate.
That situation doesn''t sound exactly like yours, but what I''m trying to say usually a shower invitation precedes a wedding invitation. I agree with Amanda and SweetPea that having a ''party'' is the way to go and save the shower for the small group who will attend your wedding. JMHO.

 

[Mannequin]

This post should probably be in the other forum so the BIWs can add their .02 to the discussion.