What is your most treasured memory? What is your most awful memory?

[missy]

Feel free to answer one and not the other if you are reluctant

TRIGGER WARNING INVOLVES DEATH OF AN ANIMAL PLEASE SKIP IF YOU ARE SENSITIVE (I would skip if it were me reading)

Most terrible memory

Spoiler

The most terrible memory I have is our sweet kitty's untimely death from Large Cell Lymphoma. From diagnosis to death was less than two weeks. And the way she suffered that last day haunts me still. I have spoken about it here so won't go into the details but the truth is we couldn't have known it would have gone down this way. We had given her a chemo drug that was supposed them extend her (quality of) life by approx 6-8 months but a few days later she died. It was truly horrible and I am thankful she is at peace now but miss her so terribly.

Most wonderful memory

This is harder for me to answer because I've had many treasured memories. But if I must choose I guess the day my DH proposed to me. Total surprise and it was so romantic but at the time it felt so strange too and I was filled with doubt and anxiety about saying yes. Looking back however it is a treasured memory. He made it an incredible and romantic proposal. One I will never forget.






How about you? What memories do you treasure and what memories do you wish never happened?

 

[dk168]

There are a few memories that would make me cry just by thinking about them.

There are a few different memories that make me smile and go all warm and cosy.

I try not to think/recall the sad ones as much as I can, and treasure the happy ones as often as I can.

I can't change what has happened in the past, so no point dwelling on the sad times/memories of the past. It is my survival mechanism.

DK

 

[missy]

There are a few memories that would make me cry just by thinking about them.

There are a few different memories that make me smile and go all warm and cosy.

I try not to think/recall the sad ones as much as I can, and treasure the happy ones as often as I can.

I can't change what has happened in the past, so no point dwelling on the sad times/memories of the past. It is my survival mechanism.

DK

Yes we all have a different process. I am one who can’t block bad memories but I appreciate your point of view. Mine is never forget but learn from it (if you can because you can’t always depending on the specific situation) and move forward stronger and wiser. But ofc this is not always possible. When I remember my sad memories I also remember how much I loved and how fortunate I was/am to love someone so much. But I know for some this would only compound the tragedy. I am who I am. Imperfect. Very imperfect


I can’t remember the quote but basically it says to appreciate the wonderful we must also experience the horrible. Something like that

 

[dk168]

@missy I am very good with compartmentalising the sad memories.

From time to time, something small would trigger the flood gates, like upcoming Chinese New Year. My mum will not be nagging me to offer fruits to be gods, and I shan't be ringing her on the day to wish her a happy and prosperous New Year. I kind of miss that, and was in floods of tears yesterday when I thought about it.

I guess her passing is still kind of raw, hey ho.

Otherwise I am usually fine. Life goes on so to speak, if you know what I mean.

DK

 

[missy]

@missy I am very good with compartmentalising the sad memories.

From time to time, something small would trigger the flood gates, like upcoming Chinese New Year. My mum will not be nagging me to offer fruits to be gods, and I shan't be ringing her on the day to wish her a happy and prosperous New Year. I kind of miss that, and was in floods of tears yesterday when I thought about it.

I guess her passing is still kind of raw, hey ho.

Otherwise I am usually fine. Life goes on so to speak, if you know what I mean.

DK

Yes, I get what you mean
We have to move forward but it’s not easy. I’m so sorry about your mom
(((Hugs)))

 

[Calliecake]

I’m so sorry @dk168 about your mum. Please try to think of the warm and cozy memories. I know it’s hard. Please be kind to yourself and know you have support here when you need it. It’s a hard road dk168.

 

[autumngems]

Best memory is the birth of my daughter. Worst is my parents open casket funerals, I can't see them as anything else now and that bothers me.