What to do with 1/2 eternity band?

[lavatea]

Ok, who knows how much longer this poll will be around, but I wanted to get some opinions.

I had a 2 mm 1/2 eternity band set with yellow diamonds made as a pinky ring. I intend to have more rings made with different stones to stack with it. However, because of the meaning behind the ring, I have since decided that I should have used citrines instead of yellow diamonds. What would you do in my situation?

 

[lavatea]

I just wanted to add that I don''t have the funds right now to have another ring made with citrines. The only way to move forward with that project (at this time) is to sell this ring. There''s also no budget to have this resized at this time, either.

 

[Fly Girl]

Yellow diamonds are going to out-sparkle citrines, so I would wear that pretty and enjoy it.

 

[cellentani]

Can I vote for bang my head against the wall??

lavatea, didn''t you have this ring custom made, and then the vendor completely re-made it, due to your dissatisfaction with the quality (stones at different heights, prongs uneven)? I remember you saying in the beginning that it was a very sentimental piece - why would you suddenly want to switch to citrines after designing this one so carefully in yellow diamonds? And fly girl is right - citrines will not sparkle like diamonds.

 

[lavatea]

Lol, yeah you can bang your head against the wall. I feel like joining you.

Here's the story:

I lost a baby in November at 18 weeks gestation. So I wanted to have a ring made in honor of that baby with the intent of having other ones made in the future to represent my other two children. Citrine is November's birthstone, but the baby was due in April (diamond birthstone) so I chose yellow diamonds. Well, while this piece was being reworked, I lost another baby. This time I lost the baby in March, but it was due in December. I tried to think of a way to mix March and December birthstones, but that was much more complicated than it had been for the first ring. So, I decided that going with citrines for the first ring and aquamarines for the second ring would be much less complicated. I talked to the vendor about switching out the stones, but they had already been set at that point so he couldn't return them. I totally understood that, so now I have this ring. But I think for the sentimentality factor, I need to have another ring made with citrines, followed later by ones with aquamarines, peridots, and rubies (peridot and ruby being my other two children's birthstones).

Long and complicated story. Sorry about that.

 

[brandy_z28]

Date: 6/1/2010 4:48:34 PM
Author: lavatea
Lol, yeah you can bang your head against the wall. I feel like joining you.

Here''s the story:

I lost a baby in November at 18 weeks gestation. So I wanted to have a ring made in honor of that baby with the intent of having other ones made in the future to represent my other two children. Citrine is November''s birthstone, but the baby was due in April (diamond birthstone) so I chose yellow diamonds. Well, while this piece was being reworked, I lost another baby. This time I lost the baby in March, but it was due in December. I tried to think of a way to mix March and December birthstones, but that was much more complicated than it had been for the first ring. So, I decided that going with citrines for the first ring and aquamarines for the second ring would be much less complicated. I talked to the vendor about switching out the stones, but they had already been set at that point so he couldn''t return them. I totally understood that, so now I have this ring. But I think for the sentimentality factor, I need to have another ring made with citrines, followed later by ones with aquamarines, peridots, and rubies (peridot and ruby being my other two children''s birthstones).

Long and complicated story. Sorry about that.

Oh wow. I am so very sorry to hear about your losses. (((HUGS)))

What about an eternity style ring that would incorporate all of the birstones into one ring? With the right design I think they could all fit together nicely.

 

[lavatea]

I want to clarify one small detail of my story. I actually lost the second baby just a few days before I received the ring in the first place (just looked back at my post and noticed the actual date). Either way, the stones had already been set and could not be switched.

I have thought about having just one ring made with all of the stones. And that may be a possibility instead of trying to have all of these stackers made. Although if I do decide to go that way, I'll have to wait a while, because I'm pregnant again and don't know that this baby will be the last one (I want a large family).

In any case, I have this ring for now and am not sure what to do with it. I'm leaning toward just wearing it for now and enjoying it with the intent of having it resized at a later date to be worn as a stacker with my wedding set. Then revisiting the birthstone ring(s) project whenever there is extra money and the time is right.

I was just curious what you guys would do in my situation.

 

[cellentani]

Date: 6/1/2010 6:07:51 PM
Author: lavatea
I''m leaning toward just wearing it for now and enjoying it with the intent of having it resized at a later date to be worn as a stacker with my wedding set. Then revisiting the birthstone ring(s) project whenever there is extra money and the time is right.

I was just curious what you guys would do in my situation.

I think this is a great idea, and would totally do this!

I''m so sorry for your losses, lavatea - I thought something was up. Keeping my fingers crossed for a happy, healthy pregnancy for you.

 

[Fly Girl]

So sorry to hear what you are going through, lavatea. I've been there myself, having had three miscarriages before giving birth to my lovely son and three years later, my daughter. Knowing the background, my best advice is to do nothing about the jewelry for the time being. If you and your husband are healthy, sooner or later your children should come along. The pain of these losses will be muted with time, especially if you find yourself busy raising your children. Personally, I think birthstones are really overrated, so I wouldn't worry about the significance of one particular stone over another. I'd think of this half-eternity as your ring for the babies that weren't born. Praying for a healthy baby this time, and for lovely jewelry in your future to represent your children-to-be.

 

[marcy]

Sorry for your losses; I would keep the ring as it is and enjoy that beauty.