What would you do?

[new1]

Hi guys, i''m a newbie and am looking for some advice. Please help!!!
To cut a long story short, myself and bf of 6 yrs have been planning a trip to pick out engagement ring together and get engaged. We are due go on vacation in 2 wks time...BF''s sister announced her engagement at the weekend and while we are very happy for them, we are unsure about our own plans now.
So i''d appreciate any advice/comments you guys can give.

Thanks

 

[TravelingGal]

Unless she made you sign some iron clad agreement stating you would not get engaged with "X" amount of time of her engagement, I''d go ahead and get engaged. If she''s any sort of sister to your man, I think she would be happy for you both.

 

[Livinthedream]

That''s great for her, but I don''t think that should have anything to do with your plans! You guys have your plan in motion, and someone else''s engagement shouldn''t throw you off course. Go for it!!

 

[new1]

Thanks for the quick reply... i''m really concerned about what she and other family members will think and so is my bf but then again i think how long we''ve been planning ourselves and think that if the shoe was on the other foot, she would not reconsider her position. We had kind of had a date for our wedding decided between us and they have said they want to get married the same yr as us but we wanted to have a destination wedding so dunno whats going to happen!!

 

[musey]

I agree that you shouldn't necessarily let their happy news affect your plans. However, if you're really worried about it, your boyfriend could tell his sister he's been planning to propose soon, and wanted to give her the consideration of not "stealing her thunder."

She'll likely just tell him "don't be silly," and to propose whenever he darn well feels like it

ETA: Just wanted to say I do understand your concern. We women can be silly about these things sometimes! Shortly after getting engaged, I had a dream that my brother proposed to his new girlfriend and they announced their wedding date less than one month before ours was to be, and ALL our long-distance relatives could only go to one--and picked his!! I woke up seething.

Then, of course, I came to my senses and realized that, were my brother to get engaged, it would never infringe on our plans like that.

So yes, engaged women can definitely overreact to things like that. I think it's very nice that you're considering her feelings, but any annoyance on her part would most likely be very short-lived

 

[new1]

When they called with the news yesterday, we paid them a visit with a bottle of bubbly to congratulate them. Her fiance told us that he had actually proposed a couple of months ago but wanted to wait to choose the ring together...
Another family member had called to the house also to congratulate the couple and they were saying "oh it won't be long now for you guys" and "oh you guys are off to ...... soon, you will get a beautiful ring there" so these comments make me think they have a feeling something is in the pipeline for us..

I'd rather they didn't know i had played a part in planning our engagement though so maybe it would be best if my bf had a word with his sis before we go on hols.

 

[bee*]

I agree with TGal. I would go ahead and get engaged. She will more than likely be happy for you

 

[KimberlyH]

Get engaged!