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Shiny_Rock
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- Oct 28, 2007
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Hi Ladies,
You may remember my last post about SO not wanting to get married and wanting a house and me feeling miserable and not knowing what was going on...... Anyway for a while (well a few days at least!) I didn''t bring up getting engaged at all, as he had said that my non-stop questions were anoying him. I thought he''d be pleased that I''d quietened down but he said nothing! After a while I suddenly began thinking, what am I doing?? Why am I changing things about myself and things that I want for someone else?? If he really wanted something would I deny him that?? No!!
Sooooooo I told him that the house hunting was off! I said I wouldn''t buy a house until we were at least engaged, preferably married. He just said, "OK."
You would think that that would please me but no..... Then I began getting stressed out about how long it would take before I would get engaged and would we be getting a house for years?
I started to question him again about when he thought it would happen and he got annoyed (as always) and said he didn''t know. Grrrrr!!
But last night we had a breakthrough!! We went out for tea and while we were sitting there we were talking about a friend of his who is getting married next year and then (I don''t know how the conversation got round to this!!) he stated talking about my ring!! I told him that he hasn''t got to worry about spending a fortune on the ring and it''s the symbol of the ring that means more to me than how much it costs (sorry girls!!) And he said, "Well I don''t want to get you a really rubbish ring, I want a really nice one!" Well know all I keep thinking about it the Tiffany ring that I emailed him ages ago cos I LOVED it!! I never thought he would get me one though!!
Then he said, "I want the proposal to be really special and I''ve got a few ideas but I don''t know which one yet and it depends on which I choose as to when I can do it."
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!!!!!
I feel sooo much better!!! He''s never told me these things because he wants everyting to be a surprise but I told him he hasn''t spoiled anything for me, he''s just made me feel LOADS better and happier and know I don''t feel the need to keep pestering
Sorry how long this is but I feel so happy!!Why are men so stupid? If he had told me this before it would have saved us so many arguments!
You may remember my last post about SO not wanting to get married and wanting a house and me feeling miserable and not knowing what was going on...... Anyway for a while (well a few days at least!) I didn''t bring up getting engaged at all, as he had said that my non-stop questions were anoying him. I thought he''d be pleased that I''d quietened down but he said nothing! After a while I suddenly began thinking, what am I doing?? Why am I changing things about myself and things that I want for someone else?? If he really wanted something would I deny him that?? No!!
Sooooooo I told him that the house hunting was off! I said I wouldn''t buy a house until we were at least engaged, preferably married. He just said, "OK."
You would think that that would please me but no..... Then I began getting stressed out about how long it would take before I would get engaged and would we be getting a house for years?
I started to question him again about when he thought it would happen and he got annoyed (as always) and said he didn''t know. Grrrrr!!
But last night we had a breakthrough!! We went out for tea and while we were sitting there we were talking about a friend of his who is getting married next year and then (I don''t know how the conversation got round to this!!) he stated talking about my ring!! I told him that he hasn''t got to worry about spending a fortune on the ring and it''s the symbol of the ring that means more to me than how much it costs (sorry girls!!) And he said, "Well I don''t want to get you a really rubbish ring, I want a really nice one!" Well know all I keep thinking about it the Tiffany ring that I emailed him ages ago cos I LOVED it!! I never thought he would get me one though!!
Then he said, "I want the proposal to be really special and I''ve got a few ideas but I don''t know which one yet and it depends on which I choose as to when I can do it."
Yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!!!!!
I feel sooo much better!!! He''s never told me these things because he wants everyting to be a surprise but I told him he hasn''t spoiled anything for me, he''s just made me feel LOADS better and happier and know I don''t feel the need to keep pestering
Sorry how long this is but I feel so happy!!Why are men so stupid? If he had told me this before it would have saved us so many arguments!
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