Your Opinion Please

[brooksie]

Soon to be Fiance and I are wanting a small wedding, and I''ve been seaching online for dresses. I found a dress I love, but wonder how others would perceive it b/c it''s black and white. Friends are telling me they love the idea and that it''s "so me". I would love some red flowers in my hair, with a small bouquet of dahlias or something similar. My co-workers are telling me it''s morbid to wear black. Just thought it would be a little different. We plan on marrying at an outdoor spanish sytle chapel overlooking the Texas hillcountry. Hopefully with a friend playing accoustic guitar.

What do you think?

 

[brooksie]

I guess it would help if I would post a pic.

http://www.watters.com/product.php?coll=watters&showid=598#

 

[kcoursolle]

I personallly love the idea of wearing something a little different. The dress is beautiful and it is still very feminine and beautiful, not morbid at all. I have a watters and watters bridesmaid gown that I will be wearing as my bridal gown and the fabric is thick and the dress is very well made. I''m really happy with it.

 

[april diamonds]

I don''t think it''s morbib at all. Well, if you were going to wear ALL black and have black flowers then...yeah maybe a little morbib
^_-

But the dress is very pretty and and red flowers would go great. I say, if you love it, and your FI loves it, and it''s totally "you" then go for it!!

 

[Independent Gal]

I have mixed feelings. Half of me says "Cool!" half of me says "Morbid!" The design is gorgeous though.

And all of me says "Do what makes you happy!" After all it''s not like anyone''s REALLY going to care, right? "Oh my heavens, how COULD she!??" type of care. And if you look gorgeous and feel gorgeous, that''s what counts.

 

[musey]

I think you should do whatever will make you happy!! If you ARE worried about it though, you could do one of the other color combos. I wish the top came in all the colors they offer for the skirt!!

 

[KimberlyH]

There is nothing morbid about that dress; if you love it wear it!

 

[Maisie]

I think its stunning! I think you should wear what you love - if you aren''t traditional why pretend?

Its a really glamorous dress! I wish I had the figure to wear something like that!!

 

[mela lu]

GO FOR IT!!

***someone at work asked me what the most shocking revelation I had made during this process was, and (hands down) was that I seemed to be pressured into going more bridal than I had wanted or intended***

Not that Bridal is bad - but if you want to be untraditional, I think you should embrace it (as I seemly couldn''t) and ENJOY it! Don''t worry what other people think. If you love it - they''ll love you in it!

Now...if only I could eat my own words hhahahaa.

 

[xapora]

A family friend got married in an all-black lace dress a few years back and, even though it was certainly untraditional, most people were saying how beautiful the dress was anyway. Like you said, it just fit her style and personality. I think the dress you posted is gorgeous and don''t think it looks morbid at all.

 

[poshpepper]

Morbid? No.
Nontraditional? Yes... but there is nothing wrong with that!

Its a BEAUTIFUL gown and it would look great as a wedding dress IMO. I don''t want to wear an all white dress either.

 

[Fancy605]

I have 2 thoughts:

1: I love the dress, and think it is lovely. It is nontraditional, but so are many brides.

2: Anyone who judges you negatively about what you want to wear at your wedding isn''t really worth having there. If that dress is indicative of who you are, then the people you love most will love it all the more.

 

[monarch64]

I think it''s gorgeous, and if the dress is "you," as far as personality, then go for it. I absolutely love seeing women wear non-traditional dresses for their weddings...DH and I try to predict what type of dress a bride will wear every time we go to a wedding, and 98% of the time we say "white and strapless," and 98% of the time we''re exactly right. The other 2% we''ve thought , oh this girl is full of spunk and creative, I bet she''ll wear something fabulously unusual, and we''ve seen a few brides in the last few years with non-traditional dresses and we just loved that.

Sarah Jessica Parker wore a black dress when she got married. My mother wore an aquamarine blue silk shantung sheath dress when she married my dad in the ''60''s. Remember Gwen Stefani''s dress with all the pink in the skirt? There are tons of others I can''t think of right now.

 

[Haven]

I definitely agree with all the ladies who said "Wear it! It''s gorgeous!"

I can add that the idea about a black dress being morbid for a wedding stems from old, formal etiquette that stated black attire (wedding gown, bridesmaid dresses, guest attire, etc) was morbid and unfit for a wedding. Of course, we all know that this "rule" has long since been thrown out--I''ve been to three weddings in the past year that featured bridesmaids in black dresses, and I often wear black as a wedding guest.

The dress you found is beautiful, and if it makes you feel beautiful and bridey and however you want to feel on your wedding day, go for it.

 

[neatfreak]

I totally agree with the others that you should wear what you love regardless of whether it is "tradtitional".

But...

SJP just recently was interviewed about her wedding and said that she regretted wearing a black dress. SO, just be sure that you won't regret the choice in a number of years.

 

[Kay]

I think it is a lovely dress -- not morbid at all. I seriously considered a gown that had a lot of black embroidery on the skirt, because I thought it looked cool and figured I could wear black shoes instead of buying white shoes I''d never wear again.

Can you try the dress on at a local store before buying it online? The style of the dress is very classy, but I personally would be nervous about wearing a fitted black top with a white skirt. Black tends to minimize and white tends to maximize, so I always worry having black on top and white on the bottom will make me look pear shaped. I have no idea how you are built, so this might not be a concern for you at all. (It''s probably a great choice if you happen to be top heavy.)

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 7/26/2007 9:20:59 PM
Author: neatfreak
I totally agree with the others that you should wear what you love regardless of whether it is ''tradtitional''.

But...

SJP just recently was interviewed about her wedding and said that she regretted wearing a black dress. SO, just be sure that you won''t regret the choice in a number of years.

I like the dress, it''s fun and untraditional. But I would also note what neatfreak said above. Weddings are one of the few times (if only time for some) that you can go all out in white and not look weird. If you don''t want to be in all white, maybe some color accents?

But if you love this dress, I don''t think anyone will think you aren''t a stunning bride!

 

[nytemist]

I love it! I actually tried this one for kicks. I like but the girls really didn''t fit. It''s very glamorous. The rule of wear no black to a wedding has gone out the window. As I said in another thread, I love non-traditional. Hey, my dress was lilac.

 

[brooksie]

Thanks ladies. I must admit I''m shocked to see so many in support, but it is more fuel for my black and white fire

I will definitly try the dress on before purchasing...hoping the girls will fit. I did notice the "boob pockets"

looked small.

 

[matildawong]

chiming in late to say, I LOVE that dress! Let us know what you think when you try it on please?