Am I the only one here...

[TooPatient]

I''ve seen a couple of threads recently that have left me wondering something.

I know there are different lifestyle choices people make. I don''t care. That is their business. Whatever makes them happy. I don''t ask about their private lives and as long as they don''t try to force their choice on me I don''t have any problems with whatever they do.


Am I the only one left (on this planet) who thinks that bodies are a special thing only to be shared with your SO? I cover my body and expect B to do the same. We don''t go to places with overly revealing clothing (luckily we both hate the beach anyway). Strict no nudiy rule when it comes to movies.

I think this is an area that should be shared and special between just the two.


Is this an outdated way of life?

 

[JulieN]

people rarely regret their decisions in this matter, any way they see it.

 

[Maisie]

When you say no nudity in movies.. do you mean watching or participating in them?

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:53:42 PM
Author: Maisie
When you say no nudity in movies.. do you mean watching or participating in them?

LOL. My thoughts exactly.

 

[Lauren8211]

I don''t know that its necessarily ''outdated'' but I think in general people are comfortable showing more skin than you and your SO find comfortable.

I find that most people I associate with are either at the same level of "openness" as I am, or maybe slightly more conservative than me.

Do what works for you, lady!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:48:31 PM
Author:TooPatient
I''ve seen a couple of threads recently that have left me wondering something.

I know there are different lifestyle choices people make. I don''t care. That is their business. Whatever makes them happy. I don''t ask about their private lives and as long as they don''t try to force their choice on me I don''t have any problems with whatever they do.


Am I the only one left (on this planet) who thinks that bodies are a special thing only to be shared with your SO? I cover my body and expect B to do the same. We don''t go to places with overly revealing clothing (luckily we both hate the beach anyway). Strict no nudiy rule when it comes to movies.

I think this is an area that should be shared and special between just the two.


Is this an outdated way of life?

Not at all! In fact, I think there is a high demand of the "old way" of life - so much so I am going to start a shroud clothing line...I think it will be a hit!

All kidding aside, I don''t think you''re the only one. I''m certainly of that opinion. But to each his own. There are many people throughout history who enjoy playing with fire. Some people scale mountains, others are into...stuff.

I wonder if sex has become more pronounced in mainstream culture, or if I grow fuddy duddy with age. Some of the things that are acceptable to kids these days freak me out. But we will raise our child with the values we hold dear and trust she has the mind to make the right decisions - and we will love her despite any decisions we do not agree with.

And I will make her wear outfits from new shroud clothing line.

 

[meresal]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:48:31 PM
Author:TooPatient
I've seen a couple of threads recently that have left me wondering something.

I know there are different lifestyle choices people make. I don't care. That is their business. Whatever makes them happy. I don't ask about their private lives and as long as they don't try to force their choice on me I don't have any problems with whatever they do.


Am I the only one left (on this planet) who thinks that bodies are a special thing only to be shared with your SO? I cover my body and expect B to do the same. We don't go to places with overly revealing clothing (luckily we both hate the beach anyway). Strict no nudiy rule when it comes to movies.

I think this is an area that should be shared and special between just the two.


Is this an outdated way of life?

really? do you consider bathing-suits in public to be revealing something you shouldn't?

Do you mean no nudity in movies you watch?

Hmm. IMPO, I would have to say that the extent of your guidlines, is probably a bit outdated, considering the most popular shows on television are cable access and show more than their fare share of nudity.

ETA: Elle and Maise... my initial reaction as well! lol.

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:53:42 PM
Author: Maisie
When you say no nudity in movies.. do you mean watching or participating in them?

LOL.

I should have been more specific.

We don''t watch them. Absolutely no nudity. The only possible exception is stuff like holocaust documentaries that show people in the camps.


Even B is too conservative to do anything on film. I might just have to shock him some day with some pictures...
Maybe not. He''d probably have a heart attack on the spot.

 

[dragonfly411]

Too Patient - I don''t think you are the only ones out there.

As times have gone by, and media has played a larger role in lives, sex and looks have played a much larger role in people''s lives. Some just live more freely than others, and some live more conservative. There''s certainly nothing wrong with either, and no I don''t think you''re alone.

I have to tell you though, you''re missing out on some good movies if you avoid all nudity.... I mean A knight''s tale..... enough said...

 

[Maisie]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:57:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 10/6/2009 3:48:31 PM
Author:TooPatient
I''ve seen a couple of threads recently that have left me wondering something.

I know there are different lifestyle choices people make. I don''t care. That is their business. Whatever makes them happy. I don''t ask about their private lives and as long as they don''t try to force their choice on me I don''t have any problems with whatever they do.


Am I the only one left (on this planet) who thinks that bodies are a special thing only to be shared with your SO? I cover my body and expect B to do the same. We don''t go to places with overly revealing clothing (luckily we both hate the beach anyway). Strict no nudiy rule when it comes to movies.

I think this is an area that should be shared and special between just the two.


Is this an outdated way of life?

Not at all! In fact, I think there is a high demand of the ''old way'' of life - so much so I am going to start a shroud clothing line...I think it will be a hit!

All kidding aside, I don''t think you''re the only one. I''m certainly of that opinion. But to each his own. There are many people throughout history who enjoy playing with fire. Some people scale mountains, others are into...stuff.

I wonder if sex has become more pronounced in mainstream culture, or if I grow fuddy duddy with age. Some of the things that are acceptable to kids these days freak me out. But we will raise our child with the values we hold dear and trust she has the mind to make the right decisions - and we will love her despite any decisions we do not agree with.

And I will make her wear outfits from new shroud clothing line.

Let me know when you start your shroud clothing line. I think they could cover my wobbly bits nicely!

I am rather old fashioned too. I don''t like low cut tops where my boobage is there for all to see. I also don''t like seeing skirts way up ladies bums. Its just too much. Maybe old age = prude

 

[dragonfly411]

I don''t like bum showing skirts either, so it''s not age related

 

[purrfectpear]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:48:31 PM
Author:TooPatient
I''ve seen a couple of threads recently that have left me wondering something.

I know there are different lifestyle choices people make. I don''t care. That is their business. Whatever makes them happy. I don''t ask about their private lives and as long as they don''t try to force their choice on me I don''t have any problems with whatever they do.


Am I the only one left (on this planet) who thinks that bodies are a special thing only to be shared with your SO? I cover my body and expect B to do the same. We don''t go to places with overly revealing clothing (luckily we both hate the beach anyway). Strict no nudiy rule when it comes to movies.

I think this is an area that should be shared and special between just the two.


Is this an outdated way of life?

Not if you ask the Duggars

 

[Bia]

I think it goes back to what you initially said, it's your own business. If that's how you and your SO feel about nudity, then who can say you're wrong for feeling this way? If that is what's right for the two of you...

For me, I don't have a problem with nudity - in real life or on TV. But, I also think it wouldn't hurt if our society valued modesty a little more.

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:00:56 PM
Author: dragonfly411
I don''t like bum showing skirts either, so it''s not age related

Well I love showing my bum!!! Just kidding...

What''s so offensive about nudity?

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:04:09 PM
Author: sunnyd

Date: 10/6/2009 4:00:56 PM
Author: dragonfly411
I don''t like bum showing skirts either, so it''s not age related

Well I love showing my bum!!! Just kidding...

What''s so offensive about nudity?

It depends on the quality of bum.

Hum drum bum, no thanks.

 

[dragonfly411]

Sunny - It''s not the bums so much as the um....I guess the way I relate bum showing skirts to the type of person? Hehe. I think bums are funny

 

[dragonfly411]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:05:47 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 10/6/2009 4:04:09 PM

Author: sunnyd

Date: 10/6/2009 4:00:56 PM

Author: dragonfly411

I don''t like bum showing skirts either, so it''s not age related

Well I love showing my bum!!! Just kidding...


What''s so offensive about nudity?

It depends on the quality of bum.


Hum drum bum, no thanks.

What she said

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:57:55 PM
Author: meresal

Date: 10/6/2009 3:48:31 PM
Author:TooPatient
I''ve seen a couple of threads recently that have left me wondering something.

I know there are different lifestyle choices people make. I don''t care. That is their business. Whatever makes them happy. I don''t ask about their private lives and as long as they don''t try to force their choice on me I don''t have any problems with whatever they do.


Am I the only one left (on this planet) who thinks that bodies are a special thing only to be shared with your SO? I cover my body and expect B to do the same. We don''t go to places with overly revealing clothing (luckily we both hate the beach anyway). Strict no nudiy rule when it comes to movies.

I think this is an area that should be shared and special between just the two.


Is this an outdated way of life?

really? do you consider bathing-suits in public to be revealing something you shouldn''t?

Do you mean no nudity in movies you watch?

Hmm. IMPO, I would have to say that the extent of your guidlines, is probably a bit outdated, considering the most popular shows on television are cable access and show more than their fare share of nudity.

ETA: Elle and Maise... my initial reaction as well! lol.

I don''t have anything against bathing suits really. The only issue I have with them is how some women wear them. Super tiny with the intention of drawing attention. Even those are fine in the right location (beach, swimming pool).
I DO have something against skimpy bikinis worn to walk around town. Just saw one a couple of weeks ago. 20 something blonde wandering around outside of the grocery store in a tiny bikini. No purpose. Just wearing it. (and no, she wasn''t trying to get sun)


There are series & movies without nudity that are at least as good. I''m sure we miss some good stuff but who doesn''t? (If the movie is supposed to be really good & the nudity is contained only in one scene, we have made exceptions -- just use the chapter skip button)

 

[meresal]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:06:16 PM
Author: dragonfly411
Sunny - It's not the bums so much as the um....I guess the way I relate bum showing skirts to the type of person? Hehe. I think bums are funny

You mean immature 16-20 year olds that want to look hot/older for older guys. They are kids and don't know any better. I bet most of those girls sneak those skirts on after they have left their parents house.

If you are talking about adults, then I would have to say, maybe stop going to wear adult women, or men, are wearing bum-showing skirts.

TooPatient- I would have to agree with the bathing suit for no reason. It's just silly and honestly girls don't realize they are attracting the wrong kind of guy when they do that. They, well, most of them anyway, will learn. I still think it just shows immaturity. Maybe it's just where I live, but I don't see women doing this over the college age.

I do realize that those of you living on the east and west coast experience older women doing this much more often.

 

[dragonfly411]

aww but you can''t skip the chapter with Chaucer''s bum it''s half the fun of that scene and you''d miss a bunch. Hehe, just playing.

I do think there are series that are perfectly fine that don''t require nudity.

I really enjoy some reality shows for this reason - Makeover house edition, World''s strictest parents, wife swap, anything on the food network.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:06:16 PM
Author: dragonfly411
Sunny - It''s not the bums so much as the um....I guess the way I relate bum showing skirts to the type of person? Hehe. I think bums are funny

Rule:

If it shows your fanny,
If it shows your butt,
Every nook and cranny?
Guess what, you''re a sl*t.


Note: fanny above is the commonwealth definition.

 

[somethingshiny]

I don''t wear shorts or short skirts, but I do wear cleavage revealing tops (although this is because I hate tight fitting clothes at my neck and I''m large chested). DH doesn''t show chest or back publicly. When we go to the beach, I wear a tankini with a skirt and feel naked the whole time, DH wears a sleeveless shirt with his trunks. We do not watch movies with any nudity or any cable programming with nudity. I''m not fond of the lingerie scenes, but as long as Possible and the Girls are covered, I''ll watch it.

We do believe the body is sacred and not for public approval or viewing. While it may seem outdated to some, it''s the way we live and what we''re comfortable with. I am soon to be 30 and DH is 31, we''ve been married for 10 years and this has always been our lifestyle. We''ve gotten plenty of flack about it, more I''d say than those who are very open about nudity.

Both of my sisters and my mom show lots more of their bodies and have no problem with nudity so it''s definitely not something I was raised with, it''s just the way I am.

As long as the people look decent, I don''t care how much (as long as the private areas are covered) that other people show publicly.

 

[TooPatient]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:06:16 PM
Author: dragonfly411
Sunny - It''s not the bums so much as the um....I guess the way I relate bum showing skirts to the type of person? Hehe. I think bums are funny

That is my issue too. Not offensive, just the attitude/values/etc. that seems to come with such dress.


Beyond that,

There is something great knowing that only SO will see my body and only my body & I''ll see his body and only his body. I know he likes that no one else gets to look at certain parts of me. Makes us being together so much more...
special? interesting? exciting? Hard to describe, but it is great.

 

[Lauren8211]

Man do I feel like a perv. We pause on the nudie parts.

 

[Liane]

Date: 10/6/2009 3:57:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Not at all! In fact, I think there is a high demand of the ''old way'' of life - so much so I am going to start a shroud clothing line...I think it will be a hit!

It''s already been done.

http://www.modestclothes.com/

And as the link suggests, it''s mostly catering to people who want hijab/burkha/traditional Mormon wear.

So yes, it''s very much a niche and a religiously-influenced niche, but no, OP, you''re hardly "the only one left on this planet" who thinks this way.

 

[Bia]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:16:35 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Man do I feel like a perv. We pause on the nudie parts.

lol!

I must be too because I really don't have a problem with it. In fact, I often look at men's magazines like Maxim...it gives me motivation to get my butt in gear. That and I appreciate a beautiful body...man or woman.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:16:59 PM
Author: Liane

Date: 10/6/2009 3:57:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Not at all! In fact, I think there is a high demand of the ''old way'' of life - so much so I am going to start a shroud clothing line...I think it will be a hit!

It''s already been done.

http://www.modestclothes.com/

And as the link suggests, it''s mostly catering to people who want hijab/burkha/traditional Mormon wear.

So yes, it''s very much a niche and a religiously-influenced niche, but no, OP, you''re hardly ''the only one left on this planet'' who thinks this way.

Well that goes that money making venture.

On the bright side, off to spend my money on Amelia''s prom dress!

 

[sunnyd]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:06:16 PM
Author: dragonfly411
Sunny - It''s not the bums so much as the um....I guess the way I relate bum showing skirts to the type of person? Hehe. I think bums are funny

Oops, that wasn''t directed at you, DF!

I definitely agree that girls shouldn''t just be walking around Target with their bums out, but it''s usually teens and...well, weirdos who do it.

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 10/6/2009 4:18:48 PM
Author: Bia

Date: 10/6/2009 4:16:35 PM
Author: elledizzy5
Man do I feel like a perv. We pause on the nudie parts.

lol!

I must be too because I really don''t have a problem with it. In fact, I often look at men''s magazines like Maxim...it give me motivation to get my butt in gear. That and I appreciate a beautiful body...man or woman.

FI got me a Playboy subscription for Christmas/Hanukkah 3 years ago.

What?? I read the articles.

 

[oddoneout]

I think a lot of young girls (and older women) dress in an overly revealing way. They are not respecting themselves at all to be showing their bits. I am not advocating covering your body from head to toe but there is a level of sexy that is classy (not having your boobs or butt out for everyone to see). As for films etc. with nudity it doesn''t really matter to me. If it''s brief and part of the story I don''t really care. Most of the time nudity isn''t even sexy and it doesn''t even cross my mind that it''s supposed to be sexy. As for what other people do ''bedroom wise'' it''s no one''s business but the people involved (of course they should be consenting adults).