Anxious to get the engagement ring

[goldengirl]

firerock--at least you've got your SETTING!! All I've got are some jpgs I yanked off the internet as inspiration.

I got the He's Going To Ask You... And Soon! answer too. I snorted. The more I think about it rationally, the further off I think an engagement really is. *shrug* It's really not a big deal...I mean, it's not like I think if I don't get married now I'm never going to pin him down!

I think it's just that I'm having to redefine my girlish notions of the "perfect" age to get married, and that's what's not sitting so well. Oh, yes, that and 9/7/5 would be a kickass wedding date, but 9/7/6 just doesn't have the same ring to it. Stupid maybe, but that's really what's bugging me about the delay. LOL!!

 

[fancyrock]

Goldengirl-




Ahhh, yes... the perfect age. I'm pretty sure most of us thought about that at one point or another in life. I've always thought age of 25 would be a great age to get married, but i think i'm 10 yrs off from that ideal age (or maybe even longer). But i must say, i have no regret not getting married in my 20s. I'm so different now in more ways than one compare to 10 years ago. You know... in Asian culture, i'd be considered as an OLD maid, but oh heck... what do i care about that? I'm in America and an American girl. I'll get married when it's the right time with the right guy.




Oh... and the date! (and it's not stupid) I got a date in mind too and thought it would be cool for a wedding date, but i'm not sure if we would make it. (or it's more like... do I want to wait that much longer?)

 

[MelissaSue]

Aww. Goldengirl. I can feel your frustration in your post! And I totally know where you're coming from. My original "plan" when my boyfriend and I first started dating was for us to get married on July 3, 2004, which is my parents wedding anniversary. Didn't EXACTLY happen.We were just too young and poor. Then I moved it to July 2, 2005. So it would be the day in between my parents anniversary and his parents. Not happeneing either. How bout May 27th 2006? No meaning to that day at all.. but at least we'll be married! I don't know if I had a pre-set "perfect" age to get married, but I wanted to get married when I was 23 so I'd have lots of time for babies. I'll be 25 if we get married in 2006. That doesn't really bother me that much anymore, because I will still have plenty of time to have a family and everything, and this way I won't get as much "You're getting married too young" that i'm already getting. It'll all work out the way it should in the end though. And I think that 9/7/6 sounds like a GREAT wedding date!


Meanwhile. Drag that boy ring shopping. It will make you feel better.

Melissa

 

[reena]

Melissa Sue, for some reason i JUST saw your post from the other day about your stone. i knew that you were using a family stone but i didn't know it was an OEC!!!! i LOVE OECs!!! it is going to be just gorgeous.

i know i know this but remind me which setting you're getting again?




(sorry i dont have the energy to scroll back thru all the pages to find it!)

 

[njc]

Too funny you mention the parents anniversaries and trying to match up to theirs. Our parents annies are April 12th and 13th. I always thought a date close to them would be nice like the 14th. The idea of being able to follow behind such great role models... BUT that aint happening cause im NOT waitin till 2007! We could do April 16, 2005, but i think that might be a little too stressful to pull off a wedding in 4-5 months unless we ran away (i know it can be done)... i have a HUGE family and i think we'd both be dead when we got back... our parents would kill us!!! I think we are looking at August/September... which he kinda picked out.

 

[MelissaSue]

Reena - This is my setting. I've posted it a lot.. because I'm obsessed..

Thats all the shots I have of it. Not bad considering I've never seen it in real life. My side stones will be RBs. My sister's e-ring is the same way, and it looks good.

 

[reena]

oh, that's right. i remember now. i realllly like it!!! it's coming fairly soon, right?

 

[MelissaSue]

its on my hand!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm engaged!








He was fibbing yesterday when he told me it wasn't ready. It was ready Monday, he picked it up today, I guess.





It was maybe 10:30 or 11, after I had posted those pictures of the ring.. I was looking at pricescope on my laptop, and I showed him tulip's ring.. And was asking if it wasn't a lot like mine, so I showed him all the pictures that I had just posted of it. And he said.. "Yours looks a lot better in person".. and I started to say "how do you know? You've never even seen it!" and I look over and he is down on one knee and he has the ring in his hand!!!! I bet I am the first person ever to have pricescope as PART of their proposal!

I'll put one or two shots up now, but its own thread will have to wait til morning





Melissa

 

[MelissaSue]

side view

 

[MelissaSue]

the best hand shot I have. Doesn't show all the sparklies

 

[MelissaSue]

I can't get a good close up shot. This is the best I have.

 

[ChooChoo]

Woohoo! Congrats, it's beautiful!

 

[Tybee]

WAhooooooooOooo!

Beautiful! I cannot believe how happy I am for you! We're going to miss you on this page!
Congratulations! Congratulations! What good news for the start of my day! Now I must give my poor children standardized tests!
Sharpening number 2 pencils as we speak.

 

[reena]

oh my god! i am psychic!!!! i had just said in my post that it was going to come soon!

yay, melissa sue, i'm just so happy for you . . . congratulations!!!! the ring is beautiful, and it looks awesome on your hand. you must be so thrilled! you've been waiting forever!




POST MORE PICS!!!!

 

[fancyrock]

OMG...OMG... OMG.... 1 more person off the list. we have fewer "club" members by days!!!




congratulations MelissaSue! I'm so excited for you. Your ring looks sooooooooooooo beautiful on you. I just love the way your now fiance took out the ring like that right at that moment. He sure didn't give you anytime to be ready for. what a BRILLIANT surprise!!

 

[MelissaSue]

I am starting to work on my own thread right now, so I'll put some more pics up there. But yeah! I was TOTALLY suprised! I couldn't even breathe!!! It really was perfect. Not exactly a story to tell the kids.. but it was perfect for "us." I can't get a hold of any of my friends and family to go show them my ring, so I'll just have to show you guys!




Melissa

 

[ivanadiamond]

Melissa Sue,

First of all your ring is stunning and looks so great on your hand! Congrats, I am sooo happy for you-

Your fiance did well!!!!

 

[JCJD]

Whoa, I was so excited about Melissa's engagement I double posted!!! Congrats again!!!!!!!!

 

[JCJD]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MelissaSue!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I AM SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What a great proposal!!!! And Reena was right, your OEC does look STUNNING in the truffle!!!!

CONGRATULATIONS ON YOUR ENGAGEMENT!!!!!!!

(I KNEW you'd be next!!!

)

Congrats Congrats Congrats!!!!


and welcome jenwill!

 

[MelissaSue]

Thanks girls!!! I'm so happy!!! But I won't forget about you guys! (What else will I do with my time with at least a year and a half til my wedding?). So I'm gonna take the honor of crossing MYSELF off the list!

THE LIST​

ChooChoo
GingerBCookie
GoldenGirl
Reena
JCJD
TMLD
NJC
Ivanadiamond
Tybee
1215n
Lauren
firerock
Jen​

yay! That felt good. /idealbb/images/smilies/1.gifYou guys were so awesome through the whole time I was waiting and whining and you didn't just tell me to SHUT UP! /idealbb/images/smilies/1.gif As you all said, I can hardly remember waiting now. It was totally worth it, and the extra two months I waited really makes no difference at all in the end.​

Thanks again everyone!​

Melissa​

 

[Tybee]

Wow, look at this list! It looks like a little person...waiting, waiting, still waiting...hee hee

 

[goldengirl]

You don't know it, but I got up and did the Flashdance-step when you posted your engagement, MelissaSue!!

Is it strange that I'm *almost* as excited that you got engaged as I would be if *I* did???

reena--I'm psychic too!! I knew she was going to be next!!

Who's taking over list honors? I'm not reliable enough to volunteer, lol... but might I point out that the list-maker has a short-lived position, as the proposal follow very quickly once you take the job?? Anybody????

 

[goldengirl]

I went to dinner with some friends last night...we went to a restaurant that one of my friends worked for--she just recently quit. So of course everybody there knows her, and they were all standing around our table chatting the majority of the night.

One of the waitresses just recently got engaged, so of course my friend begged her to come over and show off her ring.

First, I have to say, it was absolutely beautiful and it performed like CRAZY under Chili's lighting.

Bezel-set pear with pave all over the bezel and the band. Freaking amazing. I'm not a big fan of pears, but I desperately wanted to jump her in the parking lot and steal her ring, it was breathtaking.

Now the point to this story--it's given me a serious case of the I-wants and I feel my patience is not at its optimum. Bad news, because harrassing him is the LAST thing I want to do, but I REALLY, REALLY want him to give me something beautiful and sparkly so I can take it to Home Depot and see what all the fuss is about their lights and share my excitement with every stranger who is unlucky enough to be stuck on an elevator with me, so I can stop feeling silly for browsing these forums when I don't really have a "reason" to and so when people I know grab for my left hand because my placeholder ring caught their eye I won't be embarrassed because they expected something much... more. And "real", in the "actual commitment" sense, not the "authentic diamond" sense.

That waitress was so obviously happy and I want that too. I want to take that next step with him. I want to get this ball rollin'!

And it's so STUPID because we haven't even been together that long. Some of you girls have been so patient for so long and I really respect that. He's not being unreasonable. It's not like we've been together 10 years and have two kids together. We've been together a year, and it is absolutely unreasonable for me to expect an engagement so soon or to get this worked up about having to wait for one. It's stupid. I know it's stupid. I think I just needed to vent a little.

Thanks for listening.

 

[Tybee]

Way to vent GoldenGirl, that's why we're here!

I find that I cannot keep away either. I am staring at women's hands, and constantly looking at diamonds. I actually jokingly cut out the picture of a 1ct RB from the bluenile website to see how it's size would look on my hand!
The boyfriend told me I had to quit it, though. He says that it's making him feel bad because his credit isn't so great right now, and well, we're going to have to wait...grumble grumble...some small part of me wants to hope he's just pulling a fast one and he'll pull it out any second.
But alas, we wait. I have a feeling I will be the last one on this list.
I was so excited about MelissaSue, though, that I really did scream out loud. I guess that I can take that excitement and magnify it by one hundred for the way I'll feel when it really happens.
AS much as he wants me to, I cannot quit looking...oh well, as long as no one gets hurt.
Stay happy GoldenGirl, it'll happen.

 

[goldengirl]

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On 10/23/2004 6:44:34 PM Tybee wrote:


The boyfriend told me I had to quit it, though. He says that it's making him feel bad because his credit isn't so great right now, and well, we're going to have to wait...grumble grumble...some small part of me wants to hope he's just pulling a fast one and he'll pull it out any second.
But alas, we wait. ----------------

Heh, yeah, I got that too--except mine was, I talked about it too much and so he felt I was pushing the issue and he didn't see what the big hurry was. Except that wasn't what I was trying to do at all, it's just that when your SO tells you to start looking at rings and let him know what you like, you get a little excited and guess what??? YOU START LOOKING AT RINGS!!!!

Apparently I like too many styles, because I sent him images of all the styles I like and that must've been what he felt was being pushy.

Information overload? That's all I can figure.

Well, so I shut my trap and I stopped sending him stuff, but that doesn't mean I can walk away from the forums!!

PS I did that too, printing off a size chart to see what would look best on my hand....I liked the 1/3-1/2ct, but the longer I stay on here the bigger my taste gets!!!

This site should have an entry-page warning, like those adults sites where you have to verify you're at least 18.... it will read WARNING: THE FOLLOWING CONTENT MAY RAPIDLY ACCELERATE YOUR CASE OF DIAMOND SHRINKAGE. ENTER AT YOUR WALLET'S RISK!!!

Edited to add: the following is an idea of my newest love. That waitress' pave really got to me. Damnit. I'm never going to be able to decide on one style...!!!

and with the band.....

 

[MelissaSue]

Golden - I feel for ya! When the one girl that I work with got engaged in late July, that was when I got totally out of control with my lack of patience. She is the same age as me and had been dating her boyfriend about the same amount of time (a little less actually), and I already knew I'd be getting engaged SOON, and I really didn't want her to be before me, as silly as that sounds. Not to mention her ring was gorgeous.




Its not unreasonable of you at all to expect an e-ring just because you've only been dating a year. When you know that he is the ONE you just KNOW! I knew I would marry my fiance before we were even ACTUALLY dating. We talked about getting engaged around our 1 year anniversary ( 2 years ago) but we ended up waiting for various reasons, the foremost being that he wasn't even 20 yet. Speaking of which.. WHAT am I going to get this boy for his birthday? I better get him something good!




We went to Chili's to show off my ring to my b/f's mom and sister. I didn't not find that light very impressive. I'm telling you. VICTORIAS SECRET is the place to go for sparkle. I'll have to check out Home Depot though too.




Your new preffered ring style is GORGEOUS. I adore it. I love the matching band too. YOu're right about this site causing diamond shrinkage, but you should try working at my restaurant. For a bunch of 22-25 year old girls.. there are some big diamonds! The fiancee of our manager has over 2ct solitaire, the girl who got engaged this summer before me has over 1ct center stone, but it looks even bigger. And like I said, all under 25 years old. And then there is my sister who works there, she is a little older, but her e-ring is a 3 stone but is over 2 tcw. The effect is even more dominant in real life!




Melissa

 

[njc]

CONGRATULATIONS MELISSA!

I've been away since wednesday night helping my friend with her wedding this past weekend, but what great news to make my monday back at work fun!!! I knew it had to be coming soon! Think it is ironic that you posted your setting one last time right before you got to post the REAL thing. Its beautiful Melissa... the OEC with the moderns looks so nice!!! And glad to hear it was worth all the wait and trouble.




My friends wedding was wonderful and everything went off without any major problems. I will say i felt a little odd at the tables i was seated at for the rehersal dinner and reception. I knew everyone i was seated with both times (either friends from HS or college), but me and the b/f were the only ones not married or not engaged and once again, dating the longest... but i didnt feel as bad as the baby shower a couple weeks ago... at least now i know the ring is on its way. Three weeks and counting! Its just annoying knowing people are starring at my finger and them having that look on their face like you poor dear, are you EVER going to get engaged? Oh well...




YEA MELISSA!!!

 

[MelissaSue]

thanks njc! Did you see my thread with more pics in it? Your is coming sooooooon!!

Melissa

 

[JCJD]

Hi all! I'm back from Munich now, and I'm trying to get used to typing on an American keyboard again! ('y' switched with 'z' keys, among other differences on a German keyboard) so excuse any weird looking typos for a few days! Munich is a BEAUTIFUL city!! Gorgeous old buildings, friendly and helpful people who speak much more than their modest claims of "just a little English", pedestrians, bicycles, and teensy-tiny itty-bitty cute little cars everywhere!!! If you ever get the chance, go visit Munich!! It's great!!

Update: MY BOYFRIEND HAS A JOB!!!!!!! Wooooooo-hooooooo!!!!!!!! Yee-haaa!! He's starting this week! And I think HE'S even more excited about it than I am!!

However... I tried to explain why it's so hard for me not to worry about the engagement situation, specifically the fact that I have NO idea what he likes in erings whatsoever and I also have no idea what I'd like on my hand versus pictures on the computer screen (i.e. let's go ring shopping together). But he said "Yeah, I'd say that's a legitimate concern" and then CHANGED THE SUBJECT!!!!! When I pressed him on it, he refused to go with me because I'd get an idea of what he wants to get me and even said "just because I won't go with you doesn't mean you can't go to a jewelry store by yourself!"

It's not the same, and he knows it... AND, a few weeks ago, he mentioned that he doesn't like the way wedding sets look (ering with wedding band together). I told him that I do like them, but then he wouldn't specify what he doesn't like about them. So, I asked him to find and send me pics of sets that he doesn't like, but he refused because he hadn't seen them on the web. SOOOOOOO he's witholding all information from me and he refuses to go with me to look at real rings on my real hand because he wants this to be something he picks out for me by himself, i.e. absolutely no "real" input from me! Great that he wants to do this on his own, but I'm the one who'll be wearing it! Who knows, I might think 0.5 cts are too big or 0.3 cts are too small, but he'll never know before he puts something on my finger because he refuses to listen!!!!!!!!!!!! AND HE'S NOT MAKING ME FEEL BETTER!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know what to do ladies!!! All of this frustration, him changing the subject, noncommital answers to my "legitimate" questions, it's driving me crazy!!!!!

Sorry for the downer here, but I just don't know whether I should cry or rip out his b#**s.... I think the second option would get the most attention, but I do want children with him someday.... too bad...

 

[JCJD]

Oh, and to *add* to the mixed messages he's giving me, he says he'll probably be able to propose by Thanksgiving. GAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! IT'S ALL SO CONFUSING AND FRUSTRATING!!!!!!!!!

Please, advice!!