Anxious to get the engagement ring

[njc]

Well, it really wasnt a long one, but took a while to write...




I had a great birthday. Friday went out with friends and played pool. Saturday me and the b/f got dressed up and went out for a nice dinner. Decided we were too full to eat dessert at the restaurant so we waited a while and went to the *awesome* place called Cold Stone Creamery (http://www.coldstonecreamery.com/main/index.asp). They have a flavor called birthday cake remix and i got that to fulfill the birthday cake requirement! If there is one close to you, i highly recommend!!!




I was really expecting the ering but instead found out how silly men can be. The b/f confessed friday night that he was planning on proposing but thought he was going to be able to walk into the store and back out with the ring. He didnt realize that they would have to make the setting etc and that it would take 4 weeks. Soooo... no ring, but i know how long its going to be now!!! I told him that im going to be counting the days and that he cant take forever with the actual proposal. He also didnt go to the store where i picked everything out and they wrote it down for him (i guess that would have been too easy) and he *thinks* he picked out the right setting. So now i know nothing about what my ring is going to look like (except an antique style w/ the engraving) so thats kinda more exciting!




Also in the time ive had to re-write my post one of the girls that sits in my area has come in and got engaged last week while she was on vacation. So now im even happier that it didnt happen for me. She can have her day today, and ill have mine in a couple weeks! YEA!

 

[MelissaSue]

Awww.. NJC - your birthday sounds wonderful. I'm glad you had a great night.




Boys are funny aren't they? They just don't get it. I had been telling my boyfriend how long it can take (as in up to 6 weeks) to order rings and stuff, since about.. May.. Just so he wouldn't think that he could just get a ring in two days or something. Nevertheless, about a week and a half before my birthday, he hadn't even gotten the stone from my parents yet and he was asking me if I thought he'd be able to have an e-ring for me by my birthday. That was the end of July! He also thought for some reason that he could order a ring with out a down-payment, even though I had gone to the jewlery store website and showed and explained their payment policy to him. They just don't really know how to SHOP at all, let alone shop for engagement rings. Its not their fault.. Its their chromosomal make-up. It just prevents them from understand things that we girls do. I'm glad that you're not upset though. The weeks really will go by quickly. You'll have that e-ring before you know it. And I'm sure he did a good job picking the setting. You'll get something you love even if its not the exact ring you picked out.




Melissa

 

[goldengirl]

NJC...Now you know he's working on it! We'll be keeping the countdown with you, but hopefully you won't be the next one off the list!

*elbows MelissaSue*

I can't believe you've never been to Cold Stone before!! 'Course, I live in Phoenix, which is their HQ, so Cold Stone's about as plentiful as McDonald's on Manhattan island!

Anybody see Super Size Me? I swear I am never eating fast food again.

 

[tulipcloud]

happy belated bday njc!

yes i have to agree with MelissaSue about boys and shopping! Even when you tell them how to do everything, they still manage to get something wrong. I too was supposed to get my e-ring for my birthday...that was in August! He had planned a wonderful day, golfing at the first place we had gone together, then first place we ate together...after all that suspense you would expect something rite? Well that nite, he too explained that they didn't have the stone he wanted and was still searching for that right one.

But in the end, after all the dissapointment and waiting, the guys will really come out in the end. Don't fret njc and MelissaSue, when he finally asks to spend the rest of your life with him, all will be forgotten! Besides, when he proposes on a day besides your birthday, you get another day to celebrate!

 

[njc]

Thanks guys! I know its been said before, but its just nice to know that i dont have to sit on pins and needles (for at least a couple weeks) with every little thing that comes up. Is this it? No, maybe it will be tomorrow?!? He's said he ordered it, i heard him talk to the guy (he had to call the store back because he needed me to tell him my ring size!) and he was really excited. He said he called his mom right after he got home because he had to tell someone.




GG - I agree that Melissa should be the next one... she only has 2 weeks left in her countdown! This weekends trip to Cold Stones was not the first (unfortunately for my hips!), but it has been a recent discovery. Me and the b/f have both just moved to the DC area and neither had heard of one where we lived before. A friend told us we needed to go and after the first trip we went back 2 more times that same week! Since we have calmed the urge down and why it didnt take much arm twisting for either of us to make it the birthday dessert of choice! I dont know what i would do if i had to see one on every corner! Luckily ours is a good 10 minute drive... that helps curb the cravings too! /idealbb/images/smilies/love.gif




Tulip - I'm just glad he told me, the way yours told you too! But that beauty you have was certainly worth the wait (i still cant understand how you didnt peak!), and i know mine will be worth the wait in the end too!

 

[MelissaSue]

I love this forum.

Everyone is sooo nice. Reading these posts makes me smile. Do you guys wanna see pictures of my diamond? Jeff got some from the jeweler because they are keeping it to set the stone, and he gave them to me the other day after he told me about all the delays with my ring to make me feel better. I've been holding off on posting them for some reason.. But I think I will scan them. so.. stay tuned

 

[fancyrock]

njc - i know exactly how you feel. I'm on pins and needles everyday. It's an awful feeling ... this unsettle feeling is driving me up the wall. I try to play it cool on the outside, but my inside is just eating me up. I know it will be a big relief when he finally pops the "Q". I think MelissaSue is next in line to be taking off from the list and then YOU. Sad to say... but I just might out last all of you. (still searching for a center stone, remember?!)




"I can't wait to hear each of your story SOON"

 

[njc]

Did you really need to ask? You know we all love photos!

 

[MelissaSue]

Okay.. Here it is!!


So.. it is a European Cut


.955 carat


I/J Color


SI1


6.19 mm




The one on the right is zoomed in to show the inclusion.. since the pics are for identification purposes.




and notice the GIGANTIC culet. standard of european cuts I guess, but it scared the CRAP out of me when I first looked at my stone, not knowing much about diamonds. I thought the bottom had like broken off or something

 

[njc]

Firerock - until Friday, that is EXACTLY how i felt, and how i had felt since June! A lot of anticipation egged on by several trips to the jewelry store with the b/f just teasing me more.

Melissa - that stone is wonderful. VERY clean and white looking. Since i love the antique look (and hoping thats what im still getting!) i think the OECs are cool. I love looking at the rings on faycullen.com that have the old cuts on them. They just seem to have so much more history to them, especially yours! I wish my family or his had a stone to pass down like that!

 

[MelissaSue]

Oh yeah. I found out today the exact origin of the stone. My GREAT-grandmother (the grandma with the dress's mom) owned the ring they came out of. It was a ring with a very large emerald and two side diamonds. My cousin has the emerald. I had thought she got gypped a little bit since my sister and I got the diamonds. but I can't imagine how big it must have been if it had two ONE CARAT diamonds as side stones!! My mom said its really big though. So great-grandma Sadie gave the ring to my grandmother who divied it up between her granddaughters.

I do feel extremely lucky to be getting such a nice beautiful stone!


Melissa

 

[rfath]

Melissa- wonderful stone!

njc - happy birthday! Great news that the ring is on its way

Got my appraisal for my ring from the jeweler who sent it to the maker. I have to laugh at it, though it's somewhat frustrating. I know that they LOVE their Lazare Kaplan stones and only sell them, but for my appraisal they didn't put anything in writing about the branding on my stone. Cut quality I would assume is implicit in the copy of the sarin report that they attached to the appraisal. Odd. Just in case, I'd already taken the stone and then the completed ring to the independent appraiser in the area (adamasgem - he posts here sometimes). It was really cool that he showed me how he was calculating the replacement value of the stone - let me see polygon and the other professional databases that he uses to assign value.

It's a sunny COLD Monday here.. I think I might have lucked into finding a fabulous place for my wedding ceremony and reception. The irony is that it's within walking distance of where I live!

 

[fancyrock]

can't forget our crazy Reena, I believe she is very close from falling off of our "anxious" list!!

 

[fancyrock]

THE LIST.....




Me
ChooChoo
GingerBCookie
GoldenGirl
Reena
JCJD
TMLD
NJC
Ivanadiamond
Tybee
1215n
Lauren
firerock
tulipcloud




Tulipcloud - you are OFF! Congratulations! Did I miss anyone? If I did, please cross your name out... We would like to see this list getting SHORTER!! /idealbb/images/smilies/9.gif




I must admit, i'm not as good as you guys for keeping track.... Thanks to you all, you guys are keeping me going strong. /idealbb/images/smilies/2.gif/idealbb/images/smilies/16.gif I know my day will come.... /idealbb/images/smilies/5.gif

 

[JCJD]

OK, I'm in Germany right now, so I'm going to keep it short, cause it's almost midnight local time. Congrats on dresses, rings, tulip's engagement, and njc´s progress in boy-shopping assumptions! Beautiful hands Melissa and tulipcloud!!!! Sorry to anybody I´ve missed in congratulations... it´s been a while since I´ve read and I´ve had to catch up a bit...

I had to comment on the boy shopping situation that njc and Melissa experienced. I get the impression that my bf is also assuming that he can just walk into a jewelry store and walk out with the ring. Now, I´m not saying that´s not a possible thing to do, but I´d be wary of the quality (i.e. durability) of the pre-made ring and the stone´s specifications... I´d better talk to him about that.... cause he still doesn´t have a job, but wants to be engaged by January 1 at the latest, and money-notwithstanding, by the end of November!!!!! NOT enough time to get a job, save enough money for this ring he wants me to have, search for and buy a diamond and get the setting made in time for Nov 31!! So.... unless he´s got some secret source of income that he´s not telling me about (not likely) or he´s OK with proposing without a diamond engagement ring (he´s very much against this idea), I´m not going to leave "the club" until January to March!!!! AAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!!!!! THE ANXIETY!!!!!!!

Whew, I´m OK again. Just had to get that out of my system... (OK, not done - WHY DON´T OUR BOYFRIENDS UNDERSTAND THAT ALL WE WANT FROM THEM IS THEIR LOVE, AFFECTION, COMMITMENT, AND A MARRIAGE LICENSE!!!!!!!!!!! I DON´T NEED NO STINKIN' DIAMOND!!!!!!!!!!! and yes, I know that's heresy on PS, but I don't care! I just want him to be my husband, and SOON, darn it!!!!! I understand that he just wants to give me the best he can, but HE IS the best he can give me!!!!!!!!!!!!! AAAAARRRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But he just doesn´t get it...

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Not so short, oh well... If I don´t post again until Monday or Tuesday, whole-hearted congratulations to all who leave the list, condolences and a friendly welcome to all who join, and have fun ladies!!!

JCJD

 

[KSparkles]

For all you girls awaiting a proposal - here's a silly quiz for ya - just for kicks!! http://yournewromance.com/proposequiz.html

 

[fancyrock]

This is what I got from the quiz...






He's Going to Ask You... And Soon!

As far as a proposal goes, all signs point to YES!
All you've got to do is stay calm and wait him out.
If you want to start dreaming about your dress and cermony...
Well, that's cool - as long as you keep it on the down low
That means all bridal magazines go under the bed!




Now i just gotta WAIT HIM OUT!! but the more important question is... HOW MUCH LONGER????

 

[JCJD]

Me too firerock. It doesn´t make me feel much better though... not that I can complain about him not proposing while I´m in the forest of Bavaria!!! But you girls know what I mean.... Thanks for the quiz KSparkles!!

 

[MelissaSue]

Oh yeah! I bet reena will beat me on getting crossed off the list.. She has earned it though, by posting here 100 times a day.

I think your list is right upto date firerock. There hasn't been too much activity in the past few days. Tulipcloud was the last ON and the last off. Not fair..

 

[fancyrock]

MelissaSue,




Hey if that's the case.... I'm just right above tulipcloud... so i should be next! But really... i know i'm not! My man won't pop the Q unless the WHOLE ring is done. and with the most important part is missing (center stone), it will be awhile before i can happily announce/request to have my name be crossed off from the list.

 

[reena]

oh, i'm not sure i'll beat you, MS. who knows when mine is coming! could be ages. but to be honest, i'm still sort of enjoying the anticipation (i know, i know, that's blasphemy on this thread!

) . . . so i'm rooting for you to be next!

 

[tulipcloud]

I have to be honest..I have been reading this thread for quite a while, and just too shy to post.

It wasn't until he had the actual ring that I had to "talk" to someone about the anxiety and no better place than here where everyone could understand.

That's going to be a beautiful ring MelissaSue when he finally pops the Q. And I can't wait to see reena's either...those pics of just the diamond were just gorgeous! JCJD...lucky you to be in Germany! it's funny that even though I got my e-ring now, I'm still on pins and needles to see when everyone else gets theirs too!

 

[MelissaSue]

So.. I took that quiz.. and got something like.. "He might propose... but not this year!!"

So.. I am mad at it. Not really, I know these things are just sillyness.




Yeah - tulip.. I was just kidding about you being the last one on the list and the last one off. because you said you were supposed to have your ring in August too, right? So we've both been waiting FOREVER.




I just realized that I'm pretty sure my boyfriend is going away this weekend.. I don't think he remembers though. Hmm.. I should remind him! He goes once a year to see a Notre Dame football game with his father. His sister is going there now, so I sort of thought he would be going every week. Oh well.. at least I'll be busy while he's away. And someone should get engaged to keep me entertained..

Melissa

 

[1215n]

hi gals..well,I am still waiting!Congrats to all that have gotten engaged since i last posted,you lucky girls!!Well i was in the NYC and I naturally gravitated to you know where!Diamonds diamonds diamond row!What eyecandy!!!Tulipcloud,I love love your ring,that is what I "chose" for my e-ring but i am still waiting...It looks beautiful!!!!!!

 

[jenwill]

Hey All!

How, how, how did I not know this thread was here? I need to add myself to the list, so here are some of my stats:

Name's Jen (34y.o.), and I have been dating Tom (31y.o.)for almost 2 years (first date on Halloween). I will be moving in with him either first week of December or last week of January, depending on whether or not I get a job that I have just applied for...current job has too much travel and will keep me too busy to move before end of January.

Have tried to convey to him how important it is to have KNOWLEDGE before purchase of ring...so hope that he is lurking somewhere on this site. Hope, hope, hope.

He has said that we will be engaged before we go on our trip to Hawaii in February, so am staring at 4 months of potential waiting.

Am dreaming of an Asscher, with about 5 .02 pointers in shared prong setting on either side of center. Dream away!

So glad to have found you all!

 

[MelissaSue]

Welcome Jen! Your dream ring sounds BEAUTIFUL. I hope your wait for it is not long! What is it with all us girls dating younger men? My b/f is only about a year and a half younger than me.. but it seems to be a trend around here.. There have been more than a few like that.

Who all was it? I can't remember.




My boyfriend called the jeweler today. My setting is still not there

but they are expecting it within the next few days I guess. Who knows what that means really.

So here is the new list!​

Me
ChooChoo
GingerBCookie
GoldenGirl
Reena
JCJD
TMLD
NJC
Ivanadiamond
Tybee
1215n
Lauren
firerock
Jen​

 

[MelissaSue]

I decided to go back and read this whole thread today, since I was bored.. And LOOK what I wrote!

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On 9/2/2004 4:24:43 PM MelissaSue wrote:





it crossed my mind.. but like i said.. he's really bad at suprises.. i feel bad whining like this.. because he is a WONDERFUL guy, and i've only told you guys bad thing about him.. I kind of thought when he said the end of AUGUST it was to throw me off.. and that was why I was expecting it in JULY.. but its september now.. Maybe by november i'll be engaged.
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I WASN'T being SERIOUS when I said by November!!!!!!!!!

Also, reading all the things I said about being so sure that he had ordered the ring at the end of july really upsets me that he let me think that for so long. Isn't that cruel? I am not upset that I have two more weeks to wait.. but I am upset that he let me go for so long thinking that it would be any day.. He feels bad about it too.. but it still upsets me. He says that he was just so set on not letting me know anything and suprising me, that he didn't want to tell me ANYTHING. But I think he should have told me that. I don't know why I am having such a delayed temper tantrum about this.. but I'm just bothered by it right now

Melissa

 

[jenwill]

MelissaSue-

I came over to this thread because it was linked from a thread in proposal ideas. In that thread, the guy was getting the ring, but was not giving his girlfriend any idea that it was happening- and thinks making her wait 2 more months is no big deal. I just think that guys get all wrapped up in this...big surprise, big secret thing, and because they have all of the knowledge about when and where they don't understand where we are coming from. They don't get that the not knowing ANYTHING is detrimental to our mental health.

I have found that my guys friends- even those that are thougthful, have a difficult time putting themselves in another persons shoes. They really don't get it- their minds cannot wrap around the fact that weeks and months seem like years to us when it is regarding our future and getting it going.

Sorry he dragged it on so long, but maybe it will help to know that he is very much like the rest of our boyfriends (sounds so weird to call the man I plan to marry a 'boy'friend)- didn't torture you on purpose- just doesn't quite get it.

 

[MelissaSue]

Thanks Jen. I had seen that thread in proposal ideas, and rolled my eyes at how absolutely clueless that guy was.. It pains me to read it actually, because I know how AWFUL his poor girlfriend must be feeling.




Luckily my boyfriend would not ever be THAT cruel to me. And you're absolutely right. He didn't do it on purpose. He just wanted it to be a total suprise, and he never expected any of it to take as long as it did. He expected the delay for him to get the money to order the ring to be more like a week than a month, and it should have only taken 3 weeks to get my setting in, instead of almost 2 months. I called him a little while ago (after I last posted) and just told him I was feeling sad about it today.. and even that made me feel better, even though there is nothing any one can do at this point. And.. I am DEFINITELY NOT alone here.

 

[fancyrock]

Welcome Jen, I thought i was the only one that missed a long thread like this one. I missed more than 2/3 of this interesting/exciting/frastrating/up and down/crazy/funny thread.

Sorry you made the list, but i'll be sure to congratulate you when you are OFF the list.

After I turned 30, I started to feel funny about referring to my BF as BOYfriend. It feels like high school all over again. Different from most of you... He is 8 yrs. older than me and I just didn't feel right calling him my BF. I am ready to change that title real soon. But the thing is... whenever we are out, most people refer to us as husband and wife and that just puts a big old grin on my face!!