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I know mine has the ring, he's had it since June 16th. It's really killing me. It is a rare possibility it could happen this weekend, but his family is coming and he said that he didn't want to do it while his aunt and uncle were here becuase it would make the whole visit about "us".

I innocently asked "What's wrong with that?"

He wasn't amused.

Sooooo, anyway. I feel your pain. It's making me crazy. My birthday is at the end of the month and if he waits that long I think I'll end up in the asylum. Think "Rain Man" but instead of "people's court" I'll be saying "Bridezillas".
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Anyway, welcome to the club Reena.... And Melissa, hang in there. The men LIVE to drive us nuts. (and they wonder why we nag!)

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Bethany
 
So, here's the newest list:

Lsmathis1
Melissa
ChooChoo
Bethanying
Sparkler29
GingerBcookie
Goldengirl
JennaJ
Audrey Hepburn
Cute330xigrl - Waiting to Exhale Member#10
Reena

Reena - Congrats and welcome to the club officially)! I'm happy you found your setting and that it's on it's way! It's going to be gorgeous! Ours took the same amount of time, but it actually went by pretty fast...now knowing he has it is when the time is dragging on... My advice is to consume yourself with other things during the waiting period. I've driven my self crazy.
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Literally, maybe??
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Melissa, I swear I had to look back over your post to see that I hadn't written in myself. We are sharing the same thoughts! I'd had lots of hopes in my mind, I'm still waiting as well. I've had a hard couple of days because I just now have gotten the hint that again, this will not be my weekend. Unfortunately, I set my self up big time by assuming this 3 day weekend would be ideal.

Anyway, after sobbing, I've now realized I just need to suck it up and quit crying or being upset by it...as it is getting me nowhere and putting unnecessary strain on myself and those around me
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I know he's planning something special and has or best interest in mind. He's spent so my time, energy and $$$, so why am I being such a baby? I am so lucky and yet I've been so sad. Girls, why is this so hard? I think I'm finally out of my slump, but I still don't understand why I've been bothered...this is all so wonderful. Any words of wisdom?
 
My boyfriend has never been good at suprises.. or making fantastic plans for special occasions or anything.. So I'm not thinking the reason for delay is that he is planning something spectacular.. which is FINE with me if it is not anything fancy or anything.. It will still be just as special to me.. I honestly wouldn't even care if he proposed to me while I was laying in bed in my PJ's. So I just don't know what he's waiting for..
I was seriously getting downright nasty about it yesterday.. He saw the thread on here about engagement gifts for men,.. and he was teasing me about why I wasn't getting him an extravagant engaement gift.. and I like hissed at him "I don't think engagement gifts are a topic you should bring up at this point.." Mean, I know.. but whats a girl to do?
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Melissa
 
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On 9/1/2004 10:08:31 AM MelissaSue wrote:

My boyfriend has never been good at suprises.. or making fantastic plans for special occasions or anything.. So I'm not thinking the reason for delay is that he is planning something spectacular.. which is FINE with me if it is not anything fancy or anything.. It will still be just as special to me.. I honestly wouldn't even care if he proposed to me while I was laying in bed in my PJ's. So I just don't know what he's waiting for..
I was seriously getting downright nasty about it yesterday.. He saw the thread on here about engagement gifts for men,.. and he was teasing me about why I wasn't getting him an extravagant engaement gift.. and I like hissed at him 'I don't think engagement gifts are a topic you should bring up at this point..' Mean, I know.. but whats a girl to do?
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My b/f said the same thing. I didn't respond. LOL! The problem with us is we're doing too much at the same time. We just closed on a house... which turned out to be more of a fixer-upper than anyone saw coming. So that in itself has been a major financial drain. At the same time he's been researching for a stone, being a handy-man and a working-man... but all I can say is "When am I getting it babe?" Tsk tsk. I try to engulf myself in house duties.. but quite honestly, all I want to do is stare at my stone all day. Since he hasn't gotten the band yet, the countdown is far from starting. Having a pic of the stone @ work doesn't help either.
 
Horrible news.. he told me last night that I will have my ring by the END of this MONTH.. He was saying it to try to make me feel BETTER. Needless to say.. it did not. I am tremendously disappointed. I want to cry.. I actually WOULD have cried when he told me, but we were in a restaurant, and did not want to make a scene. I was supposed have my ring by the end of LAST month and if you want to get really technical about it.. i was initially expecting in around my birthday at the end of JULY..but back in July I wasn't this impatient, so it didn't bother me then. My boyfriend is not the most "dependable" person when it comes to doing what he says he is going to do.. but this was sort of something I didn't think he'd want to disappoint me on this many times. Sigh. I am really upset right now.. Thanks for reading..
Melissa
 
don't be upset! don't you think he's just saying that to throw you off the trail?

have hope my friend!
 
it crossed my mind.. but like i said.. he's really bad at suprises.. i feel bad whining like this.. because he is a WONDERFUL guy, and i've only told you guys bad thing about him.. I kind of thought when he said the end of AUGUST it was to throw me off.. and that was why I was expecting it in JULY.. but its september now.. Maybe by november i'll be engaged.
 
Hey Melissa I feel your pain... My bf has had the ring since June 16...

I promise it will be before July (Grandmother went in the hospital- out that went)

I promise it will be before you go back to work (August 2- Great aunt died and mother went out of town)

I promise before your birthday (Sept. 26 is my birthday)

BUT- he asked for my parents blessing last night- so maybe this weekend or next? My mom flat out told him she can't keep a secret for long!

Long story short, I've cried on several occasions (it's my own fault for building it up so much, and then being so let down for circumstances beyond his control). So, the end of the month will come soon! Enjoy your secret... Tough I know.

So occupy our time by telling us about your ring
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Bethany
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Bethany
lol. thats just the thing.. is it is NOT a secret.. All my friends and co-workers know it is coming, and many of them know it was supposed to be by the end of August.. so I am actually getting ready to go to work right now, thinking about how i'm going to get asked where my ring is.. It is sort of my fault for telling them.. all my coworkers are getting married and engaged.. so I just want to feel like part of the crowd.
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I'm just feeling extra disappointed today.. and then he did something else "disappointing" this afternoon, so it sort of amplified how I am feeling.
Anyway. I posted a pic of my setting on the first page.. Its an A Jaffe 3 stone with sort of a truffle-type setting, but its more intricate than a normal truffle, and it has only 3 prongs on the side stones.
My center stone is inherited from my mom's side of the family.. I believe it was from a ring from one of my grandparents or great grandparents.. with two diamonds and an emerald. My sister has the other diamond as the center stone in her e-ring, and my cousin has the emerald (i think). My diamond is the smaller of the two (cuz i'm the little sister). My sis's is like 1.05 and mine is .95. It is I-J, SI2, European cut.. Thats all I know! We have a very vague handwritten (in pencil, oddly enough) appraisal, that the stone was wrapped up in, and thats all we have on it.. Weird.. huh?
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TALKING ABOUT THE RING MADE ME FEEL SO MUCH BETTER!!!
thanks bethany!

Melissa
 
Hi girls,

I'm another addition to the "club." My ring actually SHOULD be arriving any day now but he told me that he won't tell me when it's coming. However, he won't be waiting long to hand it over because my parents are having an engagement party for us next weekend, while his parents are in town visiting! That was the deadline pretty much. We've started planning out of necessity (the church we want to use books up 18 months in advance) so I feel semi-engaged but as you all know, the ring makes it REAL! I showed him the setting I wanted months ago - it's the Vatche thin pave that only goes halfway, not eternity. But, I don't know what he ended up purchasing! Ayyyyy! Reading some of your posts makes me laugh because I'm so the same way. I have been downright bratty at times over when I get to finally wear it! Thanks for listening!
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Wow Melissa what a great stone and story! It is so neat to have something handed down to you that is sentimental. My grandmothers e-ring consisted of 4 small diamonds in a band (maybe .25 ct total) and she later had it melted down and the diamonds set in a pendant.

I'm glad you're feeling better! Talking about sparklies does it for me too!!

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Bethany
 
P.S.- Welcome to the club, Stella!

Bethany
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thanks for the kind words Bethany. I am feeling better today, but still sort of discouraged. I have to work all weekend including labor day, and then my boyfriend starts school on tuesday, so we'll both be in school. I havent' had a day technically "off" from both work and school since last wednesday.. I feel like we are never going to have just a nice day to ourselves that will even be a good OPPORTUNITY. Oh well.
I bet your time is coming sooo soon though, since's he's already talked to your parents. My boyfriend isn't going to do that whole thing, I think. He had to ask my mom to get the diamond for my ring, but he's not going to go throught the whole thing with my dad. He originally wanted to, but we realized he is too chicken and we'd never get engaged if we had to wait for him to talk to my dad, and my father would definitely not care if he was asked or not.. Thats just not his style. I hope you get yours soon!
Melissa
 
I know this is a hard time for you Melissa...for everyone really (Bethany - wink, wink). Lord knows I felt the strain! It's especially hard when everyone else in your social circle is engaged or married - I feel the pain there as well. Hopefully, it helps that we are all in the same boat...and know exactley what you are going through. It's really crazy how similar our current situations are.

Hopefully we will all have a great weekend and we can not let it get us down. I always believe that everything happens for a reason...hopefully I can stay positive and apply it to this!

"The best things come to those who wait" Yes, I keep having to tell myself this
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Hang in there Bethany and everyone else! I totally know all the feelings you are having.

I got an update last night- ring will "most likely" be here in time for the party next week. Eek, down to the wire. What good is an engagement party with no ring to show off? haha. Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you!
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Oh my gosh I hope you get the ring soon... If not I'd run out and buy the biggest fakest walmart ring so that I'd have something to show.. All the untrained eyes will never know! I hope you get to show off the real thing though!

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Hoping SOMEONE has a big weekend coming up
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Bethany
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God bless all you girls, I'd never have that kind of patience!!!

In a nutshell, he doesn't want to have to know about diamonds, so he pretty much just wants me to pick it out so he can pay for it. (LOL) I told him I didn't mind doing that (hey, then I know I'll get exactly what I want, right?) but that I ABSOLUTELY did NOT want to know any of the rest of it. I don't want to know when he buys it. I don't want to know when he gets it set. I don't want to know when it's ready. I don't want to know when he's proposing. I don't want to know any of it!! ...because then I'd end up pulling my hair out like you guys. And *I* wouldn't have the self-control NOT to go through the house!!
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Now I think he's a little stressed, because I found a stone I'm just IN LOVE with, and he's afraid it's going to be sold before he can buy it. Silly boy, I told him I'd just find another, but I think maybe he doesn't want to have to listen to me ramble on again about the relative merits of pavilion angles (at which point his eyes just glaze over, LOL!!).

So think of it this way: at least YOUR guys have already BOUGHT the ring--mine's still in our heads!
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Well, you can cross me off the list
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I'm engaged but without my cushion
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I think we're going to get the stone on Tuesday (my boyfriend has been researching for so long that I am insisting on going with him this time to ensure it HAPPENS - NO MORE WAITING!!!) I'm so excited!

I was on the "waiting" list for SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO long - and I feel your pain. Men are tough nuts to crack sometimes! But it's worth it - as soon as you're engaged you forget about all that time you spent pining over when it would happen! Actually, I'm still reserving a bit of resentment because he put me through the ringer!
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So, here's the newest list:

Lsmathis1
Melissa
ChooChoo
Bethanying
GingerBcookie
Goldengirl
JennaJ
Cute330xigrl - Waiting to Exhale Member#10
Reena
Stellamarina

EDIT: Oops, forgot to remove Audrey Hepburn
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Have a great weekend everyone!

~Lisa
 
Oh, and Congrats Sparkler29! So happy for you!

And you know we can't wait to see the ring once it's finished
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Me too me too!!!I am waiting(still)for my e ring...i wanted to just strangle him but he dove in there and bought the stones!!! All i know so far... princess 2.0 f si1 and 2 side .60's...so i guess it's a three stone ring...can not wait to get it...I wish i knew the rest of stats!waiting...waiting and waiting...
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Oooh me too Melissa - my BF has promised that he will propose within a month so I'm hoping to be engaged by the end of September - I also had a birthday late July and we actually went to the jewellers on my birthday to have the ring design drawn up - that was almost 2 months ago now (and he's had the loose diamond since May!) I was hoping for a proposal sooner but my BF just told me this weekend that there were a few problems with the ring being made, hence the delay ...it is so hard to wait but only a few more weeks now!!(well had better be anyway)
 
Jenna - Wow, so you're like in the exact same boat as me. At least your bf told you that there was a delay with the ring being made though. That is what I THINK the reasoning is.. but I am not sure of that.. He could just be a poop and is waiting to torture me. My ring was not custom made, so it was only supposed to take 2-3 weeks, and we are going on 6 since it was ordered.. but I wear such a small ring size (size 3), that I'm thinking that maybe it did have to be made special.. to cause more of a delay.. but who knows..
BUT OH MY GOSH... I so thought that last night was going to be my night.. We were at the beach in the afternoon and then at night, He wanted to go to this park that we hadn't been to since the first summer we were dating. So I agreed, even though i didn't know what we would do there, we weren't planning on picnicing or anything.. so I kept asking what we were gonna do.. and he was like "just walk around and hang out.." So when we got there, I asked if we were gonna go on the swings in the playground.. and he was like.. "No.. I don't think so" which led me to beleive that he had something in mind.. So we kept walking around aimlessly, and he kept moving us around so we could be somewhere "private" where noone could really see us..so i thought for SURE something was up.. So I waited and waited.. and we were kissing and stuff and it was really romantic.. but it turned out.. HE WAS JUST HORNY AND WANTED TO FOOL AROUND IN THE PARK..AHHHHHHHHHH!!
Needless to say, I was not up for getting arrested for fooling around in a park.. so we just went home.. THIS COULD DRIVE A PERSON ABSOLUTELY CRAZY!!
Melissa
 
LMAO!!!!!

AHAHAHAHAHA, I can totally see how you'd think something was going to happen...what a little snot to tease you like that!! *lol*

Why don't you think of it this way, maybe he was GOING to propose, and something wasn't just "right" (he couldn't get a decent moment of privacy) or else he just plain chickened out.
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Hi Ladies,

I have a question for all you girls that are so crazy with the waiting .... does it ever get to the point where you step back and be happy that the guy you love so much has chosen you to be his future wife ? Is the big-ness of what marriage and engagment means enough to snap you back into place when your running around the house waiting and asking and waiting and sighing? Does the fact that he is trying to plan the perfect moment that will last in your memory long after the novelity of the telling whoever is more interested in the "grandness" of the propsal rather than value of the question? Does it ever come to the point where you realize that your are stripping the very excitement of the event by being demanding and anxious?

Cindy
 
I do believe that to answer your question, I will point you to page four of this thread, where we discuss that despite the excitement of the engagement, it is the marraige and the man that matters more.

I find your tone a bit high-and-mighty. Although we are, of course, excited to be officially engaged, I think most of us have the best intentions at heart. Which is why we come on here to be crazy, instead of nagging our men. :P
 
Cynthia- I understand that maybe to those who haven't been following this thread that it may appear that the 'ladies in waiting' club could be *gasp* a little shallow. However, I would just like to point out that most of us have known for a while that we are with the most wonderful guy in the world and we can't wait to be "public" with the commitment that we have felt in our hearts for so long.

That being said, this is a DIAMOND forum and we are inclined to talk about diamonds. The excitement of getting engaged is only heightened by receiving a beautiful sparklie which we have taken time and effort in choosing.

Please don't mistake us for being shallow and being only about the ring. We are just 'venting' using this forum and chatting about the beautiful symbols of love that are (hopefully soon) going to be presented to us!

I hope I didn't offend you in the process, I just felt like it was a low blow here on the diamond forum.

Bethany
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Better said than I could. I've never been terribly political.
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Hey girls, happy to say that he tricked me on when the ring would arrive and proposed Friday night! I plan to post pics in SMTR as soon as I can take a decent one. It's hard! He told me we had to make a stop for work on the way to my family's cabin and we stopped at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco. Gorgeous night, no fog, warm... I totally cried even though we've been planning the wedding already and this was no real surprise. He just made it special. And gave me flowers and a beautiful card afterwards! YAY!
 
I think most of you have sufficiently explained "ourselves" to cynthia.. not that we should have to explain ourselves..
Anyway, another thing that comes to mind is.. like Bethany said, not only do we know that we have found a wonderful man, and have known for awhile.. we also KNOW that we are going to be engaged.. SOON.. Nearly all of us were VERY active in picking out our rings and it has all been discussed before.. which means.. we have already MADE the commitment to marry our boyfriends and spend the rest of our lives with them. The only thing missing is the "official" proposal and the ring. Its almost frustrating.. because we are all "practically" engaged, but as far as the outside world goes, we aren't.. because we haven't been proposed to yet..

A friend of me actually said to me the other day.. "If your ring has already been ordered, aren't you just as good as engaged?" And.. yes... we are good as engaged already.. Its all sort of a funny tradition, that you need an official proposal and ring before you can start planning a wedding, since we all know that a wedding is going to happen anyway.

And sometimes, I do feel bad for being "demanding" as cynthia said.. but the thing is.. I WANT TO MARRY HIM, I want to move on from this stage in our life, and on to the next.. where we get married and spend the rest of our lives together.. My impatience is just as much for that as it is for the diamond ring.

Oh well.. those are just my thoughts on the matter.

Melissa
 
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