Well, she was implying that her friend might be jealous of her ring just because it is bigger than hers, which to me indicates that she assumes (or assumes that her friend thinks) that carat size is the most important thing in factoring the value of a diamond. Why else would she make the statement that she is worried that her friend will harbor feelings of animosity towards her because of her ring''s size?Date: 7/11/2008 4:19:13 PM
Author: IndyGirl22
It''s nice that your ring has great specs, but no one here was implying that size is everything. The OP was just about whether people were concerned about reactions to diamond size. Also, I''m a big believer of quality AND quantity!
I think you should re-read the original post. It's not an issue for her, it made her curious if it was for anyone else. And there are PLENTY of women (and men) that believe size is the most important. Most still don't seem to understand cut quality, so it's not a stretch to say that if there is any jealousy among people, it would most likely be due to size (especially since it is the most apparent).Date: 7/11/2008 4:27:03 PM
Author: CellarDoor
Well, she was implying that her friend might be jealous of her ring just because it is bigger than hers, which to me indicates that she assumes (or assumes that her friend thinks) that carat size is the most important thing in factoring the value of a diamond. Why else would she make the statement that she is worried that her friend will harbor feelings of animosity towards her because of her ring's size?Date: 7/11/2008 4:19:13 PM
Author: IndyGirl22
It's nice that your ring has great specs, but no one here was implying that size is everything. The OP was just about whether people were concerned about reactions to diamond size. Also, I'm a big believer of quality AND quantity!
You obviously didn't read all the posts. I never said my best friend would be jealous, and in the 5th response on the thread, I reitterated the fact that this thread, in no way, has anything to do with any person imparticular, including myself and my friend. I could care less about ring/diamond size. Outside of PS world, the only thing that usually matters to a majority of people is size.Date: 7/11/2008 4:27:03 PM
Author: CellarDoor
Well, she was implying that her friend might be jealous of her ring just because it is bigger than hers, which to me indicates that she assumes (or assumes that her friend thinks) that carat size is the most important thing in factoring the value of a diamond. Why else would she make the statement that she is worried that her friend will harbor feelings of animosity towards her because of her ring's size?Date: 7/11/2008 4:19:13 PM
Author: IndyGirl22
It's nice that your ring has great specs, but no one here was implying that size is everything. The OP was just about whether people were concerned about reactions to diamond size. Also, I'm a big believer of quality AND quantity!
This whole post makes me angry... This comment isn't towards the OP or anyone who has posted in particular... But I have been just thinking of how this statement does hold true and women are often competitive and easily envious when they see a bigger or nicer diamond on another woman.
I agree - I often see gorgeous rings & say to myself, "I wish I had that ring!" but I certainly don''t wish for the other person to *not* have the ring or feel inadequate in any way (even though I have no ring yet!). I don''t want their actual ring or to be proposed to with their ring, but I wouldn''t mind adding a similar ring to my collection.Date: 7/12/2008 12:28:23 AM
Author: purrfectpear
I can honestly say I''ve never felt jealousy over anyone''s ring. I don''t even think envious is the word for what I feel?
Coveting? Yeah, I''m guilty of a little coveting of some PSr''s rings. I wouldto have a beautiful diamond in the 4 carat range. Not from a boyfriend or FI, I just want to be able to afford one of my ownWell at least I''m not coveting my neighbor''s oxen, nor his manservant.....
Date: 7/11/2008 3:12:14 PM
Author: MoonWater
Date: 7/11/2008 2:28:11 PM
Author: Deelight
meresal I could have written aspects of your post myself, as I have mentioned before in my social circle larger diamonds are not the norm, actually in Australia diamonds over 1/2 carat are not really seen that often.
A few of my friends are engaged but I think maybe 1 or 2 might say something snarky when they see it like OMG can you believe how much money they spent or I see why it took so long for you guys to get engaged (we have been going out 10 years)or something eagerly as vile. If they did say something I don''t think they will mean to be horrible, maybe a little tactless but I have heard them beeeetch about one of the girls SIL and about how she likes and is getting a larger diamond and certain things have been said previously so who knows. Thing is both have very dainty fingers and really suit their rings I really like them on them. I have actually second guessed getting mine and going smaller but then I wouldn''t be happy. I am also a little worried that his/my family will think we are being overly frivolous and wasting to much money for a little sparklie.
I guess I will just deal with it if it comes, I hope it doesn''t though.
KesVayReas Your friend is completely rude good for you for being the better person
I was worried about this too! In fact, when FI''s mom looked at the ring for the first time, I could tell she thought it was super expensive (and perhaps it is in her mind, she''s been married 40 years, I''m sure she and her husband would never spend what we did on this ring lol). But I wanted to really love what I was wearing for the rest of my life. Also, we aren''t rushing into children, we''re young professionals, and we aren''t consumers. I don''t have nearly enough clothing, bags, and shoes for a woman my age!
I agree and I think your sentiments apply to almost every big purchase nowadays - cars, houses, etc. I think it''s great if people can afford and buy the best of everything as long as they are doing it for themselves and not to try to show anyone else that they have "made it." In the latter case, no purchase will ever be enough to satisfy the void of self-acceptance in their lives. Women, by nature I suppose, are somewhat more inclined to be envious of each other - I don''t know why that is...but I think the e-ring is also something men are competitive about as well because most of the time they are the ones buying it and some people think that the size/cost of the ring somehow says something about his character.
Date: 7/12/2008 11:56:40 AM
Author: HollyS
The more you post, the more I''m sure I like you.
Date: 7/13/2008 12:04:49 PM
Author: meresal
Little: This is just for my piece of mind. Again, this post has nothing to do with myself. My BF's choice to pay it off over time, never meant that he couldn't afford it last October, it just meant he's like me, and hates making huge purchases all at once, and putting that big of a dent his savings. It has been nice being able to make large payments over a longer period of time. Honestly, we weren't ready to be engaged back then anyway. Size, is not a necessity, it's the diamond that he liked, so be it.
The reason I asked if you girls were in your early mid 20's, because I see around here that lots of brides are paying for their own wedding, and I wanted to see if the worry about reaction from parents, had anything to do with the fact that they may still be paying/funding your wedding? I am 24.5 and C is 26. In FF and I's situation, this is the case.
I have to agree, I probably could have opened this thread up to almost ANY puchase that you make. I never realized how big this scope could be...
I believe alot of what we want/desire has to do with advertising. But times change and traditions change, and unfortunately, for some that comes with an angle of resentment/jelousy for a few... (and I'm not talking about the admiration jelousy that is followed by a dropping jaw)
. In terms of what will happen FF said he thinks his parents will chip in some, my dad wouldn't be able to afford to but my sister did say a while ago she would pay for my dress if I got married because thats something she wanted to do for me. I am still working on the premise that we will pay for everything, so our budget might be smaller then some of our friends whose parents paid for a huge chunk of their days. 
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