As a guest is it considered wrong to wear black to a wedding?

[Deelight]

Hrmmm there is a new fashion mecca in the valley? I seriously need to get out on the weekends how sad do I sound most my shopping buddies have moved out of state I am going to have to like round one up for a shopping day

Though I am not opposed to going to Melbourne to shop *HEAVEN* and I get to see my sister and niece so that is a plus

I definitely will have to go check it out next time I head out to the city that site you posted Kate has some really cute things Thanks

 

[scarlet16]

I think it definitely depends on a few factors: 1) formality of the wedding, 2) personality of the couple, 3) location of the wedding. For example, I am honestly the queen of black dresses and wear them to 75% of weddings here in NYC. But we recently just went to a wedding that was late afternoon and the couple is very "bright" so I chose to wear a turquoise flowered satin dress to in a way represent their spirit. For my own wedding, my bridesmaids are wearing black, my colors are black & white with red accents, and its a late friday night black tie optional affair. I wouldn''t be surprised if half of the women show up in black.

 

[MoonWater]

I went to FF's cousin's wedding and nearly every woman there had on black. This was an evening wedding. Another wedding I attended was during the late afternoon in the summer and I wore black and white. I'm not a very big fan of colors (or dressy clothing to be honest) so I got a nice black skirt embroidered with white flowers and a white top. I thought I was cute lol. For another wedding, also in the summer, it was in the early afternoon and in a church so I felt obligated to wear something more bright. I had a white dress (which I was actually very concerned about becuz the bride wears white, but I realized she had a crapload of money so there wouldn't be any chance of me looking as if I was stealing her thunder), embroidered with red flowers and I just looked like a little flower girl. I thought it worked with with the day setting. Then there was a wedding I catered and it was during the mid-late afternoon, also in a church but the reception was on the front lawn of the couple's house. One woman had a very lovely black dress with a little pink bow around the waist. I thought it was perfect.

On the other hand, I knew someone who flipped out at the idea that her future MIL would wear black (and white) to her wedding because she thought it would imply something to the guests. I found this to be utterly ridiculous since the MIL's wardrobe is mostly all black and white and she had purchased a nice b&w outfit that looked formal and elegant. But obviously some people do take issue with the black. So yeah, I think it really depends on the personality of the bride/groom, the setting, and the time of day.

 

[katebar]

Here is a little bit about the "mecca" Deelight

http://www.brisbanemarketing.com.au/UserFiles/Media/Fact%20Sheet%20Fortitude%20Valley%202007.pdf

 

[diamondfan]

I think an evening cocktail type of black tie affair wedding certainly allows for a black cocktail dress. I own many cocktail dresses, some are of course not black, but most are. I have navy, silver, nude pink, grey...but really most are black. A day wedding or more casual I might say no. But for a Sat night, in a nice venue, an LBD is very appropriate in my view.

 

[Delster]

Black, cream, ivory and white seem to all be perfectly acceptable for guests to wear to weddings over here. And yes, hats are big!!! I''ve only ever been to one wedding in the States and I couldn''t believe how casual everyone was dressed. Seriously about a third of the guests had on jeans, anoraks, and runners. Would never happen over here. I sometimes wonder if those folks thought I was nuts in my cocktail dress and 4" stilettos, dancing my tush off at the (barn!) reception till the wee hours?

I''ve worn black to one wedding over here, although generally I avoid it as it doesn''t do great things for my skin. The black dress I wore had green and cream flowers embroidered down it and was a very heavy satin, super formal. BF calls it my Irish dancing dress if that means anything to you! For my sins, lawyers over here have to wear black - bad career choice by me, eh?

If you are uncomfortable about black at all, what about deepest midnight navy? I find that colour is much easier to wear and it feels seriously glamourous...

 

[Deelight]

Date: 3/21/2008 6:02:48 PM
Author: katebar
Here is a little bit about the 'mecca' Deelight

http://www.brisbanemarketing.com.au/UserFiles/Media/Fact%20Sheet%20Fortitude%20Valley%202007.pdf

Kate I feel like I have been living under a rock

seriously I need to get out, how sad am I.

Delster I did consider navy I think at the end of the day I will pick a dress in a dark colour that looks flattering on me . The last wedding I went to I found the perfect dress the style looked amazing unfortunately it was leopard print (did nothing for my skin tone) so I did not get it, definitely thought that was wrong.

I do like the idea of wearing a hat to a wedding not that anyone here does.


ETA I have never gone to the valley markets that sounds really sad LOL been to the valley more times then I can remember though...this is on my list next weekend

 

[noelwr]

as long as you don''t wear white, I don''t see why not. however, why don''t you just pick up the phone and call your friend and ask her what she thinks? after all, it''s HER wedding. she''s the only person you have to make sure you don''t offend. if it''s a guy friend, he can ask his bride what she prefers.