BIL (Part nth)

[meresal]

Date: 1/19/2009 4:15:53 PM
Author: Harriet
Platinumrock,
Thanks for the hug. I need it. We''ve actually only been married since August. Get this -- they cited the fact that they didn''t ask to stay with us during the wedding as their knowing how to draw boundaries. Hmm.
P.S. Guess what we got as a wedding present (which was supposed to have been DH''s birthday present from 2007)?

An entire guest bedroom suit?

Harriet: I''m so sorry you are having to deal with this, again. Because of you, FI and I will NEVER ask to stay at his sisters, no matter how large a place she moves into in the future. Stay strong. *HUG*

 

[pixley]

Could your DH not just tell the brat "No." full-stop, and not use the parents as a go between?

BTW - those wedding gifts?

 

[Harriet]

Meresal, Pixley,
Thanks.

Everyone,
My husband saw this thread and is hurt. Out of respect for him, I''ve asked Andrey to close it. Thanks for your support.

 

[Bliss]

Awwwww... I totally understand. Big hugs. Kudos for your husband for sticking to his guns. I think in the long run, it'll be better to feel this sting now than to deal with bigger issues later. It must be so tough. There is always at least one deadbeat relative who guilts other family members so they can mooch/crash/impose/strain relationships. At that age, he has to get a life! That's 4 years after undergrad and unless he's in grad school, he needs to be financially independent!

ETA... sorry to hear this thread hurt your DH's feelings. Posted before I saw that.

 

[vintagecushion]

Harriet, how does your husband feel about this mooching brother?

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 1/19/2009 4:46:01 PM
Author: Harriet

Date: 1/19/2009 4:42:11 PM
Author: platinumrock

Date: 1/19/2009 4:15:53 PM
Author: Harriet
Platinumrock,
Thanks for the hug. I need it. We''ve actually only been married since August. Get this -- they cited the fact that they didn''t ask to stay with us during the wedding as their knowing how to draw boundaries. Hmm.
P.S. Guess what we got as a wedding present (which was supposed to have been DH''s birthday present from 2007)?

As in August 2008? If that''s the case, you are still going through a period of adjustment. It''s very normal with newlywed couples. But 10 years of THIS??!!

I''m sorry but it''s going to take more than that to show understanding of boundaries. How about...umm....when people say no, actually respect it? How about not imposing? How about giving you some privacy and wait to be invited?

I''m dying to know what they gave you for your wedding gift! Please don''t tell me it''s an airbed so it''s easier for them to sleep over

Believe it or not, they have given us an airbed in the past.

No, the pressie was a cuckoo clock!

There......are.....no.....words.....

This is for you. I hope this helps: