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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

Diver, Miss D is just gorgeous!!!! What a lovergirl!!!!!!! And hello, 10 hours????? Are you kidding me? I thought my girl was good with 8.5-9 hours but Delaney has her beat. Can she send some of those vibes over to us please?! We are dealing with teething--so UNfun.
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Regarding hair, mine was really nice during pregnancy but at about 4 months post partum, I started shedding like crazy and I still am. Fortunately I literally have TONS of hair so it''s not noticeable but it is alllll over the place. Can''t wait for it to stop!

ellaila, none of those things happened to me either. It is very interesting though to hear that these things DO happen. I guess just as every labor/delivery is different, I think every doctor/hospital is different too. You just don''t know what you''re going to get...

lili, I have my daughter in daycare and I LOVE it. I''m very lucky that the center is in the building where I work but after this experience, I don''t think I would ever have a nanny--just my opinion, I have nothing against people who have nannies but for me, this is soooo much better. She does lots of great activities, she goes to many different people and most importantly, she is getting socialized. Yes, she''s had a few colds but nothing horrible and it''s good for her immunity. I think you and DH should see if you can find a place near one of your offices, it will make life so much easier for you.
 
Ohmygosh, Curly, Lily is teething already?! Wow, time flies!!! We need new photos of your little angel too -- post ''em, Mom!
 
I shouldn''t even tell you guys this....but Jake slept 8 hours by 8 wks & 12 hours by 4 months. He still sleeps from 8pm to 8 am and also takes a 3 hour nap each day.

I do a bit of sleep training w/ them...but nothing drastic,,,i think its mostly dumb luck & genes. I slept 12 hours a night by 2 months, my mom used to call my ped worried-he told her to call back with a real problem.

As far as how I sleep train...all I do is put them down drowsy but awake as itty bitty infants. Like when I first got D home, I''d put her in her bassinet & she''d either fall asleep or cry. If she cried, I''d try tummy rubs, etc...and if she fell asleep, fine, if she cried I took her to sleep in my arms. Soon she was comfortable with her bed and now she falls asleep on her own.

As they get a little older (and bedtime starts nearing an earlier hour instead of 10 or 11pm) I start the "bedtime stories & lullabye routine". And then when Jake hit about 9 months we had teething related night wakings, so I called his ped and asked what to do, he told me give him Motrin before bed (and told me what dose based off his weight) and not to pick him up -- just check on him, pat him, give him a kiss and leave. So I do the mean "cry it out thing" (but keep in mind he was 9 months old, I only had to do it 2 nights. I could not do CIO with an little baby). On the really BAD teething nights, (the night those suckers bust through--you can tell when its gotten that far) my ped told me what dose of benadryl to give in addition to the motrin to help him sleep. Worked too. LOVE BENADRYL!!!!!!!

Mostly I think its luck that my kids are like me. I still need 9 hours a night. I sleep from 11pm to 8am.

OOPS BIG D IS HONGRY......
 
Congratulation Tacori!!
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Tessa is beautiful...
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Diver, Delaney is sooooo cute.....
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HI Ladies...

I am desperately in need of your advice...

I am in the US for the weekend.. visiting my sister (she is my best friend on this earth.. we arent actually related, we just say that fate gave us different moms)... she is 7 almost 8 months pregnant.. and today she lost her baby boy...

I am attempting to write this between sobs as I dont believe I have ever felt this much pain in my life... I cannot even comprehend what she is going through right now..

First of all.. please pray.. pray with everything you have for her.. Second.. any advice you have on how I can help...

I have an appt. with her gyno tomorrow to begin finding out what my fertility issues are... and then the dr. (if she does not cancel my appt first) is going to deliver my sister''s now still born child.... Hubby and I will be making airport runs to pick up the grandparents.. and are currently taking all phone calls to give information.. I dont know what else to do. her hubby wont let me see her.. just to hold her hand.. kiss her forehead and say "I''m here" and I cant blame him.. I know that she doesnt want to see anyone.. I just feel helpless.. and ughh.. I feel like I am not making any sense.

I have never experienced such grief before.. and I dont know what to do for her...

My heart is breaking for her...

Thank you all so much in advance.
 
Date: 11/15/2007 9:19:16 PM
Author: Jaders731
HI Ladies...

I am desperately in need of your advice...

I am in the US for the weekend.. visiting my sister (she is my best friend on this earth.. we arent actually related, we just say that fate gave us different moms)... she is 7 almost 8 months pregnant.. and today she lost her baby boy...

I am attempting to write this between sobs as I dont believe I have ever felt this much pain in my life... I cannot even comprehend what she is going through right now..

First of all.. please pray.. pray with everything you have for her.. Second.. any advice you have on how I can help...

I have an appt. with her gyno tomorrow to begin finding out what my fertility issues are... and then the dr. (if she does not cancel my appt first) is going to deliver my sister''s now still born child.... Hubby and I will be making airport runs to pick up the grandparents.. and are currently taking all phone calls to give information.. I dont know what else to do. her hubby wont let me see her.. just to hold her hand.. kiss her forehead and say ''I''m here'' and I cant blame him.. I know that she doesnt want to see anyone.. I just feel helpless.. and ughh.. I feel like I am not making any sense.

I have never experienced such grief before.. and I dont know what to do for her...

My heart is breaking for her...

Thank you all so much in advance.
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I am usually a lurker on this thread but after reading this I had to post.
Just over a year ago my brother and sister-in-law lost their daughter the same way. It was actually on her due date. Jaders, I can totally relate to how you feel. It is just heart wrenching to watch someone that you love and care about so deeply experience this loss. I felt completely helpless too, but it sounds like what you are doing is pretty much what I did, and they greatly appreciated it. They need someone to field phone calls, answer the door, and keep track of who calls/brings food etc. We even wrote out the thank-yous after the funeral so they wouldn''t have to do it. I hope her husband lets you see her soon. I really think just being there as someone she can talk to and cry on your shoulder is the most important thing you can do.
Many people say CRAZY stupid things when this happens. Some people act like since it was stillborn that somehow that''s less of a loss. And some people are just plain uncomfortable in these situations. I think recognizing this as the loss of a child and continuing in the future to is so important. It will be so important that she have someone she feels comfortable talking to.
I will be praying for your friend, and for you.
Sorry if I rambled, typing this brought a lot of emotions.
 
Thanks Bobo!

Jaders, I am so sorry to hear about your best friend! That is a horrible thing to have to go through. Do they know why the baby died? My thoughts are with you and her family.
 
Oh, Jaders, I wish I had words of comfort but I just feel so sad for you and your dear friend/sister. I can''t even imagine what it would feel like to suffer such a loss. Life is just so unfair sometimes. My heart and prayers go out to her, her husband, her whole family and her wonderful friends like you. All you can do is be there for her as she goes through every single emotion imaginable, help her get through the days and just let her grieve. I hope she will be able to find peace one day and hopefully will be able to have other children in the future, although nothing will replace this loss. I am so sorry.
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Jaders, this news made me cry. I''m so sorry for your friend. I can''t begin to imagine what that must be like. My thoughts and prayers are with her, her husband, and their families. My thoughts are also with you too. It sounds like you''re such a wonderful person to have in one''s life, and I''m sure your friend will need much support over the coming months.
 
Jaders,
I am so sorry. This is something that brings you to your knees. You are being an awesome friend, fielding the many phone calls, driving the grandparents around. She''s going to need you in the months to come. Big time. My SIL went through this with her very close friend. I think she was about 7 months along. My prayers go out to all of you, and hope you can see her soon.
 
Jaders, I cannot believe what I''m reading, I am in tears for you and your friend. I can''t imagine losing a child that way and my heart just breaks for her & her family. I will pray for her tonight, I can''t imagine having to deliver the baby knowing it will not be alive. oh my God.

I remember reading about a photographer in Seattle who photographs stillborns for parents after delivery. At first, when I read hte first paragraph, I thought "how morbid", but then reading about this photographer''s compassion & kindness, and how she gave the parent something to remember their child by (and the photos are very serene and angelic).

This child is their angel, it is an important baby who touched their lives tremendously and deserves to be remembered & revered as such.

My cousin lost one of her twins at birth when they were born at 25 weeks, his name is Marshall. I was so touched by my aunt''s comment that we had 7 baby boys from all the cousins on that side of the family. I was thinking to myself "I thought it was 6" and then I realized that she was counting Marshall, as we all should, because he is her grandbaby/our family forever, whether he lives in this life or has angel wings.

{{{Big hugs to you all}}}
 
My brother and sister-in-law have photos of their daughter. A photographer came to the hospital and I really think they were so numb at that point they didn''t even think about it, just agreed to it. The photos of Brittney were so well taken and he made a dvd for them with the song "over the rainbow". My dad actually ended up making copies of it and I have a photo of her framed on my desk. When the photographer showed up I really thought "how morbid" also but he did an incredible job with them. They are all black and white, and there are some with my brother''s and his wife''s hands. These photos are so important to them now and I''m so thankful that they were done.
 
Jaders, please send our deepest condolences with your friend. i honestly just do not have the words....
 
Jaders, I''m so sorry.


One of my best friends experienced the same thing. I know how heart wrenching it is, and how hopeless you must feel. Since you can''t see her, just be sure and have her hubby let her know you are there for her when she is ready to talk. And when she is, what I found with my friend was, just listening helped. There is nothing one can say at a time like this, so just let her talk, and be there for her.


I watched 2 of our group basically "drop" my friend for awhile, as they couldn''t totally relate (didn''t have kids yet), and got tired of hearing about it, hearing the same things said over and over. It was sad, and made me all the more determined to be there for her.

It will take time, but she will get through this, and so will you. I wish you both the best. {{{hugs}}}
 
Thank you ladies for your words of comfort.. I will make sure to pass them along...

I still have not seen her...but I understand... I know she doesnt want to see anyone.. and I cannot blame her.

Here is what I know so far and I will try and give you a little background:

She was high risk from the get-go... as she has two uterus'', one functioning ovary, two cervix(es), two vaginal canals that merge to one... at 12 weeks she had cerclage done (stiched her cervix - the one with the baby - shut)... last week she found out that her cervix has started to efface... and so the doctor ordered her to have checkups once a week where she would be hooked up to the fetal monitor... last week she was hooked up for 5 hours, but they found no contractions.. they ran some tests in which they said she would not go into labor in the next two weeks. Yesterday was her weekly appt. with the specialist for fetal monitoring.. and we met for lunch at noon.. she said to me... "I havent felt the baby kick today, but he''s movin around in there" she said it with a smile.. so I didnt think much of it.. but I remembered someone on here bring up the kick count thing.. I forget who that was... I shoved it in the back of my brain.. we ate lunch.. and strolled very slowly to Nordstrom... she had some braxton hicks along the way.. and then sat down when we got to the makeup counter at Nordies... strolled very slowly back to her car where she went on her way to the doc.
I am serioulsy kicking myself as I offered to go with her.. and she told me no.. because it would likely take hours... I should have said "NO, I''m going..." in fact.. I kept saying that in my head.. I knew I should have gone.. I shouldnt have accepted NO... we joke that we share a brain.. and now I believe that more than ever.. I knew I should have gone with her.. I knew it.
My mom spent an hour on the phone with her before I arrived on Wed. She was walking her dog.. and she kept saying.. "Duke wont let me walk him anywhere else.. he is forcing me back to the house" It was almost like the dog knew she shouldnt be walking and she should sit down.

So... today she goes to the hospital at 3 for pre-op stuff... they gave her the choice between a vaginal birth or a cesarian.. and she chose cesarian... so they believe she will have delivered via c-section by around 7. I honestly dont know how she is doing this.... I''ve been doing some reading... and I saw about the photo''s.. I really hope that they do that.. although I dont want to be the one to suggest it.. I know that she has decided she wants to have the baby cremated.. they will be having a service.

The doctors are speculating that the baby had a stroke.. but there is no guarantee that they will find the cause... as only 40-50% of stillbirths will ever have a defined "cause"

OK.. so I have written a small novel here.. just wanted to shed a little more light... I am praying for her sake that this has nothing to do with her body... she wants a baby sooo badly.. and I pray that she will have one...

Thank you all for your prayers and thoughts... I will check in again when I know something.. but I''m pretty sure I will be at the hospital for the rest of the weekend.
 
Oh Jaders, I''m so sorry to hear this ... my thoughts are with your friend and with you right now. What a heartbreaking thing to happen to anyone. I know that you don''t want to be the one to suggest the photos, but I''m sure they''re so numb right now that they may not think of it on their own, so as uncomfortable as you may be doing it, I think it would maybe be the right thing to do. It sounds like it would bring them peace and comfort down the road ....

Your friend will be in my thoughts and prayers this afternoon.
 
Jaders,
There must be a reason why I clicked on this thread today- I am not pregnant or even TTC, but for some reason I did.
And I''m glad I did, so that I can inlcude your friend in my prayers.

I have a friend who lost her baby at 8months. Same thing, no explanation, and she had to be induced and deliver her stillborn baby. They couldn''t find her husband, he was out hunting and she was just going on her weekly appointment so they thought nothing of it. She was alone and that breaks my heart to no end.

You are being such a good friend, keep it up and please know that you, and your friend and her whole family are in my prayers.
 
Jaders-

I am so very sorry to hear this. As many times as I have taken care of a woman with a fetal demise, every time is like the first time- so devastating... I cant even imagine what her and her family are going through. To go through the experience with them is absolutely horrible. There are just some things in life NO ONE should have to suffer through, and this is one of them.....Labor and delivery is usually such a happy place, but when there are bad days and terrible situations( which are not as few and far between as most people think), those days are SO BAD they almost cancel out the good ones.....I will keep your friend and family in my thoughts and prayers....
 
So sorry to hear your news Jaders - you and your sister are in my thoughts and prayers. Gosh, it seems that everyone knows someone who''s gone through this. My boss just went through it a few months ago, although she was only 3 1/2 months along so, she had a D&C. Regardless, it really hits home when you actually see someone going through such a horrible loss.
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Oh Jaders, I am so terribly sorry to hear this. Liike MrsSalvo, I really don''t have the words...just the heart. Please pass on my condolences.
 
Jaders,
I am very sorry for your friend and her family. The pain must feel unbearable. I just can''t find the right words to express my sympathy and shock.
 
Jaders, I'm so sorry to hear this. I have a friend who lost one of her twin daughters. When she told me that the babies came early and one was in heaven I was heartbroken. It's so devastating and I can't imagine what these parents go through. No one should have to suffer that loss. My thoughts are with your friend and you. Please send my deepest condolences to your friend.
 
Jaders, I''m so sorry to hear this, it bring tears to my eyes...I can''t imagine how ur friend feel right now. I''m currently 7 months pregnant so this really hit home for me. Your friend and her family are in my prayers.

I pray all the preggo ladies here a safe and healthy pregnancy and delivery....
 
Jaders,
I''m so sorry to hear. My thoughts and prayers to your friend/sister and you.
 
Jaders,

I'm so, so sorry. Your sister is in our thoughts.
 
Jaders, I am sorry for your sister, you, your whole family. Very sad
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Lili, I''ve been thinking about middle names for Jadelyn (by the way, some sites let you search by number of syllables -- babycenter has a good name finder). Here are some one- and two-syllable names that I think sound nice with it. Obviously, this is just my opinion, so I''m not offended if you don''t like any!

Jadelyn Rose
Jadelyn Callie (meaning: beautiful) or Kali (meaning: a maiden, a bud)
Jadelyn Eva (meaning: giver of life) or Ava (meaning: like a bird)
Jadelyn Grace (meaning: Grace of God)
Jadelyn Claire (meaning: illustrious)
Jadelyn Kaia or Kaya (meaning: pure)
Jadelyn Sara or Sarah (meaning: princess)

Can you tell that I''m already bored with being unemployed and too uncomfortable to do much other than sit on the couch?
 
Date: 11/16/2007 6:31:24 PM
Author: ellaila
Lili, I''ve been thinking about middle names for Jadelyn (by the way, some sites let you search by number of syllables -- babycenter has a good name finder). Here are some one- and two-syllable names that I think sound nice with it. Obviously, this is just my opinion, so I''m not offended if you don''t like any!

Jadelyn Rose
Jadelyn Callie (meaning: beautiful) or Kali (meaning: a maiden, a bud)
Jadelyn Eva (meaning: giver of life) or Ava (meaning: like a bird)
Jadelyn Grace (meaning: Grace of God)
Jadelyn Claire (meaning: illustrious)
Jadelyn Kaia or Kaya (meaning: pure)
Jadelyn Sara or Sarah (meaning: princess)

Can you tell that I''m already bored with being unemployed and too uncomfortable to do much other than sit on the couch?
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I actually don''t love the name Rose, but I think it sounds really nice with Jadelyn. It flows and is pretty. I like the one syllable middle name.

I like the name Kaia too but not sure if I love the two names together.
 
I dont know if everyone knows about this or not so I thought I''d post it. You can get a baby''s birth greeting postcard from President and Mrs. Bush. It''s nice to put in the baby''s book or keepsake box. https://app1.whitehouse.gov/greetings/home they also do:

BIRTHDAY GREETING
A birthday card will be sent to individuals celebrating their 80th (or greater) birthday. Please make your request at least 6 weeks in advance of the birthday.
WEDDING GREETING
A wedding card will be sent to couples after the event. Please make your request after the wedding.
ANNIVERSARY GREETING
An anniversary card will be sent to couples who are celebrating their 50th (or greater) wedding anniversary. Please make your request at least 6 weeks in advance of the anniversary

I think it''s kind of neat.
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Date: 11/16/2007 6:51:29 PM
Author: VegasAngel

I dont know if everyone knows about this or not so I thought I''d post it. You can get a baby''s birth greeting postcard from President and Mrs. Bush. It''s nice to put in the baby''s book or keepsake box. https://app1.whitehouse.gov/greetings/home they also do:

BIRTHDAY GREETING
A birthday card will be sent to individuals celebrating their 80th (or greater) birthday. Please make your request at least 6 weeks in advance of the birthday.

WEDDING GREETING
A wedding card will be sent to couples after the event. Please make your request after the wedding.

ANNIVERSARY GREETING
An anniversary card will be sent to couples who are celebrating their 50th (or greater) wedding anniversary. Please make your request at least 6 weeks in advance of the anniversary

I think it''s kind of neat.
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LOL...I guess it IS kind of neat, but TGuy would be HORRIFIED to have anything linking our baby and Dubya together. I may have to do it just to freak him out.
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