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I wholeheartedly agree with you! I don't know why some women get like this, it's so selfish and - well, it's mean, really, I think.Date: 10/18/2008 10:32:02 AM
Author: sk8rjen
Anyway, I'm sorry this is SOOOOOOOOOO long, but I really needed to vent b/c I feel like he totally went against my wishes on purpose and now I have to deal with the most self-centered lady in the WHOLE world on the day I should be trying not to stress!!!! It's not like she's not going to see the girls right after they are born, ya know?
jen
37w3d
She's had kids herself, and she knows just what an experience it is... why should she set terms for your birth?
Lots of animals go away quietly to birth in private... and I when the time came I really wanted to do the same, quite frankly. Particularly for the final stages! (just when everyone's crowding round!!!)
My mother and my sister came to my first birth, and I have to say, I felt it was more for their benefit (particularly in my mother's case) than for mine. When they got the forceps out, my mother started taking photos!!!?! What's with that?
For the second birth, my husband started a little campaign to get his mother in on the act instead (equal time and all

My answer? That I was not a performing monkey, and I needed privacy to birth. Luckily, I went early, avoiding the whole issue.
For this next birth in April, if family's around, family can wait (and wait!!) in the lobby. Or preferably, in the comfort of my living room at home, so I don't have to worry about them hearing me.
I'm sorry your m-i-l is creating a wedge issue on this. Unless YOU particularly have a very close relationship with her, and feel she would offer YOU direct emotional support at the birth, she has no business being there. Her son needs to stand up to her.