Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers

[Courtneylub]

Oh and Mela, the sex thing I''d rather not get into. I''ll just put it simply, either he''s too tired or I''m too tired.

 

[natalina]

NYC- your twins are just adorable! So glad to hear they should be coming home tomorrow. Don''t be ashamed of your decision not to BF. Many people make that decision, and many women that intend to BF, can''t. You have to do what''s best for you, and no one has any right to comment on that. Especially with twins, my goodness! I know it can be done, but just reading here how much of a struggle BF''ing one baby can be- I cannot even imagine TWO! As far as the house/mess goes, I think Pandora''s right. Now is not the time to stress about that. Now is the time to set your priorities: taking care of babies and taking care of YOU. Everything else can wait. Much easier said than done, I know, but it the grand scheme of things, isn''t that really all that matters right now? Spend this time with your DH figuring out your two new miracles and taking care of yourself. It sounds like you have a lot of supportive family to help out, too. Let everyone help, or know that it''s ok to give them all the boot for a while and hole up with babes and DH if that''s what you need. I hope your pain gets better soon.

Amber- I hear ya on just feeling puffy and fat. That''s how I''ve been feeling for a while now. I''m still not into maternity clothes, but the pieces of my regular wardrobe that still fit right are getting fewer by the day. Think I may have to break down and a.) buy some mat clothes soon and b.) tell my boss!

Still haven''t done that yet! I work in retail and baby is due Oct. 10th, so I will miss our busy season- she''s going to be a bit flustered by this! (Although all of her kids were born around that time too, so she will understand) I did notice last night that my pudge under my belly button is feeling distinctly more firm and "full", so baby belly here I come!

Pandora/Court/Robbie- The stories about DH''s behaving badly at prenatal classes ae too funny!

Courtney- I seriously laughed out loud about your husband''s text to his friends! Mine is a HUGE sports fan, and kudos to you for even getting yours to go during the final four! I know if the Bears or Cubs are playing during one of our classes, I will be going ALONE! And I hope Alila cooperates with the eviction notice! I''m so excited to "meet" her! Hope you feel better soon!

Mela- YAY for maternity leave!!! So excited for you! Will you post pics of the nursery when it''s done? I want to see

!



15 wks 5 days today!

 

[ljmorgan]

NYC I''m glad that you got your prescription filled today, get back on those meds! The nurses told me not to make the mistake of missing doses and letting it get out of my bloodstream... it looks like you and I have both made that mistake at one point! I went 12 hours without the percocet once and was in a lot of pain. I don''t know if the really bad pain at one part of the incision is normal because I remember reading so many of the women on my forum were different. I can tell you that I DON''T have one part that is excruciating if I miss my meds. How does the incision look, is it very red where you feel the pain? If it''s just pain and the percocet stays on top of it, I''d give it a few more days and see how it feels, you''re not even a week out yet. If it looks red or there are other signs of trouble, you should probably give your doctor a call. Poor girl, the last thing that you need is an infection. Part of my incision looks red and I am keeping a very close eye on it. It''s hard to tell if it''s just irritated or if it could lead to an infection. My doctor sent home a paper that said if there''s any redness, you''re supposed to call them. But I mean... it''s a deep surgical incision, I can''t imagine there should be no redness?? I just take good care of it, letting soap run over it in the shower, rinse well, and dry very very well. My stomach doesn''t totally overlap the incision, but it''s in a crease where my tummy sticks out right above it, and my stomach sticks out about an inch further than right under my incision. So trying to keep it dry...

fisher I think that''s a lovely way that your Grandpa explained your uncle''s situation -- the words are very comforting.

Pandora I agree that it feels very unfair. I was so devastated and even angry that my milk would come in, it just felt so unfair. Another mother of a stillborn child told me that it brought her comfort, that it seemed like her body''s way of trying to make amends, as if to say "see, I really wanted this child" because she felt like her body failed her by not giving birth to a healthy live child. I personally don''t feel that way, it just makes me sad, but also proud that my body could do this. I''m a lot more comfortable now, the milk was most uncomfortable Saturday and then Sunday -- I was huge and they were rock hard and very painful. They''ve since "gone down" and I could deal with this for a while. Slightly uncomfortable, and there is still milk there, I expressed a tiny bit this morning to see. But my breasts are much softer and aren''t painful, so I feel much better.

Also, I don''t know how you didn''t murder your husband... I would have been so annoyed!

Courtney I remember being so impressed that Blenheim was going for 4 mile walks! I was so uncomfortable I hated walking across the parking lot! I don''t blame you one bit.

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 4/21/2009 10:22:44 AM
Author: nycbkgirl
Thanks ladies. I gave in my prescrip today. We are at bru returning the car seats..my sis and dh are in and im in car. I was hysterically crying this morning. Everything just got to me ...I looked at my house and just couldn''t believe what a disaster ...it looks like a tornado hit. Dh and family were there last nite putting things together, washing babies'' clothes and setting up, while I slept. I don''t blame them for such a mess...I blame myself for being unable to function and take care of my lo''s. I cant even go to the bathroom w.o. Dh''s help. Im so upset but im hopeful it will pass soon.

We are headed to the hospital to hopefully take them home.

I haven''t showered in a week!..sorry just picture that!

Will try to get bak to all of u individually once I get on my feet.

NYC-Don''t be too hard on yourself. Let everyone else help out with the cleaning and putting things together and you focus only on healing. Even when the babies come home, let your family take care of feeding/changing until you feel up to it. Your DH sounds wonderful and really helpful!

Court-I''m not nearly as close as you are and find myself completely uninterested in sex. It''s not even on my radar at this point. Hope you feel better and that Alila understands mommy''s eviction notice haha

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 4/21/2009 11:27:47 AM
Author: fieryred33143

Date: 4/21/2009 10:22:44 AM

Court-I''m not nearly as close as you are and find myself completely uninterested in sex. It''s not even on my radar at this point.

I''m going to give a big fat ditto to this. Poor DH keeps trying and I keep getting annoyed. I told him he needs to just learn to read my mind.

 

[fieryred33143]

A question:

I have to travel at 30 weeks to Vegas. It''s a 5 hour flight. I''m having a really hard time deciding whether to take a direct flight or one with stops. The benefit of having stops is that I''m not stuck in one place for 5 hours. The longest period between the flights is 1.5 hours so I can grab a good meal and walk around before flying again. But someone on the bump mentioned that it would be better to go through the pressure changes just once rather than twice because its the pressure changes that causes preterm labor. I think at 30 weeks I should be fine but I have no idea which option to choose. I''m going to call my doctor after their 2 hour lunch break. Just thought I would ask you all what you think...

 

[puffy]

fierry i travelled when when i was just about 32 weeks preggo and the flight was a bit over 5 hours. it was hard to stay in one place, but not that bad. also you''ll be getting up a lot to use the restroom, and just try to get up as much as possible to walk and stretch. i personally would take a direct flight.

hope all the preggos are doing great!!

 

[peonygirl]

Lindsey, I'm very sorry to hear about your milk and any distress it's causing you.

It sounds like it's going down now, but just in case here are some tips from a website written by parents who have lost babies: http://www.glowinthewoods.com/how-to-stop-lactation/. *huge hugs*


Thanks for the info, Mandarine and Neatfreak! Mandarine, are you getting the blood tests done at all? I wasn't sure! There is an journal article that seems to suggest that adding biochemical markers leads to enhanced risk assessment, but I need to get more info on this. I might get DH to look into this since I'm in the middle of finals and have no time. Here's the article btw:
http://download.journals.elsevierhealth.com/pdfs/journals/0002-9378/PIIS0002937807008137.main-abr.pdf



Hope everyone is doing well! I can't wait until my applications are in (only six more weeks!) and I have more time to respond to people.

 

[Mandarine]

Peony, thanks for the article! I am getting the blood test done as well. I know it''s not as accurate, but if I get a positive indication from the nuchal u/s and some less than desirable numbers from the blood tests, then I would still feel comfortable with those results.
My friend that just had twins had good results with both the u/s and the blood test...she knew the blood test wasn''t as accurate, but it did give her the "positive" indication that everything was ok. I guess it''s just a personal decision, so just go with what''s right for you guys and talk to your Dr.

Are you showing yet?. Yesterday my belly seemed to grow all of the sudden...maybe I''m the only one that notices, we''ll see if you guys notice on BPF!.

M~

 

[sbde]

nycbkgirl: just wanted to pop in and congratulate you on your babies - both of them are just beautiful! enjoy these first few weeks with them, they go by so quickly!! hope your pain dissipates soon, recovery was quite a drag for me too even though i didn't have a csec. btw it is OK and totally normal to cry - this is an emotional, overwhelming albeit magical time and trust me it helps to just have a cry and let it all out.

lindsey: just wanted to let you know that you are still in my thoughts everyday *hug*

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Hey everyone! Im back from my appt. I ended up having a regular ultrasound and a trans-vag (due to having to keep an eye on my cervical length) The baby was being a lil BOOGER and kept its legs crossed and wouldn''t show the goods during the reg. U/S. Which is why I am SOOOOOO glad they had to do the Trans...cuz THATS where we got the $$$$$$ shot! Im so excited. I have 2 U/S pics to share. OH ...my due date changed from 9/15/09 to 9/9/09! how cool is that date? lol. My Bday is Sept 6th...so thats pretty neat. Well here''s the U/S pics...

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

here''s the 2nd.... (and to all you that did my poll and said boy...ITS A BOY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! My gut was right from day 1!!!!!!! Im SOOOOOOOO excited!!!!!!!!

 

[robbie3982]

Congrats, Sapphire! I forget, do you have a name picked out?

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/21/2009 3:27:20 PM
Author: robbie3982
Congrats, Sapphire! I forget, do you have a name picked out?

We have 3 names picked out that we like. We had a 4th but DH nixed it cuz he didnt like it with our last name. The nixed name was Desmond. Our 3 choices are: Logan, Liam and Connor. All with the middle name Jack. I think we MAY wait to see him to make the final decision. Not certain yet

 

[ChinaCat]

Congrats Sapphire Cutie!

 

[robbie3982]

Date: 4/21/2009 3:29:53 PM
Author: Sapphire_Cutie

Date: 4/21/2009 3:27:20 PM

Author: robbie3982

Congrats, Sapphire! I forget, do you have a name picked out?

We have 3 names picked out that we like. We had a 4th but DH nixed it cuz he didnt like it with our last name. The nixed name was Desmond. Our 3 choices are: Logan, Liam and Connor. All with the middle name Jack. I think we MAY wait to see him to make the final decision. Not certain yet

Awe, cute! Jack is our boy middle name. Logan is one of my faves, but DH vetoed.

Desmond is on our list.

 

[Sapphire_Cutie]

Date: 4/21/2009 3:47:31 PM
Author: robbie3982

Date: 4/21/2009 3:29:53 PM
Author: Sapphire_Cutie

Date: 4/21/2009 3:27:20 PM

Author: robbie3982

Congrats, Sapphire! I forget, do you have a name picked out?

We have 3 names picked out that we like. We had a 4th but DH nixed it cuz he didnt like it with our last name. The nixed name was Desmond. Our 3 choices are: Logan, Liam and Connor. All with the middle name Jack. I think we MAY wait to see him to make the final decision. Not certain yet

Awe, cute! Jack is our boy middle name. Logan is one of my faves, but DH vetoed.

Desmond is on our list.

Jack is DH''s grandpas name whom passed away. Im a lil jealous you get to keep Desmond lol. We liked it when you said Desmond Jack ........ together. But he didnt like Desmond with just our last name. I think it was cuz it woulda been double D''s lol.

 

[Kaleigh]

Congrats Sapphire Cutie. I love the name Logan, it''s acutally a famiily name of our''s.

 

[Sabine]

Congrats Sapphire! Welcome to team blue!

Glad to hear I''m not the only one not gettin'' any! Courtney, hang in there!

Lindsey, I''m so sorry you had to deal with your milk coming in. I think trying to look at it as your body trying to prove that it IS up for doing the whole baby thing is a good way to think about it, but I can imagine it''s hard. I''m sorry you have to deal with it. I''m sorry to ask, but when do you get the autopsy results back? I''m really hoping that will reveal the most positive outcome possible and that it will provide you with some comfort.

NYC, please take care of yourself and let everyone else take care of EVERYTHING else! Those twinks of yours aren''t going to notice a messy house or if everything is perfect for them, they will just be comfy and cozy with their mama once they get home!

All your dh stories are so funny from the birthing classes! I''m excited to start our classes next month! But I''m sure dh will be pretty disengaged from it. I don''t know, him being a med. student, he feels like he''s as prepared as he needs to be, but I definitely don''t!

My dh also went from majorly being in the dog house today to being okay again. Since I''m sick, he asked me if I wanted anything this morning, and I said, yes, I need more kleenex with lotion (on my 3rd box already) and I left the Vicks at school so I need more of that. I also asked him to drop off library books that were due today. This was at 7 this morning since I really didn''t sleep much last night. By noon, he was still in his pj''s playing video games, so I went out and got the stuff myself. I was NOT happy. But he made up for it this afternoon when he offered to drive all the way in to school for me to drop off some papers/plans so that I could take off again tomorrow. Now if I could only get some sleep I''d be a much happier camper.

 

[snlee]

Congrats Sapphire_Cutie! Welcome to team blue!

 

[AmberWaves]

Sapphire, congrats on your little boy!

I just got back from my 9wk appointment (she wanted to see me three weeks after the other appointment because the baby measured too small to examine), and I'm measuring 9w1d, the baby had a strong heartbeat (We heard it!!) of 185 bpm, and we could see it's little nubs! We scheduled our 12 week appointment for the 12th of May. Wow. We have a baby!!

ETA: apologies for the crappy pic, I took it a sec before we were being seen, and I'm at work now.

 

[Mandarine]

Congrats on the BOY Saphire!!!!!!!!

Amber Congrats on the good appointment!!! Isn''t it just crazy to see the little one in there??!!. The baby looks like a precious little gummy bear!

 

[Kaleigh]

Yay Amber!! It''s amazing isn''t it??

 

[Pandora II]

Congratulations Sapphire - yay for a boy!

Sabine and Courtney - I''m here in celibacy land as well. Frankly I have neither the inclination or the energy and I don''t think DH is much into my alien legs right now, so I think that form of bringing on labour is out... I get lots of cuddles and spoiling so I''m a happy bunny nevertheless.

I practiced baby fingernail clipping on the hedgehogs this afternoon - I cannot believe that any baby could wriggle more than Lego and at least they won''t try to sink their teeth into you at the same time and don''t have prickles!

Have nearly finished washing all the baby clothes and my list is looking pretty much done - just missing a feeding pillow. I''ve been looking at the My Brest Friend ones as they have the built in back support and great reviews, but I have no idea what really works and haven''t found a shop with a big selection for trying out for comfort etc. I worry mainly because my back still goes even just propped up on pillows in bed to read a book. Does anyone have any other suggestions of good brands to consider?

I''m working on the hospital bag list - they don''t give you anything at all over here so I have to do a second bag for DH to bring in mid-week since I''m there so long. How many baby clothes do you get through in a day do you think? Is two onesies a day plus a sleeping-gown or swaddling cloth okay do you think? Plus how many nappies and how many maternity pads do you need a day?

Also have to take my own pillows for both labour and after - I have a load of old IKEA ones that can be chucked out afterwards and bought a load of navy blue pillowcases at the supermarket for them. I''m going to need a porter to get to the delivery room at this rate!

 

[phoenixgirl]

NYC, such cuties!!!

Lindsey, I''m thinking about you today. I imagine that it being the same day of the week brings back memories, not that you could have forgotten. I hope your breasts feel better soon.

Pandora, I do hope the swelling lets up.

Courtney, ugh, I hope your boss took your doctor''s note ok. What kind of unfeeling robot is she?


My friend''s husband is doing surprisingly well in that he appears to have no brain damage and can walk and communicate by writing. But he can''t currently eat, talk, or breathe through his nose/mouth and requires lots and lots of surgery.

A friend outted me as pregnant on Facebook; she posted a side shot of me and wrote that it was my three month pudge in the picture. I can''t decide if I should untag the picture. I already have my privacy settings so that only people I really want to know about my life can see my pictures, but this could lead to wall comments, etc. I would never post a questionable picture of somebody else but that''s not how this person thinks. It''s kind of an experiment to see if anybody ever actually looks at my pictures. At this point we''re openly telling everyone as it comes up so I guess I''ll leave it. If heaven forbid anything happens then I can delete stuff.

Today''s the first day I haven''t taken any Zofran. I feel a little queasy, but no more so than how I felt when it was the worst even when I took Zofran. So yay for almost being in the second trimester (two more days)!

I really will post a belly pic this Friday. Really!

 

[ChinaCat]

Sabine- Ugh, sorry you are still so sick. My DH is great in many ways, but isn''t so sympathetic when I am sick. He will constantly ask me what''s wrong. I''m like, how many ways can I tell you I JUST DON''T FEEL GOOD!

But then he will come home and surprise me with ice cream, so I forgive him.

Amber- Yay for the u/s and the good appointment! It''s cool to hear the hb, isn''t it??? Wow, I was just thinking about some of your sad (and yet always very funny) posts on the TTC thread, and isn''t it amazing how all it takes is one positive test, and here you are! So happy for you and your Paul. How''s everything else going? Still loving your new apartment?


Phoenix- I got outed on FB too, and I wasn''t thrilled about it. Luckily, it was WAY past when I had told most people. I was very careful to let people know not to post on FB before I told work and such. Ended up being ok, let a lot of people know without me having to track everyone down. Glad you had a great birthday, btw! Happy belated!

Pandora- Now you are getting so close! Are you getting nervous, excited?

All is good here. Have a general appt tomorrow, nothing exciting. Think I have to do the GD test soon. Hope it''s not tomorrow- they would have mentioned it, right? I have been feeling under the weather today, my throat is killing me. But can''t get sick until Thursday, so trying to take it easy. I took two "naps" this morning before I even got to work. Need to sign up for classes, do the nursery, close on our house.

Hope everyone is doing okay.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 4/21/2009 5:43:55 PM
Author: Pandora II

I''m working on the hospital bag list - they don''t give you anything at all over here so I have to do a second bag for DH to bring in mid-week since I''m there so long. How many baby clothes do you get through in a day do you think? Is two onesies a day plus a sleeping-gown or swaddling cloth okay do you think? Plus how many nappies and how many maternity pads do you need a day?

Honestly babies sleep so much in the first days that they just wore diapers and were swaddled in blankets the entire time they were in the hospital. If you want to bring something I would bring the side snap kimono shirts as they won''t irritate Daisy''s umbilical cord. Regular onesies can bother it.

As for diapers-bring a truckload. A new baby can go through one an hour sometimes! But it drops down a lot after a few weeks.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Celibacy Well good to get practice at it now because it won''t get any more frequect after baby is born! If anything you want it less

Clipping nails Milk-drunk babies don''t move, so its easy to clip them at that time.

Nursing pillow Honestly, I just use a regular pillow angled accross my lap. The nursing pillow never worked for me. More important than the pillow is the chair, IMO. You can stuff a couple pillows behind your back to keep you supported and then put one or two regular pillows piled in your lap, depending on how big you (*)(*) are

Bigger boobs hang lower... mine are so ridiculous that Hunter can almost nurse laying on the floor!

 

[sunkist]

Date: 4/21/2009 1:28:29 AM
Author: *Lindsey*
sunkist are you Mormon?

Ya I am

I''m glad your family is so supportive

Mela thanks for comments on taking omega-3s. I think either of those bottles I saw at the store will be fine then. Thanks!

Sapphire and Amber the photos of your babes are so cute!

Lucky ducks!

 

[natalina]

Sapphire- Yay on team blue! How exciting! Love your name choices!

Amber- so happy you got to see your little one and hear the heartbeat! Isn''t it amazing?!?!?