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Date: 9/5/2007 8:26:49 PM
Author: curlygirl
MommaBear, CONGRATULATIONS!!!!! Woohoooo!!!!!! I'm so happy for you. I was newly pregnant this time last year and had my baby on May 5 so I'll be anxiously watching your progress. May is a great time to have a baby. I'm so excited for you!!!![]()
Tacori, I'm glad you are liking your classes. I absolutely HATED mine. DH and I basically drew pictures and wrote silly notes to each other the whole time. Those videos just KILLED me. I was in tears watching one of them and I totally turned my back on the c-section one. As I've said, I give women who have unmedicated births so much credit but it was definitely not for me and those videos certainly didn't help make the case to not have an epidural!
diver, you are so wise! I agree with everything you said! Jake is so darn cute! I love the feeding the monkey shots. He's going to be an awesome big bro! I can't believe you are due so soon. I keep checking here to see if you've gone early.
And as the wise lady said, as a woman in labor, you are entitled to have pain relief. It was one of the first things my nurse asked me while I was screaming out in pain! I made it to 5 cm but not really by choice--I was at 3 when I got to the hospital and my water broke immediately and I went to 5 in the blink of an eye! The epidural did not slow me down at all. I was fully dilated in less than an hour after it was inserted. I was very fortunate to have a 'mind reader' nurse and I think that made things so much better for me. She was absolultely wonderful and took great care of me. I think Dani would be one of those nurses, I wish we could all have someone like that. I literally fell in love with her in those few hours we were together! But diver is right, speak up for what you want. It's your body, your baby. As long as you're not doing anything to put yourself or your baby in jeopardy, you should get what you want.
TGal, good luck tomorrow. I too hope that blob is gone. And I was lurking on the other thread and I agree with Ellen!![]()
jas, nothing is gross anymore--you're pregnant and gross things happen!!! You should definitely try to take your prenatal vitamin at night and on a full stomach. I would take mine right before bed and avoided all nausea that way.
mrssalvo, I hope you start feeling better soon. It must be so rough to have to be 'on' with the girls while you're feeling crappy. I hope it goes away fast!
ellaila, LOVE that bedding. Sooo nice. And I love that you are our resident expert on twins!! So much information out there--who knew?!
As for me, Lily is officially 4 months old today! Where has the time gone?!?! She's growing way too fast for me. She's still an absolute doll, smiling and 'talking' all the time. She's sitting up with assistance even though she tries to do it on her own, holding her bottle and putting everything in her mouth including her toes! She is really tons of fun and while it's exhausting to work all day and be a mom, I'm loving every minute of it. DH and I had hit a rough patch because it's definitely hard to add a 3rd person to the mix but I think we've figured things out and are getting into a groove so things are good again. I know, I know, I have to stop sounding so happy. Things aren't perfect because that wouldn't be real life but they are pretty darn good so I ain't complaining!![]()
Date: 9/5/2007 7:29:46 PM
Author: divergrrl
Tacori: I'd rather go through childbirth than have any dental work done on my lower jaw. Mastitis hurt worse than childbirth for me. Yeah, it can be hard, (I had a good one, so I'm a bad one to comment...epidural, fall asleep at 2cm, wake up ready to push a few hours later, push for 25 mins, feel no pain, have healthy baby, so mine kind of rocked)....in all honesty...if I could get a GUARANTEE that this labor would be like that, I'd be like 'bring on baby!'...lol...but there's that fibroid...dang kids, always throwing us parents for a loop-de-loop. My advice is...if your epidural (if you want one) does not take, or is spotty, or one sided, get that anesthesiologist back in to re-insert or tweak it. My friend Kelly was numb from the thighs down, not quite right....but of course, it was her first, so she had no idea....you have every right to proper pain management if you desire it, so DON'T TAKE NO for an answer.
Also, be forewarned...and if Dani is lurking she might be able to comment, nurses sometimes fall into 2 camps. The 'newer' breed, more recent grads (last 10 years or so) who believe in pain management & staying in front of your pain. Then you have the older school camps who think you need to labor longer before an epi, or maybe you don't need percoset after delivery...etc. You have to damn near BEG them to give you something. My mom is a nurse, so she warned me & gave me the 'pain management is a patient right' speech before I went in. When my nurse told me 2cm was too early to have an epi, I pointed to a sign in my room that said that very thing and told her 'no, I want it now, my doctor said I could have it as soon as I wanted it, please get the nurse anesthetist'. She fought me a little until my dh said 'should I just call Dr. Coleman and see what he says?' Uhh...yeah, that shut her up & my nurse anesthetist was in my room in 5 minutes flat. (she was a great nurse otherwise)
So please know that you MUST be willing to be your own advocate, and don't by shy about asking for what you need, and if asking doesn't get it, don't be afraid to DEMAND it. Politely of course, but unless you luck out and get a mind reader for a nurse, you have to speak up, which is hard for many women to do. Me? I don't shut up, and as long as I'm nice to my nurses, I don't worry about offending them, they are NOT the ones giving birth, I am, so its easy for me to be persistent and pushy if need be. LOL.
OH...also...they'll give you the run around about needing to be at 4cm before an epi or it will slow labor...but...some newer studies are showing its not so much what you are dilated at but how much pain you can tolerate. Of course, again, debatable & controversial (childbirth is a hotbed these days) but totally personal IMO. And the 'we need to turn down your epi so you can push' business, yeah, I flat out refused that. I MADE them give me a boost at 9cm...because my epi wore off.
Same thing if you don't want interventions. You can say NO to IV's, fetal monitoring, internal exams, artificial rupture of membranes, etc no matter what they tell you as long as things are fine. My friend Nicole had her husband advocate for her, they kept trying to give her an IV. She didn't want one, and her pregnancy was perfectly normal. She wanted NO drugs, and she did not let anyone break her waters. Her water broke while she was pushing and that's just fine. Very natural. She also delivered on her hands & knees, because that is what felt right, eased her pain & discomfort. The staff tried to get her to lay down on her back & she refused to & delivered her way. Hands & knees can be a very good position to deliver in. She did it with both her girls. Her birth stories are powerful and amazing. So night & day different from me, but awe inspiring none the less. I am very proud of her for sticking to her guns...she had uncomplicated, un-fettered births.
You can go on you tube and find birth videos....key words 'unassisted birth' show women delivering naturally in varying positions. Very educational.
Ya know, I don't numb in my lower jaw at all & I need a root canal. I wonder if I can get an epidural for that too. LOL!
TGal: I wish you luck tomorrow at your u/s! Blobby be gone!!! poof!
I have a DA tomorrow....I am meeting the other doctor who will be delivering me...finally...I am wondering if I have dilated/effaced at all, because I've been having cramps/contractions for a few days now. The cramps ache, and last HOURS. Its like I'm about to get AF. My contractions don't hurt, but they are getting more, umm, interesting. Watch..I'll hang like this for the next few weeks. Wouldn't that be rich? LOL.
Jas: ugh on the m/s...try taking your prenatal at night before bed with some food. (crackers and milk) I found the fancy prenatals made me sick, so with both of my pregnancies I switched to the Safeway Generic brand of prenatal. No sickies, just as good. Good luck at your u/s, I understand your nerves, its exciting and scary. You'll have a wonderful time.
Mrs. S Sorry on your m/s too! That's what I had with both these kids, 24/7 m/s, but it was way worse with Jakey than with little girl here. Boys are wonderful, you'll love having one, they are so sweet, and one dimensional. LOL. not complicated...this girl business has me worried. My son is gentle, soft spoken, funny, easy going, & I hear girls are tougher. Is that true or just some crud people make up?
ok....back with pics of Jake practicing to be a big brother..
Date: 9/6/2007 2:43:22 AM
Author: divergrrl
Momma Bear: Congratulations!!!! I told my dh the first time by buying a baby outfit from baby gap & wrapping it up --gave it to him on our anniversary. With #2, I gave him a box with a pee stick in it. LOL. I did surprise my mom by having my son wear an 'I'm the big brother' tshirt. You could also get him a cheesy 'worlds greatest dad' hat. I'm really excited for you, I followed your earlier posts about your ring & it sounds like your DH is just a great guy...how wonderful for you both.
Dani: There you are! Congrats on getting married in 3 weeks! Yay! How exciting! You'll have to give us a link to your wedding photos, I would love to see your dress, etc. Have a wonderful day! You are so preachin' to the choir, I am of the same opinion of you, but as you are probably well aware, there is a huge controversy over the cascade of interventions & current obstetrical model being responsible for increased c-section rates (and that is the tip of the iceberg). While I prefer all things medical: hospital setting, nurses, doctors, meds, IV's, fetal monitoring (those things give me comfort & security), I do have some very good friends who are firmly in the other camp & I felt in the issue of fairness to at least put it out there what some of the other side thinks. (I'm such a Libra....balance...both sides...yada yada) Personally.... I big puffy heart the epidural...And yeah...I read quite a bit...I tend to obsess over this kind of stuff.![]()
So Dani...quick question...how long can I walk around feeling crampy and having crazy braxton hicks? They've definitely upped a notch the last few days and I'll have menstrual cramps for hours on end. I also feel like I'm getting lightening bolts of pain shooting out my hoo-haaand walking through the grocery store, going up and down stairs or exerting myself very little (i.e. walking & I'm a very fit preggo) makes my stomach hard as a rock & I have to stop. I have an exam tomorrow at 2...but I don't recall this with Jake. oh the adventure.![]()
Ellaila: I love that bedding! Jakes was partly velvet with a soft chamois on the other side. He calls it 'big soft blankie'. You'll have to touch it to see if its super soft & right, or too stiff. Can you order one set & return it if you don't like it? I love all your 'twin' lessons, it is so cool to learn about multiples. It really is a different ball game.
Thanks everyone for your Jakey comments...I think he's a doll, but I'm so biased its not funny. He's my little boyfriend, just a sweetie pie.
Hi Skippy, Snlee & Kaleigh!
WEll I should sleep (laptop in bed) but I keep thinking of more things I could do aroudn the house. Somebody stop me. I baked banana bread tonight. It's taking all my willpower not to get up and start making zucchini bread. Lord.