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hi all.....last night i felt as if the baby moved down like a corkscrew into the pelvic area...i''ve had pressure all day down there and now some back pain...is this the start of labor or just some more discomfort?
 
Burk and snlee-

Thanks for the link and the information. I hadn't considered that it could delay vocal communication, but I'm sure it's possible. Neither of the parents mentioned speaking delays, though two 18-month-olds are a pretty small sample size! They did say that one was much more eager to use the signs to communicate than the other, who was- and still is- more internal. Different personalities, I guess.

I'll absolutely do more research before putting it into practice.
 
Yep, Co uses sign. There are about 5 he uses on a daily basis that are really helpful (tired, eat, more, bath, ) i did noticed kids using sign in place of talking when i worked at a daycare, and i didn''t plan to use it with my son, but i have to admit it is very adorable and helpful at times. Now he is combining sign with talking. He''ll sign ''tired'' and i''ll say "do you want a nap" and he''s respond with "yep" which he can vocalize now.


NYC--the only definite sign of labor is actually *being* in labor
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It''s anyone''s guess. I remember my son head butting and twisting his head while in the womb
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It was the oddest sensation, painful and happened several times the week before i went into labor. Maybe it''s something like that !!...
 
Ok, that was not a fun appointment.
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We''d only met with this Dr. once before at the first appointment, so 30 weeks ago exactly. I liked her at that appointment and she was actually the one I dealt with on the phone when I was having the miscarriage. At this appointment it was a totally different story. I felt like she was very defensive and almost offended that I had questions and preferences. I don''t know if it was because the doula was there or what, but it sucked. I brought up what the Dr. from last week had said about forceps vs vacuum vs c-section and how we should do some research to decide what we''d do in an emergency and I told her about the articles I found quoting studies about how forceps had a higher risk to baby than vacuum or c-section and she told me that the studies were wrong. Uh, ok...no explanation about why her studies were right, but the ones I''d read about were wrong. She kept saying things like "you need to have faith in your OB team" and I kept explaining that I do have faith in them, but that I''m not the kind of patient who believes that their Dr. is God, can do no wrong and, therefore, doesn''t want to be involved the decision making process. I don''t think that trusting someone means I have to let them lead me blindly. She also kept saying she didn''t understand if "something had happened" and if that''s where this was coming from. Uh, didn''t realize something has to have gone wrong for me to have questions and want to be making informed decisions...It was really weird. It wasn''t even like she disagreed with the majority of what we had written down (she wouldn''t ok internals only upon admission and when I feel the need to push and she obviously has a preference for forceps which we stated that we do not want to use).

I explained to her why it''s very important for me to understand what''s going on and told her about my traumatic echo experience from last summer and the appointment ended with me in tears, DH and the doula trying to calm me down and the Dr saying we''d just save the GBS test for next week and she''d talk to the other Drs about my situation. I am really unhappy and feel like she''s going to be defensive/confrontational about just about any preference that we have whether she disagrees or not if we end up having her when I go into labor. I really hope we get someone else
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Oh and to top it all off there was sugar in my urine (though they said it''s probably because I had OJ right before the appointment) and I''m up 4 lbs from 2 weeks ago.

Today sucks. At least everything with baby was ok.
 
That stinks Robbie. It''s your right to ask lots of questions, sheesh. She should have been more accomodating to you. HUGS!! Glad all is fine with the baby.
 
Re: signing... i honestly think that since i taught B a tom of signs, he learned to speak so much quicker. he said his first word at our around 11 months, a real word, not just mama or dada. and he is an absolute talking dictionary. i also used baby einstein to help with the signing and i actually knew a ton if signs so i taught him based on that as well.
 
Okay, girls ~ I have a clothing question! I have yet to buy any maternity clothes. I was looking on Target.com and they have a TON of fall / winter maternity clothing on clearance (I am due December 11). It is super cheap so I want to stock up now. Have any of you bought any of the Liz Lange clothing? It says small is a 4/6 and medium is an 8/10. I am usually a 6/8, so I don''t know what size to get. Any suggestions???
 
I''m really sorry for the way the appointment went Robbie. It is your absolute right to want to question and to lay out your preferences. I know some doctors can get really intimidated with the sight of a doula or even a midwife. It sounds to me that she is one of these doctors (with her have trust in the OB team comment).

Can you work with the other doctors going forward?
 
Just popping in to check for a Mela update....

but while I''m here I wanted to comment on baby sign language.

I love it! We started it with my charge right at the age were they say most babies can start doing it and she picked it up pretty quickly. I can tell you it really comes in handy during that phase where they are talking but are difficult to understand. My charge would get so frustrated when I''d make her repeat something 10 times because I wasn''t sure what she was saying or misheard her. If anyone has done that with an early talker you know how bad you feel when they are trying but you can understand them (like talking to someone with a heavy accent). I think the hardest thing about babies is figuring out what they want. Why not give them an option to tell you as soon as possible?


Re: It being "a lot of work"- This makes me laugh everytime I see it. It''s very easy to learn and you don''t have to take a course or learn 100 signs or anything like that. A few key ones like milk, more, hurt really help a lot. You just learn a few signs yourself and then sign to the baby whenever you say the word. So before you feed the baby you say "Oh do you want some milk?" and sign milk. They are like sponges and will surprise you by signing themselves at the appropriate time. It really is the same as teaching baby "How big is baby- sooo big!" or "Where''s your nose?" Except its a lot more useful than showing off the usual "baby tricks". And honestly, it''s only a few months before they actually start talking anyway so just a few signs to get you by the months where they want to communicate but can''t because their ability to speak is still developing.


As for it causing language delays, I think that is silly. Most kids will start saying the words as they sign anyway, but the few ones who don''t, need their parents to not respond to signs only and should have the child say the word along with the sign in order to get the item. It''s the same thing as the preschooler who says words improperly (like "wa-wa" for water) and their parents have to translate for them to others. If "wa-wa" or the sign for "water" get''s the child a drink and is easier than saying a word(which it is), then of course the child may prefer to use it. Additionally, parents should always say the word as they sign anyway, making a connection to the spoken word and the sign. And as soon as the kiddo should be using words, parents shouldn''t be teaching the baby signs anyway (unless they want their child fluent in ASL as a second language, etc.)



As for "ASL vs. Baby Signs"- It doesn''t really matter what sign you use as long as you use the same ones consistently. I personally prefer true ASL because although some signs can be to difficult for little hands, all can be modified anyway. In other words, you model the correct sign and the baby just does as best as she can. For example, the sign for water is making a "W" by holding your pinky with your thumb and tapping it to your chin. Too hard for a baby, but what you will see is a baby just tapping their whole hand to their chin and you would accept that and say "yes, water" but then model it the correct way. But anyway, I like ASL in case the baby did end up having a hearing problem or speech delay then they will already be on the right track and won''t have to re-learn signs.

So anyway, just a topic I am interested in.... Oh and here is a link to my favorite baby sign language DVD''s http://www.babysigningtime.com/ They are ASL and the first one has all the important signs your baby would need (no need to get the others or a bundle).

 
Awe, Robbie, I''m sorry your appointment went so horribly wrong. This might be really naive of me, but after dealing with so many doctors at my practice, I''ve learned to just listen to what they say, go home and look up what I want to know about it (or ask dh), and make my decisions without letting them know. I won''t bring it up with them unless it becomes an issue. That might be difficult to do in the moment, but part of me feels like either I or dh will be able to communicate our decisions when it actually comes time to make them.

Indy, definitely buy clothes when they are on clearance! I was so happy that at Christmas I bought all these summer clothes on clearance from Kohls and Old Navy! As for sizing, I''ve found that most maternity clothes fit me true to size throughout the second tri. Now that I''m quite large, I do like some of my things a little extra big. If I were you, I''d buy a medium for when you first need mat. clothes, and a large for when you get bigger.

I''m annoyed with my dr.''s office today. At my last apt., I was supposed to get my records to take with me since I''m driving myself to Va (in case something happens before my apt. with the new dr.). But then the dr. realized that I had never had a test done for something called thalacemia (sp) which she had requested the last time I saw her (3 appointments ago). I had the test done that day, and she wanted me to wait to get the copy of my records until the results were in. Well, the results were in yesterday, and I do have thalacemia, so I went today to pick up my records. After the receptionists gave me a hard time about picking up the records (they wanted me to come back next week even though it clearly said on my file that I would be in to pick them up as soon as the results were in), they get them for me. I leave all frustrated, get in my car, and realize they never even updated them with the results of the blood test! All I can say is that I''m glad I''m switching dr.''s. There were some great things about the dr.''s at this practice, but they are really disorganized!
 
Date: 6/3/2009 12:53:05 PM
Author: Sabine
Awe, Mela, so perfect!!! So angelic!

Congrats Steph, and welcome!

So excited for our fearsome foursome who will be finding out soon...any guesses as to what you''re having?

My brains feel like they are going to start bleeding out of my brains...I''ve been grading finals all morning. I have one more section of essays and one more class to take a final tomorrow. And my back is killing me and my feet are ridiculously swollen.

Anyone else with swollen feet, does it go down or are you regularly swollen at this point?
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Sorry Sabine, but mine not only stayed till after the birth, but also spread up to my knees and then on upwards some more... it was one of the worst pregnancy things I got as it becomes very uncomfortable.

Keep your feet up as much as possible, drink lots and I also started wearing TED stockings.

For me it started to go about 10 days after Daisy was born - but would probably have gone a bit sooner if I hadn''t had the problems with the birth and get confined to bed for a few days afterwards. Yesterday I got my normal shoes on and a pair of new jeans that wouldn''t go over my knees 3 weeks ago!
 
Date: 6/4/2009 4:54:28 PM
Author: indypitty
Okay, girls ~ I have a clothing question! I have yet to buy any maternity clothes. I was looking on Target.com and they have a TON of fall / winter maternity clothing on clearance (I am due December 11). It is super cheap so I want to stock up now. Have any of you bought any of the Liz Lange clothing? It says small is a 4/6 and medium is an 8/10. I am usually a 6/8, so I don't know what size to get. Any suggestions???
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Get the bigger size. When you are very preggo the last thing you want is restrictive clothing and her clothing generally runs TTS.
 
Mela, Romeo is just gorgeous - and definitely takes after his mommy looking at the pics. Congratulations!


Robbie - great choice of camera, DH has that one and really likes it.

Just on the forceps thing, please don''t rule it out completely. The really important thing with them is that the doctor knows how to use them and all the set criteria are fulfilled before they are used - then they are safer for the baby than other methods, although harder on the mother. They used ventouse on me before the forceps and it didn''t work, however Daisy still has serious bruising on her head from it, whereas the small bruise from the forceps was gone in 48 hours. Had I had a c-section instead of the forceps I probably wouldn''t have survived as the PPH would have been so much more severe, and honestly when you are facing an emergency situation all you really want is for you both to be safe however you get there.

Mandarine - I had the burning thing at the top of the bump on and off right to the end. Apparently it''s fairly common and just a PITA. I never found a cure I''m afraid.
 
Robbie- Sorry you had such a frustrating experience. This is one of the reasons I wish I knew all of this stuff BEFORE I picked a dr. After my labor class, I had a ton of questions and I realized that it would have been better to have found a dr that was on the same page from the get go. Too late now, of course. I really like my dr, but she is definitely very nonchalant about things and when I asked her what she thought of a doula or going unmedicated (no epidural), she kinda shrugged and said in her experience doulas were kind of annoying women who just rub your feet, and why wouldn''t you just get an epidural? She wasn''t rude about it, she just is very no nonsense and clearly thinks epidurals are the way to go. She did say she would be supportive if I wanted a doula. Anyways, point being, it seems like this is the norm for a lot of doctors. I am sure to some degree it makes her job harder when women come in "informed" and have tons of opinions. From reading everyone''s birth stories on here, I think we''ve all realized that nothing goes according to plan and we really have to be flexible and at some point, you ARE going to just have to trust your OB team. BUT you should absolutely feel comfortable and empowered to have the information and make your own decisions. Try not to stress about it. You are going to do great and the important thing is getting your little one here safely. But don''t feel bad about having an opinion, and don''t let her make you back down. Hugs to you.

On that same note, I feel like I have very little support from people about not getting an epidural. I am on the fence for many reasons, but nobody I have talked to about this in real life is supportive (except my one friend who did go unmedicated). It seems like most people think you are crazy for even thinking about it. The other ones just tell me that there''s no way I will be able to handle the pain and forget about it. They may be right, but it kinda makes me want to prove them wrong. Just curious- does anyone else feel this way? It seems like people are either totally pro-unmedication to an extreme degree, or think you are crazy for even trying it. Finding it hard to find anyone in the middle like I am.

Sabine- What is thalacemia? Yes, I can google it, but yes, I am that lazy right now.
 
Date: 6/4/2009 6:30:46 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Robbie- Sorry you had such a frustrating experience. This is one of the reasons I wish I knew all of this stuff BEFORE I picked a dr. After my labor class, I had a ton of questions and I realized that it would have been better to have found a dr that was on the same page from the get go. Too late now, of course. I really like my dr, but she is definitely very nonchalant about things and when I asked her what she thought of a doula or going unmedicated (no epidural), she kinda shrugged and said in her experience doulas were kind of annoying women who just rub your feet, and why wouldn''t you just get an epidural? She wasn''t rude about it, she just is very no nonsense and clearly thinks epidurals are the way to go. She did say she would be supportive if I wanted a doula. Anyways, point being, it seems like this is the norm for a lot of doctors. I am sure to some degree it makes her job harder when women come in ''informed'' and have tons of opinions. From reading everyone''s birth stories on here, I think we''ve all realized that nothing goes according to plan and we really have to be flexible and at some point, you ARE going to just have to trust your OB team. BUT you should absolutely feel comfortable and empowered to have the information and make your own decisions. Try not to stress about it. You are going to do great and the important thing is getting your little one here safely. But don''t feel bad about having an opinion, and don''t let her make you back down. Hugs to you.

On that same note, I feel like I have very little support from people about not getting an epidural. I am on the fence for many reasons, but nobody I have talked to about this in real life is supportive (except my one friend who did go unmedicated). It seems like most people think you are crazy for even thinking about it. The other ones just tell me that there''s no way I will be able to handle the pain and forget about it. They may be right, but it kinda makes me want to prove them wrong. Just curious- does anyone else feel this way? It seems like people are either totally pro-unmedication to an extreme degree, or think you are crazy for even trying it. Finding it hard to find anyone in the middle like I am.

Sabine- What is thalacemia? Yes, I can google it, but yes, I am that lazy right now.
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Epidurals - I was very relieved when I finally got one, but I had been in labour for over 40 hours at that point, was exhausted and the novelty of contractions had worn off. Plus at that point they wanted to start the pitocin as my waters had broken over 36 hours earlier (I''d been on IV antibiotics for a good few hours before then to prevent any infection) and I had to be on constant monitoring because of this.

Honestly, I did find the contractions liveable with - but then I may not have had them very severely considering that I wasn''t getting anywhere on the dilation side (mainly because her head was already stuck and was too high up to put any pressure on the pelvic floor). I just think you need to keep an open mind and see how you find it at the time. It''s such a shame you guys don''t have entonox as that really helped me get through some bad hours.

I was always pretty sure I would want an epi, and although the midwives etc were always quite happy for me to have that choice, they were extremely pro my trying without one for as long as possible.
 
Thanks Pandora. I am not opposed to epidurals at all. But there are some reasons why I would like to try to avoid one, or at the least, wait as long as possible before getting one. That being said, I feel like if I even want the option, I need to be really sure and really strong going into it.

Though from everything I''ve seen on here, plus my friends having recently gone through it, I realize that you have to be flexible and anything can happen. If I need an epidural, I will be fine with it. I just want a bit more support in exploring the option of NOT having one.

I wish we had your magic gas too!!!!
 
China, thalacemia is apparently a condition where red blood cells come in small packets or something, so it makes you anemic, but taking iron won''t do anything to help. Basically from what the doctor and dh told me, it''s not a big deal, they don''t do anything to treat it, but it''s just good to know that I have it because otherwise I''d be taking iron supplements for no reason because although I''m anemic, I''m not iron deficient. I will be asking my new OB more about it, but dh doesn''t seem to think that if the baby has it it will be a big deal either, they will just want to know so that if the baby is anemic, they don''t incorrectly treat with iron. Apparently being Italian makes it more likely to have this.
 
China Well I was very much against having an epi and held out as long as I could, which was 6 hours of pitocin-induced contractions, but by the time those 6 hours were over and I have been awake for 30 hours and was making *no progress* and the nurse told me I couldn''t sit on my ball anymore because she couldn''t monitor the baby HB... well I just was in despair and the midwife and I talked and decided yup, that situation is what epis are for! So I had one and it was really nice. Going into it I had told my midwife that if my situation moved from pain and hard work to true suffering -- from exhaustion and lack of progress -- then I would get an epi. I think that rule worked well and I would hold to it again next time. But I encourage you to try going as long as you can without it. If you are making good progress I think you can ride it out and keep going much longer. The pain was made worse by knowing it was all accomplishing nothing. As a note, I dilated from 1 to 10 in 2 hours once I had the epi. My idwife said sometimes the relaxations of the pelvic muscles can allow things to move along, and I think it did in my case. Still, I also think those hours on my feet and sitting up before hand helped too. So I''m really glad I had did that.
 
China--i too was dead-set against an epi. I was told over and over things like "well, you say that now...but just you wait" . I well, i did wait, i had approx 12 hours of relatively tolerable labor followed by 8 hours (with induction drug) of excruciating pain. I still opted not to have the epi. I am not some super women, i am just stubborn women (or masochist maybe?! ) and my labor coach said she always felt like i was on top of my pain. For me it was a combo of my personality/pain tolerance & mental readiness. I felt that as long as i felt in control, still had some energy and still wanted to keep going, there was no need for pain meds. It''s a ''play it by ear'' thing and it''s totally, totally personal. Like DD, i think that if i was getting exhausted and it was going to compromise my ability to push, or if my coaches thought i was letting the pain "get away from me" (which is a term i read lots on the books when describing pain control) i would have sought relief.
Now having gone thru it i can 100% see why ppl would want to have it. Labor is certainly not fun, but it is doable.
 
Hey ladies!! Just wanted to update that our little guy made his appearance yesterday at 4:38pm! He was 7lb8oz 20 inches long.

Went to OBG tuesday afternoon and was closed and cervix was long, started having contractions at 2:30 am went to hospital at 5:30 was 1cm and 80% effaced! 2 hours later 3 cm and 100% effaced. They told me our baby was coming that day!!! Got the epi at 4 cm and by 3:30pm or so was ready to push! Pushing was WAY harder than i ever could have imagined!! But after an hour Alexander "Lex" Thomas came into the world!!! And he couldn't be cuter
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Still at hospital, but will update more when we get home!!

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Date: 6/4/2009 9:44:33 PM
Author: cdt1101
Hey ladies!! Just wanted to update that our little guy made his appearance yesterday at 4:38pm! He was 7lb8oz 20 inches long.

Went to OBG tuesday afternoon and was closed and cervix was long, started having contractions at 2:30 am went to hospital at 5:30 was 1cm and 80% effaced! 2 hours later 3 cm and 100% effaced. They told me our baby was coming that day!!! Got the epi at 4 cm and by 3:30pm or so was ready to push! Pushing was WAY harder than i ever could have imagined!! But after an hour Alexander ''Lex'' Thomas came into the world!!! And he couldn''t be cuter
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Still at hospital, but will update more when we get home!!
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Congratulations cdt!

I think your right.. there is no way he could be any cuter
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Oh my, another baby! Congrats, cdt! He is so sweet and lovable!
 
cdt CONGRATS and welcome alexander!!! he is so precious!! hope you and alexander are doing well.
 
CDT, "Lex" is so cute! Congrats on the beautiful baby and that there''s an end to your pain finally!
 
Awww....congrats, cdt!
 
Thanks for the hugs, Kaleigh.

IndyPitty, I have some Liz Lange pants. I bought in my size and can''t wear one of the pairs anymore. They''re the real waist kind and they''re uncomfortably tight in the waist band. I highly recommend going with either elastic band only or going up a size.

Fiery, I really think that''s what it was, she was intimidated that we had a doula with us. I scheduled my appointments through 7/2 last time I was there and I don''t have any more with her. I''m just worried about what will happen if she''s on call when I''m in labor. Today''s appointment is the exact opposite of how I''d like the atmosphere to be while in labor. It''s not that the other doctors all agree with what we want 100%, but when they''ve disagreed, no one has gotten defensive like she did.

Sabine, I think I''d rather be aware of what problems we might encounter and come with a plan to deal with them beforehand than have them be surprises during labor. As you know, I''m bad with surprises. Why didn''t we find out the sex of the baby again? LOL. So, are they going to fax you the blood test results later? I looked up thalassemia today and there were a few different kinds. It looks like the issue they might be worried about is if you have beta thalassemia minor (meaning you have one good gene and one bad gene causing mild anemia and needing no treatment) and DH is also a carrier, baby could end up with a different kind that could cause moderate to severe anemia and would require treatment. Might be something to research a bit more or ask DH to explain better since all of my info is from webmd.

Pandora, I''m really not worried about what will be harder on me, just what''s safest for baby. We''ve decided that should it come down to it, we''re not going to ask a Dr. who''s more comfortable using forceps to use a vacuum which she''s uncomfortable with, but at the same time, she better be pretty damn sure that she can get that baby out and do it safely, otherwise our preference is to go straight to a c-section. Is a ventouse a vacuum?

China, I wish I''d known a lot of things before choosing a practitioner. What I wanted at the beginning of the pregnancy was so different from what I want now. I was definitely one of those people who thought trying to go natural was crazy and didn''t understand why anyone would want to. I''m pretty upset right now that I was told by one of the other Drs that the way they handle care really doesn''t differ much from the midwife group I was thinking of switching to. Yeah, I''m pretty sure that a midwife wouldn''t have reacted the way the Dr. did today. As far as trusting my OB team, I do, I really do. I think they''re very competent OBs, but I also think that being OBs makes them more likely to suggest things that they think will make things easier for me (pain medicine, pitocin, etc) whether it''s what I would choose for myself or not. Honestly, all I want is to be informed about what''s going on so that DH and I are able to decide what the best choices are for us and our baby. The thing is there''s a risk to just about every choice and if I take that risk without fully understanding what I''m choosing, I have no one to blame but myself if something goes wrong. I definitely feel your pain about the lack of support on no epi. Whenever I mention it, people think I''m insane. I definitely have the "I want to prove everyone wrong" thing going on right now. I think it''s probably a good thing as it makes me that much more motivated. I''d say I''m more towards the middle like you. I don''t want it (or any other meds), but if I''m in a situation where I truly feel like I can''t handle not having it (in a situation like Dreamer or Pandora), it''s not the end of the world. My mom had pitocin, an epi and a c-section with me and I''m just fine.

Jas, I think you might be my hero for going sans epi even after induction drugs. I really don''t think I''d be able to do it from what I''ve heard about them. With DH as a coach though, perhaps I could. He''s really taken to this whole coaching thing.

CDT, congrats!!! He''s adorable! Love the nickname!

NYC, you''re next on the list! And I''m #2 now! Welcome to 3 and 4 ebree and fiery!!!
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In honor of being due one month from today, I think I should start the official "What is Robbie having?" poll.

I''ll start with my own guess:

Boy:
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Girl:
 
CONGRATS CTD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! What a cutie!! Hope the pain you've been having lately has subsided!


Mandarine, yeah, I am on the singleton ultrasound schedule up to 20 weeks, then I have one every 4 weeks. I'm not sure that I got an exact cervical measurement last time, but it was "long, closed, and firm." This will be my first time seeing a peri. I don't think that any of the peris at my hospital are affilated with a specific practice but they work on a consult basis. Might be because it's an academic hospital?
Are you feeling any movement yet? I might be feeling a little something, but it could be my imagination. It might take me a little longer because I have one anterior placenta and one posterior. Do you know where your placentas are?

Robbie, sorry about your appointment.
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At least you stuck up for yourself!!


I am so pleased with my bargain-hunting skills, I got just the EZ nurse twins pillow everyone recommended for $6 at a baby consignment store ($50 new!). The print is so cute, light green with multicolored flowers. If I have two boys they will just have to deal with the girly print!
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OMG, cdt, what a surprise! He's precious, and I love his name. Congratulations, and welcome baby Lex!
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jas, puffy and mia- Thanks for weighing in on the signing! It's always good to hear personal experiences, especially positive ones.

Robbie- I'm sorry you had such a negative experience with your doctor. Good for you for being informed and knowing what you want- there's nothing wrong with that. My doctor mentioned that a lot of OBs have issues with patients that have specific birth plans or expectations because so much can change so quickly, but I think it's essential to know what's going on and to be as informed as possible of what may happen. Who knows if there's time to properly educate someone during labor?

As for the sex- if I remember correctly, didn't you post a few freeze frames from an ultrasound that showed a possible penis? I'll put another vote in for boy.
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Date: 6/4/2009 6:30:46 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Robbie- Sorry you had such a frustrating experience. This is one of the reasons I wish I knew all of this stuff BEFORE I picked a dr. After my labor class, I had a ton of questions and I realized that it would have been better to have found a dr that was on the same page from the get go. Too late now, of course. I really like my dr, but she is definitely very nonchalant about things and when I asked her what she thought of a doula or going unmedicated (no epidural), she kinda shrugged and said in her experience doulas were kind of annoying women who just rub your feet, and why wouldn't you just get an epidural? She wasn't rude about it, she just is very no nonsense and clearly thinks epidurals are the way to go. She did say she would be supportive if I wanted a doula. Anyways, point being, it seems like this is the norm for a lot of doctors. I am sure to some degree it makes her job harder when women come in 'informed' and have tons of opinions. From reading everyone's birth stories on here, I think we've all realized that nothing goes according to plan and we really have to be flexible and at some point, you ARE going to just have to trust your OB team. BUT you should absolutely feel comfortable and empowered to have the information and make your own decisions. Try not to stress about it. You are going to do great and the important thing is getting your little one here safely. But don't feel bad about having an opinion, and don't let her make you back down. Hugs to you.


On that same note, I feel like I have very little support from people about not getting an epidural. I am on the fence for many reasons, but nobody I have talked to about this in real life is supportive (except my one friend who did go unmedicated). It seems like most people think you are crazy for even thinking about it. The other ones just tell me that there's no way I will be able to handle the pain and forget about it. They may be right, but it kinda makes me want to prove them wrong. Just curious- does anyone else feel this way? It seems like people are either totally pro-unmedication to an extreme degree, or think you are crazy for even trying it. Finding it hard to find anyone in the middle like I am.


Sabine- What is thalacemia? Yes, I can google it, but yes, I am that lazy right now.
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Hi China Cat
I felt like you did - I wanted to see if I could give birth naturally. I dialated to 7cm but she was posterior, and I stopped dialating and had horrible back labor. They gave me nubane which just made me kind of sleepy, and finally I gave in and got an epi. After that the contractions on the moniter were huge, but I didn't feel a thing (not even the pushing) She finally came out posterior, and has been taking the path of most resistance ever since
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With my son, I was induced, and had an epi, but his labor was long, and it wore off. I definitely felt him come into the world
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If you want to try natural, then go for it, but I'm really glad I finally got one with #1! It's no one else's business but yours IMO.

Pandora Congratulations on Daisy! She is a gorgeous little doll!
 
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