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Calling all the Pregnant PS''ers
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Thanks for the kind comments on our LO, everyone.
Amber and Wa, it's so nice to see the pics of your little ones as well! So cute! Wa - I love the perspective of that photo you posted...with Caleb looking up at you in wonder, and you holding him protectively in your arms. So lovely! Was it a professional shot?
I agree with you about getting enough rest in the weeks before your due date. That's one thing I didn't do. I put in a lot of hours at work before going on maternity leave (at 39 weeks), telling myself I'd at least have week 40 to relax and mentally prepare - I just didn't plan on her coming spot on at 39 weeks.! So I went into labour very sleep-deprived, and unfortunately haven't caught up yet. It makes a physically exhausting event like labour/delivery that much more draining. So make sure you get your rest, all you third trimester ladies!
Mara - glad to hear your shower went well!
Jcrow - congrats on team pink! It's good to have some more girls up in here!
Charger - yay for a great NT scan!
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Both the techs in the ultrasound room commented on how active she is! Oh, and she''s got long feet according to the tech. When our OBGYN saw the ultrasound pictures, she commented on her long feet too. She surely doesn''t get that from me. Hubs and I are predicting that means she''s going to be tall. And by tall, I mean more than her 5 foot mom!
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ChinaCat - thanks for the houston suggestions! we go there occasionally so maybe one of our next trips we''ll have to make a few shop stops! and good to know about the gap in the galleria carrying maternity. not sure i want to make it there now during holiday madness, though! the closest gap maternity store is about 1.5 hours from me.
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Congrats Sha and wa!!! Beautiful babies!
Jcrow~yay for team pink!! Any names in mind?
Hi to everyone else! Miss Tayva has a viral infection in her mouth and so the last few days have been miserable. I''ve been getting reminded what things will be like in a couple months. Last night she was up every two hours and it was a GOOD night comparatively speaking!!
Jcrow~yay for team pink!! Any names in mind?
Hi to everyone else! Miss Tayva has a viral infection in her mouth and so the last few days have been miserable. I''ve been getting reminded what things will be like in a couple months. Last night she was up every two hours and it was a GOOD night comparatively speaking!!
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Congrats Sha and wa!!! Beautiful babies!
Jcrow~yay for team pink!! Any names in mind?
Hi to everyone else! Miss Tayva has a viral infection in her mouth and so the last few days have been miserable. I''ve been getting reminded what things will be like in a couple months. Last night she was up every two hours and it was a GOOD night comparatively speaking!!
sorry to hear about her infection. no fun! i hope it clears up very soon!
nope, no girl names. funny enough pre-prego we had a boy name/names we liked and once we found out we were expecting we tossed around a few names, but really didn''t concentrate on names. figured why waste our energy picking a girl name when we don''t know if we''d have a girl! turns out we''re having a girl! haha. guess now we''ve got to get cracking on names!!
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Sha and Wa, adorable babies!! Congrats! Thank you so much for posting pics because they really help me with feeling like I''m never going to reach the end of this pregnancy.
Puppmom, I wish I could tell you how to be less anxious, but I think that''s just a part of pregnancy. Even though it''s an amazing and happy time, it''s also really scary because there are so many things that can go wrong (although the chances of any of them happening to you are VERY SLIM!).
I was having some serious anxiety up until I started feeling movement on a regular basis. I talked to my midwife about it because once I was in the 2nd trimester and the morning sickness eased up, but I wasn''t feeling movement yet, I was absolutely convinced that something would happen. She assured me that I''d feel better once I felt the baby and I did.
I think only you can decide how to deal with your anxiety. I always feel better if I feel like I''m fully informed so I''ve always been a big reader about pregnancy.
One thing you can do when you have negative thoughts is stop yourself and purposely replace the negative thought with a positive one. By confronting the negative thoughts and banishing them, you avoid letting them take hold. It takes some time to train yourself to have positive thoughts, but it can be done.
JCrow, congrats on your little girl!! It''s about time someone covered for the other team!
Puppmom, I wish I could tell you how to be less anxious, but I think that''s just a part of pregnancy. Even though it''s an amazing and happy time, it''s also really scary because there are so many things that can go wrong (although the chances of any of them happening to you are VERY SLIM!).
I was having some serious anxiety up until I started feeling movement on a regular basis. I talked to my midwife about it because once I was in the 2nd trimester and the morning sickness eased up, but I wasn''t feeling movement yet, I was absolutely convinced that something would happen. She assured me that I''d feel better once I felt the baby and I did.
I think only you can decide how to deal with your anxiety. I always feel better if I feel like I''m fully informed so I''ve always been a big reader about pregnancy.
One thing you can do when you have negative thoughts is stop yourself and purposely replace the negative thought with a positive one. By confronting the negative thoughts and banishing them, you avoid letting them take hold. It takes some time to train yourself to have positive thoughts, but it can be done.
JCrow, congrats on your little girl!! It''s about time someone covered for the other team!
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china - the houston info is great! i just recently realized how much the rice village offers maternity/baby store-wise, which is great as i am in close proximity. i have to say, the pea in the pod galleria store, although bigger, selection is pretty slim. i''ve been there 3 times with a gift card and have yet to find something i want.
jcrow - yay for team pink! she is going to be gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous based on who her mama and papa are! can''t wait to hear your name candidates
pupp - i think we all had anxiety in the first trimester, it''s just an uncertain time y''know? we''re with you all the way, hon. just keep on holding on.
mara - i was originally going to do the mani/pedi thing also (great minds think alike
) but the realized my three hostesses live in 3 different cities and the thought of researching and buying 3 different mani/pedi thingies gave me a headahe. the necklaces were easier, and came pre-wrapped
. glad the shower went well.
burk - awww..poor baby. hope she feels better soon!
jcrow - yay for team pink! she is going to be gorgeous gorgeous gorgeous based on who her mama and papa are! can''t wait to hear your name candidates
pupp - i think we all had anxiety in the first trimester, it''s just an uncertain time y''know? we''re with you all the way, hon. just keep on holding on.
mara - i was originally going to do the mani/pedi thing also (great minds think alike
burk - awww..poor baby. hope she feels better soon!
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Puppmom, anxiety is normal, as everyone else has said. Step away from the internet, it''s not doing you any good. Also, yoga really helps me calm down, there are lots of prenatal yoga tapes out there, I''d suggest you try that.
Jcrow, congratulations on your little girl.
CG, I''m glad the NT went well. It really is a fun appt.
Disneyland was cold and wet and we didn''t make it to many rides, but I am so glad we went. It was so nice to get to spend time with good friends. As always it made me wish we lived closer to one another. They are the best parents and it was so fun to spend the day with their kiddos too.
Jcrow, congratulations on your little girl.
CG, I''m glad the NT went well. It really is a fun appt.
Disneyland was cold and wet and we didn''t make it to many rides, but I am so glad we went. It was so nice to get to spend time with good friends. As always it made me wish we lived closer to one another. They are the best parents and it was so fun to spend the day with their kiddos too.
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ChargerGirl, I''m glad your NT scan went so well. I look forward to seeing my bean!
JCrow, in my lurking I''ve noticed tons of boys are coming...congrats on team pink! I can''t wait to hear the names you''re considering.
Thank you ladies for all of your reassuring advice. I bought some good books to read to distract me in the evening. I''ve stopped temping and have BANNED myself from fertility friend - I had DH block it on the PC and laptop. I think a lot of times just looking at posters'' tickers that show all of their angel babies gets to me. It really brings the thought of miscarriage to the front of my mind without me even realizing it. My worry of the day is what I''ll call "crotch pains" - I have slight cramping in my crotch area. What the heck is this? And, I''m a chronic spotter so I inspect CM like crazy. This morning my CM had a spot (and I mean just a spot) of pink in it. Will this ever end? I think I''m just gonna have to start sucking it up and powering through. IF something IS going wrong, there''s not a darn thing I can do.
I have my first prenatal appointment tomorrow which hopefully will ease a lot of my concerns - although I''m pretty sure all they''ll do is confirm I''m pregnant. At least I''ll get to ask my zillion questions!
DH keeps asking me what I''m so afraid of...for now it''s miscarriage. His response "Well, if that happens, we''ll just try again." MEN! They''re so dang matter of fact sometimes!
JCrow, in my lurking I''ve noticed tons of boys are coming...congrats on team pink! I can''t wait to hear the names you''re considering.
Thank you ladies for all of your reassuring advice. I bought some good books to read to distract me in the evening. I''ve stopped temping and have BANNED myself from fertility friend - I had DH block it on the PC and laptop. I think a lot of times just looking at posters'' tickers that show all of their angel babies gets to me. It really brings the thought of miscarriage to the front of my mind without me even realizing it. My worry of the day is what I''ll call "crotch pains" - I have slight cramping in my crotch area. What the heck is this? And, I''m a chronic spotter so I inspect CM like crazy. This morning my CM had a spot (and I mean just a spot) of pink in it. Will this ever end? I think I''m just gonna have to start sucking it up and powering through. IF something IS going wrong, there''s not a darn thing I can do.
I have my first prenatal appointment tomorrow which hopefully will ease a lot of my concerns - although I''m pretty sure all they''ll do is confirm I''m pregnant. At least I''ll get to ask my zillion questions!
DH keeps asking me what I''m so afraid of...for now it''s miscarriage. His response "Well, if that happens, we''ll just try again." MEN! They''re so dang matter of fact sometimes!
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Puppmom - I had a lot of cramping in the first few weeks and my doctor told me it was most likely my uterus growing. I''m guessing it may be the case for you. I''ve had some early spotting too, so unless it''s really heavy, I wouldn''t worry about it. Also, don''t hate me for saying so, and maybe I''m just saying that because I have no idea what it''s like to have a miscarriage, but while your DH''s "if it happens we''ll try again" viewpoint may seem a bit heartless, I think it''s still a healthy way to look at it. These things happen, we''ve had quite a few lovely ladies on PS go through these hard times, and they moved on, because they must, and many went on to having beautiful babies. I can''t begin to imagine the pain they went through, and I admire them greatly for their strength to move on!
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Puppmom- I know this response tends to give an adverse effect, but girl, you have got to Calm Down.
Like what anchor said, though your DH's response is not what you want to hear, it is the healthy approach.
I had lots of anxiety before 12 weeks, but you have got to stop thinking about it. Your worry and anxiety will effect the baby. I didn't read anything until after we got to 12 weeks. Also, you are looking waaaaaay to far ahead right now. You have no idea what you are going to be thinking about in 6 weeks, so please stop thinking the worst. I worried before my 12 week mark, and many people said, you will just move onto something else to worry about, but in fact, I stopped worrying all together. I don't read much, I just take each day as it comes. I'm 20 weeks and haven't felt the baby kick, but that is OK, because EVERY body is different.
Stop reading about the baby, and especially the negative things. It seems that you are focusing in on those. One thing I did before the 12 weeks mark was, I would go to google every day and type in my date (8 weeks 2 days, or 9 weeks 3 days,etc), and I would pull up articles and pictures of what the baby was doing that day. It is fascinating to read about and know that your baby is actually growing and developing.
All you are thinking about is the negative. You have not had a miscarriage, so try to stop thinking about them.
Things got better for me once we saw our doctor, so I am hoping that the same will happen for you. I hated the time in between appointments, I worried alot, but honestly after seeing your baby for the first time and hearing that things are "going fine" you will sigh a breath of relief. Try the google thing. It really worked for me, and I sent my DH updates everyday with a picture of "What our LO looks like today...". He loved it, and it kept my mind off of the negative things.
Cheep up! You are having a baby!
ETA: I had the "pains" that you are feeling. It was just my pelivs spreading and since I did not have MS or nausea, it was actually the only thing I had to rely on that I still had a baby growing in my belly. Not everything is a "bad sign", some of them are just little reminder that you have a little one budding inside of you. They actually can be good signs.
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i don't know what temping is but i imagine it's not the same as 'part time temporary work' hahaa. but yeah whatever it is i would stop it if its stressful.
i agree re: looking up pics on the internet to see the positive in what is happening, i would totally do that, google ultrasounds of what the baby looked like that week just for fun.
it is very hard to not dwell on the negative, esp if you are a first time preggo...every time i got any sort of pain i would be like 'what is THAT??'... but like you also said, if something is happening that early, there is really not that much that can be done, so you just kind of have to suck it up and take it. it is not fun, it is nerve wracking and it can feel a bit isolating. just take it one day at a time.
i was thinking last nite and marveling that i remember the first tri and just how stressed i was mentally...and how i just wanted to get to 12 weeks. then i just wanted to get to the 15 week mark. then i remember being 20 weeks and starting to finally feel the baby move. i have friends who felt their babies all the time at 13/15/17 weeks and i hardly ever felt ANYTHING til 20+. but i just kept saying to myself, well i am not bleeding, i am not doubled over in pain, so let's just ASSUME the best. i even still get pains now i don't even know what they are but again if i am not bleeding or in serious pain, i am not going to stress myself out.
i had two weird sharp stabbing pains last week while out walking and i asked my dr about them and she said that it could have been A or B or C. she said it is very hard to even know what might be happening at any given point in time. if something is not 'chronic' then it might just be a stretching muscle, pulling ligament, even a side stitch or GAS! i get crazy pains sometimes now and i am sure they are gas from my squished tiny stomach.
also the more dr appts i went to the better i felt, every time my dr said i seemed fine, everything was progressing etc etc. if you would like, get a doppler, you can rent them for like $14 a month and it may be peace of mind for you.
but anyway now i am 32 weeks,
and seriously i don't even know how i got here. i only have 5 more weeks til full term and 8 til full due date. on one hand i remember being 12 weeks wishing i was further along and dying to be 20 and then 30 etc and now suddenly i am here. you will be too. hang in there!
oh and my kid is like an acrobat gymnast now what seems like 3/4 of the day, and my friends who had early feelings of their baby don't even have as active nuggets... so he's definitely making up for LOST TIME. it just goes to show it's all so personal.
i agree re: looking up pics on the internet to see the positive in what is happening, i would totally do that, google ultrasounds of what the baby looked like that week just for fun.
it is very hard to not dwell on the negative, esp if you are a first time preggo...every time i got any sort of pain i would be like 'what is THAT??'... but like you also said, if something is happening that early, there is really not that much that can be done, so you just kind of have to suck it up and take it. it is not fun, it is nerve wracking and it can feel a bit isolating. just take it one day at a time.
i was thinking last nite and marveling that i remember the first tri and just how stressed i was mentally...and how i just wanted to get to 12 weeks. then i just wanted to get to the 15 week mark. then i remember being 20 weeks and starting to finally feel the baby move. i have friends who felt their babies all the time at 13/15/17 weeks and i hardly ever felt ANYTHING til 20+. but i just kept saying to myself, well i am not bleeding, i am not doubled over in pain, so let's just ASSUME the best. i even still get pains now i don't even know what they are but again if i am not bleeding or in serious pain, i am not going to stress myself out.
i had two weird sharp stabbing pains last week while out walking and i asked my dr about them and she said that it could have been A or B or C. she said it is very hard to even know what might be happening at any given point in time. if something is not 'chronic' then it might just be a stretching muscle, pulling ligament, even a side stitch or GAS! i get crazy pains sometimes now and i am sure they are gas from my squished tiny stomach.
also the more dr appts i went to the better i felt, every time my dr said i seemed fine, everything was progressing etc etc. if you would like, get a doppler, you can rent them for like $14 a month and it may be peace of mind for you.
but anyway now i am 32 weeks,
oh and my kid is like an acrobat gymnast now what seems like 3/4 of the day, and my friends who had early feelings of their baby don't even have as active nuggets... so he's definitely making up for LOST TIME. it just goes to show it's all so personal.
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I had cramping in all of my pregnancies, so that didn''t worry me as much. However, with this pregnancy at about 9 weeks, I had a gush of bright red blood one night. I thought for sure that it was a m/c starting. I didn''t bother going to the ER because I knew from previous experience that they can''t do anything and I would have been happier being at home.
By the next morning, the bleeding had tapered off to very, very light, so I called my midwife''s nurse and went in for an ultrasound. There we saw the little peanut just hanging out, heart beating like crazy...and a pocket of old blood to the side of the amniotic sac.
The tech told me that this happens fairly frequently, isn''t a huge cause for concern and that I''d probably spot for a while. I had spotting for another 3 weeks on and off and everything after that has been textbook perfect.
It was pretty scary, but made me realize that these little critters are a whole lot hardier than we probably suspect.
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JCrow, HouMedGal and Meresal- Glad the H-town info is helpful! Weird to realize how much information I''ve accumulated. Didn''t know we had so many of us around here, perhaps we should do a mommy get together once your little ones arrive! Or if you want to see what you''re in for, we could do one sooner and I can unleash Oliver on all of you. You can''t turn back now!
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Puppmom - I think it''s really good that you''re trying not to read too many pregnancy books right now, if you are the type to get anxious. Certain books spend a lot of time dwelling on the negative things that only happen 1% of the time.
If you have a copy of "What to Expect When You''re Expecting," then just do yourself a favor and burn it. I read many pregnancy books but I never read that one because of the hysteria and panic it caused in my friends who read it while they were pregnant. From what I understand, that book will make you think that if you breathe the wrong way you''re going to hurt your baby, and as a naturally laid back person, I didn''t want to become an anxious mess while I was pregnant.
I do highly recommend:
The Girlfriend''s Guide to Pregnancy, by Vicki Iovine. This is NOT a medical pregnancy book, or written by an expert. It''s a humorous, yet informative, guide written by a woman who had 4 children in 5 years. It''s light and fun and should help you enjoy your pregnancy, without giving you stress.
When you pass 12 weeks and feel more ready for a more medical, factual pregnancy book, I highly recommend these two:
I''m Pregnant!, by Dr. Lesley Regan. It has great full-color photographs of babies in utero from earliest pregnancy, and a really good section on newborn care at the end as well. I will warn you that there is a section in the back that discusses possible problems, so you may want to hold off on this book until week 13. I like the author''s style though - informative and matter-of-fact without being hysterical and alarmist.
The Pregnancy Book, By Dr. William Sears, and Martha Sears, RN (his wife). I am not a crunchy baby-wearing, family bed-sleeping type, yet I really enjoyed this book (the Sears'' are known for their "attachment parenting" beliefs). This pregnancy book really focuses on the mother''s and baby''s well-being before the birth, so it doesn''t really go into their whole attachment parenting concept if that''s not for you. Dr. Sears is a pediatrician, and his wife is a pediatric nurse who had 8 children of her own, and the book is basically written half and half by each of them, so it gives a really great viewpoint, especially from Martha''s perspective. She is very relaxed about pregnancy and childbirth, views it as a natural process, and encourages women to trust their bodies, so it''s great because she doesn''t stress out the reader either.
If you have a copy of "What to Expect When You''re Expecting," then just do yourself a favor and burn it. I read many pregnancy books but I never read that one because of the hysteria and panic it caused in my friends who read it while they were pregnant. From what I understand, that book will make you think that if you breathe the wrong way you''re going to hurt your baby, and as a naturally laid back person, I didn''t want to become an anxious mess while I was pregnant.
I do highly recommend:
The Girlfriend''s Guide to Pregnancy, by Vicki Iovine. This is NOT a medical pregnancy book, or written by an expert. It''s a humorous, yet informative, guide written by a woman who had 4 children in 5 years. It''s light and fun and should help you enjoy your pregnancy, without giving you stress.
When you pass 12 weeks and feel more ready for a more medical, factual pregnancy book, I highly recommend these two:
I''m Pregnant!, by Dr. Lesley Regan. It has great full-color photographs of babies in utero from earliest pregnancy, and a really good section on newborn care at the end as well. I will warn you that there is a section in the back that discusses possible problems, so you may want to hold off on this book until week 13. I like the author''s style though - informative and matter-of-fact without being hysterical and alarmist.
The Pregnancy Book, By Dr. William Sears, and Martha Sears, RN (his wife). I am not a crunchy baby-wearing, family bed-sleeping type, yet I really enjoyed this book (the Sears'' are known for their "attachment parenting" beliefs). This pregnancy book really focuses on the mother''s and baby''s well-being before the birth, so it doesn''t really go into their whole attachment parenting concept if that''s not for you. Dr. Sears is a pediatrician, and his wife is a pediatric nurse who had 8 children of her own, and the book is basically written half and half by each of them, so it gives a really great viewpoint, especially from Martha''s perspective. She is very relaxed about pregnancy and childbirth, views it as a natural process, and encourages women to trust their bodies, so it''s great because she doesn''t stress out the reader either.
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JCrow, HouMedGal and Meresal- Glad the H-town info is helpful! Weird to realize how much information I've accumulated. Didn't know we had so many of us around here, perhaps we should do a mommy get together once your little ones arrive! Or if you want to see what you're in for, we could do one sooner and I can unleash Oliver on all of you. You can't turn back now!
i vote sooner since i'd be traveling in for the meetup. i'd actually LOVE to do a gtg with you gals! and oliver, love that name. it was on our contender list for boy names! oh, and i think gingerb is also in the houston area!
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Puppmom, to add to the bleeding discussion, I spotted for 4 weeks during my first pregnancy, it ended in a miscarriage. This time around I spotted for 5 weeks, healthy baby at 26 weeks. There is not always an explanation for what''s happening, and we have no control. Anxiety doesn''t hurt babies, but the calmer you are the better off you are. What your husband said, while it may have simply sounded ridiculouosly practical, is his way of protecting you. My husband told me the exact same thing I know he did so because he knew there was nothing either one of us could do to stop a miscarriage from occuring. He grieved right along side me when the first pregnancy ended, and rejoiced when I became pregnant again. Tough words to swallow, but he''s right, that''s all you can do. Hang in there.
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You guys are great! I really appreciate your advice - it''s what I was looking for. I didn''t post just to vent. I really wanted to understand how everyone else copes with their anxieties and you all have reassured me very much. It''s very touching that you all care enough to spend the time responding thoughtfully.
Dreamer, thanks for your post. I will try to positive affirmations. I think that will help. I know that it will not distinguish my anxiety completely but I do think that improving my attitude overall will help me enjoy this time.
Mara, thanks for the info. I get the babycenter update which is nice because it''s written in a very matter of fact way. It doesn''t plant any ideas in my head! I''ll check out fit pregnancy.
Charger, I''m glad to hear from someone who''s not that far ahead of me. I think the milestone of reaching the end of the first trimester will really ease my stress. I''m so glad you''re enjoying things now.
Lindsey, my first appointment is tomorrow (yippee!). I think you''re right that the gap between the BFP and doctor''s visit feels SO long. I imagined what the day would be like when I saw that positive and I gotta tell ya, it was a little anti-climatic because the fear set in almost immediately. I felt sort of guilty that I wasn''t jumping for joy but something in me just wouldn''t allow that.
Rock, do you have a regular OG/Gyn in addition to the midwife? You must have been terrified when you saw blood. I''m glad to hear you''re doing well now. I know the odds of something going wrong aren''t high and that most of my fears have no real basis but it sure is hard to talk myself down sometimes! I''m working on it though.
Anchor, I''m glad to know others worry too...and I''m not going to beat myself up. I''m just going to try to focus more on the positive. After all, if all goes according to plan DH and I will have a baby next August! I''m glad to know the cramping is normal. I''ve never had "crotch pain" before...it was very weird!
Meresal, I laughed when I read your post because I almost tell DH that there''s nothing I hate more than when I''m all wound up than him telling me to "relax". BUT...you''re right! I just have to find a way to make it happen. I realize that I can either be happy or miserable. My mood won''t change the outcome so I''m going to do my darndest to be happy.
TGal, I''m glad to know women with spotting go on to have healthy pregnancies. I spot EVERY cycle so I can''t help but look.
Mara, haha - by temping I meant taking my BBT each morning. I was taking it to detect ovulation and, just before AF, my temp would drop. I''m afraid if I see a temp drop for some reason, it''ll just be something else to freak out about. I do like the idea of just looking at pictures of ultrasounds etc. for my week of pregnancy. BTW - you look gorgeous in your photos!!
VesperGirl, thank you thank you thank you for the book recommendations. I totally though what to expect was the end all be all of pregnancy books but I will steer clear! I certainly do not want to cause myself any additional worry. I think I need either very matter of fact or positive personal stories so I''m gonna check out your suggestions.
Kimberly, I''m sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I''m sure you worried this go around when the spotting started. I''m so glad all is well! I agree that DH is just trying to protect me. We are very different in the sense that he has a positive attitude until he''s given a reason not to, and me, well...you can tell from my post that I''m the opposite!
Thank you again, ladies. It really is so kind of you all to to give such thoughtful advice and share your experiences.
I apologize in advance for any typos in this mamouth post!
Dreamer, thanks for your post. I will try to positive affirmations. I think that will help. I know that it will not distinguish my anxiety completely but I do think that improving my attitude overall will help me enjoy this time.
Mara, thanks for the info. I get the babycenter update which is nice because it''s written in a very matter of fact way. It doesn''t plant any ideas in my head! I''ll check out fit pregnancy.
Charger, I''m glad to hear from someone who''s not that far ahead of me. I think the milestone of reaching the end of the first trimester will really ease my stress. I''m so glad you''re enjoying things now.
Lindsey, my first appointment is tomorrow (yippee!). I think you''re right that the gap between the BFP and doctor''s visit feels SO long. I imagined what the day would be like when I saw that positive and I gotta tell ya, it was a little anti-climatic because the fear set in almost immediately. I felt sort of guilty that I wasn''t jumping for joy but something in me just wouldn''t allow that.
Rock, do you have a regular OG/Gyn in addition to the midwife? You must have been terrified when you saw blood. I''m glad to hear you''re doing well now. I know the odds of something going wrong aren''t high and that most of my fears have no real basis but it sure is hard to talk myself down sometimes! I''m working on it though.
Anchor, I''m glad to know others worry too...and I''m not going to beat myself up. I''m just going to try to focus more on the positive. After all, if all goes according to plan DH and I will have a baby next August! I''m glad to know the cramping is normal. I''ve never had "crotch pain" before...it was very weird!
Meresal, I laughed when I read your post because I almost tell DH that there''s nothing I hate more than when I''m all wound up than him telling me to "relax". BUT...you''re right! I just have to find a way to make it happen. I realize that I can either be happy or miserable. My mood won''t change the outcome so I''m going to do my darndest to be happy.
TGal, I''m glad to know women with spotting go on to have healthy pregnancies. I spot EVERY cycle so I can''t help but look.
Mara, haha - by temping I meant taking my BBT each morning. I was taking it to detect ovulation and, just before AF, my temp would drop. I''m afraid if I see a temp drop for some reason, it''ll just be something else to freak out about. I do like the idea of just looking at pictures of ultrasounds etc. for my week of pregnancy. BTW - you look gorgeous in your photos!!
VesperGirl, thank you thank you thank you for the book recommendations. I totally though what to expect was the end all be all of pregnancy books but I will steer clear! I certainly do not want to cause myself any additional worry. I think I need either very matter of fact or positive personal stories so I''m gonna check out your suggestions.
Kimberly, I''m sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I''m sure you worried this go around when the spotting started. I''m so glad all is well! I agree that DH is just trying to protect me. We are very different in the sense that he has a positive attitude until he''s given a reason not to, and me, well...you can tell from my post that I''m the opposite!
Thank you again, ladies. It really is so kind of you all to to give such thoughtful advice and share your experiences.
I apologize in advance for any typos in this mamouth post!
jcrow
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puppmom - normally i''m a worry wort, but for some reason [and i would have never dreamed this would happen!] i just haven''t been like that through this pregnancy. maybe because i felt so yucky at the beginning i just concentrated on getting to feeling better. that''s what i focused my energy on.
good luck. like the others mentioned, i''m sure the anxiety will ease up the further along you get. just know your body is doing what it needs to be doing, so try to give your brain a rest :]
good luck. like the others mentioned, i''m sure the anxiety will ease up the further along you get. just know your body is doing what it needs to be doing, so try to give your brain a rest :]
anchor31
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Jcrow~That''s funny that you guys had boy names because we were the complete opposite with our first...only agreed on 1 name and it was a girl name. Thank goodness we had a girl! Keep us posted!
Ginger~Thanks!
puppmom~Isn''t this thread great? What you''re feeling is perfectly normal and it''s so great to have a place to come and get support!
Getting the nursery close to completed. Tayva''s new dresser should be here the end of the week and then we can move her old dresser into the nursery and then just have a few finished touches left. yay!
Ginger~Thanks!
puppmom~Isn''t this thread great? What you''re feeling is perfectly normal and it''s so great to have a place to come and get support!
Getting the nursery close to completed. Tayva''s new dresser should be here the end of the week and then we can move her old dresser into the nursery and then just have a few finished touches left. yay!
gingerB
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china - that was actually me, not houmedgal who posted about the h-town info
; i think a get together would be a blast! count me in
puppmom - lots of great advice here. i remember my anxiety the 1st tri, knowing mc was at it's highest risk at that point. that coupled with waiting for the first ob visit and not really being able to talk to anyone in "real life" about it yet other than dh was tough. hitting that 12 week mark was def a big "whew" but then different worries start cropping up -- from detecting movement, to now they're moving, is it enough, to what's that weird pressure, to i've made it this far, let's hit lung nmaturity, then full term, then get this baby out! THEN comes the worries of motherhood, which will last you a lifetime. in otherwords, there will ALWAYS be something to worry about, and you can't let YOU drive YOU crazy!!! ya know?
take it one day at a time. keep us in the loop...can't wait to hear about ur first doc visit. it's always exciting!!!
burk - yay for almost complete nursery. so jealous of the moms here who are so prepared. work is totally gettin g in my way at the moment and getting stuff done around the house has become pretty impossible.
so all my worries about gingerbaby's lack of movement -- well he's back to his crazy wriggly self. kind of makes me feel sheepish for freaking out
. i have a feeling this won't be my first mom freakout over my kid's fake out.
with the change in movements to squirms and wriggles and pushes rather than abstract random kicks and punches, it's starting to really hit me that there is something alive and moving around in there, y'know? espcially when i put my hand on my belly and i can feel body part. gotta say it's kindda freaky
but in a very cool way
my belly is REALLY starting to itch. anyone else having that problem? i remember mara had posted about it earlier on in her pregnancy, but i'm at 31 weeks now. the itchiness wakes me up from sleep too. very irritating.
2 questions here.
1) what are ya'lls thoughts/actions on the whole sleeping on your back dealio? i've always been a side sleeper, which made me think that it would be easy peasy for me, but i keep waking up on my back. and sometimes it seems more comfy on my back, but then i start feeling guilty about possibly depriving gingerbaby of something vital, so then i go back to my side and then the whole process repeats itself. i'm not uncomfortable in any position (yet -- fingers crossed!) but this keeps waking me up mulitple times per night.
2)cord blood banking - private vs public vs not at all? with the little bit of research i've done, i'm thinking likely i'll do public. it seems private is too costly for such low return (although if you need it, YOU NEED IT). maybe if i was part of a high risk group i'd consider, but right now, i'm thinking no, although my ob seems to want me to say yes. i don't know if public banking is available in my area (should be since i'm in one of the largest med centers and a huge transplant center) and i haven't fully researched what it entails (pretty minimal on the donor side from what ive read so far), but the thought of donating something that would otherwise go to waste and possibly save another child's life is very appealing. just wanted to hear other's thoughts on the subject and what ya'll have learned. it's esp interesting for me since i'm working on the transplant service right now.
puppmom - lots of great advice here. i remember my anxiety the 1st tri, knowing mc was at it's highest risk at that point. that coupled with waiting for the first ob visit and not really being able to talk to anyone in "real life" about it yet other than dh was tough. hitting that 12 week mark was def a big "whew" but then different worries start cropping up -- from detecting movement, to now they're moving, is it enough, to what's that weird pressure, to i've made it this far, let's hit lung nmaturity, then full term, then get this baby out! THEN comes the worries of motherhood, which will last you a lifetime. in otherwords, there will ALWAYS be something to worry about, and you can't let YOU drive YOU crazy!!! ya know?
burk - yay for almost complete nursery. so jealous of the moms here who are so prepared. work is totally gettin g in my way at the moment and getting stuff done around the house has become pretty impossible.
so all my worries about gingerbaby's lack of movement -- well he's back to his crazy wriggly self. kind of makes me feel sheepish for freaking out
my belly is REALLY starting to itch. anyone else having that problem? i remember mara had posted about it earlier on in her pregnancy, but i'm at 31 weeks now. the itchiness wakes me up from sleep too. very irritating.
2 questions here.
1) what are ya'lls thoughts/actions on the whole sleeping on your back dealio? i've always been a side sleeper, which made me think that it would be easy peasy for me, but i keep waking up on my back. and sometimes it seems more comfy on my back, but then i start feeling guilty about possibly depriving gingerbaby of something vital, so then i go back to my side and then the whole process repeats itself. i'm not uncomfortable in any position (yet -- fingers crossed!) but this keeps waking me up mulitple times per night.
2)cord blood banking - private vs public vs not at all? with the little bit of research i've done, i'm thinking likely i'll do public. it seems private is too costly for such low return (although if you need it, YOU NEED IT). maybe if i was part of a high risk group i'd consider, but right now, i'm thinking no, although my ob seems to want me to say yes. i don't know if public banking is available in my area (should be since i'm in one of the largest med centers and a huge transplant center) and i haven't fully researched what it entails (pretty minimal on the donor side from what ive read so far), but the thought of donating something that would otherwise go to waste and possibly save another child's life is very appealing. just wanted to hear other's thoughts on the subject and what ya'll have learned. it's esp interesting for me since i'm working on the transplant service right now.
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