Choosing a wedding band to compliment my classic 6 prong set 2 carat H colour SI1 engagemwnr

[legaleagle84]

Hi everyone!

I am getting a 2 carat 6 prong Tiffany style set engagement ring and I am trying to choose a wedding band. I think I am stuck because I looked at rings for way too long over the last few weeks and I would be so grateful for objective fresh eyes to give me some feedback. I read some other threads on similar topics and they were so helpful! I think I narrowed it down to 5 point / 7 point / 10 point diamonds on a half eternity type wedding band (ie 9 or 10 diamonds).

The band on my engagement ring is 2.2 mm wide which is a touch more delicate than the classic 2.5 mm Tiffany set 6 prong. Otherwise the setting looks very close to the Tiffany setting.

I love the 10 point diamonds side by side which creates a “wall of diamonds” view beside the 2 carat e-ring. But because a 10 pt diamond set in a prong setting (3.5 mm wide) is much wider than 2.2 mm wide e-ring , I am wondering if it looks off or unsymmetrical beside the setting of the 2 carat e-ring? On the flip side; the 2 carat stone can handle 10 pointers!
The attached pictures are of the 5 pointer/ 7 pointer / 10 pointer demo rings beside a 2 carat diamond set in a Tiffany style setting.

The diamonds on the top pictured wedding bands have individual prongs. I saw a shared prong ring that looks very similar on James Allen for almost half the cost. Is it really that risky to get a shared prong setting? The jewellery store I am working with keep telling me over time people lose diamonds on the shared prong setting and say they are not durable.

Platinum Nine Stone Shared Prong Contour Diamond Ring (1.00 CTW - F-G / VS1-VS2)-16002p4a

Open shared prongs contour the diamonds to better showcase their unmatched beauty. A scalloped setting provides protection while allowing more light to shine through the diamond for added sparkle. This anniversary ring is elegant and timeless.

www.jamesallen.com

I’m not sure why James Allen or blue Nile doesn’t have this low profile individual prong style wedding band....

Questions:

1. Is 3.5 mm wide 1 carat wedding band (ie 10 x 0.10 ct diamonds) look too wide or disproportionate beside the 2.2 mm wide ering setting?

2. If I am going lower than 10 pointer, should I go 5 pts or 7 pts?

3. I looked at the Tiffany embrace wedding band which is more of a bezel type setting which is completely different than the prong setting I’ve been looking at which has more of a flat edge around the diamonds: Should I go Tiffany Embrace type band or prong set? I attached the Tiffany Embrace photo. (I know completely different! But I like both! Diamond size questions would apply to both!).

Also, the e-ring design was modified so the wedding band will sit flush with the engagement ring which was a huge ordeal and and we had to go custom. I’m surprised more people aren’t talking about why there is no 6 prong solitaire setting available that will sit flush with a wedding band!

Finally, the ring pictures I am attaching were taken with an in stock ring at the jeweller and my diamond hasn’t been set yet so I can ask for a wider ering band since I’m already paying extra to go custom. I don’t want too much bulk on my hands as I plan on daily wear and I feared that the wider the bands the bulkier it will feel... which might increase the likelihood that I might be tempted to take them off throughout the day... and I fear losing them so I don’t want them to feel like they are in the way. I have a desk/computer based job. This is why I leaned toward a more delicate band on e-ring.

Sorry for the long post! From what I have read, some of you have had your rings for a while and even redesigned/ reset them so tried/tested/true opinions are valuable! I’ve never worn any rings on a daily basis before so my assumptions are based entirely on theory here!

 

[LLJsmom]

I'd go skinnier than any of the options you posted above. Between 2-2.2mm. That's because I like symmetry in band width and height (from finger) of both rings. To me, that's why all the bands seems to overwhelm the ering. If you want to go statement on your band, then go much bigger. Just IMHO.

This is what I mean by the band being the same width as the shank of the ering.


This is scary bigger.

 

[Yimmers]

How are they designing your setting so that the band will sit flush - I'm asking just out of curiosity.

If you like the .1, then go for it. I prefer the .05 if you are going to go smaller. The .07 feels like you should just go .1

I wouldn't go wider with the e-ring. It will feel bulky.

Of course, the go big or go home band of @LLJsmom also works!

Re: shared prongs - I had one that was a bit u-prong in shape. A diamond fell out, and so did the replacement because the local bench bent the ring out of shape. I went with the Novella band from BGD, and had no problems ever.

 

[HGar]

I really like the middle option, large enough to sparkle but not bigger to overshadow your ER.

 

[legaleagle84]

I'd go skinnier than any of the options you posted above. Between 2-2.2mm. That's because I like symmetry in band width and height (from finger) of both rings. To me, that's why all the bands seems to overwhelm the ering. If you want to go statement on your band, then go much bigger. Just IMHO.

This is what I mean by the band being the same width as the shank of the ering.


This is scary bigger.

I'd go skinnier than any of the options you posted above. Between 2-2.2mm. That's because I like symmetry in band width and height (from finger) of both rings. To me, that's why all the bands seems to overwhelm the ering. If you want to go statement on your band, then go much bigger. Just IMHO.

This is what I mean by the band being the same width as the shank of the ering.


This is scary bigger.

I LOVE the clean lines on your rings! I do not like the chunky look so I don’t want to go above the 10 points.

My e-ring band is 2.2 mm wide.

For wedding band to be the same width, I would have to choose 3 point diamonds at 2mm or 5 point diamonds at 2.5 mm. There will be alternatives that are exactly 2.2 mm wide but likely not in the individual prong setting. I have seen it in shared prong.

7 point diamonds on band is about 3mm wide so slightly wider but the 10 point diamonds on band are 3.5 mm wide so noticeably wider.

The attached two photos below is the 3 points. It looks skinnier than the e-ring band. Also, the wedding band sample in this photo is a size too big compared to e-ring and my finger size so it looks wide for that reason.

 

[mtran89]

I had the same issue of wanting my ring to sit flush with my eternity band. I am currently in the process of redesigning both my e ring and eternity band. I mentioned this in a thread I made. I’ve had some CAD drawings sent back to me but still making some minor changes.

10 pointers are 3mm diamond so the band should only be about 3.1mm wide on a shared prong wedding band. That is how wide mine is going to be. I like the 10 pointers because it can be worn alone and still have presence. I personally like the scalloped look on the wedding band like the Tiffany Embrace and not the flat edge.

It might be better to go too thick than too thin. Because if you think it’s too thick, you can always take it down more. You can always slim it down by removing metal, but you can’t add. They told me it’s no problem taking it down more if I find it too thick.

 

[legaleagle84]

How are they designing your setting so that the band will sit flush - I'm asking just out of curiosity.

If you like the .1, then go for it. I prefer the .05 if you are going to go smaller. The .07 feels like you should just go .1

I wouldn't go wider with the e-ring. It will feel bulky.

Of course, the go big or go home band of @LLJsmom also works!

Re: shared prongs - I had one that was a bit u-prong in shape. A diamond fell out, and so did the replacement because the local bench bent the ring out of shape. I went with the Novella band from BGD, and had no problems ever.

I’m glad you asked about how to make the two diamonds sit flush. It’s been such an ordeal for me to try to understand why this doesn’t already exist. They were trying to tell me I had to go with a curved band, drawing attached. Then I questioned them about why they can’t just shave the “head” down, which is the round part at the base which jets out causing wedding band to be pushed away from the e-ring setting. In red marker I circled the part in the CAD drawing showing the round part that jets out preventing the ring from sitting flush. They finally talked to the designer and to my suprise she said she could do it! I’m so surprised because so many threads talk about this “gap” and people learning how to embrace the gap or choosing different settings all together. I’m still waiting on the new drawing to show how it will sit with no gap (or how it will look when they shave down the “head” at the base). Will post new drawing that will show normal wedding band (no curve) with altered base when I get it.

 

[mtran89]

I’m glad you asked about how to make the two diamonds sit flush. It’s been such an ordeal for me to try to understand why this doesn’t already exist. They were trying to tell me I had to go with a curved band, drawing attached. Then I questioned them about why they can’t just shave the “head” down, which is the round part at the base which jets out causing wedding band to be pushed away from the e-ring setting. In red marker I circled the part in the CAD drawing showing the round part that jets out preventing the ring from sitting flush. They finally talked to the designer and to my suprise she said she could do it! I’m so surprised because so many threads talk about this “gap” and people learning how to embrace the gap or choosing different settings all together. I’m still waiting on the new drawing to show how it will sit with no gap (or how it will look when they shave down the “head” at the base). Will post new drawing that will show normal wedding band (no curve) with altered base when I get it.

I think you may want consider having a small donut and not remove it entirely. It protects your ring, especially if you have diamonds on the wedding band.

 

[Kim N]

Is it really that risky to get a shared prong setting? The jewellery store I am working with keep telling me over time people lose diamonds on the shared prong setting and say they are not durable.

I've worn a shared prong wedding band that's about 2.3mm wide for almost a dozen years without any issues.

I vote for the 2.5mm 5-pointer band, or a shared prong band that's 2.2-2.4mm.

 

[AnastasiaBeaverhausen]

My choice would be to go with smaller ctw with your wedding band for now. Then get another one with bigger stones later as an anniversary band.

 

[Patty]

I prefer the 5 point stones and then the 7 point stones. Both look great in your pictures! I like the wedding band to be a bit wider than the engagement ring.

 

[motownmama]

#1 - trust YOUR gut!!
#2 - I do NOT think your WB & ER have to be same width.
#3 - I like the 10 points, but see #1
#4 - I have the .9 something embrace as a right hand ring, but with my ER I prefer full eternity - spinning makes me nuts. My band was 7-stone but later I had it made full circle.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

I do not at all think the e-ring and wedding band have to be the same width. I like the wedding band a little wider. I have had a band with 10 pointers in the past, but I now have a 2.2mm Tiffany Legacy band with tiny diamonds. I like both looks. You can easily wear any of your three choices with your engagement ring.

Here's the 2.3 ct e-ring with the Legacy band:



Here's the 10 point band when I had a 1.6 ct diamond:



The 10 point band will work better with a 2 ct e-ring than it did with a 1.6. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with a wedding band that is wider than the engagement ring.

To address your comment about flush fit, I think most people who've been around here a long time don't care about that at all. Rings don't stay flush unless your rings are too tight or you're wearing a stack. In fact, some of us prefer a small gap so it looks like two rings instead of two glued together. Not only that, the little doughnut on the engagement ring can keep the diamonds on the wedding band from rubbing the prongs of the e-ring. The tiny gaps you can see in these pictures just don't bother me. Some people have their rings soldered together if they really want flush fit, but I do not recommend that since sometimes one might want to wear the wedding band and not the engagement ring.

 

[legaleagle84]

I think you may want consider having a small donut and not remove it entirely. It protects your ring, especially if you have diamonds on the wedding band.

Yes, it will still be there, just the size of the donut will be smaller so it doesn’t push the wedding band out. This isn’t the ring I am getting but another jeweller emailed me this photo of a setting they have available (without having to go custom) where the head is much smaller.

 

[legaleagle84]

I do not at all think the e-ring and wedding band have to be the same width. I have had a band with 10 pointers in the past, but I now have a 2.2mm Tiffany Legacy band with tiny diamonds. I like both looks.

Here's the 2.3 ct e-ring with the Legacy band:



Here's the 10 point band when I had a 1.6 ct diamond:



The 10 point band will work better with a 2 ct e-ring than it did with a 1.6. But there is absolutely nothing wrong with a wedding band that is wider than the engagement ring.

To address your question about flush fit, I think most people who've been around here a long time don't care about that at all. Rings don't stay flush unless your rings are too tight or you're wearing a stack. In fact, some of us prefer a small gap so it looks like two rings instead of two glued together. The tiny gaps you can see in these pictures just don't bother me.

Thank you so much for sharing the two photos. The clean lines on the legacy ring is gorgeous!!! . This is why I wanted to go individual prong the the outer edge of the ring looks straight without having channel set with raised edges and because I heard prong setting allows for light to travel better than channel set.
I agree with you about the gap. At first it bothered me a lot. Then when I was told it couldn’t be done without compromising the integrity of the band I accepted the gap because I don’t want to have a curved wedding band that I can’t wear on its own if I ever wanted to wear it without the engagement ring. This designer said she could reduce or almost eliminate the gap, but in waiting for the drawing. I’ll believe it when I see it.

 

[legaleagle84]

#1 - trust YOUR gut!!
#2 - I do NOT think your WB & ER have to be same width.
#3 - I like the 10 points, but see #1
#4 - I have the .9 something embrace as a right hand ring, but with my ER I prefer full eternity - spinning makes me nuts. My band was 7-stone but later I had it made full circle.

I was told the full circle eternity rubs against the other two fingers and is more bulky and uncomfortable. Do you wear your E-ring and eternity band together often? Does the e-ring also not spin on you? I imagined they would both spin and I would need to adjust both a few times a day.

 

[legaleagle84]

I had the same issue of wanting my ring to sit flush with my eternity band. I am currently in the process of redesigning both my e ring and eternity band. I mentioned this in a thread I made. I’ve had some CAD drawings sent back to me but still making some minor changes.

10 pointers are 3mm diamond so the band should only be about 3.1mm wide on a shared prong wedding band. That is how wide mine is going to be. I like the 10 pointers because it can be worn alone and still have presence. I personally like the scalloped look on the wedding band like the Tiffany Embrace and not the flat edge.

It might be better to go too thick than too thin. Because if you think it’s too thick, you can always take it down more. You can always slim it down by removing metal, but you can’t add. They told me it’s no problem taking it down more if I find it too thick.

I think there may be a band width difference for eternity based on who makes it. My favourite in eternity bands with least amount of metal is BGD dream wedding ring. It looks like a tiara on the profile view because it’s just diamond after diamond that you see. I think you are right, shared prong reduced the width by removing access metal. Would love to see your drawings once you have them! Are you going with 6 prong for your ering?

 

[motownmama]

I was told the full circle eternity rubs against the other two fingers and is more bulky and uncomfortable. Do you wear your E-ring and eternity band together often? Does the e-ring also not spin on you? I imagined they would both spin and I would need to adjust both a few times a day.

I guess if it’s large diamonds an eternity would rub fingers. I’ve worn them together for over a decade - sleep/everything. Personal preference for sure. My ER has a tiny speed bump.

 

[legaleagle84]

Omg, I just got drawing back of ering without the donut head in the base. It looks good! I think! Any thoughts??? Picture one, new drawing. Picture two, old drawing with donut head at bottom resulting in wedding band being curved.

 

[tyty333]

With respect to your latest CADs did you decide against pave in your wedding band? It looks like solid metal in your CAD.

 

[legaleagle84]

I was disappointed that the designer just put a regular band for reference. Since I’m not going custom for the wedding band anymore since I don’t need the curve, I think she just plopped on whatever. I emailed back and asked her to put a prong set Dianond band for reference and I also asked how much room I have between the base of the ring and when the prongs holding the solitaire diamond start to jet out. Ie, how big can I go with the diamond pavé or prong set wedding band so it sits flush. I’m hoping she will update the drawing and if she does I will post that here is well.

Also, HUGE price difference between a 1 carat wedding band (ie 10 x 0.10 ct prong set diamonds) on platinum wedding band compared to jewellery store vs James Allan or Blue Nile. Ie. $4,000 vs. $2,000! I purchased a loose diamond so I knew I had to pay extra to have it set into a setting, but no point in going custom for the wedding band and paying such a premium when I can find one online at half the price.

Now the tricky part will be to figure out a way to get the thickness measurement. Online they only tell you how wide the band is. They don’t tell you how tall or thick it is from base to top of diamond... lol

 

[mtran89]

I was disappointed that the designer just put a regular band for reference. Since I’m not going custom for the wedding band anymore since I don’t need the curve, I think she just plopped on whatever. I emailed back and asked her to put a prong set Dianond band for reference and I also asked how much room I have between the base of the ring and when the prongs holding the solitaire diamond start to jet out. Ie, how big can I go with the diamond pavé or prong set wedding band so it sits flush. I’m hoping she will update the drawing and if she does I will post that here is well.

Also, HUGE price difference between a 1 carat wedding band (ie 10 x 0.10 ct prong set diamonds) on platinum wedding band compared to jewellery store vs James Allan or Blue Nile. Ie. $4,000 vs. $2,000! I purchased a loose diamond so I knew I had to pay extra to have it set into a setting, but no point in going custom for the wedding band and paying such a premium when I can find one online at half the price.

Now the tricky part will be to figure out a way to get the thickness measurement. Online they only tell you how wide the band is. They don’t tell you how tall or thick it is from base to top of diamond... lol

Yeah thats the problem if you don't go custom with the wedding band. You wont really know for sure if it will sit well with the e-ring.

If you don't want to go custom, I suggest buying the wedding band first and send it to the person making the e-ring so they can build around it and/or be able to take the measurements exact measurements? Especially if you're picky with how the rings will sit together.

You have to also keep in mind CAD drawings are only estimates as well. Once the diamonds are set the height can actually vary based on the bench. This was what I was told. That is why they recommended making them together or send the wedding band in when the e-ring is being made

 

[tyty333]

The thing about the donut at the bottom...is that it holds the pave wedding band far enough out to keep from eating into the prongs
of your ering. Anyone can do a ering without a donut but if you try to put a pave ring up next to it its going to eat/damage your prongs.

 

[legaleagle84]

Good point! There were a few bands I’ve already looked at! I’ll ask them to make the drawing in accordance with one of those bands.

 

[mtran89]

Good point! There were a few bands I’ve already looked at! I’ll ask them to make the drawing in accordance with one of those bands.

On the bright side....at least it’s not taking ages for you to get your drawings back... I’ve been working with Whiteflash and they are extremely slow. It’s going on 6 weeks now to finish my CAD drawings and I’m still waiting with no idea when they are going to be complete.

This is what it currently looks like right now, they sent me these over a week ago and I’m just waiting for additional changes that I requested. It took a month for me to get the first rendition. Now kind of wishing I went with someone local.

 

[legaleagle84]

On the bright side....at least it’s not taking ages for you to get your drawings back... I’ve been working with Whiteflash and they are extremely slow. It’s going on 6 weeks now to finish my CAD drawings and I’m still waiting with no idea when they are going to be complete.

This is what it currently looks like right now, they sent me these over a week ago and I’m just waiting for additional changes that I requested. It took a month for me to get the first rendition. Now kind of wishing I went with someone local.

Wow! Your rings are gorgeous! What size are the diamonds on the eternity ring? Are you worried the diamonds or prongs might rub against your other fingers? Are you keeping the donut at the base and the gap between? Perhaps you can ask them to set timelines and keep them or give any money you have paid back? Sometimes setting boundaries keeps lackadaisical people in check. Sorry to hear that you are in limbo.

 

[mtran89]

Wow! Your rings are gorgeous! What size are the diamonds on the eternity ring? Are you worried the diamonds or prongs might rub against your other fingers? Are you keeping the donut at the base and the gap between? Perhaps you can ask them to set timelines and keep them or give any money you have paid back? Sometimes setting boundaries keeps lackadaisical people in check. Sorry to hear that you are in limbo.

The eternity band is 10 pointers 3.1mm wide. I am a bit worried it'll be bulky, but I think that the ring spinning and having to constantly adjust it would bother me more. There will be a small gap but I don't mind it. I would rather have a big enough gap, so the side of my ring wont get completely scratched up.

I asked to make the donut a bit smaller, but am not sure if its possible. I haven't heard back in over a week about the changes and and haven't really gotten answers on what is and isn't possible... so i'm getting a little impatient.

 

[Kim N]

Now the tricky part will be to figure out a way to get the thickness measurement. Online they only tell you how wide the band is. They don’t tell you how tall or thick it is from base to top of diamond... lol

I know that Whiteflash and BGD, at least, indicate the height measurement on the pages for their bands. I also like @mtran89 's idea of buying the wedding band first and having the e-ring made using the wedding band's measurements.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

The eternity band is 10 pointers 3.1mm wide. I am a bit worried it'll be bulky, but I think that the ring spinning and having to constantly adjust it would bother me more. There will be a small gap but I don't mind it. I would rather have a big enough gap, so the side of my ring wont get completely scratched up.

I asked to make the donut a bit smaller, but am not sure if its possible. I haven't heard back in over a week about the changes and and haven't really gotten answers on what is and isn't possible... so i'm getting a little impatient.

Mtran, having done a lot of projects, I do sympathize with the wait. Sometimes I have had to wait longer than expected and it can seem like forever! Thankfully, it was always worth it in the end. But at this time, I know from speaking with my own Whiteflash SA during the last few months, due to Covid, they are not all working in the office at the same time in order to be safe and socially distanced. So, many things are likely slower than usual. SAs can work from home more easily than the design and bench people can. Plus, at this time of year, there is illness and sometimes people are out sick. So please do understand that they are doing the best they can under the current circumstances. I think they are expecting a major winter storm in the Houston area in the next couple of days, so that will likely add to the delays.

 

[tyty333]

@mtran89 Do you know what the height is going to be on your eternity ring?