do you get annoyed when people wear your e ring on their ring finger?

[Alexiszoe]

Date: 1/19/2009 1:23:01 PM
Author: tlh

I do mind when someone I am aquianted with puts it on w/o asking. Because I would say NO. When someone asks to see it, if I could take it off so that they can get a closer look, I dont expect them to put it on.

yes i totally agree. one girl whom i am not too close to actually put it on, proceeded to parade it in front of all our friends who were gathered there and said loudly 'i don't understand why everyone says it's huge, the diamond is not that big!' i felt it was very rude of her.

 

[AmberGretchen]

Yeah, I think if you are willing to hand it to them to look at, then you sort of have to be OK with them trying it on. IMO, its always good manners to ask before doing anything with anyone else''s ring - whether that''s touching, holding, trying on, etc...but not everyone gets that (or necessarily agrees)...

 

[lyra]

LOL. From the title, my first thought was "How on earth would they get my ER?" I would take it off for a family member, or very close friend, but that''s it. I''m not superstitious or anything, but think it''s rude for anyone else to ask or presume they can try on another person''s ring. I would just tell them I never take it off!

 

[dianne]

Date: 1/19/2009 3:50:36 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 1/19/2009 12:55:53 PM
Author: diamondseeker2006
I think Tacori let me try her ring on, and it is GORGEOUS!!!!

Thanks DS! Hopefully I''ll get to try on your Leon/Tiffany beauties!

Yes, diamondseeker, Tacori has an amazingly beautiful ring! Just as you have read a million times on PS...a picture just doesn''t do it''s justice.....and it really catches the light which (stupid me) I didn''t realize an emerald cut would do!!

And, Tacori, don''t you meet and see diamondseeker''s Leon/Tiffany beauties without me!!!!!

 

[dianne]

Doesn''t bother me at all...I am flattered they want to see how it looks on their finger. But...I can understand the other points of view on this, too,....definitely depends on the individual.

 

[dianne]

Date: 1/19/2009 5:07:22 PM
Author: Alexiszoe

Date: 1/19/2009 1:23:01 PM
Author: tlh

I do mind when someone I am aquianted with puts it on w/o asking. Because I would say NO. When someone asks to see it, if I could take it off so that they can get a closer look, I dont expect them to put it on.

yes i totally agree. one girl whom i am not too close to actually put it on, proceeded to parade it in front of all our friends who were gathered there and said loudly ''i don''t understand why everyone says it''s huge, the diamond is not that big!'' i felt it was very rude of her.

Now THAT was totally unacceptable behavior....ooohhhh....makes me mad to even think about someone doing that

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 1/19/2009 6:15:53 PM
Author: dianne
Doesn't bother me at all...I am flattered they want to see how it looks on their finger. But...I can understand the other points of view on this, too,....definitely depends on the individual.

I got to try on Dianne's (though I don't remember what hand or finger I put it on) and it is AMAZING! Personally I like seeing my ring on someone else's hand. I am not used to viewing it that way so it's kinda cool.

Don't worry, we can drool over DS's set (and other jewels) together! Plus this time we can see MrsT's IRL! How exciting! We gotta get together soon!

ETA: Alexis, that IS rude! I bet she would have said that if you had the hope diamond. Jealously is so ugly!

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 1/19/2009 6:18:13 PM
Author: dianne

Date: 1/19/2009 5:07:22 PM
Author: Alexiszoe

Date: 1/19/2009 1:23:01 PM
Author: tlh

I do mind when someone I am aquianted with puts it on w/o asking. Because I would say NO. When someone asks to see it, if I could take it off so that they can get a closer look, I dont expect them to put it on.

yes i totally agree. one girl whom i am not too close to actually put it on, proceeded to parade it in front of all our friends who were gathered there and said loudly ''i don''t understand why everyone says it''s huge, the diamond is not that big!'' i felt it was very rude of her.

Now THAT was totally unacceptable behavior....ooohhhh....makes me mad to even think about someone doing that

Oh wow...that was inappropriate in so many levels. Did she have to make her own immaturity and jealousy that obvious?

 

[Dee*Jay]

LOL, I''m the queen of handing it over to other people, including total strangers. If I had a dollar for every waitress/starbuck employee/grocery store checkout girl that has tried on my ring I''d have paid for it all over again! And when I worked in my old firm the office manager and I are are the same size and would trade rings all the time for the day. I loved to see it on her hand. It looked much bigger on her though than it does on me...

 

[platinumrock]

Date: 1/19/2009 7:48:10 PM
Author: Dee*Jay
LOL, I''m the queen of handing it over to other people, including total strangers. If I had a dollar for every waitress/starbuck employee/grocery store checkout girl that has tried on my ring I''d have paid for it all over again! And when I worked in my old firm the office manager and I are are the same size and would trade rings all the time for the day. I loved to see it on her hand. It looked much bigger on her though than it does on me...

Haha...I''m so glad you said that because I thought I was the only one who did this. I''d put my e-ring on my husband''s pinky all the time, and it always looked bigger on him. Then I''d take a few steps back and stare at it.

 

[SparklyLibra]

I don''t let anyone try on or hold my ring. If they want to get a closer look they are welcome to hold my hand up at any angle they would like in order to do so. I''m not superstitious but to me (and I stress ''to me'') my engagement ring is such a personal gift that I feel that it was meant to be worn by no-one other than myself. If my fiance wanted to get me a ring that he wouldn''t mind people trying on "just for fun" he''d have got me a RHR. Now when I say that I do so keeping in mind my fiance and mine only, I can''t speak for others''. Let me not forget to add that he asked me kindly not to let anyone else wear or try it on. He told me when he proposed that this ring was meant for my fingers and mine alone. Given that he incorporated such a personal and meaningful statement in his proposal to me, that really goes a long way in my position on others trying on my ring..... For all that we''ve been through and all that this ring actually means to me/ us on such a personal level it''s just not something I''m comfortable with people experimenting with. The same goes for the necklace that I wear. It was a very personal and and symbolic gift. I don''t take that off and let others try it on either so maybe it''s more of a personal thing with me than anything else?

~SL

 

[violet02]

I also get why people may be bugged by it but if someone asks to see it I have no problem handing it over and letting them try it on. That''s me personally though.

 

[DivaDiamond007]

If it''s someone I''m close to and trust then I don''t mind letting them try my rings on. My younger SIL wore mine on her pinky for hours once. I thought it was cute

I''m guilty of doing this myself! When my older SIL got engaged I couldn''t wait to try on her 1.5 and see how it looked on my little 3.75 finger!

 

[geckodani]

Date: 1/19/2009 11:14:53 AM
Author: Burk
I don''t really mind letting others try on my e-ring. I just take it as a compliment that they like it so much they want to inspect it closer.

Ditto!

 

[Diamond*Dana]

I have had close friends and family try my rings on and it does not bother me at all.
I would never take my rings off for a complete stranger...no way!

 

[risingsun]

Date: 1/19/2009 11:29:37 PM
Author: geckodani

Date: 1/19/2009 11:14:53 AM
Author: Burk
I don''t really mind letting others try on my e-ring. I just take it as a compliment that they like it so much they want to inspect it closer.

Ditto!

Thritto

 

[anyname]

i don''t mind taking my ring off for people to try, but never strangers. I don''t like it when people hold my hand to look at my ring, that feels like an invasion to me, and i just don''t like being touched.

 

[LGK]

Date: 1/19/2009 7:59:15 PM
Author: platinumrock

Date: 1/19/2009 7:48:10 PM
Author: Dee*Jay
LOL, I''m the queen of handing it over to other people, including total strangers. If I had a dollar for every waitress/starbuck employee/grocery store checkout girl that has tried on my ring I''d have paid for it all over again! And when I worked in my old firm the office manager and I are are the same size and would trade rings all the time for the day. I loved to see it on her hand. It looked much bigger on her though than it does on me...

Haha...I''m so glad you said that because I thought I was the only one who did this. I''d put my e-ring on my husband''s pinky all the time, and it always looked bigger on him. Then I''d take a few steps back and stare at it.

Haha, I thought I was the only one to inflict that particular torture on my spouse! I put my ring on his pinky all too frequently. He''s a good sport and will wear it for a couple hours. He did jam it on his ring finger once, which required some Windex to get it off... it was a near thing, his finger was starting to swell!

 

[arjunajane]

Date: 1/19/2009 11:29:37 PM
Author: geckodani

Date: 1/19/2009 11:14:53 AM
Author: Burk
I don't really mind letting others try on my e-ring. I just take it as a compliment that they like it so much they want to inspect it closer.

Ditto!

another ditto - the only people that get to try on my ring are the ones I allow too, so its no prob. I wouldn't mind either if they put it on their ring finger - it doesn't make it any less special for me..

I don't really see the issue, sorry.

If a stranger tried to though, I would react how one should - that its a security risk! But I can't think of any situation where I would have my ring off close to strangers..

 

[LaurenThePartier]

If I''m not comfortable with someone trying on my ring, I just don''t take it off my finger.

 

[dianne]

Date: 1/19/2009 6:21:36 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 1/19/2009 6:15:53 PM
Author: dianne
Doesn''t bother me at all...I am flattered they want to see how it looks on their finger. But...I can understand the other points of view on this, too,....definitely depends on the individual.

I got to try on Dianne''s (though I don''t remember what hand or finger I put it on) and it is AMAZING! Personally I like seeing my ring on someone else''s hand. I am not used to viewing it that way so it''s kinda cool.

Don''t worry, we can drool over DS''s set (and other jewels) together! Plus this time we can see MrsT''s IRL! How exciting! We gotta get together soon!

ETA: Alexis, that IS rude! I bet she would have said that if you had the hope diamond. Jealously is so ugly!

Yes! We do!

and Yes! It is ugly.....

 

[Alexiszoe]

Date: 1/19/2009 6:18:13 PM
Author: dianne

Date: 1/19/2009 5:07:22 PM

Author: Alexiszoe

Date: 1/19/2009 1:23:01 PM

Author: tlh


I do mind when someone I am aquianted with puts it on w/o asking. Because I would say NO. When someone asks to see it, if I could take it off so that they can get a closer look, I dont expect them to put it on.

yes i totally agree. one girl whom i am not too close to actually put it on, proceeded to parade it in front of all our friends who were gathered there and said loudly ''i don''t understand why everyone says it''s huge, the diamond is not that big!'' i felt it was very rude of her.

Now THAT was totally unacceptable behavior....ooohhhh....makes me mad to even think about someone doing that

that wasn''t the end of it too. she then proceeded to diss my fiance (who wasn''t there) for spending ''that much money on a ring'' and said she would rather her boyfriend spend the money on a house or a car instead of on an engagement ring. if it weren''t for the fact that we were in a group I would have told her off!

 

[that_someone_special]

I ask my grandma and mom all the time.. and I proceed to put them on my ring finger. Why? I dunno. Feels natural there. Even in stores looking at non-engagemnt rings i put it on that finger. I have only tried one friends ring on, and it was when we were discussing ring sizes.. hmm. I never thought of this issue. when I have mine (!) I would be more worried about people putting their grubby finger prints all over my diamonds..

 

[princesss]

Date: 1/20/2009 11:07:19 AM
Author: dianne

Date: 1/19/2009 6:21:36 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 1/19/2009 6:15:53 PM
Author: dianne
Doesn''t bother me at all...I am flattered they want to see how it looks on their finger. But...I can understand the other points of view on this, too,....definitely depends on the individual.

I got to try on Dianne''s (though I don''t remember what hand or finger I put it on) and it is AMAZING! Personally I like seeing my ring on someone else''s hand. I am not used to viewing it that way so it''s kinda cool.

Don''t worry, we can drool over DS''s set (and other jewels) together! Plus this time we can see MrsT''s IRL! How exciting! We gotta get together soon!

ETA: Alexis, that IS rude! I bet she would have said that if you had the hope diamond. Jealously is so ugly!

Yes! We do!

and Yes! It is ugly.....

Ooooh, yes, let''s get together soon. I''m dying to see Mrs.T''s ring!

OP: FWIW, I generally put rings on my left ring finger. Not sure why, it''s just an instinct. Since BF gets a little weirded out by it, I''ve trained myself to put it on my right hand, but I think it''s one of those unconcious things. Engagement ring = left hand ring finger. That''s where you wear it, so that''s where you try it, you know?

That said, I''ll probably be one of those people that doesn''t let anybody try mine on (except my lovely PSers and my mom).

 

[musey]

Nope, but you''re entitled to feel bothered by it, for sure!

While we were in Vegas for our bachelor/-ette weekend, two of our friends thought it would be funny to take a bunch of fake "we got engaged!" pictures and post them on facebook when we got back. She wore my ring for almost 15 minute while we took a bunch of fake proposal pictures

She is a close friend whom I love... maybe if she''d been less close to me I wouldn''t have felt comfortable with it.

Just tell people you''ve never taken it off since the proposal (even if it''s not true) so you don''t want to start now.

 

[bee*]

Date: 1/19/2009 7:48:10 PM
Author: Dee*Jay
LOL, I''m the queen of handing it over to other people, including total strangers. If I had a dollar for every waitress/starbuck employee/grocery store checkout girl that has tried on my ring I''d have paid for it all over again! And when I worked in my old firm the office manager and I are are the same size and would trade rings all the time for the day. I loved to see it on her hand. It looked much bigger on her though than it does on me...

My ring also looks so much bigger on other peoples fingers too-it drives me mad! I do love seeing how it looks on peoples fingers though as I feel I don''t get a good perspective looking down on it all the time.

 

[Italiahaircolor]

I let people try it on...never bothered me. However, they say that it is "bad luck"...