FI never calls me FI...

[trillionaire]

... he only calls me his wife. All the time. And refers to himself as my husband.

I find this... odd. And amusing. (we've been engaged for 3 weeks)

I do not call him husband, I call him FI, or his name.



Anyone else experience anything like this? Did it bother you? Amuse you? Was it just a phase? Anyone, feel free to weigh in, lol!



ETA: he did refer to me as "fiancizzle" for a few days, but wife is what stuck!

 

[kama_s]

My now-husband did that at times as well! He hates the word 'fiancée', says it sounds too bourgeois. So he just ended up referring to me as his wife. Plus, he's the only young and unmarried guy in his office, and he manages everyone else...so he always felt self-conscious. I just playfully corrected him once and said that if he starts calling me his wife now, it's not going to leave anything special to call each other when we do tie the knot. That kinda was the end of that!

"Fiancizzle" is so adorable! Stress to him how cute you think it is and how much you love that word as a term of endearment. Men are weird!

 

[ckrickett]

"fiancizzle"
I like that!

 

[cindygenit]

I echo the other ladies here... "Fiancizzle" is so cute!

I myself don''t like the term fiancee... instead I call my FI partner in front of other people. I find that when I mention my "fiancee" in front of others, it attracts too much attention on myself. Which I dislike.

There may be reason behind him doing what he does. You should ask him

 

[honey22]

No, he doesn''t call me that, but my Dad is adorable and still after nearly 40 years of marriage, refers to my Mum as FirstName LastName. It''s very cute to have him call out her full name all the time.

 

[Dannielle]

FI refers to me as his fiance, I refer to him as my partner, but thats just because I don''t like the word fiance

I would ask your FI to refer to you as "Fiancizzle" because thats adorable!!!

 

[onvacation]

Date: 8/10/2009 12:43:22 AM
Author:trillionaire
... he only calls me his wife. All the time. And refers to himself as my husband.

I find this... odd. And amusing. (we've been engaged for 3 weeks)

I do not call him husband, I call him FI, or his name.



Anyone else experience anything like this? Did it bother you? Amuse you? Was it just a phase? Anyone, feel free to weigh in, lol!



ETA: he did refer to me as 'fiancizzle' for a few days, but wife is what stuck!

Sorry, I wouldn't have liked my then-FI to call me his wife, or refer himself as my husband. We weren't married yet when we were just engaged, and that's that for me. Marriage is sacred; unless you're 5-year-olds playing house, calling each other wife/husband ain't cute.

It did take me a while to refer to him as my fiance rather than my boyfriend when I first got engaged, though he didn't seem to have much trouble. Even when I'm not too fond of the word boyfriend. So maybe he needs a bit of time for the word to settle in? There's lots of other things to call each other than w/h; first name, generic terms of affection, unique terms of endearment such as "fiancizzle," etc.

 

[Deelight]

He call me his GF (his theory on this is I am a girl and his best friend, also apprently I would still be with him even if it wasn''t for the ring) or the future wifey

He gets called poohead or the future hubby depending on my mood

.

He doesn''t like the FI word and I very rarely call him that I like future wifey though it ha sa nice ring to it

 

[Londongirl1]

Date: 8/10/2009 2:59:09 AM
Author: onvacation

Date: 8/10/2009 12:43:22 AM
Author:trillionaire
... he only calls me his wife. All the time. And refers to himself as my husband.

I find this... odd. And amusing. (we''ve been engaged for 3 weeks)

I do not call him husband, I call him FI, or his name.



Anyone else experience anything like this? Did it bother you? Amuse you? Was it just a phase? Anyone, feel free to weigh in, lol!



ETA: he did refer to me as ''fiancizzle'' for a few days, but wife is what stuck!

Sorry, I wouldn''t have liked my then-FI to call me his wife, or refer himself as my husband. We weren''t married yet when we were just engaged, and that''s that for me. Marriage is sacred; unless you''re 5-year-olds playing house, calling each other wife/husband ain''t cute.

It did take me a while to refer to him as my fiance rather than my boyfriend when I first got engaged, though he didn''t seem to have much trouble. Even when I''m not too fond of the word boyfriend. So maybe he needs a bit of time for the word to settle in? There''s lots of other things to call each other than w/h; first name, generic terms of affection, unique terms of endearment such as ''fiancizzle,'' etc.

I completely agree with you

My fiance always introduces me to people by saying "this is my fiance" - he loves saying that word for some reason

I would NOT like him to call me his wife if we''re not married and I wouldn''t call him my husband

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

I don''t really like the word fiance either, i''m still happy to be called his girlfriend too, that way we don''t get asked when the wedding is.

 

[Clairitek]

I am with the others who said that "fiance/ee" is a hard word to get past. I really hated using it but now that I am married I certainly refer to DH as "my husband" instead of just using his first name a lot.

I suppose you could think of what my Grammy used to say when asked what she wanted to be called- "I don''t care what you call me, as long as you call me."

 

[Treasure43]

My fiance and I call each other fiance. Though he stretches our the ending because of the two ee''s on the end of fiancee (which is hilarious to hear). My stepfather was telling us about how it came about and it''s my FI''s little variation on the fiance. We''ve done the future wife/future husband thing a few times but we''re saving the wife/husband stuff till we''re married. To each his own though. I know some people don''t like the word fiance. It''s funny though, we''ve only been engaged a few weeks and I often slip in casual conversation with it and say boyfriend and then we laugh about it.

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/10/2009 1:05:06 PM
Author: Treasure43
My fiance and I call each other fiance. Though he stretches our the ending because of the two ee''s on the end of fiancee (which is hilarious to hear). My stepfather was telling us about how it came about and it''s my FI''s little variation on the fiance. We''ve done the future wife/future husband thing a few times but we''re saving the wife/husband stuff till we''re married. To each his own though. I know some people don''t like the word fiance. It''s funny though, we''ve only been engaged a few weeks and I often slip in casual conversation with it and say boyfriend and then we laugh about it.

hehe, I did this yesterday! Here he is upgrading me to ''wife'' and I am downgrading him to ''boyfriend''.

When he first started with the wife business, I told him that he wasn''t just going to start calling me wife and never marry me! LOL, we both laughed at that, because it is not at all his intention. He''s just really excited. I think if I hadn''t been dating for very long, and was engaged, and my FI was calling me wife, it might seem weird or possessive even, but we are coming up on our 6th anniversary, and honestly, I respect marriage and all, but everything feels like more of a formality than anything else. It would have upset me if he was calling me FI before he proposed, but to me, the proposal is more of a public proclamation, and marriage is a personal, intimate and private sacrament between the couple. We''re both happy and excited, and I don''t want to dictate how he expresses his excitement, since it doesn''t bother me. I''ve told him he''s jumping the gun, but he''s undetered, lol. So... we''ll see. Maybe the novelty will wear off and he will start calling me something else!

 

[Diva0413]

Fiancizzle! Love it!

Actually, my FI usually just introduces me by my name. The fiancee title only comes up if asked.

 

[ProseCuter]

He refers to me as his fiancée when talking to others. But he tells me that he already feels like I''m his wife. He doesn''t actually call me that yet though.

I love hearing him call me his fiancée. And I think it is really cute when he says he loves telling people that his fiancée is a deputy district attorney.

I''m glad he''s proud of me!

 

[Treasure43]

You got engaged the same day that I did trillionaire!!!

 

[Black Jade]

I think he sounds sweet! It''s nice that he so wants to be married that he''s started to call you wife, already. (though I can understand that some might not like that, particularly if they''re superstitious)

Don''t understand the objection to the word fiancee, though. I don''t see it as meaning anything except ''the woman I''m going to marry'', just as fiance means ''the man I''m going to marry''. This sounds completely straightforward and very clear to me (boyfirend I would think of as a nebulous term while ''partner'' sounds to me like you''re going into business together and ''significant other'' just sounds like silly legalese). I''m a French speaker, though. Has fiance/e acquired some meaning in English that I''m unaware of?

 

[onvacation]

Date: 8/10/2009 8:05:11 AM
Author: Deelight
He call me his GF (his theory on this is I am a girl and his best friend, also apprently I would still be with him even if it wasn''t for the ring) or the future wifey

He gets called poohead or the future hubby depending on my mood

.

He doesn''t like the FI word and I very rarely call him that I like future wifey though it ha sa nice ring to it

Haha! DH is poo piggy, I''m poo pup, and my gf''s hubs is fart bear.

I thought we were weird, but I wonder if it''s more common than I thought?

Me thinks future wifey is very sweet!

 

[onvacation]

Date: 8/10/2009 8:33:29 AM
Author: Londongirl1

Date: 8/10/2009 2:59:09 AM
Author: onvacation

Date: 8/10/2009 12:43:22 AM
Author:trillionaire
... he only calls me his wife. All the time. And refers to himself as my husband.

I find this... odd. And amusing. (we''ve been engaged for 3 weeks)

I do not call him husband, I call him FI, or his name.



Anyone else experience anything like this? Did it bother you? Amuse you? Was it just a phase? Anyone, feel free to weigh in, lol!



ETA: he did refer to me as ''fiancizzle'' for a few days, but wife is what stuck!

Sorry, I wouldn''t have liked my then-FI to call me his wife, or refer himself as my husband. We weren''t married yet when we were just engaged, and that''s that for me. Marriage is sacred; unless you''re 5-year-olds playing house, calling each other wife/husband ain''t cute.

It did take me a while to refer to him as my fiance rather than my boyfriend when I first got engaged, though he didn''t seem to have much trouble. Even when I''m not too fond of the word boyfriend. So maybe he needs a bit of time for the word to settle in? There''s lots of other things to call each other than w/h; first name, generic terms of affection, unique terms of endearment such as ''fiancizzle,'' etc.

I completely agree with you

My fiance always introduces me to people by saying ''this is my fiance'' - he loves saying that word for some reason

I would NOT like him to call me his wife if we''re not married and I wouldn''t call him my husband

LOL! That''s really cute of him! "Fiance/e" is just one of those words that people either love or hate, no? But yeah, whatever the case, there''s so many things to call each other that I just don''t see why he should call you the one thing that your not (yet!). Most of us only get to call someone their fiance(e) for a short while, so why not make the most of it.

Truth be told, I kinda miss calling my DH my boyfriend/fiance already!

 

[Erinleigh]

Fiancizzle is great! My FF hates the word ''fiancee'' and threatens that he''ll refer to me as his ''engagey-bear'', just to highlight his disdain for the titles... I''m desperately hopeful it won''t stick...

 

[onvacation]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:36:31 PM
Author: Erinleigh
Fiancizzle is great! My FF hates the word ''fiancee'' and threatens that he''ll refer to me as his ''engagey-bear'', just to highlight his disdain for the titles... I''m desperately hopeful it won''t stick...

Cute! But... is that how he formally introduces you?

 

[princesss]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:36:31 PM
Author: Erinleigh
Fiancizzle is great! My FF hates the word ''fiancee'' and threatens that he''ll refer to me as his ''engagey-bear'', just to highlight his disdain for the titles... I''m desperately hopeful it won''t stick...

I. Would. Smack. Him.

"Engagey-bear"????????????????????????????????

 

[HopeDream]

Does any one use "betrothed" or "intended"?

BF and I call each other "dear one" (not engaged)

He''s so sweet!

( I can''t stand hearing anyone being called Wifey)

HD

 

[trillionaire]

Date: 8/10/2009 6:56:22 PM
Author: HopeDream
Does any one use ''betrothed'' or ''intended''?

BF and I call each other ''dear one'' (not engaged)

He''s so sweet!

( I can''t stand hearing anyone being called Wifey)

HD

I HATE ''Wifey'' Too!

I was mortified to be told (after the fact, since I was clearly wrapped up in my own head) that the DJ played ''Wifey'' by Next right after FI proposed!

No knock on anyone else, I''ve just always hated the term. My mom LOVES it, lol!

 

[ficklefaye]

oh i never call FI fiance, i love the fact that i can say FI instead of fiance on here

it just sounds so unnatural to me, i''d rather call him hubby or hubs, haha, but that''s not for a couple months

 

[Deelight]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:16:27 PM
Author: onvacation

Date: 8/10/2009 8:05:11 AM

Author: Deelight

He call me his GF (his theory on this is I am a girl and his best friend, also apprently I would still be with him even if it wasn''t for the ring) or the future wifey


He gets called poohead or the future hubby depending on my mood

.


He doesn''t like the FI word and I very rarely call him that I like future wifey though it ha sa nice ring to it

Haha! DH is poo piggy, I''m poo pup, and my gf''s hubs is fart bear.

I thought we were weird, but I wonder if it''s more common than I thought?


Me thinks future wifey is very sweet!

Your not weird that is jut hilarious LOL

 

[allycat0303]

I still call him my boyfriend. I never did fiance and I never said husband. I use them both interchangeably. My husband still calls me his *copine* in english that translates to girlfriend. 13 year habits are hard to break.

 

[Erinleigh]

Date: 8/10/2009 4:49:40 PM
Author: onvacation

Date: 8/10/2009 4:36:31 PM

Author: Erinleigh

Fiancizzle is great! My FF hates the word ''fiancee'' and threatens that he''ll refer to me as his ''engagey-bear'', just to highlight his disdain for the titles... I''m desperately hopeful it won''t stick...

Cute! But... is that how he formally introduces you?

HAHA! Nono... he doesn''t actually call me that... just jokes that that''s what he''ll use instead of fiancee. If he were to introduce me that way, I might have to take a page from princess and smack him

 

[mtjoya]

I call my FI boyfriend still, I feel like a high schooler when I refer to him this way. We will be married in a week so then I will be calling him husband. LOL... Your FI is funny that he called u "fiancizzle."

 

[omieluv]

He always refers to me as his wife, which drives me nuts because people will then ask when we had our wedding. I still refer to him as my BF, which is out of habit.