Date: 1/12/2009 6:18:21 PM
Author: CrookedRock
So obviously you had discused with him what you both had pictured. We''ve done the same thing, and we always both liked dresses like the one in the link I just posted. I don''t want him to see me that day and be dissapointed bc he had a preconceived notion of me on our wedding day. How do you handle that?Date: 1/12/2009 6:03:00 PM
Author: Gypsy
Tried on 100’s across two coasts. Bought 4.
First dress I fell in love with had alencon lace and silk Mikado fabric—an over skirt and underskirt and was a empire waist, strapless. Didn’t buy it as DH thought it looked like cleric’s robes. NOT what you want to hear.
First dress I bought was organza and lace Christos was a empire waist, strapless . Cancelled the order.
That''s great that he was willing to go with you. I suggested that to my FI and he kinda winced. He didn''t like the idea, but it doesn''t bother me... I''m kinda the anti-bride so doing something out of the ordinary isn''t a biggie in my book. Luckily I have my bf here to go with me, and she actually is a buyer for a really high end store, and has excellent taste. Granteed it''s different than my personal taste, but she knows what I like, and what I look good in.Date: 1/12/2009 10:33:27 PM
Author: Gypsy
No honey. My wonderful DH was dragged to DOZENS of dress shops. Literally. The only times he didn''t come with me were: when I went with my mom (once), when I went with his mother and sister (never again), when I went to my MOH (once), and WHEN I BOUGHT THE DRESS. I went dress shopping to Macy''s, to Kleinfelds, to you NAME IT on both coasts.
We kept moving. And... I didn''t have anyone else to go with, and he was the most important person to me. So... I took him. But, when I found THE DRESS, I was on my lunch break, alone and... was actually happy that it would be a surprise to him.
My DH has... strangely accurate observations and a quick wit. He made shopping fun. I love that we did that together, it was some of the best memories of wedding planning.
As for how you handle that... well, I think everyone handles it differently. For me, I asked him one day what he saw when HE closed his eyes.. he said dress.. VEIL, and I was like VIEL??? I''m not wearing one. So I got one. Then I got another.
I was the bride with mutliple pairs of shoes, head pieces, dresses... he had no IDEA what I was gonna wear at the end. LOL.
He is going to think you look wonderful no matter WHAT you wear on your wedding day...and I''m sure he trusts you enough to know what looks great on youDate: 1/13/2009 9:00:21 AM
Author: CrookedRock
That''s great that he was willing to go with you. I suggested that to my FI and he kinda winced. He didn''t like the idea, but it doesn''t bother me... I''m kinda the anti-bride so doing something out of the ordinary isn''t a biggie in my book. Luckily I have my bf here to go with me, and she actually is a buyer for a really high end store, and has excellent taste. Granteed it''s different than my personal taste, but she knows what I like, and what I look good in.Date: 1/12/2009 10:33:27 PM
Author: Gypsy
No honey. My wonderful DH was dragged to DOZENS of dress shops. Literally. The only times he didn''t come with me were: when I went with my mom (once), when I went with his mother and sister (never again), when I went to my MOH (once), and WHEN I BOUGHT THE DRESS. I went dress shopping to Macy''s, to Kleinfelds, to you NAME IT on both coasts.
We kept moving. And... I didn''t have anyone else to go with, and he was the most important person to me. So... I took him. But, when I found THE DRESS, I was on my lunch break, alone and... was actually happy that it would be a surprise to him.
My DH has... strangely accurate observations and a quick wit. He made shopping fun. I love that we did that together, it was some of the best memories of wedding planning.
As for how you handle that... well, I think everyone handles it differently. For me, I asked him one day what he saw when HE closed his eyes.. he said dress.. VEIL, and I was like VIEL??? I''m not wearing one. So I got one. Then I got another.
I was the bride with mutliple pairs of shoes, head pieces, dresses... he had no IDEA what I was gonna wear at the end. LOL.
FI and I discussed the dress this morning and he said that if it''s the right dress then I should get it, but he just doesn''t want me to make a rash decision and regret it.
So another question... I know I''m full of them in this thread!
Did any of you like a dress more than the one you bought, but didn''t buy it bc of cost? I''m really torn about what''s appropriate to spend, espicially bc we are eloping. I''m trying to prepare myself in case I find something expensive today, I want to have boundaries set.
When you think back to your wedding day, is the dress one of the first things that comes to mind?
Did any of you like a dress more than the one you bought, but didn''t buy it bc of cost?
Yes! I loved another dress but it was close to 6K. I didn''t even try it on so I didn''t know what it would look like on me. I looked at all the price tags and tried to neggotiate a little first. My budget was 5k so I could have streched it but I had to let this one go.
Thanx Panda! I do love that about it. There is extra fabric in the stomach area but the seamstres said she can fix that. I think when it''s done it will be a totally different dress than what it looks like in my pics, and I can''t wait!Date: 1/14/2009 11:03:47 AM
Author: panda08
CR, it looks beautiful on you!!! Don''t you love how the dress is cut so that it makes the waist look tiny (not that you aren''t already!)? Congrats!
First, you look absolutely beautiful in that dress!! I LOOOVE it!!Date: 1/14/2009 1:16:30 PM
Author: CrookedRock
Thanx Panda! I do love that about it. There is extra fabric in the stomach area but the seamstres said she can fix that. I think when it''s done it will be a totally different dress than what it looks like in my pics, and I can''t wait!Date: 1/14/2009 11:03:47 AM
Author: panda08
CR, it looks beautiful on you!!! Don''t you love how the dress is cut so that it makes the waist look tiny (not that you aren''t already!)? Congrats!
I''m even thinking about having some sort of shrug made out of the excess fabric that I cut off the train, it isn''t exactly warm on top of a mountain. LOL