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[fisherofmengirly]

Okay, I''ve been given permission to come to this one thread, and this thread only. And I''ll be trusted until I can''t be any longer. He said he''s not sure it''ll last long, but since I lie so badly, he''ll know if I''ve been anywhere I''m not supposed to be. But he did agree that there are some really nice people here, and if I want to show them a picture of Flip, I can.

So now I''m trying to install the software from the camera onto his computer. I do so love taking pictures, and I''m so happy to have a digital again. Now I can take multiple pictures again, and delete them as I find a really good one. Paul says, "oh good grief, I forgot about that."

He also said if you guys can keep me from being "dang near insane," then that''s fine. But if talking about rings makes me more "insane," then I probably shouldn''t be here. He''s practically over my shoulder, too, making sure I don''t go anywhere else on her. But I do want you all to see Flip. She''s pretty, and maybe it''ll make Blenheim feel a little better. Or at the very least, she''ll make you smile. She has an underbite, and it''s so cute!

The software''s not installing right, so I''m going to try again.

 

[glitterata]

Ha ha, Fisher, I think with you maybe the invitation should say "Love is IMpatient, love is kind."

"Kind" definitely fits. It sounds like the two of you are a pair of sweeties. But you might want to concentrate on the "patient" part of that verse.

 

[sumbride]

Date: 4/14/2006 9:27:46 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Okay, I''ve been given permission to come to this one thread, and this thread only. And I''ll be trusted until I can''t be any longer. He said he''s not sure it''ll last long, but since I lie so badly, he''ll know if I''ve been anywhere I''m not supposed to be. But he did agree that there are some really nice people here...

I''m chiming in late but I figured out who he was almost instantly, so yeah, um, please stay on THIS THREAD ONLY. REALLY. And nice to meet you!

 

[Small]

Date: 4/14/2006 9:52:31 PM
Author: sumbride

Date: 4/14/2006 9:27:46 PM
Author: fisherofmengirly
Okay, I''ve been given permission to come to this one thread, and this thread only. And I''ll be trusted until I can''t be any longer. He said he''s not sure it''ll last long, but since I lie so badly, he''ll know if I''ve been anywhere I''m not supposed to be. But he did agree that there are some really nice people here...

I''m chiming in late but I figured out who he was almost instantly, so yeah, um, please stay on THIS THREAD ONLY. REALLY. And nice to meet you!

LOL...I think we all did! It''s nice that you get to come here. You two seem like a perfect fit...very, very great people who love each other alot! Welcome to PS

And believe me...I know how you feel because at your very same age almost 7 years ago I was the same way. I ruined my husband''s proposal with my craziness LOL so I hope you can wait just a bit longer to see how it all plays out. I can understand and appreciate your need to be involved and your impatience with waiting...LOL...I''m the same! I open gifts early when sent to me and I''ve even been known to search for my gifts a time or two LOL! Have a happy easter fisher!

 

[ello]

Welcome to PS! It’s a fun place to hangout…tons of support and funny stories!

 

[Blenheim]

Welcome back!

Ok, I''m going to admit that I tried contacting your boyfriend while telling you all the time that I didn''t know if he was even on here. I hope you can forgive me. I''m proud of you for heeding our advice, because it sounds like he really does want everything to be perfect. And I think it''s wonderful that you can trust each other so much that he''ll let you get back on! He''s such a great guy, and hopefully he''ll show you his threads and our comments after he proposes!

Hopefully we can all help you through the waiting process.

Virginia, I''m currently in the Falls Church area, so we''re quite close together! Driving is out for the moment, as are any long excursions, but it would be wonderful if we could eventually have another get together. I''m moving to the mid-West in June, though, so it couldn''t be but so far away.

 

[ilovesparkles]

OMG ok now I want to know who he is as bad as fisher does LOL. Well hon you and me can be in the dark together

Hang in there girlie!

 

[firebirdgold]

Fisher, you have the sweetest guy! Plus he''s been going all out trying to pick you the perfect ring.
Believe me, I know how fustrating it can be to be able to do nothing other than wait! But at least you know that the wait isn''t because he has doubts but because he wants to give you the very best ring and proposal he can!

hmm, I really should take my own advice one of these days!

btw, can we keep him afterwards?

You guys are both a great addition to the PS family!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Posting pictures on here is a trip. And a trip to a not fun place. I think maybe I''ve got it now, though.

Isn''t she cuteness?

Yeah, he said he''s "got friends" who will tell him if I''m up to stuff now. Yeah, okay. He should know I''m sneaky enough to get by things like that. But I did say I''d do good, so I will.

About the Bible verse, I know. I''m a work in progress. My mom was just talking to him on the phone yesterday telling him how far I''ve come. She said by the time I''m 50, I should be a darn good woman. haha. Anyway, I have developed a little bit more restraint in letting surprises happen. Because I get SO happy when they do happen. I promise, I am going to try.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Well gah, why''d it come out like that? With all that white everywhere? I kept thinking, they sure are making me shrink down Flip a lot. Well at least she''s there. If you wiggle the page around long enough, you can find her.

Happy Saturday, everyone.

Paul can stay around as long as he wants. Maybe after he asks me, I''ll be allowed to wander wherever I want, too. Then I can read your threads and stuff. WHO knows how long that will be, though. (Seriously, who knows who''s been reading this??)

 

[jesterjigger]

Fisher, I love the ring you like! I hadn''t even heard of that designer before. And I''m glad you''re heeding the advice to stay away from the other forums, lol. I know I don''t have that worry since my bf is already pretty knowledgeable. I''ll look at the posts to learn stuff for myself since I don''t know very much about diamonds and I''ll ask him why people said stuff and he could explain why they said what they said. But it''s so cute that your bf is here, so stay put and don''t ruin it!

 

[sk8rjen]

Hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm, who knows?

It''s fun to know a LIW who we know for sure is going to graduate though -- SOME DAY!

Glad you''re here, and we''ll all try to help you "be good." Trust me, many of us are going a little insane every now and again, and I personally think I''ve gotten more impatient being on PS! But it''s fun too, and a nice place to vent when we just "know better" haha

jen

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I think I''ll try to do that picture thing one more time. I was not happy with how it came out before.

Oh yeah, guess what else? They didn''t have a caricature person at the festival today. So we''ll have to wait until we go to Six Flags, I guess. Oh well. It was fun anyway. We saw this man (Dexter Tripp) strap himself to dynamite, duct tape it on, then light it, all while standing on a ladder/stilts type of thing. Crazy!

Oh and whenever something really cool happened, the "cast members" said "wondrous" instead of "cool," "awesome," or modern terms like that. It was so funny.

Anyway, if the puppy picture''s still not right, just trust me, she''s cute as can be.

Happy Easter Eve! We''re going to dye eggs now. He''s only done it three times in his whole life. It''s too much fun to only do so few times. Happy, happy, dye time here I come!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Grr and argh... I''m still doing something wrong. What''s with all that white space after I post the picture?

 

[moon river]

I think it would be so cool if he''s on here. I think all guys should come here for their education.

Lucky girl.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Thanks, Moon. I''m nothing if not a lucky girl!

I appreciate the time he''s taking, but I also would appreciate being able to live in the same state, let alone the same house as the man!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Today is the one year anniversary of our first "date." We went to the Fernbank Science Museum, since I''m so fidgety and they have lots of things to play with and it calmed me down considerably. It''s funny how time flies, but also seems to crawl, isn''t it?

We were pretty much talking daily just as soon as we met, but then I had to wait to get comfortable with actually going on that first date. I thought he was just such a wonderful, Godly man, and I didn''t want to ruin the friendship we''d developed in the weeks prior. He quickly became a good, true, forever friend. The kind of friend that gets beyond the surface, and into your soul. You know when you meet someone and you just click, and you know that no matter what, this person willl always be ingrained in your heart? That''s how it was with him. I hated the thought of trying to date, and potentially losing that friendship that meant so much to me. Then I wanted to, and he got nervous about it. Anyway, he''d said we''d need to wait til he got out of school in June, and I was thinking that''d be forever!! Then out of the blue he called me on a Friday in April and suggested that we go out on Sunday, and there you have it.

It scared me that I cared about him as much as I did, as quickly as I did. I''m analytical, and although I''m emotional, I have this guard up most the time with people, and with him, I never felt the need to build one. I knew something special was going on that first day. To hear him tell it, I was terrified, but really, I was scared of how deeply I was feeling about him, not of him. If that makes sense.

In May he asked me *to be his girl* and I declined because I wasn''t sure that I''d be able to keep those guards down, and I didn''t want to hurt him by suddenly slamming them down on him out of no where. As soon as I said it, I was crushed, and wanted to take it back. He said he''d ask again, but not until he was sure I''d say yes.

It seemed to take forever for him to ask again. He finally asked again in the beginning of June. He calls that our anniversary, and it is, but this is one, too. He doesn''t understand anniversaries. You can have many of them, and they can come monthly, too. He''s learning. Says I''m something else, all the silly things I find to celebrate. Hey, life is for celebrating and enjoying, so why not make the most of all the chances you get? That''s my theory.

That was a long history lesson of us just to say, "today''s our anniversary of our first date." I''m long winded.

 

[ilovesparkles]

WOW you and I are alike in a lot of ways. Last week I informed my BF it was our 6 mos aniversary. He was shocked! On the one hand it seems like we have been together so much longer, on the other hand time has really flown since we first met! I count our anniversary as the day he told me he was in love with me. We were friends and never really meant for things to go in the direction they did. Then one night he told me he loved me and well, that was that. Its funy cause every day when checking the forum I would look at yours and wonder how things were going this weekend knowing we wouldn''t hear back from you until today! But it sounds like things were wonderful and you had a great time with your guy! Woo Hoo!

So here is a question but don''t let it drive you crazy ok?! If YOU were to go and buy your ring tomorrow what would YOU purchase? Pictures please! (Ok this is how I sometimes keep myself from going crazy!) TTYL

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Do any of you watch Wife Swap? It always amazes me how such polarly opposite families are paired together. With most episodes, I wonder if either of the families had any lasting changes, but tonight''s show was great. I mean, these families were totally different, but both learned new ways to interact, and the last portion of the show, where the parents get together and talk was fabulous. They didn''t scream and fight and throw hurls at one another, they were totally uplifting to one another. That''s cool. It makes me think about how much everyone has to learn, you know? I mean, I get to thinking about how I *think* I know how we''ll want to raise our kids, but there''s always a need to be willing to adapt and regroup and make it work another way, in case it doesn''t work the first, second, or third way.

Being a social worker, I like seeing how different families interact and create structure. It''s an interesting show. Kind of scares me like crazy to think of having a family of wild hellions, though.

 

[Blenheim]

I was abroad for our 11th month anniversary (such a big one, I know) and he sent me a "Happy 11th Month Anniversary" card/letter. I was sitting next to another guy in my study abroad program when I opened it, who was kind of like WTF. Long story short, I kind of know where you''re coming from.

I''ve never seen Wife Swap. But if you''re scared of having a family full of wild hellions, Nanny 911 is awesome. It''s really interesting to see the progression from wild hellion to well-mannered and how they work to achieve it.

I watched Honey We''re Killing the Kids this weekend (new TLC show, trying to get families to exercise and eat better) and one of the kids ran away then said he was never talking to his mom again because she took away his Nintendo games. Woah.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

Okay, this is what frustrates me about the pre-engagement process: it''s like the woman has to step back several generations and become someone who''s some what of a *damsel in distress* who waits idly for her man to ask her to be his, and then their planning and such can begin. But not before the man completes the act of proposing.

I know Paul finds this stage and this *action* to be very important, and so, I try to be patient and to live up to the *damsel* role. I''m not that kind of person, though. I''m fiesty and bubbly and I like to voice what I feel, and I feel like moving to be with him, and we agreed that wouldn''t happen until we were engaged. That makes me feel like an element of life is on hold until things progress, even though we know they will, and are going to soon.

Does that make sense to anyone? Do I sound like I''m complaining? I swear, I''m not trying to. I just have a hard time with the ridiculous gender roles that go into play during this process.

If they''d leave it to a woman, I''d have gotten things taken care of months ago, when we first started planning to marry.

Isn''t it funny how society changes the way it views genders, but the roles remain the same as centuries ago, in some situations?

 

[firebirdgold]

You hit the nail on the head!! And then they are baffled at how ''worked up'' we get over it!

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I forgot all about your questions about rings I like, Ilovesparkles. Sorry about that; yesterday was a very dramatic day and I got side tracked. My car had been broken into about a month ago, and I was called by the police detective: they found the guy who did it, and he confessed, and now they''re waiting to get a warrant out on him. Yay! Maybe no one else will be violated (and gosh, is it a *horrible* feeling to know someone has your stuff, and your identity). Court date''s been set and all of that, too. It''s a good thing, because he''s done it to multiple cars, and I just hope the man learns another way to get money, or to get his adrenaline rush. Or whatever it is that currently interests him in stealing.

Anyway, back to the ring thing. I like the following:

* Water Lily by Niwaka (that''s a given, though!)
* http://www.whiteflash.com/Engagement-Rings/Styles/Solitaire/Platinum-Sleek-Lines-Solitaire_688.htm
* Ritani bezels; they seem delicate to me
* for bands, I like these two: Click here: http://www.goldenmine.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=2473 and http://www.goldenmine.com/index.asp?PageAction=VIEWPROD&ProdID=2249 (0nly I''d like them thinner than 3mm)

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I know, IndieJones. Like it''s nothing for us to sit there and know nothing, and be all happy, and just calm as can be while we wait for them to make the ultimate decision to ask our hands in marriage. While I think of it in a sweet and romantic way most of the time, it annoys me when I get really antsy for it.

I promised Paul I''d leave it alone for three weeks; and I''m at what, a week and a half, and I can''t stand it. Thankfully, he''s forgiving with my *slip ups* and says they don''t count when I just make a tiny comment. He doesn''t even notice every time.

He mentioned it again tonight, or maybe I led the conversation toward it, but not intentionally. My mouth''s just really good at voicing what my heart''s feeling. He said, "really soon." When I got all excited and asked about the *really* word, he said he''d not said it. I know darn well that he did. Now I wonder what *really* means to him. To me, it means like super soon, as in within just a couple weeks soon. To him, it may mean something else. Especially since he says I heard him say it. How do you just hear someone say a whole word they didn''t say? I''m spastic, but not that spastic.

 

[Mandarine]

Girl soon vs Boy soon!!!!

Really never really means what it really means to us!!!!!

M~

 

[fisherofmengirly]

I hear ya, girl!

Really, I can be *good* for three weeks, but you don''t wanna know how grumpy I''ll be if after these three weeks of being *good,* I don''t see any reason for doing it.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

And, I don''t think he gets that, either. Sometimes after talking to him, I wonder if I really am as confusing as he seems to think I am. Hee hee. He''s too funny.

 

[Mandarine]

Welcome to my world!!!..

I don''t think my BF realizes how hard it is for me to not bring up these things every day!.

I''ve been good lately

and I can see we are both less stressed....so that''s definitely better!. I know he wants to make this a very special surprise and I don''t wnat to make the process stressful for him....so I backed off. After all, I trust his taste...I know he''ll pick a ring I love....and after that I can talk freely about the wedding and he won''t be able to say a thing!

M~

 

[Blenheim]

Perhaps the "really" was a Freudian slip?

Hang in there. I know that you''re not supposed to go on other threads (at least not at the moment), but it might make you feel better to know that there''s a current thread complaining about the powerlessness that women often have in the ring and proposal. It was mentioned that Hollywood may be partially to blame, but I hadn''t thought of it almost being a throw back to another time. So just know that a lot of us are feeling frustrated over the same things as you.

 

[fisherofmengirly]

ACK! If any of you out there are praying people, please pray for me, for him, for us. I don''t understand why things like this happen, when we want this so much right now. Paul called me this morning on the way to work, as he always does. Before he got to the school, his car was acting up. He just had an issue with it last week, too. He''s really stressed out with trying to get hired at another school for the new school year, since the one he''s at is a "needs improvement school" and it has issues with administration that leads to extra work for the teachers. Anyway, he''s not heard anything yet, and that''s got him all stressed out, too. Well, he''s supposed to be setting up an interview here soon, but it''s for a position as teaching two subjects, and he prefers to teach just one, so he''s not all *whoo whoo* excited over it. Still, it could be where God''s leading him.

When things like this happen, I feel bad for adding stress to him. I mean, I don''t mean to do anything *bad* but I do get so bothered by things when I don''t feel like my life is very settled at this point. You know? I''m ready to move to the same state as him, but we said we wouldn''t until we were engaged (another story, but I was offered a position in the early fall, accepted, and then he asked me to pull back, so I had to rescind my letter of resignation, and it was very humbling. Basically, I dont'' want to go through that again and so we agreed to wait until we were *pledged* before I moved). I''m not content with where I live, again, not his problem, but he is why I''ve stuck around for an extra year longer than I was planning in this itty bitty town. I''m just ready for *our* life to begin, and I feel like I''m on *hold* until things start happening. It''s a bad situation to be in, and I know it adds stress to him, as it does to me, but I don''t know how to *beat that feeling* either.

ACK! Off to work I go.