I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[Strawdermangrl]

April- Ughh, girl I feel your pain. I am sorry that happened. A few years back my car got broken into and they stole MY BOOKS. It was almost the end of the semester and they told me the same thing. They don't cover anything that is not a part of the car with the break in. I would have to claim on my Renters insurance and then on top of that, they weren't going to cover my window. So, I feel you girl, fingers crossed. Hugs.

Just wondering...what the hell are thieves going to do with library books?!

 

[dragonfly411]

April - They won't wave it even with the Police Report? That seems ludicrous to me, I'd have to write someone about that.


I'm actually battling my library about a library book that I never checked out, they won't let me check out books under my name because of it. It's from like... 92? 93? I was a little kid..... I didn't check out books alone.

 

[Glitz]

Last night SO and I drove by our new house that we move into next month. The owners didn't want to include any appliances with the deal, so we're buying all new ones. We told our real estate agent to let the owners know if they wanted to leave anything behind we would appreciate it, the owners said no they're taking them for their new place. Last night what do we see sitting at the curb ... their washer & dryer

 

[packrat]

Found a plush fleece jacket at Scheel's the other day..very soft, like bunny fur. It had loops at the end of the arms so it fits the snaps in my Columbia coat. It was on sale for $70. I kept feeling it, rubbing the softness (again, I am Lenny). I found a brown Columbia one that exactly matches my coat online-w/shipping it was $43. Yeah! Soooft. Pearl Plush it's called. Ohh I could just rub it all day.

 

[manderz]

Last night SO and I drove by our new house that we move into next month. The owners didn't want to include any appliances with the deal, so we're buying all new ones. We told our real estate agent to let the owners know if they wanted to leave anything behind we would appreciate it, the owners said no they're taking them for their new place. Last night what do we see sitting at the curb ... their washer & dryer

Did they have a for sale/ free sign?? I'd take them!

 

[Glitz]

Last night SO and I drove by our new house that we move into next month. The owners didn't want to include any appliances with the deal, so we're buying all new ones. We told our real estate agent to let the owners know if they wanted to leave anything behind we would appreciate it, the owners said no they're taking them for their new place. Last night what do we see sitting at the curb ... their washer & dryer

Did they have a for sale/ free sign?? I'd take them!

FREE! The kicker is that we have already ordered all of our appliances. We're getting a really nice front loading set that will save energy, the ones they had were older, but they could have done us for a couple of years and we could have saved $1500. I'm happy with our set, it got me really fired up to see that they're giving them away when we asked for them!

 

[Strawdermangrl]

Last night SO and I drove by our new house that we move into next month. The owners didn't want to include any appliances with the deal, so we're buying all new ones. We told our real estate agent to let the owners know if they wanted to leave anything behind we would appreciate it, the owners said no they're taking them for their new place. Last night what do we see sitting at the curb ... their washer & dryer

Did they have a for sale/ free sign?? I'd take them!

FREE! The kicker is that we have already ordered all of our appliances. We're getting a really nice front loading set that will save energy, the ones they had were older, but they could have done us for a couple of years and we could have saved $1500. I'm happy with our set, it got me really fired up to see that they're giving them away when we asked for them!

Yeah, I would have to say that I would be a bit irritated as well. What gives? Why are people like that? LOL. Whatever.

 

[April20]

Last night SO and I drove by our new house that we move into next month. The owners didn't want to include any appliances with the deal, so we're buying all new ones. We told our real estate agent to let the owners know if they wanted to leave anything behind we would appreciate it, the owners said no they're taking them for their new place. Last night what do we see sitting at the curb ... their washer & dryer

Did they have a for sale/ free sign?? I'd take them!

FREE! The kicker is that we have already ordered all of our appliances. We're getting a really nice front loading set that will save energy, the ones they had were older, but they could have done us for a couple of years and we could have saved $1500. I'm happy with our set, it got me really fired up to see that they're giving them away when we asked for them!

I would have picked them up and then sold them on Craigslist!!

 

[April20]

April - They won't wave it even with the Police Report? That seems ludicrous to me, I'd have to write someone about that.


I'm actually battling my library about a library book that I never checked out, they won't let me check out books under my name because of it. It's from like... 92? 93? I was a little kid..... I didn't check out books alone.

I'm about to call the "coordinator" and give them my story. It's KILLING me that I now owe the library so much money for OLD books that were stolen. It's not like I lost them! And how the he!! do you claim library books on your insurance anyway? It's not like I purchased them and have a receipt.

I waited ELEVEN minutes on a ringing phone in the police records dept and no one ever picked up. UGH.

 

[that_someone_special]

I also owe the library from 98? I think its like $40-$50. They are these books that I have NO IDEA what they are and they don't sound like anything I'd ever check out. They won't do anything about it, so, no library for me.

BUT! Now that I'm doing an official name change maybe I can get a new.. clean... card?

 

[April20]

I also owe the library from 98? I think its like $40-$50. They are these books that I have NO IDEA what they are and they don't sound like anything I'd ever check out. They won't do anything about it, so, no library for me.

BUT! Now that I'm doing an official name change maybe I can get a new.. clean... card?

I would totally do that!

I'm on the phone w/ the "coordinator" now and she is telling me to claim on insurance too! Argh.

ETA: Just got off phone with coordinator. She lowered some of the fines, but it's still costing me $96!! Whatever, I'm just paying it. They take credit cards online so I dont even have to go back in and I don't need a copy of the police report.

 

[TravelingGal]

Zoe, wanted to pop back in and say I am sorry for your loss. I am glad you had your beautiful service and were able to say goodbye in such a peaceful way.

 

[dragonfly411]

Did I miss the return of the pink shoes?

 

[AGBF]

Did I miss the return of the pink shoes?

I think T-Gal refused to give hers up after Labor Day.

Deb

 

[TravelingGal]

Did I miss the return of the pink shoes?

I think T-Gal refused to give hers up after Labor Day.

Deb

Steal called me eye candy on another thread and told me to go put on my Santa Hat. I don't do decorations until after thanksgiving, so I figured the pink shoes would suffice for now.

 

[dragonfly411]

LOL gotcha!

I'm sleepy. I spent all night and morning freezing my tush off, even with extra blankets. For some reason my bedroom stays ultra cold even with the heater on. I think my window leaks. I'm afraid my turtles might freeze. I had to move my orchid out of the room. I wear long sleeves, pants, and socks to bed with a medium comforter and extra blankets. What gives?

 

[April20]

LOL gotcha!

I'm sleepy. I spent all night and morning freezing my tush off, even with extra blankets. For some reason my bedroom stays ultra cold even with the heater on. I think my window leaks. I'm afraid my turtles might freeze. I had to move my orchid out of the room. I wear long sleeves, pants, and socks to bed with a medium comforter and extra blankets. What gives?

I think you need a sleeping cap to trap your body heat in. Like this. That would be HOT.

 

[dragonfly411]

LOL my poor hair.

 

[star sparkle]

I'm so upset right now, I need to get this out and I don't want to make it its own thread so I thought I'd put it here. I hope this doesn't sound too melodramatic or anything, I'm just feeling sad and hurt and I don't know what to do.

The last couple of days, BF and this girl, we'll call her D, have been texting almost nonstop. It was bothering me, so I mentioned to him that I wasn't altogether comfortable with the frequency of their texts. He insisted she's just a friend, and he's just returned from being out of the country for over a week, blah blah blah. Fine. Then I see that she has sent him a picture of herself and at one point called him "cute"(I was sitting right next to him for a lot of the time they were texting), and I REALLY don't like that, so I say something again. Again he says she's just a friend, not to worry about anything.

Yesterday morning he had to go into work for a little while, then he had a couple of errands to run and he'd call me when he was finished so we could hang out. OK, great. Fast forward to about 11:30 or noon, and I talk to him, and he said he hasn't gone out to do his errands yet, but will call me when he gets home, and that he's having a nice time just unwinding at home by himself.

Eventually I go over there, we have a super great evening and everything is normal. Except of course that he and D are texting again for much of the night, and of course that gets under my skin.

This morning I dropped him off at the airport because he had to fly out for a week-long work trip. We're happy, great, wonderful.

Then, this morning I find out that his "running errands" yesterday afternoon actually meant that he was out having lunch with D.

I don't know if I'm overreacting or being just plain ridiculous, but I'm so hurt and feel betrayed. I'm 99% sure that he hasn't cheated on me and never would, but I'm a mess right now. I hate that he didn't tell me, and I hate that I found out another way. He doesn't know that I know because he's still flying right now, and I just don't know what to do. If he had told me, yeah, I might not have liked it but I would have dealt with it. The fact that he didn't tell me and kept it from me is what's killing me.

Thanks for listening. Feel free to tell me that I'm overreacting and this is nothing to worry about because, really, that's probably better than the alternative.

Oh, and I'll be talking to him in just over an hour when he lands. Do I confront him? Say nothing? I'm so confused and am shaking and my heart is pounding.

 

[HollyS]

Last night SO and I drove by our new house that we move into next month. The owners didn't want to include any appliances with the deal, so we're buying all new ones. We told our real estate agent to let the owners know if they wanted to leave anything behind we would appreciate it, the owners said no they're taking them for their new place. Last night what do we see sitting at the curb ... their washer & dryer

Did they have a for sale/ free sign?? I'd take them!

FREE! The kicker is that we have already ordered all of our appliances. We're getting a really nice front loading set that will save energy, the ones they had were older, but they could have done us for a couple of years and we could have saved $1500. I'm happy with our set, it got me really fired up to see that they're giving them away when we asked for them!

I would have picked them up and then sold them on Craigslist!!

This.

 

[Autumnovember]

Thanks "best friend" for SCREWING me over AGAIN tonight for the 4th time in a month and a half.

 

[HollyS]

Starsparkle:

Be up front and honest with him. NO drama. At all.

Tell him you know, ask him why he felt it necessary to keep it from you. Ask him why he feels it is okay to text with her while he is with you. It isn't a question of you trusting him - - until he deliberately didn't tell you about lunch - - it is a question of his being completely impolite and oblivious to your feelings. Or maybe he doesn't care if he is impolite or seemingly oblivious to your feelings.

If you don't like his responses, then review your options. And, yes, it is ALWAYS an option to make him an ex-BF. Always.

 

[dragonfly411]

Starsparkle:

Be up front and honest with him. NO drama. At all.

Tell him you know, ask him why he felt it necessary to keep it from you. Ask him why he feels it is okay to text with her while he is with you. It isn't a question of you trusting him - - until he deliberately didn't tell you about lunch - - it is a question of his being completely impolite and oblivious to your feelings. Or maybe he doesn't care if he is impolite or seemingly oblivious to your feelings.

If you don't like his responses, then review your options. And, yes, it is ALWAYS an option to make him an ex-BF. Always.

This.

 

[Strawdermangrl]

I'm so upset right now, I need to get this out and I don't want to make it its own thread so I thought I'd put it here. I hope this doesn't sound too melodramatic or anything, I'm just feeling sad and hurt and I don't know what to do.

The last couple of days, BF and this girl, we'll call her D, have been texting almost nonstop. It was bothering me, so I mentioned to him that I wasn't altogether comfortable with the frequency of their texts. He insisted she's just a friend, and he's just returned from being out of the country for over a week, blah blah blah. Fine. Then I see that she has sent him a picture of herself and at one point called him "cute"(I was sitting right next to him for a lot of the time they were texting), and I REALLY don't like that, so I say something again. Again he says she's just a friend, not to worry about anything.

Yesterday morning he had to go into work for a little while, then he had a couple of errands to run and he'd call me when he was finished so we could hang out. OK, great. Fast forward to about 11:30 or noon, and I talk to him, and he said he hasn't gone out to do his errands yet, but will call me when he gets home, and that he's having a nice time just unwinding at home by himself.

Eventually I go over there, we have a super great evening and everything is normal. Except of course that he and D are texting again for much of the night, and of course that gets under my skin.

This morning I dropped him off at the airport because he had to fly out for a week-long work trip. We're happy, great, wonderful.

Then, this morning I find out that his "running errands" yesterday afternoon actually meant that he was out having lunch with D.

I don't know if I'm overreacting or being just plain ridiculous, but I'm so hurt and feel betrayed. I'm 99% sure that he hasn't cheated on me and never would, but I'm a mess right now. I hate that he didn't tell me, and I hate that I found out another way. He doesn't know that I know because he's still flying right now, and I just don't know what to do. If he had told me, yeah, I might not have liked it but I would have dealt with it. The fact that he didn't tell me and kept it from me is what's killing me.

Thanks for listening. Feel free to tell me that I'm overreacting and this is nothing to worry about because, really, that's probably better than the alternative.

Oh, and I'll be talking to him in just over an hour when he lands. Do I confront him? Say nothing? I'm so confused and am shaking and my heart is pounding.

Star- Firstly, that sucks. I don't care if he isn't doing anything with her or not, it bothers you and you have expressed that to him. He is still doing it and now he is kind of hiding it. I would wait until he gets back into town before I would say anything- a long distance fight isn't going to make this any easier for either party. Second, have you met 'D'? Are they friend from childhood? I ask because, I have had the same type of feelings before and then upon meeting the girl I have not had issues anymore. Sometimes it is the fear of the unknown that really bothers us most. Third, I don't think that you are being over reactive to the situation, I don't think I would be feeling differently than you are at this point. Not saying that he is doing anything wrong but generally women are pretty good at intuition. Hence the saying. It is probably nothing but you need to express to him that this isn't acceptable and that he needs to be honest with you about what he is doing. Would it have bothered you more if you knew about lunch with her vs. finding out the way you did? Just my .02, I might be way off what others will say but I am sure that things are going to be just fine. I would talk to him, definitely, but I would wait until he is home at the end of the week. Face to face is always best for things like this. Hugs,doll.

 

[Strawdermangrl]

Thanks "best friend" for SCREWING me over AGAIN tonight for the 4th time in a month and a half.

I have divorced my BFF of 15 years recently for the same reasons. Sorry, doll. That sucks. What happened?

 

[star sparkle]

Starsparkle:

Be up front and honest with him. NO drama. At all.

Tell him you know, ask him why he felt it necessary to keep it from you. Ask him why he feels it is okay to text with her while he is with you. It isn't a question of you trusting him - - until he deliberately didn't tell you about lunch - - it is a question of his being completely impolite and oblivious to your feelings. Or maybe he doesn't care if he is impolite or seemingly oblivious to your feelings.

If you don't like his responses, then review your options. And, yes, it is ALWAYS an option to make him an ex-BF. Always.

Thanks, Holly. You said everything I was feeling, but that I just couldn't articulate. I've never had a reason to not trust him and have trusted him without question thus far in our relationship, but now I feel that the trust I gave him has been betrayed.

 

[star sparkle]

Star- Firstly, that sucks. I don't care if he isn't doing anything with her or not, it bothers you and you have expressed that to him. He is still doing it and now he is kind of hiding it. I would wait until he gets back into town before I would say anything- a long distance fight isn't going to make this any easier for either party. Second, have you met 'D'? Are they friend from childhood? I ask because, I have had the same type of feelings before and then upon meeting the girl I have not had issues anymore. Sometimes it is the fear of the unknown that really bothers us most. Third, I don't think that you are being over reactive to the situation, I don't think I would be feeling differently than you are at this point. Not saying that he is doing anything wrong but generally women are pretty good at intuition. Hence the saying. It is probably nothing but you need to express to him that this isn't acceptable and that he needs to be honest with you about what he is doing. Would it have bothered you more if you knew about lunch with her vs. finding out the way you did? Just my .02, I might be way off what others will say but I am sure that things are going to be just fine. I would talk to him, definitely, but I would wait until he is home at the end of the week. Face to face is always best for things like this. Hugs,doll.

Thanks for your thoughts. I understand what you mean about this not being a good conversation to have over the phone, however, I don't think there's any way I could pretend things are normal for a whole week. He'd know just by my tone of voice that something is bothering me, and he'd be upset if I told him nothing was wrong but then brought this up when he gets back.

And no, I've never met D. First I ever heard of her was the other night when they were texting. I know she's not a friend from childhood, though, because she is from here (where we live) and BF is not. I don't know how they met, how they know each other, or anything like that.

It definitely bothers me more that he kept it from me and I found about it another way. Not going to lie, I'm sure I would have been less than thrilled if he HAD told me about it beforehand, but finding out that he was hiding this from me feels like a knife through the heart.

 

[TravelingGal]

Starsparkle, I have a rule with my husband. The rule is no one and one brekkies/lunches/dinners with the opposite sex without "consent" of the other. THAT rule applies to past friendships and coworkers if you're traveling together and have no one else to eat with. With "new" people that come in after marriage, the rule is even simpler. It's a big NO.

It probably sounds strict, old fashioned, and even crazy to some. But I am a firm believer that cheating can happen to the best of us. For TGuy and myself, it's about not collecting the kindling for a raging fire. A match is lit quickly, in the blink of an eye. Infernos happen before you know it.

So IMHO it was very wrong of your boyfriend to do lunch with this gal behind your back. I do not care if it was even for a noble purpose. My friend's husband is Mr. Nice Guy. A female coworker of his was having issues and needed someone to talk to, so they went to dinner. Since he is Mr. Noble, his motives were pure. Hers not so much and guess who now has a major crush on who?

 

[fieryred33143]

IDK Star. I don't want to be the drama queen in here but what he's doing is not cool. He met a brand new person you have never heard of and is spending the time he has with you talking and meeting up with her. Not cool at all. Do you know if she knows about you? How long have you guys been together?

 

[star sparkle]

So IMHO it was very wrong of your boyfriend to do lunch with this gal behind your back. I do not care if it was even for a noble purpose. My friend's husband is Mr. Nice Guy. A female coworker of his was having issues and needed someone to talk to, so they went to dinner. Since he is Mr. Noble, his motives were pure. Hers not so much and guess who now has a major crush on who?

Thank you, TGal. This is exactly where my fear lie. As I said previously, I DON'T think he's cheating on me and even though I wouldn't have necessarily *liked* it if he had told me beforehand, I would have accepted it and moved on. His doing it behind my back raises a bunch of flags and makes me feel like I can't trust what he tells me anymore.