I just wanna say -- the random comments thread

[junebug17]

So the ex saga continues...

I've never actually met or spoken with her before. I just know about her from the inappropriate facebook/text/instant/voicemail messages she leaves for DH (they creep him out and he shows them to me so I'm in the loop). He has since blocked her from every means of personal contact.

So I'm off today and offered to answer the phone for DH's business while he's in meetings. I was shocked when the ex called the business line! She has started an event planning business and needs a website and investors. She expected him to create a website for her for free, manage the business email accounts, and invest in her new business! She was pretty annoyed when I answered the phone. I was a bit evil and gave her the response I would give any other client: I quoted DH's hourly rate, associated design fees, and suggested that she use the online form on his website to describe the project so he could return a more complete quote.

She didn't like being treated like any other customer and started screaming at me.

I'm such a bad person, but I have to admit I enjoyed it after all of her efforts to destroy my marriage.

DH is pretty mad about the whole thing and we're stumped about how to block her from contacting us through the business.

I'm just curious - has your dh told her verbally and in very strong language not to contact him anymore? I'm just wondering, because it seems like she feels it's ok to call him - maybe she needs to be told by your dh in no uncertain terms not to contact him in any way, shape or form. How bizarre that she thinks he will enter into a business transaction with her - sounds like a desperate attempt on her part to keep in touch with him. And how dare she scream at you. That makes me angry for you, she has no right to do that.

If she keeps it up, I'd look into taking legal action against her. Sorry you have to deal with this, her behavior is ridiculous!

ETA: and your response to her was great! Teehee, how you handled it was more effective than just telling her off.

 

[chemgirl]

So the ex saga continues...

I've never actually met or spoken with her before. I just know about her from the inappropriate facebook/text/instant/voicemail messages she leaves for DH (they creep him out and he shows them to me so I'm in the loop). He has since blocked her from every means of personal contact.

So I'm off today and offered to answer the phone for DH's business while he's in meetings. I was shocked when the ex called the business line! She has started an event planning business and needs a website and investors. She expected him to create a website for her for free, manage the business email accounts, and invest in her new business! She was pretty annoyed when I answered the phone. I was a bit evil and gave her the response I would give any other client: I quoted DH's hourly rate, associated design fees, and suggested that she use the online form on his website to describe the project so he could return a more complete quote.

She didn't like being treated like any other customer and started screaming at me.

I'm such a bad person, but I have to admit I enjoyed it after all of her efforts to destroy my marriage.

DH is pretty mad about the whole thing and we're stumped about how to block her from contacting us through the business.

I'm just curious - has your dh told her verbally and in very strong language not to contact him anymore? I'm just wondering, because it seems like she feels it's ok to call him - maybe she needs to be told by your dh in no uncertain terms not to contact him in any way, shape or form. How bizarre that she thinks he will enter into a business transaction with her - sounds like a desperate attempt on her part to keep in touch with him. And how dare she scream at you. That makes me angry for you, she has no right to do that.

If she keeps it up, I'd look into taking legal action against her. Sorry you have to deal with this, her behavior is ridiculous!

ETA: and your response to her was great! Teehee, how you handled it was more effective than just telling her off.

He has told her verbally not to contact him anymore. She also knows that she's been blocked from email/social network/cell phone. She really doesn't get it. We were out for dinner with mutual friends last month and one said she'd mentioned tagging along and had to be talked out of it. At that time (allegedly) she said she knew it was a bad idea and he didn't want to see her, but she feels its stupid to lose a friendship just because he's married. The only problem is its not just because he's married. Friendship I could deal with...strange messages and personal insults against me...not so much.

I've brought up taking legal action but DH feels it would be really mean. They had a seven year relationship so I understand that he would have mixed feelings about taking legal action against her.

I just hope she finally gets somebody new in her life so she can change her focus.

 

[junebug17]

So the ex saga continues...

I've never actually met or spoken with her before. I just know about her from the inappropriate facebook/text/instant/voicemail messages she leaves for DH (they creep him out and he shows them to me so I'm in the loop). He has since blocked her from every means of personal contact.

So I'm off today and offered to answer the phone for DH's business while he's in meetings. I was shocked when the ex called the business line! She has started an event planning business and needs a website and investors. She expected him to create a website for her for free, manage the business email accounts, and invest in her new business! She was pretty annoyed when I answered the phone. I was a bit evil and gave her the response I would give any other client: I quoted DH's hourly rate, associated design fees, and suggested that she use the online form on his website to describe the project so he could return a more complete quote.

She didn't like being treated like any other customer and started screaming at me.

I'm such a bad person, but I have to admit I enjoyed it after all of her efforts to destroy my marriage.

DH is pretty mad about the whole thing and we're stumped about how to block her from contacting us through the business.

I'm just curious - has your dh told her verbally and in very strong language not to contact him anymore? I'm just wondering, because it seems like she feels it's ok to call him - maybe she needs to be told by your dh in no uncertain terms not to contact him in any way, shape or form. How bizarre that she thinks he will enter into a business transaction with her - sounds like a desperate attempt on her part to keep in touch with him. And how dare she scream at you. That makes me angry for you, she has no right to do that.

If she keeps it up, I'd look into taking legal action against her. Sorry you have to deal with this, her behavior is ridiculous!

ETA: and your response to her was great! Teehee, how you handled it was more effective than just telling her off.

He has told her verbally not to contact him anymore. She also knows that she's been blocked from email/social network/cell phone. She really doesn't get it. We were out for dinner with mutual friends last month and one said she'd mentioned tagging along and had to be talked out of it. At that time (allegedly) she said she knew it was a bad idea and he didn't want to see her, but she feels its stupid to lose a friendship just because he's married. The only problem is its not just because he's married. Friendship I could deal with...strange messages and personal insults against me...not so much.

I've brought up taking legal action but DH feels it would be really mean. They had a seven year relationship so I understand that he would have mixed feelings about taking legal action against her.

I just hope she finally gets somebody new in her life so she can change her focus.

Oh ok, sounds like she's definitely having a hard time facing reality. Sooner or later I guess it will sink in that your dh isn't interested in being "friends" with her. Interesting how she's playing the "friend" card to make her actions seem so innocent, as in "gee, I'm not doing anything wrong, I just want to be friends" I'm sorry, I know I sound old and cynical, but I just don't think you should have to deal with this in your marriage. Hopefully she'll eventually realize how pathetic she looks by acting this way and leave you guys alone.

 

[chemgirl]

So the ex saga continues...

I've never actually met or spoken with her before. I just know about her from the inappropriate facebook/text/instant/voicemail messages she leaves for DH (they creep him out and he shows them to me so I'm in the loop). He has since blocked her from every means of personal contact.

So I'm off today and offered to answer the phone for DH's business while he's in meetings. I was shocked when the ex called the business line! She has started an event planning business and needs a website and investors. She expected him to create a website for her for free, manage the business email accounts, and invest in her new business! She was pretty annoyed when I answered the phone. I was a bit evil and gave her the response I would give any other client: I quoted DH's hourly rate, associated design fees, and suggested that she use the online form on his website to describe the project so he could return a more complete quote.

She didn't like being treated like any other customer and started screaming at me.

I'm such a bad person, but I have to admit I enjoyed it after all of her efforts to destroy my marriage.

DH is pretty mad about the whole thing and we're stumped about how to block her from contacting us through the business.

I'm just curious - has your dh told her verbally and in very strong language not to contact him anymore? I'm just wondering, because it seems like she feels it's ok to call him - maybe she needs to be told by your dh in no uncertain terms not to contact him in any way, shape or form. How bizarre that she thinks he will enter into a business transaction with her - sounds like a desperate attempt on her part to keep in touch with him. And how dare she scream at you. That makes me angry for you, she has no right to do that.

If she keeps it up, I'd look into taking legal action against her. Sorry you have to deal with this, her behavior is ridiculous!

ETA: and your response to her was great! Teehee, how you handled it was more effective than just telling her off.

He has told her verbally not to contact him anymore. She also knows that she's been blocked from email/social network/cell phone. She really doesn't get it. We were out for dinner with mutual friends last month and one said she'd mentioned tagging along and had to be talked out of it. At that time (allegedly) she said she knew it was a bad idea and he didn't want to see her, but she feels its stupid to lose a friendship just because he's married. The only problem is its not just because he's married. Friendship I could deal with...strange messages and personal insults against me...not so much.

I've brought up taking legal action but DH feels it would be really mean. They had a seven year relationship so I understand that he would have mixed feelings about taking legal action against her.

I just hope she finally gets somebody new in her life so she can change her focus.

Oh ok, sounds like she's definitely having a hard time facing reality. Sooner or later I guess it will sink in that your dh isn't interested in being "friends" with her. Interesting how she's playing the "friend" card to make her actions seem so innocent, as in "gee, I'm not doing anything wrong, I just want to be friends" I'm sorry, I know I sound old and cynical, but I just don't think you should have to deal with this in your marriage. Hopefully she'll eventually realize how pathetic she looks by acting this way and leave you guys alone.

Thanks, its getting a lot less frequent so that's a plus. The friend card is way better than the really really strange messages earlier in our relationship. Its hard to explain, none of the messages were ever sexually inappropriate, they were just really really strange. She posted on his wall on his birthday calling him darling and talking about the wonderful dinner she was going to make for him (they had been broken up over a year at that point). When we were engaged she posted a very long rant about how surprised she was that he would propose to me after making her wait so long. The one that really made DH go was a facebook wall message about how she was thinking about their trip to Spain and went on to describe this super romantic time they had together. The freaky part is that DH has never been to Spain. It was completely made up, DH thinks to make me jealous (they did travel together, just never to Spain). I started out feeling sorry for her, but those examples are just a few of the really strange and infuriating interactions. Its getting to be too much and my real life friends are tired of hearing about it. I need to vent from time to time so PS is a great place for it.

 

[iheartscience]

Yikes, chemgirl-the ex clearly has more than a few screws loose. No real advice on how to deal with her but I love how you handled her call today! Well-played!

 

[junebug17]

Oy chemgirl, she really is having trouble moving on, to the point she's creating her own reality! It's really quite pathetic - she obviously has very little going on her own life, so she feels the need to live off old memories (and made-up ones! ) I'm glad to hear it's happening less. I'm sure she'll eventually stop when she realizes you guys are just going to ignore her. Sorry you're dealing with this!

 

[chemgirl]

Oy chemgirl, she really is having trouble moving on, to the point she's creating her own reality! It's really quite pathetic - she obviously has very little going on her own life, so she feels the need to live off old memories (and made-up ones! ) I'm glad to hear it's happening less. I'm sure she'll eventually stop when she realizes you guys are just going to ignore her. Sorry you're dealing with this!

I really hope she doesn't believe any of that stuff and it was just done to make me jealous. Our trip to Spain had just been canceled because of the ash cloud so I think that could be a part of it. After meeting DH's family and friends and seeing how they react to me at first meeting, I think she generally rubs people the wrong way. I'm not even surprised anymore when I meet a new person and I get "Yey you're normal!" or "Wow, I actually like you." He cut off contact with several people (including his mother, step mother, and best friend) because they couldn't get along her. He was so used to defending her that it almost ended our relationship. There were so many comments from her during the first year that made me go and he would defend her saying I just didn't interpret it correctly. I was ready to walk away. After the Spain comment he started calling her crazy on his own accord so we were finally on the same page. That opened a dialogue and made him realize that she was disrespecting me and that is never ok!

And thanks Thing2of2, I was worried I didn't handle the situation well because she ended up so angry. I just didn't know what to do so I started giving a form response. I did enjoy its effect.

Yey, this is therapeutic.

 

[dragonfly411]

Third night in a row of job two after job one tonight. This is me ---->

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

TGIF.

cheers--Sharon

 

[iheartscience]

HI:

TGIF.

cheers--Sharon

I would normally agree, but today is the last business day of my early retirement! (Sometimes referred to as unemployment! ) I start my new gig Monday after 4 months of not working. We moved to a new city back in February for my husband's job. I hope it's not too rough of a transition!

ETA on the plus side, now that I'm working again I'm going to order something using my 10k gift from PS!

 

[canuk-gal]

HI:

TGIF.

cheers--Sharon

I would normally agree, but today is the last business day of my early retirement! (Sometimes referred to as unemployment! ) I start my new gig Monday after 4 months of not working. We moved to a new city back in February for my husband's job. I hope it's not too rough of a transition!

ETA on the plus side, now that I'm working again I'm going to order something using my 10k gift from PS!

HI:

I hear ya--except I went back to work after 5 weeks off, and I am glad it if Friday!

Hope your new job is great and you negotiated a fabu salary.

cheers--Sharon

 

[Cozystitches]

Dear PS'ers who post their recent sparklies,

STOP IT! I dream of new sparklies but have no budget for them! Ok, so I have a minuscule savings for them, but NO WHERE NEAR the amount needed/wanted for a biiiiig sparklie!!! Ok, so I'm just joking w/you all, and am just slowly turning into the green eyed monster!

Sincerely,
The Jealous CozyStitches

P.S. Keep posting the pics, at least I can live variously through you all

P.P.S Now off to troll the SMTB forum where I dream of owning a huge rock of my own....

 

[junebug17]

Dear PS'ers who post their recent sparklies,

STOP IT! I dream of new sparklies but have no budget for them! Ok, so I have a minuscule savings for them, but NO WHERE NEAR the amount needed/wanted for a biiiiig sparklie!!! Ok, so I'm just joking w/you all, and am just slowly turning into the green eyed monster!

Sincerely,
The Jealous CozyStitches

P.S. Keep posting the pics, at least I can live variously through you all

P.P.S Now off to troll the SMTB forum where I dream of owning a huge rock of my own....

Heehee, I feel the same way CozyStitches! I've been having a bit of a rough time time fighting the green eyed monster lately myself! This is my new mantra - "be happy with what you have junebug, be happy with what you have, be happy..." There are some really beautiful sparklies on this site - and I hate to admit that DSS has set in for me.

 

[Cozystitches]

Heehee, I feel the same way CozyStitches! I've been having a bit of a rough time time fighting the green eyed monster lately myself! This is my new mantra - "be happy with what you have junebug, be happy with what you have, be happy..." There are some really beautiful sparklies on this site - and I hate to admit that DSS has set in for me.

Ugh...I try, it's hard though! We unfortunatley were robbed last month so all my jewelry (ok, so it was costume, but still I can't play with jewelry) is gone except for the few pieces I wear daily. But the kicker is hubby doesn't see sparklies in the same light as I do...sigh... One day, I will have sparklies, one day....

 

[davi_el_mejor]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

 

[yssie]

Heehee, I feel the same way CozyStitches! I've been having a bit of a rough time time fighting the green eyed monster lately myself! This is my new mantra - "be happy with what you have junebug, be happy with what you have, be happy..." There are some really beautiful sparklies on this site - and I hate to admit that DSS has set in for me.

Ugh...I try, it's hard though! We unfortunatley were robbed last month so all my jewelry (ok, so it was costume, but still I can't play with jewelry) is gone except for the few pieces I wear daily. But the kicker is hubby doesn't see sparklies in the same light as I do...sigh... One day, I will have sparklies, one day....

Cosystitches - what a wretched thing to have happened, costume or no

 

[Cozystitches]

Cosystitches - what a wretched thing to have happened, costume or no

Thanks, Yssie. I am thankful that no one was harmed and it could have been worse.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

 

[dragonfly411]

Note to all. Benadryl is a great and safe way to calm an anxious dog. It's also a great way to get some sleep when your mother's dog will NOT go to bed, and she has hard wood floors, and his nails clack clack all night long.

Another note to all. Bassett Hounds are actually garbage disposals and are completely indestructible. They are immune to the effects of an entire pan of brownies as well. They can and will eat everything you own, or want to eat.

 

[April20]

So.sleepy.

Need a nap, but no time and will mess up sleep tonight. Ugh.

 

[chemgirl]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

Curious about something. Do you need a boating license in the US? Does the law vary by state? I recently renewed my boating license and was wondering if other countries require licenses.

 

[dragonfly411]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

Curious about something. Do you need a boating license in the US? Does the law vary by state? I recently renewed my boating license and was wondering if other countries require licenses.

In Florida, you only need a license if you are under 21. After that you don't need a boater's license but if you are fishing you do have to have a fishing license.

 

[chemgirl]

I got homesick and "northerned" up my condo balcony. I grew up in a small town in northern Canada and the hardest thing to get used to about the city is the lack of outdoor living space. So Sunday I went and bought Muskoka chairs (Adirondack chairs for all of you Americans) some mini picnic table style end tables, and some large planters. I now have a cottage style seating area and a vegetable garden on my balcony! Loving it!

Looking forward to the strawberries, 3 types of peppers, cherry tomatoes, wax beans, and fresh herbs!

 

[davi_el_mejor]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

Nope... I'm in the US Coast Guard. We deal with one of these things at least 3 times a day.

Stay safe on the water.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

Curious about something. Do you need a boating license in the US? Does the law vary by state? I recently renewed my boating license and was wondering if other countries require licenses.

In Australia you must have a skippers ticket if you are in charge of a boat with a motor bigger than 50cc.

There are huge fines if you are caught.

 

[hawaiianorangetree]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

Nope... I'm in the US Coast Guard. We deal with one of these things at least 3 times a day.

Stay safe on the water.

Oh ok

You will be very pleased to hear that before we even put the boat in the water we spent $1000 on new flares, life jackets, e perb and first aide kit. It was a costly exercise but very important. My husband is a huge safety nut.

 

[Autumnovember]

9 more weeks till the end of the semester and I'll be halfway done my BSN for nursing. ....with 8 more months to go after that!

Onto the MSN after that...it never ends, does it?

 

[davi_el_mejor]

Life jackets work much better if they're buckled/zipped/tied.

Remember to put gas in your boat engine.

Remember to check the oil too.

Remember the plug in your boat.

Remember to check the weather before you go out.

Learn how to use your DSC equipped radio. It can save your life.

As a recently new owner of a boat, I have come to learn that these things are very important. I hope you didn't have to learn the hard way.

Nope... I'm in the US Coast Guard. We deal with one of these things at least 3 times a day.

Stay safe on the water.

Oh ok

You will be very pleased to hear that before we even put the boat in the water we spent $1000 on new flares, life jackets, e perb and first aide kit. It was a costly exercise but very important. My husband is a huge safety nut.

EPIRB! Excellent! One of the greatest ways to get a location. I tend to geek out about this stuff

 

[TooPatient]

I hate stupid people.

I hate when someone decent tries to do something nice and it bites them in the but so they do something nice again and it bites them in the but and..... You'd think they'd learn that sometimes certain people will not accept the kindness but WILL take advantage of them and cause BIG problems.

I hate seeing a situation develop that I REALLY REALLY REALLY want to let someone know about so they can do something but never having quite enough information to get them to actually do anything. I feel completely helpless.

I hate working in a place where I have serious concerns for my safety (thanks to above mentioned decent person).
(If the economy was better I'd leave. If we could make do without my salary I'd leave. If I had any chance at finding something that would be this flexible for my school I'd leave. ---- Until then I hope for the best, offer what assistance I can to Decent person, and stay alert for the security threats)



Sorry -- Just needed to get that out somewhere before I lost it and said what I've been thinking to Decent Person.

 

[zoebartlett]

9 more weeks till the end of the semester and I'll be halfway done my BSN for nursing. ....with 8 more months to go after that!

Onto the MSN after that...it never ends, does it?

Really?! That's great, Autumn! I remember when you were working on your essay and application. It seems like only yesterday...