I think I hate my double-halo ring "upgrade"

[iluvdiamonds2]

It's very pretty - if you are unhappy why don't you see what the jeweler can do?
If not, I say make it your signature piece- wear it and wear it proudly. It is unique - you know?

***Can we please see a pic with this ring and your wedding band?*****

 

[iluvdiamonds2]

It's very pretty - if you are unhappy why don't you see what the jeweler can do?
If not, I say make it your signature piece- wear it and wear it proudly. It is unique - you know?

***Can we please see a pic with this ring and your wedding band?*****

 

[Tekate]

I am on my 5th resetting of my 1.63 (was told it was 1.64 1.66 on two previous appraisals, told on two it was a VS2 but I was just upgraded to a vS1 ha!) sorry back to you... I had my original tiffany style yellow gold setting (not a yellow gold girl).. reset it at my 10th wedding anniversary in 18K yellow gold (this is in '97 when yellow gold was still in) in a thick band with channel set princess cut stones.. 1 carat of stones, still wasn't a yellow gold girl.. reset it 3 years ago into this huge monstrosity of a thing where my stone diminished and had these baguettes all around it.. (husband getting annoyed now).. he went on a trip and I contracted to have a ring with plat. head and 14K base using all the baguettes going around the band, liked it for about a month and then started seeing wrong things on it... clumps of gold (white anyway).. baguettes looking dirty... (started hating it)... husband thinks I am insane at this point.. I decided to get my ring appraised and start having insurance again (after reading this forum)... so I go to the only AGS trained/certified appraiser in Austin.. they are very nice.. they tell me most of the baguettes were chipped or cracked when reset.. (I asked them also to make it a big larger in addition to the appraisal)... the owner goes in the back and comes out with a platinum setting with baguettes and a matching wedding band with baguettes they offer for 3K, a girl contracted for them and didn't like it when it was done, she wanted round stones not baguettes after seeing it.. sounds plausible enough I thought that this was a decent deal.. husband looks at me like I am the most expensive wife on the earth and says OK.. so I'm waiting for the reset and appraisal.. I told you all this so you can know you aren't alone in this world of resets.. hopefully I'll like the new one, probably won't.. I dream of a VC Evelyn.. but I have spent 2x as much as that setting most probably and my husband would stand his ground. Hopefully I'm done.. who knows.

Your ring is lovely.. I would most probably wear it alone, or on my right hand... my husband says.. I'm on a journey, never ending.. always wanting.. so be it.

again, the workmanship looks very good and lovely for your ring.

regards.

I just recently discovered PS, and I'm obsessed! Probably because I'm having so many doubts about my ring I've been on this site nonstop for the last week. I really appreciate all the responses. I guess I will have to live with yet another ring that falls short of my "dream". My poor husband, he really wanted me to love my engagement ring after being married for 8 years and getting a ring that I never loved...which was a poorly executed single halo.

I had seen double halos that I thought were tasteful, hence my decision. But I guess everyone thinks its not so great for an e-ring. I have no choice now. Not unless I win the lottery and secretly have it re-done for the 4th time!

 

[cctiny]

Thank you for making me feel better. So you know how crazy I feel because I thought for sure after wearing a ring I disliked for 8 yrs and finally having the money and approval to get it re-done, I would finally be happy. I think I took bad pics, too. Ironically, I think I like it more now. I think some of the posters are right when they say to just wear it and I will get used to it.

I found a very similar ring on Trumpet and Horn called the Bucksport and the proportions are similar, so I don't think my ring is sooo ridiculous. http://trumpetandhorn.com/bucksport.html

Thanks for your input! I hope you love your ring when you get it!

 

[Dancing Fire]

I don't get why some women go through the trouble of getting a $5K custom setting and then hate it after a few months on their finger...

 

[cctiny]

Because like reading a book and watching the movie version...it's never as good as you imagined?

I guess my dilemma is pretty common. I honestly don't know why I went back to this guy. He did the ring the first time. I guess because he's a lot cheaper than a brick and mortar jewelry store, but if you don't like the outcome, then I guess "what's the point"

 

[iluvdiamonds2]

Thank you for making me feel better. So you know how crazy I feel because I thought for sure after wearing a ring I disliked for 8 yrs and finally having the money and approval to get it re-done, I would finally be happy. I think I took bad pics, too. Ironically, I think I like it more now. I think some of the posters are right when they say to just wear it and I will get used to it.

I found a very similar ring on Trumpet and Horn called the Bucksport and the proportions are similar, so I don't think my ring is sooo ridiculous. http://trumpetandhorn.com/bucksport.html

Thanks for your input! I hope you love your ring when you get it!

OMG that's your ring exactly! Can we see a pic with your wedding band??

 

[MichelleCarmen]

I think your ring is pretty. If I were you, I'd take a break from PS and also from visiting jewelry stores and/or online jewelery sale sites for a while so you have a chance to get to know your ring better and decide if you love it w/out having any constant reminder of all the other designs available to you. It can be a bit overwhelming to have a "forever" ring when you're unsure of what you have right now and further make it worse by seeing other options.

Like I said, your ring is pretty. The only concern I would have is you had been told the ring would be a certain dimension, but ended up being a bit wider. That would be something to discuss with the jeweler NOW before weeks have gone by and before you know it, 30 days or more have passed and there would be less chance for a remake, if you decide to go that route.

Good luck!

 

[Acinom]

So sorry you had to go through this. Luckily you seem to feel better now about the ring! The ring is beautifully made. I do agree that the double row seems to overwhelm the center stone but it is still beautiful and not gaudy at all!

I can so relate to your story. My stone is now in its 5th setting or so which is (finally!) it's final home. It was a long and costly road but I am now thrilled with the end result and enjoy wearing it every day.

I agree with the poster above that it would be good to take a PS break but to also discuss this with your jeweller immediately. He did not deliver according to the agreed dimensions. It will be good to investigatd now what he can do for you.

All the best and keep us updated!!

 

[hastyone]

Your post just broke my heart. You have a beautiful ring and there isn't a person in the world who could argue that we all have different tastes. It is what makes the world go around.

I have always admired people who think outside the box and have the confidence to carry it off. Your ring has that look. It's different, decadent and something you should wear with great pride. It gives you finger coverage and beauty all in one ring.

I love it.

 

[junebug17]

Cctiny, thanks for coming back with an update! A lot of people don't…I'm so glad you're feeling better about your ring! At the end of the day, you are the one wearing it and your opinion is the only one that really matters. I for one don't think it looks ridiculous at all, I think it is a beautiful piece and looks really lovely on your hand.

That said, I agree with MC - IF you are still having reservations about it after a few days have passed, I would talk with the jeweler right away as opposed to waiting. As I said in a previous post, you do have a leg to stand on in terms of the ring not being made to your specifications. I'm picking up that you don't want to do this, and that is totally your call and perfectly fine, but it's a reasonable thing to do if you don't continue to warm up to your ring.

 

[Mayk]

Because like reading a book and watching the movie version...it's never as good as you imagined?

I guess my dilemma is pretty common. I honestly don't know why I went back to this guy. He did the ring the first time. I guess because he's a lot cheaper than a brick and mortar jewelry store, but if you don't like the outcome, then I guess "what's the point"

Honey... Been there done this... More than once! My ering and a five stone! Changed my ering three times and my five stone twice. I finally settled on a solitaire. It happens to many PSers. You are not alone. Give yourself some time.

 

[iluvdiamonds2]

Thank you for making me feel better. So you know how crazy I feel because I thought for sure after wearing a ring I disliked for 8 yrs and finally having the money and approval to get it re-done, I would finally be happy. I think I took bad pics, too. Ironically, I think I like it more now. I think some of the posters are right when they say to just wear it and I will get used to it.

I found a very similar ring on Trumpet and Horn called the Bucksport and the proportions are similar, so I don't think my ring is sooo ridiculous. http://trumpetandhorn.com/bucksport.html

Thanks for your input! I hope you love your ring when you get it!

OMG that's your ring exactly! Can we see a pic with your wedding band??

 

[luvsdmb]

Just curious to know what your husband thinks of it?

 

[distracts]

*shrug*

I like it. I can see how it wouldn't be to everyone's taste, and it does look like an art deco dinner ring, but I like art deco dinner rings. And don't object to the look for engagement rings. I mean, it's huge and blingy, what's not to love about that???

With that said, if you aren't happy with it, since there is the opening to talk to the jeweler, do it now. Even if you decide not to change it, it's better not to have the "what if" floating around in your head!

 

[Rockdiamond]

I think it's a nice looking ring- and from the pics, it looks well made.
By all means, if you choose to, talk to the person who sold it to you- but to help with perspective, I'd try to keep these things in mind:
It's likely the ring was sold to you with good intentions- and even if it wasn't, I'd suggest taking a very positive, and non threatening approach.
If you put the seller on the defensive, you're less likely to get a desirable result.
Secondly- the seller probably has very little "micro" control in the finer details- for example, exactly how wide the halo is.
The ring seems t have been made specifically for the stone- I see no gaps, and the stone fits "in" the ring, not on top.
It takes a fair amount of skill to build this type of ring- and to get such a fit the setters will need to dictate the exact size and number of stones.
Are there thinner halos out there, absolutely- but in general it would be on a different type of ring.
Your ring appears to be a cast ring, you need hand forged to get the thinner halos- BUT that costs more and it's less durable- your ring looks pretty heavy, the pave seems fairly well shielded in this design- all good things from a practical standpoint.

If you do decide to speak to the seller, and they can't change the ring, you're still in a good position- it's a great looking ring- even if not for the purpose you had in mind.
Eventually you may remove the center, and put a colored stone it it- or sell it on eBay or loupe troop......

Bottom line is that the best gift you can give yourself now is to enjoy the ring.....

Just my opinion, but I hope it helps....

 

[momhappy]

If the dimensions are not what had been specified (and agreed upon), then why wouldn't just take it back to the jeweler It's not the ring you ordered. Period. It looks like a cocktail ring and the proportions are all wrong for the center stone. I simply don't understand why someone would invest time, effort, and money into a project that they would have to convince themselves to love. You deserve to get the ring you ordered.

 

[GliderPoss]

I do think its a little large - mainly a proportions issue, the halos overwhelm the centre asscher. Wear for a few months & see if you get used to it before changing it again!

 

[MarionC]

Thank you for making me feel better. So you know how crazy I feel because I thought for sure after wearing a ring I disliked for 8 yrs and finally having the money and approval to get it re-done, I would finally be happy. I think I took bad pics, too. Ironically, I think I like it more now. I think some of the posters are right when they say to just wear it and I will get used to it.

I found a very similar ring on Trumpet and Horn called the Bucksport and the proportions are similar, so I don't think my ring is sooo ridiculous. http://trumpetandhorn.com/bucksport.html

Thanks for your input! I hope you love your ring when you get it!

I wished I'd had my camera with me today - I saw a beautiful ring very much like yours in the estate case at a high-end jeweler and it looked fabulous.

 

[Rockdiamond]

To those who are suggesting that a return or refund is in order- you guys probably "shop" more than me. Is it common for sellers of custom made rings to offer a refund or exchange policy?

 

[MissGotRocks]

No, it's probably not common but given that the diameter of the ring ended up so much larger than was discussed, it would be nice customer service for him to agree to work with her in some capacity to make the ring more to her liking.

 

[MichelleCarmen]

To those who are suggesting that a return or refund is in order- you guys probably "shop" more than me. Is it common for sellers of custom made rings to offer a refund or exchange policy?

I guess we should ask the OP what the return/exchange policy is.

I've never returned a custom piece before, but admit that after reading so many posts of people being unhappy, I'm just thankful my pendant turned out okay. I don't think I'd personally ever had a custom piece made again

 

[Rockdiamond]

I don't mean to suggest that there's anything wrong with speaking with the seller – just that the seller may not have understood exactly what proportions were wanted – and unless it was specifically agreed to in advance that changes could be requested afterwards, there is a great likelihood that the bill of sale was written to prevent such changes refunds or exchanges.
There's nothing wrong and asking, but expecting changes, if they weren't agreed to in writing at the time of sale might lead to disappointing results.
This doesn't appear to be the type of ring that could be easily modified, if at all.
The OP did ask- but I try to keep in mind that things like proportions are completely taste based opinions. There is no "right and wrong".
Quite honestly, I feel pretty bad for the lady who posted this –even though opinions were asked for

 

[Polished]

I wonder how feasible the option of removing the outer halo is. I looked at the ring with a microscope and thought the ring and lovely centre stone looked great with the single halo.

 

[Gypsy]

I don't agree with waiting a few months before talking to the seller.

She will lose her leg to stand on. She needs to state her reservations about the ring RIGHT NOW.

She needs to go back to the jeweler ASAP. And then get in WRITING what they agree on.

This is what she needs to get in writing:

1. The dimensions of the delivered ring are substantially larger than those originally agreed to.
2. The jeweler will re-make the ring ONCE, to match the specifications originally agreed to. And will do so within 30 days of when she drops off the delivered ring.
3. If the new ring still does not match the original order, then the Customer gets a full refund of original purchase price.

Now, they can also agree that she wears it for 90 days first, and then if she still wants it re-made, then it will be done if she is still unhappy at the end of 90 days.

BUT the important part is to not loose your right to make a claim by staying silent.

 

[missy]

I don't mean to suggest that there's anything wrong with speaking with the seller – just that the seller may not have understood exactly what proportions were wanted – and unless it was specifically agreed to in advance that changes could be requested afterwards, there is a great likelihood that the bill of sale was written to prevent such changes refunds or exchanges.
There's nothing wrong and asking, but expecting changes, if they weren't agreed to in writing at the time of sale might lead to disappointing results.
This doesn't appear to be the type of ring that could be easily modified, if at all.
The OP did ask- but I try to keep in mind that things like proportions are completely taste based opinions. There is no "right and wrong".
Quite honestly, I feel pretty bad for the lady who posted this –even though opinions were asked for

Hi RockDiamond. I feel badly for her too but not for the same reasons. She wanted our honest opinions so she could see if she was being reasonable about how she is feeling. PSers are giving their honest opinions so she can do something about the ring now if she doesn't like it. It helps to have others perspectives sometimes. I feel badly for her because she doesn't have a ring she loves (and I know that feeling too) and now she can do something about it so she can get the ring of her dreams or at least a ring she really enjoys wearing!

Good luck cctiny. I hope it works out for you!

 

[Tekate]

Duplicate. Pricescope is acting weird today.

 

[Tekate]

Aw thanks.. it beats what my diamond is in now I looked at the picture(s) and video in your pointer, it's beautiful! and you know it's very very art deco and that is sooooo in... you can go back to the jeweler or if you liked it more and more keep it! one of the rows in your halo you could change out maybe and put in little sapphires or blue diamonds? to really make it art deco.. Hee hee here I am changing! I think it's my disease... the pointer ring is gorgeous, also I should have said, your diamonds look really beautiful.. I hope you let the thread know what you plan on doing..

we are lucky in our husbands. (although mine has a few vices of his own - it's always a journey.. also congratulations on your happy marriage ,, when I get my ring(s) back I'll post a pix in here. thank you for your kind words to me.

Thank you for making me feel better. So you know how crazy I feel because I thought for sure after wearing a ring I disliked for 8 yrs and finally having the money and approval to get it re-done, I would finally be happy. I think I took bad pics, too. Ironically, I think I like it more now. I think some of the posters are right when they say to just wear it and I will get used to it.

I found a very similar ring on Trumpet and Horn called the Bucksport and the proportions are similar, so I don't think my ring is sooo ridiculous. http://trumpetandhorn.com/bucksport.html

Thanks for your input! I hope you love your ring when you get it!

 

[misskittycat]

I think it's lovely but it's definitely more a cocktail ring than an engagement ring. I would wear it happily, but I agree, the halo does make the centre stone look smaller rather than enhance or accent it. It definitely has that cool deco vibe, however.

 

[momhappy]

I think it's lovely but it's definitely more a cocktail ring than an engagement ring. I would wear it happily, but I agree, the halo does make the centre stone look smaller rather than enhance or accent it. It definitely has that cool deco vibe, however.

This. Exactly. I was trying to figure out the issue, but you worded it perfectly. The setting actually makes the center stone look much smaller. I hope the OP at least tries to resolve the issue with her jeweler.