Patchee..
Your relationship sounds very similar to my last relationship. For that, I''m truly empathizing with your situation.
Gather your friends, your family, and do something good for yourself -- make yourself happy with other people for awhile. Get away from where you are for a little while, a few days. If you can''t do that, take some vacation time and rent a car to drive away for a while. Your head needs some clarity, considering your self doubts are starting to set in. It''s natural, but you must retain conviction in your feelings. Don''t allow your self-doubts to override your heart, out of fear of losing your comfort zone. It is not you who needs to change, it is him.
It will be tortuous for awhile, but know: this too, shall pass. You can be happy knowing that there are more opportunities to take, with knowing about yourself, what you''re capable of, and how this relationship does not define you.
He is a cad. He is dishonest with himself. He is acting out the part of a misogynistic man who cannot dissociate between his own identity, and that of his father, when he is involved with women. He is afraid. He does not know himself. He does not know his own fears, nor can he talk about them openly. He is not ready to walk within reality, let alone realize that there is someone who was willing to walk beside him. He lies to himself, to make himself feel better. He will lie to you, out of guilt, or anger. He will impose his negativity upon you, in an effort to reinvest the pain he feels from his own shortcomings. He is dysfunctional, purely by his own hand, and will continue to be an irresponsible man, until he exhausts himself of that destructive and selfish ritual.
Take strength in yourself, that you are not him. For a man like him has chosen to be that way, as you have chosen to be a better person to yourself, and to others.
Your relationship sounds very similar to my last relationship. For that, I''m truly empathizing with your situation.
Gather your friends, your family, and do something good for yourself -- make yourself happy with other people for awhile. Get away from where you are for a little while, a few days. If you can''t do that, take some vacation time and rent a car to drive away for a while. Your head needs some clarity, considering your self doubts are starting to set in. It''s natural, but you must retain conviction in your feelings. Don''t allow your self-doubts to override your heart, out of fear of losing your comfort zone. It is not you who needs to change, it is him.
It will be tortuous for awhile, but know: this too, shall pass. You can be happy knowing that there are more opportunities to take, with knowing about yourself, what you''re capable of, and how this relationship does not define you.
He is a cad. He is dishonest with himself. He is acting out the part of a misogynistic man who cannot dissociate between his own identity, and that of his father, when he is involved with women. He is afraid. He does not know himself. He does not know his own fears, nor can he talk about them openly. He is not ready to walk within reality, let alone realize that there is someone who was willing to walk beside him. He lies to himself, to make himself feel better. He will lie to you, out of guilt, or anger. He will impose his negativity upon you, in an effort to reinvest the pain he feels from his own shortcomings. He is dysfunctional, purely by his own hand, and will continue to be an irresponsible man, until he exhausts himself of that destructive and selfish ritual.
Take strength in yourself, that you are not him. For a man like him has chosen to be that way, as you have chosen to be a better person to yourself, and to others.
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