Introduce yourself!

[anchor31]

Me: anchor31, 20, university student

Him: J, 23 (24 soon), industrial designer

Location: Montreal, Qc, CAN

Started dating (unofficially): May 6th 2003 (my 18th birthday)

Started dating (officially): Casual dating became serious relationship on August 31st 2003. Long-distance relationship.

How you met: Through my brother and his girlfriend (now his ex). J is friends with my brother's now ex and he saw a picture of me at my brother's apartment at a New Year's party (January 2003). He asked my brother "who was the pretty girl in the picture", so my brother introduced us. We first met in person on April 14th 2003.

Expected engagement date: In all honesty, it's propably going to be "boy-soon" aka in a year or two.

Anything else: He looked at rings last January and last summer we've started talking seriously about what we believe, see and expect when it comes to our future together, marriage and family and we understand each other and agree with each other. He's been saying and doing things that scream: "I'm going to propose soon!!!" ever since, including saying he was thinking about proposing to me a couple of weeks ago (and telling someone). I'm not in a particular hurry to get married, I need to finish my degree so I can go back home, and then we could get married and live together, but the mixed signals he's been sending me since last Christmas Break are driving me mad.

This picture was taken in December 2003. Our first Christmas together.

 

[MissAva]

Welcome again Anchor31!!!

 

[hilbake]

ME: hilbake, 25

HIM: M, 26

LOCATION: Brussels, Belgium

STARTED DATING: October 13, 1997 (no, that''s not a typo!)

HOW WE MET: M is Belgian and was a foreign exchange student at my high school during my senior year. We started dating at the beginning of the school year and have been together ever since, even through 6 years of long distance. We''ve been living together (finally) for a little over a year, and no major problems have come up. I love seeing him every day!

EXPECTED ENGAGEMENT DATE: Hmm, well I have no idea. He said that he wants to wait until I''m "settled" here (it hasn''t been easy to start over in a new country, and I''m also going to school for a year) so it''s probably more boy soon, like 1-2 years.

ANYTHING ELSE: I have been lurking on this site for a long time and finally got up the courage to post. I thought I was crazy to be feeling these emotions about waiting for an engagement until I found the LIW thread. I think the support on this board is great and I also love looking at the sparkly new rings!

 

[snogirl17]

me: Jill-student and project manager
him: Jesse-student and quality analyst

Location: Wisconsin

how we met: I was working as a temp where he works and i was dating someone at the time. I got to know him a bit better through email and just making small talk. I thought WOW this guy is really sweet and nice, i should try to hook him up with my best friend. So i tried that and after he was hanging out with us in a group type setting i could feel myself falling for him. I finally dawned on me when my best friend who i was trying to hook him up with said to me.. Jill you like him dont you... and i was like yeah i do.. so i broke it off with the guy i was seeing to date jesse, it was THE BEST thing i have ever done and 2.5 years later we have 3 kidz (2 dogs and a cat) a cute little stucko house and i have the most wonderful caring loving man ever!!

Started dating: June 13th 2003 FRIDAY THE 13th

Expected Engagement: who knows! i would hope in the next year.. All i know is that he has talked to 4 different jewlers about his design.... and after i heard that i discovered THIS awesome site!!!! I have found about 5 different settings i adore from WF and GOG...So of course i sent them to him! If he does anything with them i dont know.. but i guess the fact is him just asking me to spend my life with him would be enough for me.... well the diamond doesnt hurt though!

Extra Things: We love spending time outdoors, snowboarding, hiking, being with our doggies... camping.. honestly he is my best friend.. i couldnt ask for anyone better...

 

[AmberWaves]

Me: Amber, age 25 (Until 3 days from now!) Bookkeeper
Him: Paul , age 26 Elementary School Teacher/Coach

We Met: Worked at a smoothie place in 1997/98. He was my boss (figuratively), we dated for 3 months, but he was too nice, and I wasn''t used to it!

Then, in Oct. 2003 I found him online after looking for him for about 4 years (I finally realized he was the best man for me), and we haven''t been apart since! He tells everyone I''m his stalker

. We moved in together in October of 2004, and last night we celebrated our 2 year anniversary at Disneyland!

Engagement date: He said within the next 5 months, but the other day I was cleaning the bathroom (I swear I was), and I found a card with a jewelers name and number on it! I put the card back, and he came home and said, "Hey, you''re not supposed to see this!" And told me that''s where he''s getting my ring from, and not to ask any more questions!! How can I not ask any more questions??

So maybe sooner than that? My birthday on Saturday? Please? I honestly think he''s tired of me sending him PS links and WF pictures with the line "If I could buy my own ring, it''d be this one"

Anything else: We''ve talked over wedding details already, it''s just a matter of money, Damn those teacher''s wages.

 

[MissAva]

Welcome to the Ladies in Waiting Hibake, Snogirl& Amber Waves!

 

[AmberWaves]

Thank you Matadora! I love your dog. I love being here! Now I realize I''m not insane and super impatient!

 

[snogirl17]

Thanks, it is good to be in great company!

Yeah i am getting ansy and all impatient... but i know he just wants it to be perfect and he wants to give me the most special moment of my life.... sooo i do appreciate that!

 

[NYMiss]

Me: Ashley, 25

Him: Ted, 25

Location: Upstate NY

Started Dating: September 2000

How we met: We went to school together from K-7th grade. We had never "dated" back then. We weren''t even friends..he was the pain in the neck who sat next to me in 6th grade science and always looked at my test scores and tried to beat them! He also was the only guy in our grade that had Air Jordans...and I thought HE thought he was too great so I pretty much ignored him...My family moved in 1993 about 6 hours from where Ted was. We never talked since 1993...fast forward to April 2000 when my best friend (have had the same one since I was 5, even after we moved Kelsey and I remained very close) told me that Ted had e-mailed her at college and asked about me....very odd I thought????? SOOOO I ended up IMing him and from there it turns out he had become the most interesting, intelligent, sexy, hilarious person I have ever had the pleasure of knowing! We have been dating ever since and have lived together since 2002 when we both graduated from college.

Expected Engagement Date: I am hoping VERY VERY VERY soon. We have been ring shopping SERIOUSLY since January 2005. I have lurked on PS since before then...I could NOT pick out a ring that I LOVED for more than a few days....it was very frustrating

. However SEVEN days ago I found the PERFECT setting...and our local jeweler even had the exact diamond I had been searching for....
Ted bought both on the spot...it was such a rush...

Now I am just waiting for the proposal!

I will certainly post in the Show me the Ring section when I get that beauty on my finger...

Thank you all so much for all that you write and say in your posts...it makes it much more tolerable to know that I am not alone.

I hope that many of us get proposed to SOON!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! This is so exciting!!! ok...and a TEENY TINY bit frustrating......WHEN DO I GET MY RING!!

 

[MissAva]

Welcome NYMiss- sounds like you will have a very short stay!

 

[peonygirl]

Me: Daphna, 22; 2nd year PhD student

Him: Ian, 26; 5th year MD/PhD student

Location: Evanston, IL

Started dating: Janurary 29, 2005

How you met: A close friend joined match.com, and she noticed that one of the many guys who responded to her profile sounded like he'd more compatible with me than her. She sent me a link to his profile and asked what I thought. I agreed that he sounded perfect for me, but I was still a little wary of meeting someone I knew so little about so I decided to do a some online research about him. After some sleuthing, I discovered that he lived three floors above me in the same apartment building! So I figured "what the heck," and she decided to set us up (my plan was to join match.com and see if he wrote to me, but she was too impatient for that). She was right, we are totally made for each other!

Expected engagement date: Probably 3-4 months from now. I'm sort of in the antithetical sex-typed engagement situation right now. My boyfriend is dying to get engaged, and even though I'd love to get engaged right now and think we're perfect for each other, for prudence sake I've asked him to wait until at least our 1 year anniversary. We're talking about getting married in December of 2006 or June 2007 (because of our school schedules). Thanks for reading!

 

[Blue824]

Peony - You are so not the only one where the positions are sort of reversed. I think my bf talks about us getting married more than I do, not that I''m not totally excited about it and love figuring out what ring I want, but it is extremely important for me to feel that I can support myself, which I cannot at this point, before I become engaged. Maybe if I had majored in something else I would''ve been engaged at this point

Also my best friend is in the same situation I am. Her bf has been talking about proposing to her for a while, I think sometimes age is a factor too, he is older than she is so all of his friends are married and he is just totally ready for that. A little different from the norm, but hopefully that means when I''m ready I wont have to deal with the whole boy-soon waiting haha, in my case it is girl-soon that is the longer time! PS I also live just a little north of you

 

[peonygirl]

Blue824, glad to hear I''m not the only one! Most of my friends are also in the same situation (their boyfriends want to get engaged and they''re not quite ready), so it really goes to show that the supposed sex differences are overstated.

 

[anchor31]

Welcome!
Of course we generalize when we say men are all the same when it comes to engagement and marriage, we know everyone''s different!

It''s nice to know some LIWs here won''t go through the frustration some of us go through! What''s weird is that my boyfriend does talk about it all the time, but he doesn''t do it! In fact, I sometimes wonder if it''s going to happen in the next two years... Men!

I hope you enjoy your stay!

 

[IndiBlue]

Hi All! Long time looker/stalker...first time poster!


I''m: Riss, 24, Student
He''s: Ev, 26, Law School Student

We Meet: May 2001

At: The Gap. I worked there. He needed new jeans and my phone number. It worked out well for both of us!

When: Whenever... He says he wanted to be married by the end of 07 (statement was taken with a couple of grains of salt). Altimately, it doesn''t matter to me. I love him.

 

[hilbake]

Thanks Matatora! It feels good to come out of lurkdom!

 

[NYMiss]

Thanks for the welcome Mata,
I wish it was even shorter! We are away for the weekend...visiting his family b/c his sister just had another baby and I will offically become the baby''s Godmother in a few short hours...so excited! I thought maybe he wanted to do it with his family around...however my mom is holding the ring at her house...so I can''t find it...

and I asked her if he asked her for it so that he could bring it along for the weekend.....and he didn''t

Oh well....I guess once you are engaged it''s over so if we only get to do it once...it might as well be fantastic. Besides just think how GREAT it will finally be for all of us.

For those women who don''t have to wait and are totally surprised, do they miss out on something? NAH probably not... but I can try and tell myself that!

 

[carolann22]

Me: Carol Ann, 28
Him: Dan, 25
Location: Westminster, MD
Started dating: January 9, 2004
How you met: Through a mutual friend. We met in September at a bonfire at this friends house and I kept seeing him at get-togethers all fall, but I heard he had a girlfriend. He was always flirtatious though, and we talked a lot. Finally at a party on Christmas Eve, my mutual friend was so sick of hearing about Dan that he told me to ask him out or shut up about him forever. I compromised by telling Dan to ask me out. He spent New Year''s Eve with me, then asked me out the next day, then cancelled that date saying he was sick (which I didn''t believe until his Mom vouched for him that he had the flu) Our first date was January 9, and we''ve been together ever since.

Expected engagement date: Don''t know. He told me on our 1 year anniversary that it would be very soon, but then his job prospects fell through. He still hasn''t found a career job, but last month he asked my Dad''s permission and last Saturday I accidently saw the ring in his room... My birthday is Nov. 22, and Christmas is just aroued the corner... He said in April it would definitely be by Christmas, so I can only hope...

Expected Wedding Date: April 7, 2006 (I know that''s just months away, but its my spring break - I''m a teacher- and because of summer commitments on both our parts there will be no time this summer. He agreed that he thinks that would be the best time, and last week when a friend asked him when we would get married he said we''d already picked the date, so I guess he''s okay with it.)

 

[MissAva]

Welcome Carolann! Oh you have seen the ring..I would just die or excitment!

 

[carolann22]

I think seeing the ring just makes it worse! Now I know it can come any time and I''m afraid I''m going to see a proposal around every corner and get sad or worse, angry, each time it doesn''t happen.
I''m trying to be patient....

 

[jbrookie82]

Me: Jessica, 23, student and server
Him: Justin, 19, student and server
Location: TN
Started dating: April 2005
How you met: We worked together. I thought that he was hot and sweet, but never considered dating him because he was four years younger than me. Glad I didn''t let someone so amazing pass me by!
Expected engagement date: He already has the ring, but wants to make it a surprise. I would guess sometime in the next 6 months.

 

[jcrow]

welcome Jessica!

 

[AlyceC]

Me: Alyce, 26, fundraising/pr
Him: Michael, 27, CPA, law student
Location: Philadelphia, PA currently (former Los Angeles, CA)
Started Dating: 10/6/03
How We Met: I complained enough to a college friend about the lack of dating prospects in grad school, and she set me up with one of her co-workers.
Expected Engagement Date: sometime next summer...I''ve been telling him it''s a 1/2 carat for each year we''ve dated without a proposal...so the longer he waits, the more expensive it gets!

 

[MissAva]

Welcome AlyceC! .5ct per year...sounds good to me!

 

[anchor31]

Welcome to ther new ladies! Make yourselves at home, and I hope the wait won''t be too long for you!

 

[Kim N]

Me: Kim, almost mid-twenties
Him: G., almost mid-twenties
Location: Bay Area, CA
Started dating: September 2001

How you met: We got introduced by mutual friends during a pre-fall quarter classes session in college.

Expected engagement date: For various reasons, our expected wedding date isn''t until 2009, so in order not to have too long of an engagement, he''s said he will propose between April 7 and November 24, 2007. LOL! Random dates, I know. I''ve said he can''t propose after November 24, 2007, but he can, if he wishes, propose before April 7, 2007.

However, we''ve already bought the diamond from Whiteflash, and I''m narrowing down my selections for settings. I''ve got it down to, oh, about five

, and we''re looking for a good custom jeweler right now. I''m so excited. I get to see the diamond this Sunday (he picked it up, and we''re semi-long distance). After the setting''s complete, I won''t get to really see the ring until the proposal, but I''ll definitely angle to "visit" it every time I visit him.

 

[Caribou]

Me: Older

HIM: Younger
STARTED DATING: January 2005....it''s iffy on the date...either the first part of the month or the middle.

HOW WE MET: Mutual friends set us up.

EXPECTED ENGAGEMENT DATE: No idea, hopefully before the end of the year.

 

[Buena Girl]

Hi everyone!

It''s wonderful to meet so many new faces.

 

[sunkist]

Hi everyone! I''ve been reading all of your posts for the past few weeks and I love all of you LIW! I feel right at home here so I thought I should introduce myself! I feel like am so obsessed with my future engagement ring and no one in my life knows cause they''d think I was crazy! I''m so glad I am not alone and all of you are in the same boat with me

me: Erin, 24
him:Clifford, 25
location: Southern CA
started dating: April 2000
how we met: We lived on the same hall in the college dorms. We became very good friends, and then 5 months later we finally went on our official first date! We saw Fantansia 2000. We''re best friends now and just love spending time together

expected engagement: Hmmm, I''m thinking Summer 2006. Of course I wish it was sooner (today!!) but he wants to get married in Fall 2006 after we''re both graduated. Which is fine with me

The thing is he has no idea how all the engagement/marriage/wedding thing works (??!). He says it''s cause he doesn''t have any older brothers or sisters like me. I think it''s time my brothers-in-law took him aside and explain "how you get engaged!"

haha!

 

[Mimikins24]

Me: Mimikins, 25 - 2nd year law student

Him: P, 25 - 3rd year accounting major

Location: Saskatchewan, Canada

Started dating: August 29, 2001

How you met: We met back in July of 1999, or so he tells me. I was introduced by a friend of mine from Engineering (in a past life this was my career choice). I don''t remember the first time I met him because I was introduced to so many people that July 1st. After that we became really good friends and hung out together all the time. He ended up dating my best friend at the time, and he became really good friends with my then boyfriend. In April 2001, I broke off the relationship with my then boyfriend (long overdue i am afraid!!!), so P and I started spending a lot of time together, just as friends. Many people got the wrong idea and thought we were a couple, but we were definintely not at that point. P went to Minnesota for July and August 2001 (for school) and at this point we both realized we were interested in more than a friendship. We started dating after he returned that summer.

Expected engagement date: I''m not sure. Apparently, P has been thinking about the whole ring thing for about 10 months or so, although I only found this out quite recently. We have been looking at stones and settings for about 2 months. He originally wanted to surprise me completely, but I have convinved him to let me show him things I like and hate. We are set for an asscher cut (yay!!!) and have a couple of setting choices picked out, but the final decision will be his alone. He hasn''t bought anything yet (that I know of), but he asked me to get sized once my exams are done at the end of the month. Hopefully soon!!!

Expected Wedding Date: Not until at least 2008. I have requested that we don''t get married until after we are both done school (for financial reasons), but I think we plan to get married within a year of graduation.