"Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

[katamari]

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MP: Congrats on a great NT scan! What a cute little bubs you have there! The foot shot is absolutely priceless. And, you got a sex prediction, too! How exciting. I hope it is confirmed for you soon. A huge congrats on telling DH's family! Does it feel more real now? And, how great that you get to share this experience with your cousin and his wife. Also great to hear that telling work went well! As a solid employee, you are a long-term investment, so a short leave isn't that big of a deal in the long run, but I understand how scary it is to tell.

Sunnyd: Congrats on making it fb official! We had our scan at 13w3d. It will be fine. It was good that it looked like a baby. You will be just fine! I also had delicious leftovers for lunch today. YUM!

Dandi: Welcome! And a huge congrats on being able to conceive on your 2nd cycle. That is great! I am also glad things went well with telling your work.

Dani: I am so sorry to hear about your family dog. It is great to hear that everything looks perfect, but that is not good news when the seisures keep happening. I hope he gets better very soon, and I will keep your family in our thoughts. We also waited quite some time to tell our parents, because we were fearful we would have to "untell" them later. A positive NT scan is a very good sign, though.

JGator: Thinking of you today! I am certain you will make it past that milestone and then get great news at your US this Thursday. Of course you and hold out until then. Dust that everything will be great!


Buttons: Good to see you still poking around JBP! We are near each other in due dates and, I'm not gonna lie, it freaked me out a bit that you are transitioning to the big girl thread. I am just not ready for that yet, but I am glad you made the transition!

Haven: Congrats and welcome! How exciting getting KU'ed right out of the gate. Lots of super sticky dust to you!

Laila: Hello! Congrats on your November bean. You are almost out of the 1st T!

RachelK: Can we take your silence to mean you might be moving?! I hope so.


AFM: This was a week of revelations for us. We told a few of our BFs, my Mom, my Grandma, and our respective works. It feels so weird for people to know, but they do. It isn't our little secret anymore. All the telling went well. We are going out of town to a wedding in a couple weeks where I will see a bunch of grad school friends in person. Our goal is to tell everyone else we want to tell over the phone by then (we live too far away from most F&F to tell everyone in person), and then let the ILs make it FB official, since they are dying to spread the news.

I turned in my paperwork for leave at work. That is surreal. I get a nice paid leave. Our timing could have been better for maximum leave, but it is so much better than what most American women get, I can't complain.

In other news, DH and I are going to see one of my favorite bands (Radiohead!) tonight and I cannot wait! I only wish our little fetus-bubs had developed ears so it could enjoy the show with us. I got to see many good concerts in utero, including Led Zeppelin, and I like to think that helped me appreciate music today.

Oh, and I haven't popped yet, but I definitely look like I have a beer belly. It is so gross. It isn't even a "fat or pregnant" situation as much as it is a "look at the gut on that chick" situation. I tried to tell the LO that it is fine to go ahead and pop mama's bump. Oh, and I still have terrible acne (although I am sadly glad I am not alone on that one). It is definitely not time to go on hotornot.com for this gal.

 

[sunnyd]

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Sunnyd, our baby started accumulating a wardrobe this weekend too! So far, everything will work for a boy or girl, but I tend to think the gender neutral stuff is more boyish. Are you going to ask the tech to guess/predict the baby's sex at your NT scan or wait for the anatomy scan? Lucky you getting to sleep through the night without using the restroom! I haven't been able to do that in weeks!

I agree about it looking boyish. We have 3 outfits, plus a couple of boy things and a girl thing. But they're brown or white with brown. It looks like boy stuff. Ah well!

Heck yes I will ask them to guess! My family is harassing me to know already! Hahaha! I hope his dangle is angled just right! Or not dangling at all...

Glad it went well at work! There are currently 10 people in my office either knocked up or have a wife who is. It's nuts! All due from July to October.

 

[Buttons]

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Hi ladies!

sunnyd hope your ultrasound goes really well, so exciting!

katamari when is your EDD again? That is exciting that we are so close! I think we got married within a few months of each other too - I remember your wedding photos - didn't you have blue shoes too? I am still finding my feet in the other thread - I feel like I 'know' everyone here a lot better Glad to hear you had a good time sharing your happy news, and that the work stuff is working out well. I have a definite beer gut too, only it's rock hard - very attractive! Hope you enjoyed the Radiohead concert!

monkeyprincess delighted to hear it went well breaking the news at work. Hope you are keeping well

JGator I'm sorry to hear about the anxiety and after all you've been through no-one could ever blame you for worrying. I hope the scan goes really well and helps to put your mind at ease. If you think the doppler would be reassuring it seems like a lot of the other ladies on here find it very helpful so that might be an option that would be good for you. Hang in there, we are all rooting for you and your little bean

sunnyd I am so jealous of you getting a full night's sleep! I didn't sleep at all the last two nights I have terrible insomnia at the best of times and the constant peeing is not helping matters That was so sweet of your in-laws to buy the baby an Easter present! Hope you are keeping well and feeling good

Haven OMG congratulations!!! Welcome! We also hit the goal our first month trying and it seriously took a few weeks to sink in. Sending you lots and lots of sticky bean vibes!!!

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Hi everyone. Hope everyone is doing well!

Buttons, good to see you checking in. Hope you are feeling better. I suppose I will be getting ready to join you over in the other thread soon. I just don't feel ready quite yet!

AFM, my DH just heard back from the genetic counselor, and she told him our results were the best they can possibly be, less than 1 in 10,000 chance of the baby having any of the trisomies they tested for. Huge relief. I also had my first appointment with the OB this morning, which was very anticlimatic after I've gotten used to having ultrasounds every time, but I guess anticlimatic is good. I also woke up with a scratchy throat and runny nose, and I feel like I have a full-blown cold now. I knew it was going to be a problem when all four of my nieces and nephews had runny noses this weekend! Oh well!

 

[sunnyd]

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Oh noes! I will hope that your cold passes quickly! I'm dreading the summer colds that come around. I'm such a wuss when I'm sick. And useless. But great news on the scan! What a relief, yeah?

Buttons, sorry you haven't been able to sleep. : ( That's never good. I find that when I get up in the night it always takes 30 minutes to go back to sleep. Bleh.

Hi everyone else!

 

[lliang_chi]

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MP, Good luck, hope breaking the news to your dept head wasn't too weird. Sorry for the cold. Hope you feel better.

Haven, wow! fantastic news! How wonderful you got your BFP so quickly! How exciting!

Sticky dust to the rest of you JBP mamas!

~LC

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Okay, I have a little more time to respond to everyone now.

Katamari, your description of your belly made me laugh! I’m sure it is more exaggerated in your head than what other people are seeing. And hopefully it will become a distinctive bump soon. I don’t know how to describe what I’ve got going on right now other than to say I have a really thick waist. I’m normally really narrow from the profile, and now, not so much. It’s like I lost a defined a waist and am just a solid block now : ) Oh well, all of these changes are for a good cause! Hope you enjoyed your concert. I’ll probably move over to other thread when you and some of the others do.

Laila, thanks! I’m so very relieved to finally be at a point where I’m not panicky anymore. It’s very strange having people know. I already got congratulations from a few people that I most definitely have not told, proving just how quickly gossip spreads around here! Hope you are feeling well. You and JGator are definitely pregnancy twins!

Sunnyd, thanks. Yes, I’m thrilled with our results! I feel so blessed that the little one is seemingly very healthy so far. Hope you get excellent results soon too! I hope they are able/willing to guess the gender for you. We’ve gotten in the habit of referring to our baby as a he, so if it turns out the tech was wrong, we’re going to have to quickly break that habit!

LC, thanks! Turns out the baby news reveal wasn’t nearly as awkward as I feared. The head of my group can be a real jerk, but he put on a happy face and congratulated me and acted like it was no big deal and that he expected something worse when I asked to talk to him. Everyone else has been very supportive, so that’s refreshing. I don’t think the cold will turn out too bad, but I do feel super exhausted and ready for a nap! Hope that beautiful little guy of yours is being good to you

 

[NewEnglandLady]

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MP, just wanted to pop in to say congrats on having such good numbers. Even though you don't expect bad news, it's relieving to hear good news. So excited for you for the initial "boy" findings! I can't believe you got to find out so early. I'm sure you're not out buying boy everything, but it's fun to know that in all likelihood, it is a boy.

This was my favorite part of pregnancy--over all the intial fears, letting everybody know, enjoying all that time before you hit 30 weeks and start to get a little uncomfy. It's really fun to follow your journey--I'm just really happy for you!

Good luck to all the ladies here! Heck, I'm already counting the months until we can start trying again!

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Thanks NEL, you're so sweet. I love what a supportive group of ladies we have here! I'm so happy to hear that you're loving mommyhood, and it's reassuring to know you're already counting down the months to start trying again! We'd love to have at least 2 or maybe 3 children, and given our ages and our experience in trying to conceive this one, I don't think we'll wait too long to start trying again. Of course it's easy to say that at 13 weeks pregnant!

I feel like I'm hogging this thread lately! Hope everyone else is doing well - Dani, Dandi, etc!

 

[sunnyd]

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Of course it's easy to say that at 13 weeks pregnant!

Ha! No kidding. I can't see us stopping at 1 though, no matter what!

Sciatica is not fun. I should not have it yet!

 

[Dandi]

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Hello mp, Haven, sunnyd, JGator, Katamari, Buttons, Dani, Laila, and to anyone I may have missed! I hope you and your beans are all safe and well! I just wanted to duck past and say hi before bed. I'm 6 weeks and the queasyness and vertigo has started right on cue, joy! I've been going to bed early the last few nights but I am not sleeping well at all, not sure why. Other than that, going well here (as far as I know!) and counting down the weeks until our first scan. Less then three now, woot woot! It's kinda weird being told I'm pregnant but having nothing tangible, nothing I can see or feel, just a positive blood test and a hungover feeling. Ah well! I've never been so happy to feel sick!

6 weeks 1 day

 

[enbcfsobe]

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Just dipping my toes in over here at around 6.5 weeks. Still only cautiously optimistic after 2 previous early losses, though this is farther than I've gotten so far. Today's worry is that I don't feel nearly as sick as I've felt since last Friday. I'm hoping this is just that the nifty acupressure wristbands I bought yesterday at lunch are actually working. I also didn't wake in the middle of the night to pee, which has been happening on cue for the past 2.5 weeks. Kindof silly -- I feel and sleep better, and it makes me worry more. Ugh.

Hope you are all baking away happily and healthily & I'll try to get caught up with where everyone is at!!

 

[JGator]

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Hi, everyone!

enbcfsobe, welcome and an official "Congratulations!" to you. I think the symptoms come and go so don't worry too much. They will be back before you know it.

Dandi, sorry about your queasiness. I hope it eases up for you.

Sunny, I have sciatica too, and I'm only 10 weeks and 4 days.

MP, yeah for great results on your blood work. You are in the clear now!

AFM, I had my first abdominal ultrasound today (not transvaginal) and we got to see the baby again. The doctor didn't print out a picture this time, and I didn't think to ask until we left. Oh well. The baby looks good (was moving around with a beating heart) and everything is on track. My next appt is the NT and/or CVS on April 23. The doctor said if the nuchal fold is greater than 2.3, and/or they can't see the nasal bone, we should opt for the CVS at that point. Hopefully things will look good. I'm in NYC for a work trip now. I left right after the doctor appt. Going to get my eyebrows done at my favorite place here and a mani/pedi near my hotel after that. And, then dinner...thinking Japanese noodle soup. On Sunday, I'm off to CA for another work trip for a couple days. Hoping these trips will help the time pass more quickly between now and the next appt.

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Dandi, yeah, your pregnancy is going fast, or at least it seems that way to me, and you'll get to see your baby in no time! Hope you're not feeling too sick!

enbcfsobe, so happy to see you posting over here. Ah, there's always something to analyze, isn't there? As I'm sure you remember, I worried constantly about what my lack of morning sickness meant, and in my case, it meant nothing. Hoping you will just be lucky and not be sick at all anymore or just have it come and go.

JGator, yay for seeing the baby again! So glad to hear everything is on track and baby was looking good. Hope your travels go well and times flies between now and your next scan!

Hi to everyone else!

AFM, I now have a full-blown cold, and I've had to work very long days this week, and it appears that will continue through the weekend, which makes me feel even more miserable! Other than that, nothing too exciting. I think I'll listen to the baby's heartbeat again tonight for a little reassurance that the little guy is still going strong. I CAN'T wait until I start to feel movement, but that probably won't be happening for awhile longer. Hope everyone has a great weekend!

13w6d

 

[Dandi]

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enbcfsobe, welcome!!!

6 weeks 5 days

 

[enbcfsobe]

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Thanks all for the warm welcome!

JGator -- so excited that you got to see the baby without being poked and prodded! i imagine that's much more comfortable! hope your trip goes well and that you're feeling good!

Dandi -- I'm right with you on the queasyness/vertigo/general yuckyiness. Hope it doesn't get too bad, but working through this feeling is pretty miserable. Hopefully only for a few weeks though!

MP -- so glad the NT scan went well and you got such a good look at bumby! so sorry about your cold and hope you feel better soon!!

Hi to everyone else -- I'm still trying to catch up on your stories!

AFM, this weekend was really not so good. Explosive diarhea on Friday evening, then in the middle of the night the front of my neck (where an adam's apple would be if i had one) started hurting, and it was worse in the AM. I freaked out that my thyroid must be exploding and called the doctor, who assured me it was just lymph nodes and i was probably fighting an infection. not sure what i was fighting but i was pretty much in bed with what i can only describe as being like the worst hangover i've had in years. i dropped nearly 3 pounds over the weekend, but managed to stay hydrated enough to avoid having to go to the hospital. DH did an awesome job taking care of me and my neck was back to normal by yesterday afternoon. i'm still feeling weak, but better. i'm just pretty worried that i picked up something from food or otherwise that may have damaged the pregnancy, despite following all the recommended things to avoid. i'll have to wait until weds am for my next u/s, and just trying to keep from worrying myself into further nausea. at least i managed to get a decent bit of sleep!!
i really hope things get better from here so i have less whiny things to post about!!!

 

[monkeyprincess]

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enbcfsobe, so sorry to hear you had a rough weekend. I really hope it was a just a random infection and not anything food-related. It can't be fun to have that on top of the nausea. I'm sure your bub is hanging in there just fine, but I'm glad you have an ultrasound in a couple days to put your mind at ease. Hope you start to feel better very soon.

AFM, I was feeling pretty crummy this weekend too. I just had a really, really bad cold. I haven't had one like that in ages, where I blew through about 3 boxes of tissues in the course of 4 days. Fortunately, I'm feeling much better today and not so exhausted! It's times like this that I'm so relieved to have the doppler. I started to worry my cold was somehow affecting the baby, but we found a nice strong heartbeat on Fri. and Sun. DH still insists on controlling the doppler each time because he's worried I won't find it and panic! Also, I'm feeling chubby today. I slipped into some of my tighter pants (for some reason) with a tucked in blouse and a buttoned cardigan, but I feel like it looks like I'm padding my stomach or something, and I'm barely able to button my pants. I know I shouldn't complain because I'm so thrilled to be pregnant, I just feel so awkward in most of my clothes right now. It's probably time to go shopping to get some looser fitting tops!

Hello to everyone else! Hope everyone is hanging in there and your babies are doing well!

 

[lliang_chi]

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JGator & Sunny, I used acupuncture to help relieve sciatica pain. I've heard of others using chiropractors or physical therapists. If you any of those routes make sure you find a pregnancy/women's practitiioner though. Please do seek some help for sciatica pain. I had it and it's no joke.

 

[JGator]

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Thanks, LC. I will definitely look into acupuncture and/or massage. 2 flights to CA has not helped my situation. Basically, whenever I walk my right hip/butt cheek gets the shooting pain.

MP, sorry you weren't feeling well this weekend. If we get a doppler (still trying to convince DH), he will likely be all over it too. But, he travels a lot so I will get my alone time with the doppler.

enbcfsobe, sorry you were sick this weekend too. I hope Wednesday's ultrasound gets here soon. I'm sure all will be well with the baby. They are pretty protected in there with all the amniotic fluid.

AFM, I'm in Orange County, CA until tomorrow afternoon for a work trip. Weather is great and I have a great view of the ocean from my hotel room. Feeling okay - other than the sciatica which 2 flights did not help at all with yesterday. Hoping tomorrow's flights aren't too uncomfortable. 1 week till the NT/CVS. Hope all is well with each of you!

 

[sunnyd]

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Welcome enbcfsobe!

Aww our little group is going down! Everyone else has to stay healthy now!

Our NT scan was today, which went great! Tech said everything looked good, so I'm going back in for another blood test in a couple of weeks to confirm, then we're good! I tried to ask what she thought bebe would be, but she was rocking through so fast! We got a good crotch shot, but I can't tell. Oh well, next time!

Lliang, I know I definitely need to see a chiro, I need to get that set up soon! Like tomorrow. The sciatica has subsided, but now it's been replaced with mind numbing pain every time I switch positions while sitting. Good lord...

Ack, I've forgotten how to attach pics? It keeps saying it's invalid!

 

[sunnyd]

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There we go! Any gender guesses?

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Sunnyd glad your scan went well! Such a cute picture of the little legs! Unfortunately your profile picture doesn't show the angle of the dangle, and I think it is too soon to tell by the crotch shot, so I don't have a gender guess. Only a few more weeks to the anatomy scan though!

 

[Haven]

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What a great scan, Sunny!
I have no gender guesses here, either. But that looks like one healthy baby to me!

Thanks, LC! I'm so excited! But also very anxious. I'm trying to remain calm in these very early weeks, but it is so hard.

I feel very lucky, and maybe even a bit unworthy knowing that so many try so hard and we just got lucky. My best friend has been trying since June and is really struggling with it. I don't even know how I'm going to tell her, because I didn't even have a chance to tell her that we were trying before I got my BFP. I am so, so grateful and excited, of course, but I don't want my joy to be painful for her. She doesn't take well to things like this, so it's going to be a delicate situation. It's hard, but I've already decided to wait to tell her until I'm at least 12 weeks along. I'm 5 weeks tomorrow! I can't believe it.

 

[JGator]

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Sunny, beautiful pictures. Congratulations on great NT scan results. I really cannot see anything, but I'm going to guess boy for you.

Haven, you should not feel unworthy because you were able to get pregnant easily. Everyone has their own path in life. What matters is you will make a great Mom. When is your first appointment? It should be getting close. Yeah for 5 weeks!

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Haven, I totally agree with JGator that you shouldn't feel guilty or unworthy just because your body did what it was meant to do and you conceived quickly. As someone who struggled to conceive, I am always envious of people who conceive quickly and easily, but I never once have thought they are somehow unworthy or less-deserving of the blessing of a much-desired baby. They are just lucky. Like JGator said, we all have different struggles we need to face in life, and hopefully everyone who desires a baby will be blessed with one eventually in some manner - whether it's naturally, with fertility treatments or through adoption. I'm sorry to hear about your friend's struggles, but the fact that you even understand it is a sensitive situation leads me to believe you will handle it as compassionately as possible, and even though I'm sure she'll be a little jealous, I hope she'll be happy for you, as you will be when it is her turn.

JGator, hope your travels went well and the days fly by from now until your NT scan. I feel really positive about this little baby your carrying, and I hope you get wonderful news!

Dani, hope all is well with you. How's your family's doggie doing? Have you told your family about the baby yet?

Hope everyone else is doing well!

 

[sunnyd]

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It must be clearer on the FB pic I posted, because everyone seems to think girl! A friend of mine who was a vet tech before she became a SAHM sent me a pic of her boy at 14 weeks and there was definitely something in her pic that's missing from mine! So for now I'm thinking it's a girl. DH wants a boy, but he'll get over it...or get a boy. It's still up in the air technically!

Haven, don't feel guilty. I'm sure your friend will be happy for you! Having said that, I feel a little guilty that my pregnancy has been so easy, while my SIL and BIL had 4 miscarriages before their gorgeous girl arrived. It is what it is, right? If they were jealous or anything, I'm really glad they didn't tell me. My BIL said a couple of times, 'thanks for letting us go first,' which was kinda weird. We didn't, this is just how our lives worked out. Anywho, keep on being happy and preggo!!

 

[monkeyprincess]

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Sunnyd, from what I understand, all babies still have "nubs" at this point, and the girls slowly start to lose their nub over the course of the next few weeks. So, I don't think the "crotch" view of the baby is definitive at this point because they all still have a little nub action going on. Plus, the picture of your baby's legs is a little too blurry to know for sure whether there's anything there. At around the time of the NT scan, a trained ultrasound tech can make an educated predication based on the angle of the nub when viewing the baby from a profile shot. If it is a boy, the nub is supposed to point upward, and it if it is a girl, the nub should supposedly be parallel to the baby's spine. Our baby's little nub was definitely pointing up when she zoomed in on it, so that's why I'm thinking boy. If you look at this link, you can see some illustrations and ultrasound pics. http://www.baby2see.com/gender/external_genitals.html

That said, your baby may very well be a little girl, and that was my first instinct when I saw the picture. I just wouldn't count on it yet!

 

[zoebartlett]

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I have no right to be in this thread but I just want to congratulate everyone. How exciting!

 

[Haven]

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Thanks for your kind support, Sunny and MonkeyP and JGator. I know it's silly to feel this way, and it's not like it's overwhelming my feelings of pure joy and excitement, but the thought of telling my best friend about this pregnancy is weighing very heavily on my mind. She's not the type to be happy for anyone else if she's going through something difficult. Here's hoping in seven more weeks this bean is still sticking around and I WILL have news to share! I'd love to have this dilemma of telling her, because that means I'll still be pregnant!

Sunny--What a weird comment that was from your BIL!

Hi, Zoe! I admit to getting really excited when I saw you commented on this thread. Thought you might have some news for us.

I have some questions for everyone, if that's okay:

When did everyone stop temping and testing? I've been temping every morning and testing every other day because, well, I'm a bit paranoid I guess. The tests all have really strong, dark lines. (Wondfos, as recommended by you lovely ladies!) Am I being ridiculous? I actually calculated it out and figure I can test every other day through week 10 with all the Wondfos I have left. Overkill? I've read so many heartbreaking stories of loss that it just makes me feel better to keep testing and temping.

Did everyone tell their parents right away? I'm 5 weeks 1 day today, and have still only told my sister A and her husband. There have been moments when I really want to tell my mom, mostly because this is something I want to share with her and I want to ask her questions about her own pregnancies. But here's the thing: She will tell people, and we don't want to tell anyone else until after 12 weeks. I'm not exaggerating when I say she is going to tell all of her close (and probably some not-so-close) colleagues at work, so it's really painful for me to have to keep it a secret from her. I once overheard her telling relative strangers how much money I earned at my first teaching job. It was mortifying. She cannot keep information to herself, even if she is told, repeatedly, that we don't want others to know it. She will tell me she won't tell anyone, but then she just goes and tells people. Sorry, I guess I'm venting.
I'm really nervous because my mom and I are flying to LA together in a few weeks and I'll only be 8 weeks along. I won't go through those full body scanners, and my mom is sharp as a tack, so she will figure it out right away so I fear I'm going to have to tell her. And then the information is going to be out. I hate thinking that people I don't know will know about my pregnancy before my closest friends. But, I don't want to tell people too early because my mom can't keep her mouth shut. Argh. At least it's a good problem to have--I have good news to share, at least.

Sorry for the long vent. This has obviously been weighing on my mind. I know I could tell my dad and he'd keep mum, but my mother is incapable of respecting my privacy in this way. I've learned this lesson repeatedly, yet here I am trying to figure out if I can tell her at 8 weeks or not. Will I never learn?!

Hello to all the other mamas!

 

[JGator]

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Haven, I ran out of Wondfos after only taking 2 tests so I didn't continue testing after the BFP. But, I did temp daily for 30 days (just looked it up) after getting my BFP. I wanted to know early if my temp was dropping and a MC was impending.

We haven't told anyone except my dentist about the pregnancy. We are waiting until after our NT/CVS and results next week. I opted out of the scanners on my trips to CA and NYC recently. I don't know what to tell you if you think your mom will know after seeing you opt out. Maybe come up with another reason you don't want to do the scanner - some health reason. If she presses, tell her, but swear her to secrecy! I think my mom can keep a secret, but she will worry, and I want to reduce the time that she worries about this pregnancy. We live far from both sides of our families - so no one has seen me since I got pregnant. My mom is coming to visit on Mothers Day weekend, but I think we will tell her before then if all goes well next week.