"Just Barely" Pregnant PS''ers

[monkeyprincess]

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Haven, I obsessively tested through 5 weeks, mainly because I had a weird start to my pregnancy because of a lab error that said I wasn't pregnant. If it makes you feel better to have the reassurance of the positive tests, maybe you can start testing every few days, rather than every day. When is your first appointment? Hopefully you don't have to wait too long, and you will feel much more reassured after seeing the heartbeat.

Also, I don't know what to tell you about your mom. I told my family early on, and I know for a fact that my mother did not keep it to herself. She is an over-sharer as well. I was okay with it because I live a couple states away from my family, so I was able to tell my friends and co-workers when I was ready. But I would have been more concerned if we lived in the same area. I'm sure you'll have a better idea of what to do when it gets closer!

 

[sunnyd]

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I only took 1 test and stopped temping immediately. Why stress over something that's either going to happen or not? We told our parents/families the next week, so I was 5-ish weeks along. It worked out with the timing of DH's birthday to announce it then to everyone at the same time, otherwise we probably wouldn't have waited at all!

If anything had gone wrong, we would have wanted their support anyway, so it didn't make sense to keep it to ourselves.

 

[Haven]

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Sunny--Wow, you are good! I think I've taken six or seven tests so far. It actually makes me feel better to take them, and I do like seeing those dark second lines. DH and I keep going back and forth about telling our families early for the same reason you describe--will we want their support? We're not sure. We are very, very private so it's a tough call. (IRL of course. I disclose way too much on PS!)

MonkeyP--Okay, you're making me feel much better about my testing obsession. Thank you. I think you're right about feeling better after we see the heartbeat. My first appt is one week from Friday, so the 27th. I'll be 6 wks 3 days then. DH is coming with me, and I'm so excited!
Yeah, I'm sorry about the mom ranting. And I'm sorry you have a blabbermouth mom, too! It's tough with my situation because my mom works in a private Jewish school, and the Jewish community around here is very small--everyone seems to be connected to someone else by some degree. When I was in college my mom called me one day and said, "Did you and M break up?" We had, but I hadn't told anyone other than my best friend. She found out because one of M's residents (we were both RAs) is the daughter of a colleague of my mom's, and she heard us breaking up and went and called her mom and told her! I had no idea that girl even existed, and I definitely didn't know our moms worked together.
I'm extra hesitant about this because a few years ago my mom told me that a colleague's daughter just had her second miscarriage early on in a pregnancy. I said, "Wow, I can't believe you even knew about it already." She said she wasn't supposed to, but her friend told everyone at work about the pregnancy and the miscarriage. I said, "Mom, I know her daughter, remember?! We went to high school together. I don't think I'm supposed to know this information about her." My mom's response? "Oh, it's fine! Who are you going to tell?" I think there's a strange cultural thing with my mother, because she works with this group of women who divulge their own and everyone else's secrets to each other ALL THE TIME. Okay, sorry. I'm ranting again, aren't I?

JGator--That's exactly why I'm still temping. And I've been temping at night because I've felt feverish. It's in the low 99s, but that is super high for me. Thank you for making me feel better about this new habit of mine!
You know, I'll be traveling with my mom on Mother's Day weekend, maybe that's a good time to tell her, anyway. I just wish she weren't so indiscreet.

Thanks for the input, ladies!

 

[zoebartlett]

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Haven, that's why I hesitated posting in here. No, no news on that front, and there likely won't be. I'm just really, really happy for you (and others, of course!) and wanted to let you know.

 

[Dandi]

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Haven, we still haven't told our families yet (I'm 7 weeks and 1 day) and don't plan to until after the scan in 2 weeks time. I just want to present mum and dad with the scan (all going well of course) in a frame, that's just how I've always dreamed of telling them. Of course if anything bad happens between now and then I will tell them, but like you I hate keeping it from my mum, especially when a couple of my collegues already know! (For safety reasons). We definitely DEFINITELY are not telling my inlaws unitl 12 weeks, because my MIL would proably get on the phone with phone book in hand, and tell every living soul.

Zoe, thanks for the communal well wishes!

And hello sunny, JGator, enbcfsobe and mp, I hope you ladies are all feeling fabulous!!

Well my boobs are the size of Texas, and I've been having very mild nausea which seems to get worse in the evening. First thing in the morning I am so ravenously hungry, then for the rest of the day I pick at stuff and am not terribly interested in food at all. Otherwise feeling pretty sharp and looking forward to our first scan (13 days to go, woohoooo!! Stick in there, little beanie!)
Much love to you all!

7 weeks, 1 day

 

[lliang_chi]

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JGator, hope your sciatica pain gets better. Flights to Cali defiitely wouldn't have helped. but hope the warm weather and sunshine is helping your spirits

Sunny, the numbness can still be the sciatica. I'd get it checked out.

Haven, what airport are you flying out of? if it's MDW then the very right most security lines are the ones that have the full body scanner. So stay in the center lines if you want to avoid the full body scanners. ORD, I can't help you, I haven't flown out of there in ages.

~LC

 

[enbcfsobe]

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Haven -- your stories about your mom made me laugh -- and cry a little as i've experienced much the same thing!! that is exactly why we're not telling (or trying to avoid telling) my mom. she doesn't even know about my second m/c. i just hate the idea of all of her friends and all my extended family and everyone at her shul knowing my personal business before i decide to tell them. she clearly suspects something is up, and is putting my sister through the wringer about it repeatedly. she will be furious if she ever realizes that my sister knew before her. DH's parents are so opposite (different cultural background) -- they don't know and won't care that DH's sibs knew before them. they haven't pried at all. you could always tell her that your doctor advised you against going through the scanners...or something. i wish i had a better suggestion but i totally empathize about wanting to put off telling a blabbermouth mom!! in the meantime try not to drive yourself too nuts with testing and temping. i had betas drawn so it was easier to stop testing, but i was temping for a while and it was driving me nuts. i was glad to have the excuse of travel (which may have made it even less accurate) to stop doing it.

Dandi -- hope the nausea's not too bad. mine comes and goes. i feel you on the bb's thing too, and mine look different (weird!!).

Sunnyd -- no guesses on the gender, but great pics!! congrats!

MP -- hope you're feeling better!!

JGator and anyone else i missed, hope you're feeling great!!

AFM, scan #2 yesterday went well -- measuring 7w6d and heartbeat present. i go to my regular OB on Tuesday. i'm hoping she can be more helpful (esp as a woman) in advising on how to deal with working while having nausea & dizziness intermittently. for a very annoying reason i had to end up telling my boss, which i certainly had no intention of doing, but her response was something like, well you can take sick leave or get a doctor's note saying what your limitations are. i don't think she gets that i'm not so sick as to be bedridden, but i may not be quite as productive as normal because i have to stop every few minutes to pee/eat/drink/put my head between my knees/refocus my eyes/avoid icky smells, etc. Or I may come in late more often because showering makes me feel like i'm going to die (i've been trying to do it at night instead). Plus i'm just not on top of stuff right now because the emotions and discomfort are making me super distracted and forgetful. that doesn't mean i need to stay home!! it just may mean they need to adjust their expectations and possibly my workload if it gets too bad. should that really require a doctor's note? aren't these effects on women well documented? ugh. anyway, enough of a rant. just happy things seem to be going okay, and it could be worse (famous last words...)

 

[monkeyprincess]

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enbcfsobe, I'm so happy you updated us on your ultrasound. I was wondering! Sounds like things are going really well! The chance of a miscarriage after seeing a healthy heartbeat at 8 weeks (which you almost are) is really low, so I hope you are feeling more and more confident that this one is going to stick. Sorry you are having a hard time with the symptoms though. It would be darn near impossible to be as productive if you're feeling that way! I work mainly with men in my group and they have all said that I should let them know if things get to be too much. Nice of them, but whether they actually mean it is another question....

Dandi, sounds like things are going well. Can't wait until you have your first scan. So exciting! Dandi, we told my DH's family in a similar way, and it was really fun for them. As hard as it is not to tell everyone about the pregnancy, looking back, I really enjoyed when the only people who knew (other than my immediate family who live out of state) were DH and I. It was fun having our own little secret from the world.

Haven, I can see why you have mixed feelings about telling your mom. DH and I are pretty private people too, and I would hate having a bunch of local people know before I was ready to share the news. That's great that you don't have too much longer to wait for an ultrasound. Assuming you are reasonably sure of your dates, you should hopefully see the little heartbeat by then. I'm excited for you!

JGator, hopefully within a few short days you will have great news that you feel more confident sharing. I completely understand trying to shield your mom from worry. As much as it was comforting being able to talk to my mom and sisters when we were facing uncertainty with this pregnancy, I hated that I had to burden them with all the worry when there was nothing they could do to change the outcome. Your family is going to be thrilled when they hear you are expecting again.

Hi to everyone else! Hoping you are all doing well. Finally feeling much better today, which is such a relief. I think I'm about due for a heartbeat check tonight on the doppler to connect a bit with Bumby. Also I'm thinking that I can barely call myself "just barely" pregnant anymore at nearly 15 weeks, although I still feel that way. Anyone else getting ready to move over to the other thread? It feels like a big step, and I don't want to do it alone!

 

[sunnyd]

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I think I am, at 14 weeks today! Babycenter.com welcomed me to the 2nd tri, so I guess it's official: I'm knocked up. I mean, I'm already in maternity clothes and taking bump pics... Hahaha! Jeez, I feel like I'm more than 3.5 months in. It's gonna be a loooong 6 months!

Catch you all on the flip side!

 

[Haven]

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Woohooo for your big move to the other thread, Sunny!

MonkeyP--I'm really hoping we'll get to do an ultrasound on Friday. I have no idea if my doctor usually does them so early, but I'm definitely going to ask for one. I'm so excited!
I hope you and SunnyD have a great time over in the other thread! And I *really* hope to join you over there myself, soon!

enbcfsobe--Is it bad that I feel a bit better that I'm not the only one with a blabbermouth mom? Mine is going to be very upset that my sister knew before her, too, but I can't help it!
I'm still temping and testing, but so far it's making me feel better and not worse. So until I have a totally unnecessary freakout, I'll probably keep doing it.
Yay for a scan and a heartbeat! That's so exciting.
I'm sorry to hear about what's going on with you at work. Your boss's reaction seems so . . . impersonal and cold. I'm sorry. I'm really, really nervous about this myself. I had my first day of terrible nausea today. I woke up at 7 and could not go back to sleep because I felt like I was going to be sick. I ate a bit and that helped, but I wasn't expecting to feel like this so early. I'm 5 wks 4 days today. I teach, so I'm really hoping that I'll be so into teaching that I won't notice the nausea. After today I'm not so sure that is going to work, but I've had that happen with serious back pain--in the classroom everything went away and I didn't feel it again until the end of the teaching day. One can hope! And, all my classes meet near restrooms, so that's a bonus.

Dandi--Awww, that's such a sweet way to tell your parents. They're going to be so thrilled! Okay, sounds like there are a lot of grandmas who can't keep news to themselves out there, huh?

Thanks, Zoe! I'm not going to lie, I had a moment of "OHMIGOSH, maybe I'll be pregnant with Zoe!!!! That will be so much fun!

How are you doing, JGator?

I hope everyone is doing well. I've had really bad nausea all day, which surprised me and kind of knocked me out, to be honest. I have this obsession with drinking milk, and I think I went through an entire gallon today. For some reason, ice cold milk is the only thing that makes me feel better when I'm nauseous, but I don't think drinking so much will be very good for weeks and weeks.

I've been feeling dull crampiness for a couple days, which freaked me out at first, but i'm guessing it's just what I'm going to feel for a while. And I'm bloated, which is so uncomfortable. I'll take these symptoms as good signs that things are progressing well, though, so I'm not going to complain. I did snap at DH today, which I do so rarely it kind of scared him. Poor guy. We were grocery shopping and I was just feeling so awful that I got nasty. I'm going to have to control that better.

 

[Dandi]

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Yay for you sunny, but we'll miss you! Do pop in from time to time, woncha??

Aww Haven, sorry you're feeling yuck. I've found that orange juice has settles my stomach of late. I don't even like fruit juice! Ah well, I guess I do now! I've been so thirsty and drinking copious amounts of water too. I'm with you on the cramping, it's a bit disconcerting at first! Though it's so good to know everything in there is stretching and making room for baby.

mp, 15 weeks?? Gosh where did the time go?! Don't foeget about us here when you move to the big girl thread, will you? Please keep in touch!!! I'm so glad eveything is going so well for you hon.

enbcfsobe, errrg, I'm sorry to hear the transition at work hasn't been so smooth. But I'm SO rapt for you that scan #2 went well! How exciting to see that tiny heartbeat, I cannot wait until it's my turn!!! I hope the nausea and vertigo are shortlived for you my dear!

Hi JGator, how are doing hon? I hope you're feeling fabulous!!

AFM, just counting down the days until our first scan (10 to go!). I was actually quite concerned on Friday morning as I woke up feeling very much myself again, ie. boobs weren't at all sore, no nausea, appetite was good... what the?! All symptoms just disappeared, and that freaked me out. Yesterday however I woke up really hungry and got up for a shower, and promptly dry retched in the shower because my tummy was so empty, and I struggled to find a bra that didn't feel like it's make of sandpaper, OUCH. And so, all is well

7 weeks 4 days

 

[Haven]

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Andi--Who knew sandpaper boobs and dry retching would ever be welcome things? I'm so excited for you to get your first scan!

The nausea has been a bit better for me today, but I really am wiped out tired. I bought a thing of OJ on your recommendation, so thank you for that! I'm going to bring it to work to sip between classes. I'm finding that walking around and light workouts help with the nausea, so that's good motivation to keep moving.

I'll be 6 weeks on Tuesday and I'm really looking forward to reaching this little milestone!

How is everyone else doing?

 

[JGator]

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Hi, everyone!

Dandi, hope you had a better day today. 9 days till your scan! The time will fly by.

Haven, I have been making lemonade with pre-squeezed lemon juice, Truvia, and Water. And, that has been pretty much all I have been drinking for several weeks. Hope your nausea subsides. You should be able to get an ultrasound at your appt and you should be able see the heart beat too!

enbcfsobe, glad you were able to see the heartbeat! Yay for 8 weeks!

Hi, Laila, my due date buddy. Did you have your NT scan today? How did it go?

Hi to our recent graduates, MP and Sunny! Hope all is well in the big girl club!

AFM, we had our CVS today. We ended up talking to a genetic counselor for over an hour and deciding to just do the CVS rather than NT today due to my age primarily and to have a better idea if anything is wrong since they will look at all the chromosomes closely. They did an ultrasound first and measured the nuchal fold (1.6) and saw a nasal bone. The heart beat was 160. So, the doctor was very reassuring about those results. The doctor stuck a needle in my stomach to get to the placenta, and it took about 10 seconds to extract the material. It was a little painful, but over quickly. I feel fine now. I am supposed to take it easy for 2 days. We will get the preliminary results in 2 days including gender. And, we'll get the full results in about 10 days. So, it was a good experience overall, and I'm glad/relieved that the baby was still in there and moving around with a beating heart. I will post the pictures from the scan later.

12 weeks,1 day

 

[monkeyprincess]

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JGator, so glad your ultrasound went well, and it sounds like they did all the measurements they would have done for an NT scan anyway. I think mine was about a 1.6 as well at 12 weeks 3 days. Hoping you get great results back from the CVS as well! But it's a great sign the baby was looking good on the scan.

Haven, yay for almost 6 weeks and for feeling nauseous and exhausted All good signs! I really hope they let you have an ultrasound next week or at least schedule one soon. At the clinic I go to, they do ultrasounds at every appointment until a heartbeat can be detected via doppler, which is usually around 10-12 weeks.

Dandi, you're getting closer and closer to the big day. Glad to hear things are still going well! I'm just now getting some of the bb tenderness and swelling , so I completely understand what you are talking about.

Hope everyone else is doing well! I'm planning to keep tabs on all of you until you join us over in the other thread!

 

[Laila619]

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Hi JBPers!

Hope everyone is doing well.

JGator, sounds like your NT scan went great! You must be really relieved. That's exciting you will know the gender very soon! Mine went well too. Nasal bone was present, and the measurement was 1.5. They told me the blood work will take a week or so though. We're planning on telling all our family on Mother's Day.

 

[JGator]

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Congrats Laila on your great NT scan results. I am not sure when we are telling our families. Likely next week. I will see my mom in person over Mothers Day weekend (she lives out of state), but I don't think I can hold out that long even though it's not that far away now.

MP, thanks for your support. We are very reassured with the NT results we received yesterday. So, now just one more day to get the preliminary FISH results which checks 5 of the chromosomes, and then we wait another week for the full results. We are getting closer and closer to being able to relax a little about this pregnancy.

Hope everyone else is doing well out there - Dandi, Haven, enbcfsobe, and Bright (when you're ready to join us)!

AFM, feeling fine today. I had some slight cramping last night which I was told to expect, but it went away with 2 Tylenol. And, I am including a photo from the scan. It's a bit blurry, but clearly a baby! The doctor said he/she is smiling in this one.

 

[Laila619]

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He/she is sooo cute, JGator!!

I love when they start to look more like a baby instead of a little gummy bear, haha.

 

[Dandi]

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Awww JGator!!! That is one super cute bubby you have there!!!!!! Clever lady!

 

[BrightSpot]

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Jgator, I'm so happy to hear your nt went well & that pic.... ! I'm glad the cvs wasn't too bad & will be eagerly awaiting your results.

Thanks for the shout out, btw. I'm still feeling very tentative about this pregnancy so might hang out in ttc for a while longer, at least until after my first u/s (if it goes well, that is.)

I'm cheering all of you guys on like crazy & hoping to join you soon!

 

[Haven]

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Jgator, I'm so happy to hear your nt went well & that pic.... ! I'm glad the cvs wasn't too bad & will be eagerly awaiting your results.

Thanks for the shout out, btw. I'm still feeling very tentative about this pregnancy so might hang out in ttc for a while longer, at least until after my first u/s (if it goes well, that is.)

I'm cheering all of you guys on like crazy & hoping to join you soon!

Can't wait for you to join this thread, Bright!

JGator--Oh, what a great scan! And I'm so happy about the good NT results! I bought a thing of lemonade after reading your post, btw. I'm loving it.

Laila--I think telling your family on Mother's Day will be really sweet. Have fun!

MonkeyP--Thanks! I'm so excited to hear the heartbeat in a month, I can't even imagine how that is going to feel. I'm definitely going to push for a US this Friday. My doctor is pretty awesome, so I can't imagine him being reluctant to do one. He's been pestering us to have a baby for about five years, so I'm excited to see him. It sounds silly, but I know he'll be excited. We've been through a lot together, he's a great doctor.

I'm still nauseous and exhausted over here, so good things, right? I'm so excited for my appt on Friday, but nervous too. DH is coming along, and I really, really, really hope my doc will do an ultrasound.

I'm going to dinner with my oldest friend in the world tonight and I'm going to tell her. I'm really excited. So far, we've only told my sister A and her husband, so we're still keeping it pretty secret. But this friend is like a sister, and it's been so hard not to tell her sooner but I wanted to do it in person.

 

[monkeyprincess]

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JGator, ahh, love the smiling pic. So sweet. I'm glad to hear you're slowly starting to relax about the pregnancy. After you get your preliminary and final results back from the CVS, you'll feel even better. Reaching the second trimester has been a great milestone for me, and although I still worry, I think it is much more of a reasonable level of worry for a first-time expectant mother. Can't wait to hear whether your baby is a boy or girl - you are going to tell us, right?! That's awesome you'll have 100% confirmation!

Laila, congrats on a good scan to you too! Hope you ladies will join us over in the other thread soon!

 

[JGator]

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We got the preliminary CVS results. And, all is well with Chromosomes 13, 18, 21 and the X and Y chromosomes. So, we are very relieved. They said with the final result next week that 99% of the time, nothing further will come back on those chromosomes. And, I believe problems with these chromosomes are more severe and potentially life threatening. And, it's a GIRL! So excited to have a Girl. I had guessed Boy and my husband thought Girl. So, he was right! I'm looking forward to shopping for girl clothes.

 

[amc80]

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We got the preliminary NT results. And, all is well with Chromosomes 13, 18, 21 and the X and Y chromosomes. So, we are very relieved. They said with the final result next week that 99% of the time, nothing further will come back on those chromosomes. And, I believe problems with these chromosomes are more severe and potentially life threatening. And, it's a GIRL! So excited to have a Girl. I had guessed Boy and my husband thought Girl. So, he was right! I'm looking forward to shopping for girl clothes.

Congrats!!

 

[monkeyprincess]

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JGator, I'm so thrilled to hear your wonderful news! Congrats on your girl news too!

 

[BrightSpot]

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Jgator, so thrilled your cvs results came back a-ok & that your little girl is doing well.

Hi to everyone else.

 

[Missy0483]

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JGator - Congrats on the results coming back perfectly! Also, congrats on a GIRL! How exciting for you!!!!

 

[Dandi]

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JGator, yippee for a girl! And I'm so rapt the tests all came back with good results, YAY!!!

 

[tammy77]

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Hi Girls!

I wish I officially had business being here, but don't quite yet. I'm not going to throw myself a pity party here though (that's what the TTC 6+ thread is for ). I am going to ask just ONE time for a little favor. I feel silly, and pathetic, but I can't seem to stop myself from asking this anyhow....

For those of you that started POAS early, did you get your BFP by 12 DPO or have any of you ended up having BFN until later? For reference, where you charting (so knew exactly what DPO you were) and did you use wondfos or FRER, digital, etc.?

Thanks in advance for humoring me. Like I said I promise I won't ask again next month. If I get neurotic again I'll just refer back to this post.

 

[megumic]

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Hi Girls!

I wish I officially had business being here, but don't quite yet. I'm not going to throw myself a pity party here though (that's what the TTC 6+ thread is for ). I am going to ask just ONE time for a little favor. I feel silly, and pathetic, but I can't seem to stop myself from asking this anyhow....

For those of you that started POAS early, did you get your BFP by 12 DPO or have any of you ended up having BFN until later? For reference, where you charting (so knew exactly what DPO you were) and did you use wondfos or FRER, digital, etc.?

Thanks in advance for humoring me. Like I said I promise I won't ask again next month. If I get neurotic again I'll just refer back to this post.

I had a post about this some months back and don't have time to look now, but my first BFP I have no idea when/what. My second, I was 9 DPO, but I have an inkling I O'ed earlier than my chart indicated...so probably more like 11-12. I used wondofo and then confirmed with a FRER and digi that same day.

 

[JGator]

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Tammy, on my first BFP, I had a negative at 12 DPO and a positive at 14 DPO. On my second, I didn't get a BFP till 15 DPO (that one ended up being a chemical). This time, I got my BFP at 12 DPO. Good luck to you my dear!

ETA, I was charting using FF, and I used the Wondfo OPKs.

Also, thanks to everyone for the Congrats on the CVS preliminary results. It's great to get to share with someone other than my DH.