Pressure via Pricescope

[micromini1428]

My GF loves this site. She looks at it all the time, and I know she is reading everything she can about rings/weddings. How many of you ladies in waiting are addicted to this site too? Just wondering if it is a phase, or if it will last till the wedding... (Probably not for a while)

 

[micromini1428]

She found out I posted this and she is

, now she won't sit down and eat with me...

 

[Lauren8211]

Eh, I found this post really insensitive, and quite humiliating for your girlfriend.

I wouldn''t eat with you either.

If this girl wants to marry you, I''d respect her feelings, and not exploit them on the internet.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Micro-

I will put this nicely.

Your screwed.

It lasts.....well.....forever.

WELCOME TO PS!!!!

 

[micromini1428]

I need some sensitivity training... What was insensitive? I am just ignorant on the subject

 

[Lauren8211]

Date: 1/7/2009 11:37:09 PM
Author: micromini1428
I need some sensitivity training... What was insensitive? I am just ignorant on the subject

I just pictured my boyfriend posting exactly what you wrote, and I''d be humiliated.

I kind of see PS as my little neck of the internet, and for my boyfriend to come on to a site that I love, that he clearly has no interest in, to make fun of my interest in it... well.. it would upset me.

Plus the reminder about the wedding being far away, but that *may* not be insensitive if you are both on the same page about that.

Hopefully your girlfriend has a better sense of humor than I do.

 

[micromini1428]

Honestly,

I want to take interest in her interests - thus the post... Did not know people take this stuff so seriously

. Should have got the hint after the vicious punch to my pudendum.

 

[~*Alexis*~]

Nah...we have just had BF''s post in the past....

I didn''t turn out so well for him....

But if you are SERIOUS about it....

buy her a ring!!!!!

 

[SailorsSweet<3]

the best way to start taking interest in what your girlfriend is interested in would be to FIRST OFF not criticize her interest. Come on, common sense there.. not even sensitivity training.

 

[MissDimity]

My addiction to pricescope "LIW" forum decreased slightly when my bf proposed.
So if you want to help your gf overcome her addiction to pricescope you should:
1. Propose
2. Buy her lots of diamonds/ rings, so that she has her own diamonds/rings to look at, rather than looking at others online.

 

[BlueSki231]

I thought it was kinda sweet that you were taking an interest in this site - enough to actually post!

I know my BF knows I worship this site also but I don''t think he knows that I actually POST. I can see how it would be a bit humiliating if I were in your GF''s position but I don''t think I''d be so upset that I''d refuse to eat with you

I think it''s always nice to have a male''s perspective. As long as you can behave yourself - please, stick around

We''re definitely a very helpful bunch when it comes time to buy a diamond

(HINT HINT)

 

[Circe]

You know, I actually think the idea of guys and gals posting in tandem is kind of cute ... my husband thinks this site is lunacy and fondly asks me how the CrazyBoard is doing, but I''d still be delighted if he signed on to share my interests/get tips on future purchases. That said, if he tried to mock my interest in the CrazyBoard on the CrazyBoard, we''d have issues.

Those issues might, conceivably, stem from things like his plaintively asking if it was just a "phase" and if he placated me enough, if it would end ... dude, your heart''s in the right place, and it''s potentially nifty-keen that you share your significant other''s interests, but do your damnedest not to sound condescending. That way lies madness. And serious bruising.

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 1/7/2009 11:24:18 PM
Author: micromini1428
She found out I posted this and she is

, now she won't sit down and eat with me...

Considering this post was made 25 seconds after your initial one, you're either pretty silly to have posted it with her looking over your shoulder while being fuming mad (pretty unlikely), or you're a troll looking to get a reaction (much more likely). That's my take on it.

 

[musey]

LOL, Gwen. I didn''t notice the time stamp but I''m thinking you''re right

 

[micromini1428]

Thank you ladies for the swift responses. Did not mean to come off as condescending, I respect your 'CrazyBoard.' Not quite sure I get it yet, but my effort should count for something

. Maybe I stick around and play devil's advocate

- Give you a chauvinist pov

.

 

[swingirl]

I think this could be a good thing! This is a perfect place to educate yourself about diamonds, to learn about internet vendors, and to understand the passion that goes into wedding planning. This is a public forum and is here for everyone.

The answer to your question --- some of us stay hear long after the proposal, the wedding, the first baby, and the first grandchild...

 

[happygolucky851]

Micro,

My boyfriend just laughs at me when I get on here. If you look around there is REALLY valuable information for a male as well. cought my boyfriend looking at proposal stories after i showed him everything i know about this website!

its nice cause there is always something new to look at! you should keep at it and if she''s really upset with you... sit down at the computer and let her show you all about it! it will make her happy, and you will learn A LOT! promise

 

[kittybean]

Honey, not only will the addiction last until the wedding, it''ll last much longer, if she''s anything like the rest of us. Get used to the CrazyBoard

!

Anyway, what struck me as a little "insensitive" was joking about the wedding being pretty far off. When I was a LIW (recently!), I was extremely sensitive to comments like that, even if they were said in jest, because I was pretty anxious about getting engaged. It would have hurt me to have my now-FI joking about my neurotic tendencies at the one place in the whole world I felt I could express them.

 

[Honey228]

Hm, his posts didn''t seem insensitive to me. Rather cute actually. But maybe that''s because my bf and I are on the same page about when the proposal and wedding will happen, so I personally don''t have a sensitivity to that. But I understand that others do. Basically, you should know your own girlfriend''s feelings and sense of humor to know whether or not that was appropriate.

Now would I want my own bf on this board? Hehe, probably not. He knows that I love to spend hours looking at and talking about wedding stuff and sparkly stuff. But I''d probably have to start censoring myself because I wouldn''t want him to get the wrong idea and feel undue pressure. But he has at least a vague understanding and acceptance of the "Crazy Board". When his coworkers were surprised that I was picking out the ring, he said, "Well she knows what she wants and how to get it. She has ''internet resources''." You guys are my internet resources!

Will she continue her "addiction"? If she''s anything like me, she will. I''ve always loved jewelry and always will. Bf was under the impression at the beginning of our "serious" relationship that THE ring would be the only diamond that he would have to buy me. I thought, "La, darling... there''s the earrings, the pendant, and the tennis bracelet! Not to mention other non-diamond baubles." I didn''t say anything because that''s not for until much later, and I think he''s come to that understanding.

But regardless of a life-long love affair with all things sparkly, this place is just a plain great place for chat about all sorts of things in life and a nice community of support.

 

[Bia]

Date: 1/8/2009 2:14:49 AM
Author: gwendolyn

Date: 1/7/2009 11:24:18 PM
Author: micromini1428
She found out I posted this and she is

, now she won''t sit down and eat with me...

Considering this post was made 25 seconds after your initial one, you''re either pretty silly to have posted it with her looking over your shoulder while being fuming mad (pretty unlikely), or you''re a troll looking to get a reaction (much more likely). That''s my take on it.

HA!

good eye gwennie, GOOD EYE!

 

[gwendolyn]

Date: 1/8/2009 9:32:12 AM
Author: Bia

Date: 1/8/2009 2:14:49 AM

Author: gwendolyn

Date: 1/7/2009 11:24:18 PM

Author: micromini1428

She found out I posted this and she is

, now she won't sit down and eat with me...

Considering this post was made 25 seconds after your initial one, you're either pretty silly to have posted it with her looking over your shoulder while being fuming mad (pretty unlikely), or you're a troll looking to get a reaction (much more likely). That's my take on it.

HA!


good eye gwennie, GOOD EYE!

Thanks, and to you too musey.

No one seems that offended so I haven't reported it to the mods but I am quite suspicious.

 

[Pushin40]

Maybe - Mrcirmini - you should tell us who yoour GF is!!!! Or she can chime in!

FWIT - I didn''t see anything sensitive about your post at all.

 

[KatM]

idk, i didnt think his post was all that bad. it''s not like he identified his girlfriend under her username. THAT would be bad.

and welcome! i really enjoy having some guys around here. sometimes things get a little peppier when we have differing viewpoints.

 

[musey]

Date: 1/8/2009 2:20:43 AM
Author: micromini1428
Thank you ladies for the swift responses. Did not mean to come off as condescending, I respect your 'CrazyBoard.' Not quite sure I get it yet, but my effort should count for something

. Maybe I stick around and play devil's advocate

- Give you a chauvinist pov

.

Has been done before, many many times, and never has gone over well. One LIW ended up fighting and eventually breaking up with her boyfriend over the "playful" offensive stuff he'd posted here (bigger underlying issues that were revealed through his writings on this board).

I don't understand why a guy would want to show up and deliberately attempt to offend people (re: giving a chauvinist point of view... just because you are a guy and possibly chauvinist doesn't mean all, or even most, guys are). CrazyBoard, really? Women attempting to find comfort in one another in what can be a psychologically confusing and stressful time? Wow, that's CA-RAZY!!

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 1/7/2009 11:37:09 PM
Author: micromini1428
I need some sensitivity training... What was insensitive? I am just ignorant on the subject

I think the "probably not for a while" smiley face comment was a little insensitive. If she''s on here that must mean she''s looking forward to an engagement and that comment came across as "silly girl, I won''t be marrying you any time soon"

 

[sammyj]

I didn''t find the posts insensitive either....and double good eye to gwen who noticed the time between posts!!! To be perfectly honest, micromini sounds like DF! hahahaha

His aptitude with the emoties is pretty impressive/suspicious too!

As for my obsession with PS...I expect/hope it will last awhile. Maybe into the baby period of my life. I would also think it was super cute if my BF lurked outside of RockyTalky and posted in other forums...like Proposal Ideas maybe??

 

[princesss]

Date: 1/8/2009 1:30:21 PM
Author: sammyj
I didn''t find the posts insensitive either....and double good eye to gwen who noticed the time between posts!!! To be perfectly honest, micromini sounds like DF! hahahaha

His aptitude with the emoties is pretty impressive/suspicious too!

As for my obsession with PS...I expect/hope it will last awhile. Maybe into the baby period of my life. I would also think it was super cute if my BF lurked outside of RockyTalky and posted in other forums...like Proposal Ideas maybe??

Oh man, I would HATE it if my BF were on here (other than RT). This is my space, and I really need it. Obviously there are exceptions and wonderful couples that work (strm and wifey2b come to mind), but I guess I''m kind of selfish when it comes to having a space all my own.

As for the OP, I''m with Gwen unless I see something that proves her wrong. (Though, musey, I think the OP was quoting Circe, calling it the "CrazyBoard".)

 

[Circe]

Date: 1/8/2009 1:23:24 PM
Author: musey

Date: 1/8/2009 2:20:43 AM

Author: micromini1428

Thank you ladies for the swift responses. Did not mean to come off as condescending, I respect your 'CrazyBoard.' Not quite sure I get it yet, but my effort should count for something

. Maybe I stick around and play devil's advocate

- Give you a chauvinist pov

.

Has been done before, many many times, and never has gone over well. One LIW ended up fighting and eventually breaking up with her boyfriend over the 'playful' offensive stuff he'd posted here (bigger underlying issues that were revealed through his writings on this board).


I don't understand why a guy would want to show up and deliberately attempt to offend people (re: giving a chauvinist point of view... just because you are a guy and possibly chauvinist doesn't mean all, or even most, guys are). CrazyBoard, really? Women attempting to find comfort in one another in what can be a psychologically confusing and stressful time? Wow, that's CA-RAZY!!

Just not to tar the guy undeservedly - that's my husband's name for PriceScope. And it was born from the lunatic gleam in my eye as I described shiny and shiny after shiny ... definitely not a reflection of female bonding, emotionalism, or comfort, but just my slightly obsessive bling fixation. As for the chauvinism, trollishness, etc. couldn't agree with you more - it's not representative, and it's not entertaining.

ETA: Heh, good catch, Princess!

 

[vespergirl]

Well, I''ve been married for almost 3 years, so I guess it never ends ... after the wedding, she''ll be looking at future anniversary gifts - my husband rues the day I found Pricescope

 

[Winks_Elf]

My BF and I are at opposite spectrums when it comes to diamonds and our jobs. I'm in the industry, and he's a total computer geek (he does computer forensics). He refuses to wear any diamonds, is completely not into jewelry, and wouldn't know the difference between a HOF D/IF and a CZ! Me trying to explain things about diamonds or gushing about one is probably just as exciting to him as me trying to comprehend computer languages or the latest technology.

However, he DOES read when I send him a link to something I want him to read, and will even look at stones on occasion when we're together. He does make an effort, even though it's probably as painful to him as it would be to me if I sat down with a training manual for computer repairs. God bless him, he's a keeper!