PS Mommies Thread!

[Tacori E-ring]

Diva, yay for James! We got our wireless router from walmart.

Burk, that is awesome you have a good tenant. If a few months would give you a better due date you should stick to your plan. Exciting for you to think about I''m sure!!! I am hoping the L&L house goes on sale soon. I have to buy one for a present.

 

[puffy]

tacori YAY for the new camera!!!! you are going to love it. it''s pretty sad, but i still use the point and shoot more just for pure convenience. but when we go on outings or out with other kids, we bring the SLR and it''s prefect. i think DH got the D90 just because he asked me if i got rid of the D80 yet and i said nope, and he just ok then. oh and i just got the SB-900 flash and i love it. i can tell the difference between that one and the old one, which was the SB-600.

burk you and your DH TTC? that would be so great!! i envy you, i really do! DH said not yet just because he is working so much and feels like he misses out n everything that B does so he wants to be able to take some time off work just for B.

qt i am sure that you''ll be fine this weekend! but hey, make him feel guilty!! heehee. maybe you can get your high chair out of it, unless you got it already? play dates are so fun!! a few weeks back, my friend had a baby, and we went to visit. B was SO fascinated by the baby. and i was thinking, it wasn''t long ago that B was a baby. B''s playroom is so big but what a mess already!! i swear he takes something out and decides he doesn''t want it anymore and i just follow him around picking things up after him.

lili how''s J? walking yet?!?!?

snlee i forgot to say that B has sophie the giraffe and he loved back when he used it. i really didn''t think it was worth the money at first, but then he loved it so i guess it was ok in the end.

 

[Burk]

Diva~yay for rolling over!! We also got our router at Walmart.

Tacori~It is exciting to think about another baby, but also crazy to think about being preggo again and having two kids. I just think it would be better to have the baby after volleyball so I can give all my time and energy to my kids, not have to share with my volleyball players (whom I also consider my kids during season

). We went to TRU Monday in hopes that their after Thanksgiving sale included the LL house but it didn't. If I see one on sale, I'll let you know and then I'll return the one I bought and buy it for the cheaper price!

 

[Burk]

puffy~We must have posted at the same time-I'm so ready for another one and I even think DH is getting kind of excited. He loves T to pieces. But we won't officially "try" until March-I'm glad we're waiting a little longer, though, because of timing with my due date and possibly getting into a new/bigger house.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

BTW, today DH told me he was so glad we didn''t wait to start a family (I had to talk him into it for those who don''t remember). That made me feel good. He was talking to his electrician who prefers cash so he can hide it from his wife (oookay...) and he told me later he will always take care of me no matter what b/c I am the mother to his daughter who is so precious to him and he doesn''t understand how people can be so spiteful. Somehow this DID sound romantic at the time. Haha. Of course he is the guy who gave me $100 when he blocked me in. Weirdo.

 

[Burk]

Aww, Tacori, that is sweet. You have to take what you can get with the male species

and I think your DH was a total sweetheart!!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 12/5/2008 1:53:43 PM
Author: Burk
Aww, Tacori, that is sweet. You have to take what you can get with the male species

and I think your DH was a total sweetheart!!

Yeah..he is not the most romantic but he also thanked me for 8 wonderful years

Still can''t believe it''s been 8 years. Wow I was young when we started dating. Haha.

 

[puffy]

awww, tacori how sweet!! i''ve been with DH for about 10 years now, and he thanks me for each year, once a year... on my birthday.haha!! he makes me wonder sometimes.

burk that''s good about TTC! hopefully, i cam work on DH and i''ll be there right with you, or not. but i have all sorts of vacations i would like to go to so maybe we''ll wait a bit longer. who knows. but i am definitely excited for you!

 

[janinegirly]

Just a quick drive by--

I''m working diligently on Chloe''s flat head--so fingers crossed it''ll resolve itself. It''s has got me a bit stressed plus reading worst case scenarios on the internet isn''t helping! But I''m doing my best--thanks for all the suggestions to all.

Curly: I have to check out H&M baby clothes--there''s one near my work, but I don''t remember seeing baby clothes. When do you go back to work? My return date is Jan 12th...ugh, but thankful work let me take off as long as I did.

Gemma: I wanted to chime in and say I''m in the same boat. DH and I always said only one for various reasons with age being a big one. I''m 36 and he''s even older! If we were younger, we''d certainly have one more. The age thing bothers DH more than me since he''s older and he feels he wouldn''t be able to give as much, especially if it turns out to be a boy (playing sports,etc). I mean DH isn''t that old but I guess it''s how he feels. I feel a bit torn, since I feel sad Chloe might have no siblings. But on the other hand, what a lot of work it''d be with 2 little ones close in age--I admire some of you ladies with twins! We''ve decided to wait 1-2 years to ultimately decide. Seeing Chloe (rather than just being preggers) has made the decision harder.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Help me mommies! My MIL thinks I am a weirdo for giving T *organic* whole milk. Anyone have a good argument I can use to convince her it is for the best?

 

[iluvcarats]

Tacori, I give my kids organic milk ONLY and my FIL (who I love to pieces) can''t understand it. But I just don''t mind paying the extra $ so that my kids don''t ingest hormones when they drink milk. I am sure they are in other foods too, and I try to buy organic meat also, but kids drink SO MUCH milk. It makes me feel safer to buy organic. There have been studies linking the hormones in milk to how early girls have been going through puberty. I will try to find the study.
Of course with your MIL, MYOB quickly springs to mind!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 12/5/2008 6:54:50 PM
Author: iluvcarats
Tacori, I give my kids organic milk ONLY and my FIL (who I love to pieces) can''t understand it. But I just don''t mind paying the extra $ so that my kids don''t ingest hormones when they drink milk. I am sure they are in other foods too, and I try to buy organic meat also, but kids drink SO MUCH milk. It makes me feel safer to buy organic. There have been studies linking the hormones in milk to how early girls have been going through puberty. I will try to find the study.

Of course with your MIL, MYOB quickly springs to mind!

I told her it was b/c 8 year old girls now get their periods. She just said "ahh ooookaaaay."

Why do I have to have a reason anyways? Because I am the MOTHER and she is my CHILD. It is not that much more money. I really don''t go crazy on organic stuff but milk seems to be an easy thing to do. After the BPA issues I am sure they ALL think I am crazy. Plus she keeps harping about the juice issue. "I want to see her drink juice!" Why?!? Seriously WHY is it such a big deal? If she has juice breath I KNOW who gave her it! I did try giving her juice in the sippy which didn''t really work. My kid of weird. So I switched back to water.

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 12/5/2008 7:13:36 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 12/5/2008 6:54:50 PM

Author: iluvcarats

Tacori, I give my kids organic milk ONLY and my FIL (who I love to pieces) can''t understand it. But I just don''t mind paying the extra $ so that my kids don''t ingest hormones when they drink milk. I am sure they are in other foods too, and I try to buy organic meat also, but kids drink SO MUCH milk. It makes me feel safer to buy organic. There have been studies linking the hormones in milk to how early girls have been going through puberty. I will try to find the study.


Of course with your MIL, MYOB quickly springs to mind!

I told her it was b/c 8 year old girls now get their periods. She just said ''ahh ooookaaaay.''

Why do I have to have a reason anyways? Because I am the MOTHER and she is my CHILD. It is not that much more money. I really don''t go crazy on organic stuff but milk seems to be an easy thing to do. After the BPA issues I am sure they ALL think I am crazy. Plus she keeps harping about the juice issue. ''I want to see her drink juice!'' Why?!? Seriously WHY is it such a big deal? If she has juice breath I KNOW who gave her it! I did try giving her juice in the sippy which didn''t really work. My kid of weird. So I switched back to water.

Do you see your ILs often? If not, it might be easier to grin and bear it. Then just keep doing what you want when she is not around. As the mother of a pre- hormonal 9 year old, take it from me, you want to keep those hormones at bay as long as possible!
I know where you are coming from. My MIL isn''t bad, but my SIL

She can''t believe my kids have actually eaten McDonalds once in while! And OMG once I bought them sunny D! When we were visiting, I had to keep the chocolate milk covered in a bag in the refrigerator so her son didn''t see it!
Whatever...
It''s hard not to let the ILs get under your skin though, isn''t it?

 

[puffy]

yeah, i give B organic whole milk too. i just say it''s for the DHA that''s in it. but MIL thinks i''m an over bearing full of excuses mom anyways so i really don''t care wht she thinks

 

[Tacori E-ring]

iluv, they are moving here so yeah...can''t just ignore it much longer. I asked my mom if it was crazy and she said no. I just HATE feeling like I am paranoid and overbearing. I am just trying to do the best thing for her. Like you said she eats things with regular milk and eats regular cheese, etc...so it isn''t like I am a crazy person. I need to give MIL a shopping list before we come for x-mas and what will you bet that she will buy REGULAR whole milk ("oh, I didn''t realize. Opps.") and juice. This is the SAME woman who put blankets on my sleeping newborn even after I asked her not to (SIDS anyone?!?) and continues to rock her to sleep AGAINST my wishes

Free babysitting. Just repeat free babysitting.

Puffy, I wish I didn''t care but I do somewhat. They just gang up on me and make me feel like an idiot. After I said I read about randon in granite...whoah...I STILL haven''t heard the end of that one.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 12/5/2008 6:34:14 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Help me mommies! My MIL thinks I am a weirdo for giving T *organic* whole milk. Anyone have a good argument I can use to convince her it is for the best?

Just tell her that it's a lot fresher and it lasts for so much longer that you can buy a bigger container and thus save money.

Or tell her to piss off.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

Hey, Tacori, and everyone! I was just stopping by to check on your babies!

T, I totally get why you don''t use regular milk! I am surprised your in-laws don''t know about all the hormones in regular milk. My youngest really did not like milk (for good reason because I think she is lactose intolerant), and I did not push her to drink it. She''s 13, now so I doubt there was organic milk in the stores here when she was younger. But you know what? Because she did not drink all that regular milk, she has not started puberty. So I am sooo sure it has a lot to do with the milk. (She does drink hot chocolate and eats icecream, so she is getting some dairy). T, I didn''t read why Tessa isn''t drinking juice. Is there something wrong with juice or does she just not like it? I always watered down any juice to make it less strong. If you wanted her to drink some juice, I''d make it mostly water and gradually add a little juice until it gets to be about half and half. I gave my kids half juice half water for years because I thought it was healthier.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 12/5/2008 8:27:33 PM
Author: neatfreak

Date: 12/5/2008 6:34:14 PM

Author: Tacori E-ring

Help me mommies! My MIL thinks I am a weirdo for giving T *organic* whole milk. Anyone have a good argument I can use to convince her it is for the best?

Just tell her that it''s a lot fresher and it lasts for so much longer that you can buy a bigger container and thus save money.


Or tell her to piss off.

I DID notice how it lasts longer which was a happy surprise! That is a good point and would appeal to her. How are you feeling?

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 12/5/2008 8:38:04 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 12/5/2008 8:27:33 PM

Author: neatfreak

Date: 12/5/2008 6:34:14 PM


Author: Tacori E-ring


Help me mommies! My MIL thinks I am a weirdo for giving T *organic* whole milk. Anyone have a good argument I can use to convince her it is for the best?

Just tell her that it''s a lot fresher and it lasts for so much longer that you can buy a bigger container and thus save money.



Or tell her to piss off.

I DID notice how it lasts longer which was a happy surprise! That is a good point and would appeal to her. How are you feeling?

It does last a lot longer, so I know it''s true for me! Figured that might appeal to your MIL if she doesn''t understand the hormone issue.

Feeling pretty crappy, but thanks for asking! I just cannot wait to meet these boys...but my body is giving me no signs it''s coming soon. Hopefully my OB will schedule something after my appointment this week if they don''t arrive by then...

 

[Tacori E-ring]

DS, hey there! I find my inlaws just don''t "get" things. And my MIL questions everything. It is slightly annoying but I am sure I annoy her as well. We just feel like water and milk are healthier than juice. J read a book where it explained the first two years effect your diet for the rest of your life so it is important to limit sugar (like juice). He is WAYYY more into than I am. I think a cookie or some pizza here and there is fine. He would prefer her to have none for as long as possible. No juice was just a decision we made together that she has questioned 100 times (I am not just being dramatic). She doesn''t LISTEN. I actually broke down and used water downed juice to try to get her into her sippy (which she seems not to like and will NOT give up those darn bottles). Didn''t really work so back to water (which she actually drank yesterday

)

NF, T had a play date with her twin boyfriends today. That will be you SO soon! They are 11 months and have started fighting with each other. It is kinda funny. They race to get to their mom first, take toys away from each other, poke and hit each other...Tessa pretty much ignored them both and did her own thing (while they crawled after her). They were born at 36 weeks. Keep those babies in as long as possible!

 

[qtiekiki]

Tacori
Sorry you have to deal with MIL's comments. Sometimes the older generation just doesn't understand because they are used to how things were. But I don't think you need to explain yourself. I drink fat-free organic milk myself (mostly for the flavor - it's actually taste like milk and not watered down), so I am pretty sure MIL won't question me when I get it for M. But I am pretty sure she doesn't understand it.
Oh and there's no need for juice at such a young age. Juices are full of sugar. I think it's great that Tessa like water more than juice.

I am so bad, but I think I am going to co-sleep with M tonight since DH is gone.

I bought a couple of NotSox off ebay. I can't wait for them to get here. Thanks snlee for making me want more babylegs.

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Q, thanks. I actually called my mom and she said she understood about the organic milk AND the no juice. *sigh* I just need to remind myself this when I have grandchildren. It wouldn''t be bad if she didn''t do this on so many issues. Maybe I need to have a talk with her. I really do think she is a great lady...we are just different. Haha.

I don''t blame you for co-sleeping with M. After T learned to roll we never did (not like we did that much anyways). I am always surprised when my friends sleep with their 1 year olds. T would NOT be into it and walk off the edge of the bed. Not kidding. Haha. Hope your DH is winning out there! Remind him there is a Tiffany''s there. Haha.

 

[diamondseeker2006]

T, I am certain that we didn''t use any juice other than apple before they were two, and like I said, I always used at least half water. And it had to be certain kinds of apple juice that did not have pesticides! I was the worst about not letting my poor kids have sugar. I feel some guilt over it now. I was the mean mom that never let the first two have candy from the grocery check-out line because I didn''t want them to have sugar. I only let them eat whole wheat bread, etc. I was a little different with #3, because I realized that I was too rigid with the first two and denied them some of the little joys of childhood. So I have "spoiled" the youngest a little more, and therefore, she hasn''t had as healthy food as they did, either. But it''s really all about balance...we make those choices as adults, too.

That said, I recall well relatives trying to give my first child things I didn''t give him, and I would get really angry. In fact, I actually fussed at my hubby''s grandmother one time for giving my son a roll (white bread) before dinner. In retrospect, I realize that she was just showing love to him in her own way. I was still the parent and it was my decision. But I wish I could take that back now. The roll really wouldn''t have hurt him long term!

I''m not trying to give you advice....really. What you said just rang a bell with me because I remember being there!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

DS, please don''t think I would judge ANY parent that gave their kids juice. Its just that at this age she doesn''t know the different KWIM? I agree certain things won''t hurt her. She has had white bread! Haha. I think it is more that I feel like I have to ALWAYS defend my choices. It gets old real fast. For example Tessa has lots of plastic toys but I do prefer wooden. My mom bought her an adorable wooden kitchen and I want only wooden food for it. MIL always says "why? Plastic is easier to clean and she will get splinters". I think wooden *IS* safer, will last longer, is cuter and she will NOT get splinters. That is so silly.

So I think it just builds and I have to come here to vent and get my sanity back! She doesn''t make just ONE or TWO comments. She WEARS you down slowly over time. But I am stubborn so she isn''t used to so much resistance

I let most comments go but am concerned since they will be living here soon.

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 12/5/2008 9:59:31 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
DS, please don''t think I would judge ANY parent that gave their kids juice. Its just that at this age she doesn''t know the different KWIM? I agree certain things won''t hurt her. She has had white bread! Haha. I think it is more that I feel like I have to ALWAYS defend my choices. It gets old real fast. For example Tessa has lots of plastic toys but I do prefer wooden. My mom bought her an adorable wooden kitchen and I want only wooden food for it. MIL always says ''why? Plastic is easier to clean and she will get splinters''. I think wooden *IS* safer, will last longer, is cuter and she will NOT get splinters. That is so silly.

So I think it just builds and I have to come here to vent and get my sanity back! She doesn''t make just ONE or TWO comments. She WEARS you down slowly over time. But I am stubborn so she isn''t used to so much resistance

I let most comments go but am concerned since they will be living here soon.

Me Too! Poor Tacori!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

Date: 12/5/2008 10:14:28 PM
Author: iluvcarats

Date: 12/5/2008 9:59:31 PM

Author: Tacori E-ring

DS, please don''t think I would judge ANY parent that gave their kids juice. Its just that at this age she doesn''t know the different KWIM? I agree certain things won''t hurt her. She has had white bread! Haha. I think it is more that I feel like I have to ALWAYS defend my choices. It gets old real fast. For example Tessa has lots of plastic toys but I do prefer wooden. My mom bought her an adorable wooden kitchen and I want only wooden food for it. MIL always says ''why? Plastic is easier to clean and she will get splinters''. I think wooden *IS* safer, will last longer, is cuter and she will NOT get splinters. That is so silly.

So I think it just builds and I have to come here to vent and get my sanity back! She doesn''t make just ONE or TWO comments. She WEARS you down slowly over time. But I am stubborn so she isn''t used to so much resistance

I let most comments go but am concerned since they will be living here soon.

Me Too! Poor Tacori!

free babysitting...free babysitting...*must remember*

 

[iluvcarats]

Luckily this is a very big country - there are 49 other states you can go to! (New York is a nice one!

)

 

[puffy]

tacori ugh...i just had to say that i can SO relate to you! my MIL is the EXACT same way. but it''s weird, she acts fine about the decisions that DH and i make when DH is there, but when he isn''t she just picks, picks, and picks and just questions just about everything! she just gave me an earful today about weaning B. i was going to try to wean him in hawaii only cause i think my supply is going on the lower end and he''s had whole milk already and he likes it. anyways, she just kept asking why and telling me that she BFed for 2 years and i should and blah blah blah! really, i kinda blocked her out after 10 minutes. she just thinks that she knows what''s best for B because she raised 3 kids of her own. so, i understand exactly what you are going through!!

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Date: 12/5/2008 10:20:47 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring

Date: 12/5/2008 10:14:28 PM
Author: iluvcarats

Date: 12/5/2008 9:59:31 PM

Author: Tacori E-ring

DS, please don''t think I would judge ANY parent that gave their kids juice. Its just that at this age she doesn''t know the different KWIM? I agree certain things won''t hurt her. She has had white bread! Haha. I think it is more that I feel like I have to ALWAYS defend my choices. It gets old real fast. For example Tessa has lots of plastic toys but I do prefer wooden. My mom bought her an adorable wooden kitchen and I want only wooden food for it. MIL always says ''why? Plastic is easier to clean and she will get splinters''. I think wooden *IS* safer, will last longer, is cuter and she will NOT get splinters. That is so silly.

So I think it just builds and I have to come here to vent and get my sanity back! She doesn''t make just ONE or TWO comments. She WEARS you down slowly over time. But I am stubborn so she isn''t used to so much resistance

I let most comments go but am concerned since they will be living here soon.

Me Too! Poor Tacori!

free babysitting...free babysitting...*must remember*

LOL! Is your MIL also my mother? I know the ''wear you down'' tactic oh so well. I now just say "yes, I know that''s what you''d" do or "yes, I know that''s what you think" or yes, "I know that didn''t do me any harm"(I can only just stop myself from adding "you think" to the end of that last one

). I don''t offer reasons, or enter into any discussion, just "yes, I know..." I think it might actually be working, the comments are reducing a little. My response irritates her as much as her comments irritate me and that, I think is the answer!

We''re both irritated with being irritated, so she stops and thinks before initiating the sequence. Sometimes, anyway.

I totally agree with you on the no juice, no sugar etc. I''m taking exactly the same approach, because I really think your DH is right- taste preferences are set in the first two years of life. I remember this from my psychology degree (which was a long time ago now and I would have found it more helpful if we''d had fewer classes on child development and more on how to outwit an interfering relative...). Ok, I''m going to be a mean mother. DH and I make her little (mostly veggie) meals right now and she loves them, so I don''t see any reason to change things. My friend tried to give her cake last week. Cake!

Thank you for the insights people gave on having baby #2 or more. I have a lot to think about and discuss with DH. I''m still undecided, but it has been very helpful hearing a little of other peoples'' decision making thoughts on this one. Thank you, much appreciated.

I''m clog free, too! PS advice rocks! Hot compresses, nursing before solids and nursing on all fours (I''d forgotten that trick, thanks Tacori!) have done the job. I''m not too worried that my milk supply is drying up, I never managed to pump more than 1oz at any one time. Don''t know why, but my body just refused to cooperate with hand or electric pumps. Puffy, that must be soooo irritating to hear that your MIL BF for two years. You have my sympathy and of course you know that you need to do whatever is best for you!

Well, Amelia''s Dr said we could try her with a wider range of foods now, so she''s having fish pie tonight (tiny dot of lemon sole, mashed with peas and courgettes, topped with a little mash potato). DH is cooking this, and he''s making way more of a mess of the kitchen than Amelia will make when she eats it! I had no idea it was possible to use quite so many utensils to make a portion of baby food!

Jen

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 12/5/2008 9:32:37 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Q, thanks. I actually called my mom and she said she understood about the organic milk AND the no juice. *sigh* I just need to remind myself this when I have grandchildren. It wouldn't be bad if she didn't do this on so many issues. Maybe I need to have a talk with her. I really do think she is a great lady...we are just different. Haha.

I don't blame you for co-sleeping with M. After T learned to roll we never did (not like we did that much anyways). I am always surprised when my friends sleep with their 1 year olds. T would NOT be into it and walk off the edge of the bed. Not kidding. Haha. Hope your DH is winning out there! Remind him there is a Tiffany's there. Haha.

Tac, maybe you need to consider talking to your MIL and setting some boundaries, otherwise with her moving here she could REALLY start getting on your last nerve!

And you don't need to explain to her why you make your decisions concerning T, none of her beeswax! You are an incredible Mom!!! She has had her turn to parent, now it is your turn and she needs to realize that.