PS Mommies Thread!

[Tacori E-ring]

Thanks everyone. I feel guilty that this "problem" took over the mommy board but it seems like a lot of us are in the same boat.

Puffy, My MIL was the opposite. Before T was even born she would say little comments about BFing like "you are only going to do it for the first few weeks right? Why would you want to? When are you going to ween? Formula is so much easier!" Blah blah blah. As a doctor's wife DH was STUNNED to learn he was NOT BFed. He took the class with me and it was eye opening for him (I always knew I would BF if I could). DH was totally into it and supported BFing 100%. If I was still BFing I would never hear the end of it! Proves no matter what decision we make, we are wrong! Haha.

MrsM, at least she is your mom. I feel like I still have to be polite since she doesn't HAVE to love me like my own parents do. Haha. My mom is actually a good sounding board and calms me down when I am irritated with the ILs. She is very wise. That is great your mom seems to have relaxed a bit lately. I bet Ame will love her dinner. T *just* started liking mashed potatoes. I think the texture bothered her at first. She would just spit them out. T has had a few sweets but nothing overboard. I think a few cookies, one cupcake, and a few spoonfuls of ice cream. Not bad for 13 months. She LOVES these things don't get me wrong but until she can talk and ask for things we just don't think to give them to her.

Lor, I am a wimp. I have no idea WHAT to say. I obviously don't want to start a big feud and if she EVER read PS I would be in SO much trouble! But you are right she did have her turn to be a parent and now she needs to respect what DH and I want for OUR daughter. None of it is big issues but they add up and I want her as an ally not a problem. Let's face it Tessa is only a year or two away from major manipulation (like every kid). I am sure she will get more treats over there but I don't want her to go overboard on the quest to become Tessa's favorite. I have already seen her with her neighbor's girls "we won't tell mommy okay?"

NOT okay! DH says he is 100% behind me but we'll see. I would hate not to trust her.

iluv, will you give me free babysitting?!?

 

[iluvcarats]

Date: 12/6/2008 1:52:07 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Thanks everyone. I feel guilty that this ''problem'' took over the mommy board but it seems like a lot of us are in the same boat.


Puffy, My MIL was the opposite. Before T was even born she would say little comments about BFing like ''you are only going to do it for the first few weeks right? Why would you want to? When are you going to ween? Formula is so much easier!'' Blah blah blah. As a doctor''s wife DH was STUNNED to learn he was NOT BFed. He took the class with me and it was eye opening for him (I always knew I would BF if I could). DH was totally into it and supported BFing 100%. If I was still BFing I would never hear the end of it! Proves no matter what decision we make, we are wrong! Haha.


MrsM, at least she is your mom. I feel like I still have to be polite since she doesn''t HAVE to love me like my own parents do. Haha. My mom is actually a good sounding board and calms me down when I am irritated with the ILs. She is very wise. That is great your mom seems to have relaxed a bit lately. I bet Ame will love her dinner. T *just* started liking mashed potatoes. I think the texture bothered her at first. She would just spit them out. T has had a few sweets but nothing overboard. I think a few cookies, one cupcake, and a few spoonfuls of ice cream. Not bad for 13 months. She LOVES these things don''t get me wrong but until she can talk and ask for things we just don''t think to give them to her.


Lor, I am a wimp. I have no idea WHAT to say. I obviously don''t want to start a big feud and if she EVER read PS I would be in SO much trouble! But you are right she did have her turn to be a parent and now she needs to respect what DH and I want for OUR daughter. None of it is big issues but they add up and I want her as an ally not a problem. Let''s face it Tessa is only a year or two away from major manipulation (like every kid). I am sure she will get more treats over there but I don''t want her to go overboard on the quest to become Tessa''s favorite. I have already seen her with her neighbor''s girls ''we won''t tell mommy okay?''

NOT okay! DH says he is 100% behind me but we''ll see. I would hate not to trust her.


iluv, will you give me free babysitting?!?

Free babysitting? I''ll pay you $ if you let me spend time with that yummy little girl!

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 12/6/2008 1:52:07 PM
Author: Tacori E-ring
Thanks everyone. I feel guilty that this 'problem' took over the mommy board but it seems like a lot of us are in the same boat.

Puffy, My MIL was the opposite. Before T was even born she would say little comments about BFing like 'you are only going to do it for the first few weeks right? Why would you want to? When are you going to ween? Formula is so much easier!' Blah blah blah. As a doctor's wife DH was STUNNED to learn he was NOT BFed. He took the class with me and it was eye opening for him (I always knew I would BF if I could). DH was totally into it and supported BFing 100%. If I was still BFing I would never hear the end of it! Proves no matter what decision we make, we are wrong! Haha.

MrsM, at least she is your mom. I feel like I still have to be polite since she doesn't HAVE to love me like my own parents do. Haha. My mom is actually a good sounding board and calms me down when I am irritated with the ILs. She is very wise. That is great your mom seems to have relaxed a bit lately. I bet Ame will love her dinner. T *just* started liking mashed potatoes. I think the texture bothered her at first. She would just spit them out. T has had a few sweets but nothing overboard. I think a few cookies, one cupcake, and a few spoonfuls of ice cream. Not bad for 13 months. She LOVES these things don't get me wrong but until she can talk and ask for things we just don't think to give them to her.

Lor, I am a wimp. I have no idea WHAT to say. I obviously don't want to start a big feud and if she EVER read PS I would be in SO much trouble! But you are right she did have her turn to be a parent and now she needs to respect what DH and I want for OUR daughter. None of it is big issues but they add up and I want her as an ally not a problem. Let's face it Tessa is only a year or two away from major manipulation (like every kid). I am sure she will get more treats over there but I don't want her to go overboard on the quest to become Tessa's favorite. I have already seen her with her neighbor's girls 'we won't tell mommy okay?'

NOT okay! DH says he is 100% behind me but we'll see. I would hate not to trust her.

iluv, will you give me free babysitting?!?

And that is what is motivating all this I suspect. I really wish she could step back and realize what she is doing, that she SHOULD be an ally and support to all of you, not competing with you as she will never win that one, YOU are Tessa's Mom! I think you will be able to work it out Tac, every time she interferes or challenges you just change the subject or say in a closed manner " my pediatrician says ** or we have decided to do things this way**" then change the subject/ walk away or whatever is necessary, try not to give her the chance to continue ' when are you giving her juice/ milk/ more fruit etc etc'. I wonder how she would have felt if her MIL had done the same things to her when she was raising her children, the incessant harping on about T being given juice sounds like a challenge and control issue....And also being sneaky with her neighbour's children is NOT on * sigh...* and regrettably you will probably have to keep a close eye on her interactions with Tessa. If your SIL had a child then maybe that would divert her attention!

I also like what Mrs M posted - ' yes I know that is what you think/ what you would do..' and use a sort of disinterested neutral voice!

Keep on not letting her get away with it and things will improve! Or if all else fails, try Neat's suggestion!

 

[Tacori E-ring]

iluv, you DO have baby fever huh!?!

Lor, thank you for your wisdom (as always!) It probably is control and that she thinks the way she did things is the right way and the only way. Well that was 30 years ago. Just like Tessa will do things differently with her children I am sure. She is passive aggressive but is good at it so *I* seem to be the only one that picks up on things. She is already using the babysitting angle, like "well, since I am giving you free babysitting, you should..." I know she doesn''t mean it. She loves Tessa and would never do anything to harm her. But sometimes I feel like snapping back that she is LUCKY to have a granddaughter she CAN spend time with! *deep cleansing breathes* God help her if Tessa has apple juice breath over x-mas!

 

[Mrs Mitchell]

Oh, I should add that if you try this, you have to work very hard to sound uninterested, NOT sarcastic or snarky! DH tried it and it just wound up into the mother of all arguments. He does''t have the knack of neutral tones.

Actually, if all else fails, why not try a sort of Supernanny technique on MIL? LOL Reward good behaviour and don''t give attention to bad behaviour. I mean, I''d guess the free babysitting is actually more of a treat for her than you, right? Soooo, she only gets to do it if she behaves. No feeding Tessa things you ask her not to, no questioning your decisions etc. Be sweet, do it subtly, but my guess is she''ll soon cotton on and behave herself.

I know she doesn''t have to love you like your mom does, but then at the end of the day, you are her grandaughter''s mother and so she does have to respect you. It is easier to love someone you respect, so if that''s important to you, set out your groundrules!

I know you''ll work it through and we''re here if you want to vent during that process! When do they move nearer to you?

Jen

 

[Tacori E-ring]

MrsM, thank you so much! You have all been very helpful. FIL moves down in April. Not sure when MIL is. They still have to sell their house and she has a job up there. I am guessing she will visit lots but not move until summertime. I am HOPING Tessa will not be good at keeping secrets and narc on her granny when she is a little older

The doctor thing would work b/c she does not research ANY baby/parenting stuff so I could really use that to my advantage. After all how could you argue with that?!? Even DH takes his word as gold.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 12/6/2008 4:34:59 PM
Author: Mrs Mitchell
Oh, I should add that if you try this, you have to work very hard to sound uninterested, NOT sarcastic or snarky! DH tried it and it just wound up into the mother of all arguments. He does't have the knack of neutral tones.

Actually, if all else fails, why not try a sort of Supernanny technique on MIL? LOL Reward good behaviour and don't give attention to bad behaviour. I mean, I'd guess the free babysitting is actually more of a treat for her than you, right? Soooo, she only gets to do it if she behaves. No feeding Tessa things you ask her not to, no questioning your decisions etc. Be sweet, do it subtly, but my guess is she'll soon cotton on and behave herself.

I know she doesn't have to love you like your mom does, but then at the end of the day, you are her grandaughter's mother and so she does have to respect you. It is easier to love someone you respect, so if that's important to you, set out your groundrules!

I know you'll work it through and we're here if you want to vent during that process! When do they move nearer to you?

Jen

Ditto everything!!

And the doctor thing could definitely be used to your advantage Tac, after all if her ideas on raising children are 30 years out of date because she hasn't read up recently then it would be difficult for her to argue - not that it is her place to question what you do anyway!! What she needs to do is to take a step back and try to overcome her urges to take over, and look at that beautiful little girl who is thriving under her wonderful Mother's care and to play her role as a grandmother by supporting you.

Stick to your guns sweetheart!!!

And I rather like this piece...


"Dearest beloved new Grandmother

Please accept that you do NOT always know best, and that your way is not the only way. Please accept that times are no longer the same as they were for you in the 1950/60s, and what was advised then for parents is not necessarily advised now by the medical profession et al.

Please accept that Dr. Spock is not the Bible but his thoughts are only part of a passing trend and make up fashionable thoughts from HIS times.

I will not always be right but dear Gran give me the room to be wrong as I learn to be a mother. Do you not remember how you used to grumble with us as children about YOUR mother being an interfering know it all? No doubt my new son Shaun too, will mutter under his breath about me to his own family when he is older...and I will too have to learn to gracefully take a back seat as my own child has the freedom to make parenting mistakes.

Thank you for caring about your family.

Love from your Daughter."

 

[jas]

Hi all. Apparently we just bought a new house, my two boys have decided that sleeping is for other babies (naps? We don't need no stinkin' naps), I've re-upped for Second City, I'm writing like crazy, and Aunt Flo is coming every two weeks.

I love company.

So that's the latest reason I can't be on here much. I miss it here. It's nice and friendly. My hair is falling out and no one understands why that's not fun.

The babies are 14 weeks, Logan is over 16 pounds, Jackson is over 15. Logan is now taking EIGHT ounces of formula at a shot and over a quart a day. I'm ready to just give the kid a hoagie already.

Tacori -- you are a much better person than I. If my MIL asked that kind of question, I'd say I was giving my kids organic milk just so that she and I would have this very conversation. But that's why my inlaws have problems with me.

In happy land, I did get back to my pre-pregnancy weight yesterday. I celebrated by having pie last night. A lot of pie. And red wine. I am aware that is counter-intuitive. I am also aware that is the reason why I am not at my pre-pregnancy weight today.

Still reading up on you all. I'm like the Santa of this thread. Who wants to be on my naughty list?

 

[jas]

For funsies -- my gigantic Logan last week, bundled up for the cold.

 

[Lorelei]

Date: 12/6/2008 4:58:12 PM
Author: jas
For funsies -- my gigantic Logan last week, bundled up for the cold.

So cute!!

 

[jas]

And here''s Jackson''s actual-sized head*.

*Head not actual size.

 

[jas]

Thanks Lorelei. There''s a lot of cute in the house!

 

[iluvcarats]

Jas He''s such a cutie!

Tacori The baby fever periodically spikes then breaks. but I''ll take Tessa for an afternoon anytime

 

[sk8rjen]

jas -- SOOOOO CUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUTE!!!!

jen

 

[snlee]

Burk, lili, Jas12 - how exciting that you will TTC baby #2 in the near future! Why are people asking me if I'm going to have another baby? That's one of the top questions I get now. I JUST had a baby people! I say yes, but not NOW or anytime soon! I want at least 2 kids. DH wants 3, which scares me a bit but I could see us having 3. I want 2 first then see how I feel.

Tacori, that coming from an unromantic guy is very sweet. We have lots in common. We started dating our unromantic DH's around the same time. We celebrated 8 years of dating this year too and if I remember correctly, we both got married Aug 2006. We were very young when we started dating too. Sorry to hear about your MIL issues. That is such a pain that she questions your decisions. It's YOUR child!

puffy, on your birthday? Not on your anniversary? Haha. We'll take what we can get. I ended up buying sophie the giraffe for D so hopefully he loves it too! I'm glad to hear your party went well. I'm sure the other two will be great!

QT, haha, no problem. Being an enabler is fun!

Is there a difference between BabyLegs and NotSox? I tried looking it up but it seems that they are the same (both made by BabyLegs) but NotSox are cheaper? Darn I could have saved some money! I ended up buying sophie the giraffe for D so hopefully he loves it! I didn't really want to spend so much but I found The Hunger Site sells sophie and money from your purchase go to the aid of hungry people in over 74 countries. They also had a $5 of $25 special and I found a free shipping code so I bought it. Can I enable you to buy sophie too?

Let us know the next time you're coming to visit and we can plan a GTG! Hope your weekend alone with M is going smoothly. You're lucky you DH gives you surprise gifts. Maybe he'll return from Vegas with a surprise. My DH NEVER does. He's horrible about gifts. He owes me big time - an anniversary, baby, birthday, and Christmas gift! He said I can choose a gift but I don't know what to get.

jas, wow you have A LOT going on. I can't believe how big your adorable boys are! Congrats on the new house and getting back to your pre-pregnancy weight!

I am almost there. I have a few pounds to go (I tell myself it's the baby’s food supply) but I do fit into my pre-pregnancy jeans (ones I could not fit a few weeks ago)! Yay!

Yesterday we went to a Holiday party and D took a picture with Santa Clause. Unfortunately he was asleep! Since he was asleep, we decided to make it a family Santa Clause picture. Oh well, sleeping baby is better than crying fussy baby!

I narrowed down my return date to work. I'm going to take a few weeks off of vacation to extend my leave. D will be almost 5 months old when I go back. I'm not looking forward to it but I'm thankful I can take this much time off and still have a job. It'll be hard to go back to work after being off for nearly 7 months!

This crib transition is REALLY difficult! We caved and let D cosleep with us and I'm 99% sure he's capable of STTN. The problem is that he'll STTN only in our bed! When I put him in his crib he wakes up so frequently, at least every hour if not every 5 minutes! I think he slept 2 hours once. In our bed he'll sleep 4-6 hours and in his crib only 1 hour. I don't know what to do. I'm so exhausted! I know for us it's best to have him sleeping in his crib and to do this transition before I go back to work but it would be so easy to have him cosleep with us!

 

[TravelingGal]

Hiya gals...

Well, FINALLY shook the illness yesterday. Whew! I''m way behind so I will catch up where I can.

Diver good to see ya gal! Hooray for Jake and potty training...that is excellent! D is beautiful, as always. She''s turning into such a little girl!!

Jackie, your boys are darling and man, they''ve grown! It''s amazing how babies change and get cuter eh?

Jas, hope you had fun at the concert!

Tacori, the others have given you great advice re: your MIL. Just reading about it just chaps my hide. I am NOT looking forward to this trip next week to Oz. I LOVE my inlaws...they are the most wonderful, helpful people ever but I am such an introvert I know that I am just going to be dying to get home and go back to the nice routine with just me and the kid. I have to make myself realize I''m not being rational about this...Amelia is lucky to have all this family in Oz. But somehow I think I''ll just be so OVER her being passed around and held by everyone. How petty is that. And my MIL got a cot for her to sleep in and said she will be in the room next to them. That''s fine, but I have told her that I was going to bring the peapod just in case Amelia has a hard time adjusting and needs to be closeby (I have no idea where any of the light switches are in that house and I have been there a few times). My MIL said on the phone last night, "Why? I got her a cot, she doesn''t need anything else." She also told me Amelia WILL have her own room. I know she''s trying to be helpful, but it''s all just rubbing me the wrong way already. I''ve warned my husband that I am going to say that Amelia goes to bed early and I will sit back and stay with her and to PLEASE have everyone go out to dinner without me. I just need the break during this 3 week stay where from my waking moment I have to converse with everyone. I''m such an introvert, it''s just painful! (And I feel so lame for feeling this way before we even get there. I need an attitude adjustment.

)

snlee, are you opposed to co-sleeping in the long run? If you are, keep at it..a few days of misery will hopefully yield good results. If you are not, I see no reason why you can''t continue co-sleeping.

 

[snlee]

Date: 12/6/2008 9:53:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal

snlee, are you opposed to co-sleeping in the long run? If you are, keep at it..a few days of misery will hopefully yield good results. If you are not, I see no reason why you can''t continue co-sleeping.

TGal, glad you are feeling better! I suppose you can say I''m opposed to cosleeping in the long run. I definitely don''t want him cosleeping with us when he''s 1. I don''t mind continuing to cosleep for a few more months but my concern is that the longer we wait to move him out, the harder the transition will be. So far it''s been 5 nights and it seems to be getting worse. I will continue to start him in his crib and if he cries a lot move him to our bed.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 12/7/2008 1:30:29 AM
Author: snlee

Date: 12/6/2008 9:53:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal

snlee, are you opposed to co-sleeping in the long run? If you are, keep at it..a few days of misery will hopefully yield good results. If you are not, I see no reason why you can''t continue co-sleeping.

TGal, glad you are feeling better! I suppose you can say I''m opposed to cosleeping in the long run. I definitely don''t want him cosleeping with us when he''s 1. I don''t mind continuing to cosleep for a few more months but my concern is that the longer we wait to move him out, the harder the transition will be. So far it''s been 5 nights and it seems to be getting worse. I will continue to start him in his crib and if he cries a lot move him to our bed.

OK, that makes sense.

I wonder if moving him makes it worse? Perhaps he knows if he cries hard enough, he''ll end up in the bed?

Ugh, I feel for you. It''s just so hard making transitions. I remember I was pretty stressed when I weaned Amelia off her swaddle. I didn''t even want ONE night of disrupted sleep, much less the 5 you are having. It took a few tries but we got there in the end.

 

[TravelingGal]

Oh, and this is a long shot, do you wear any lotions or anything daily? Maybe a small blanket with your scent might comfort him? Obviously you would just want to put it in his crib under your supervision and take it out when you are not there, but I''m thinking something familiar to him? I''d say spray breast milk on it, but that would be kind of gross!!

 

[snlee]

Date: 12/7/2008 1:41:57 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 12/7/2008 1:30:29 AM
Author: snlee

Date: 12/6/2008 9:53:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal

snlee, are you opposed to co-sleeping in the long run? If you are, keep at it..a few days of misery will hopefully yield good results. If you are not, I see no reason why you can''t continue co-sleeping.

TGal, glad you are feeling better! I suppose you can say I''m opposed to cosleeping in the long run. I definitely don''t want him cosleeping with us when he''s 1. I don''t mind continuing to cosleep for a few more months but my concern is that the longer we wait to move him out, the harder the transition will be. So far it''s been 5 nights and it seems to be getting worse. I will continue to start him in his crib and if he cries a lot move him to our bed.

OK, that makes sense.

I wonder if moving him makes it worse? Perhaps he knows if he cries hard enough, he''ll end up in the bed?

Ugh, I feel for you. It''s just so hard making transitions. I remember I was pretty stressed when I weaned Amelia off her swaddle. I didn''t even want ONE night of disrupted sleep, much less the 5 you are having. It took a few tries but we got there in the end.

I have no idea! It''s so difficult. I swear D''s voice sounds hoarse from crying/screaming so much. DH and I feel so badly for him. We (DH more than me since I did most of the work at night!) wants to just give up and have him cosleep with us. We stopped swaddling D a little over a week ago too. He kept breaking free from the miracle blanket so we knew it was time. He''s dealing with lots of new things during the night.

 

[puffy]

snlee when we transitioned B to his crib at 6 weeks (early i know), i started out just putting him in it for naps. and when he was able to put himself to sleep for nap time, i put him in the crib at night. he was actually fine with it. before that, he was in the co-sleeper that was next to our bed and he was being way too noisy for me to sleep. so i had to move him out. he was STTN pretty much by then so i didn''t really have to have him in our room anymore. so, i guess what i''m trying to say is to just try it for nap times until he gets used to the idea of it then try it at night. do you have a noise machine or a CD or black noise? that might help also. but honestly, if he is co-sleeping and you are all able to sleep, then i really don''t see the harm in it at his age.

tgal glad you are feeling better! Oz sounds like it''s going to be fun. i feel that way too about B when we go see family that we haven''t seen in awhile and all they want to do is pass B around, i get so annoyed. but luckily now, he knows what he wants so if someone he doesn''t want touching him touches him, he grunts and goes the other way. haha. i''m sure you guys will all have a great time. hopefully Amelia will adjust.

jas your boys are so darn CUTE!!! they are getting big!!

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 12/7/2008 1:54:31 AM
Author: snlee

Date: 12/7/2008 1:41:57 AM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 12/7/2008 1:30:29 AM
Author: snlee

Date: 12/6/2008 9:53:03 PM
Author: TravelingGal

snlee, are you opposed to co-sleeping in the long run? If you are, keep at it..a few days of misery will hopefully yield good results. If you are not, I see no reason why you can''t continue co-sleeping.

TGal, glad you are feeling better! I suppose you can say I''m opposed to cosleeping in the long run. I definitely don''t want him cosleeping with us when he''s 1. I don''t mind continuing to cosleep for a few more months but my concern is that the longer we wait to move him out, the harder the transition will be. So far it''s been 5 nights and it seems to be getting worse. I will continue to start him in his crib and if he cries a lot move him to our bed.

OK, that makes sense.

I wonder if moving him makes it worse? Perhaps he knows if he cries hard enough, he''ll end up in the bed?

Ugh, I feel for you. It''s just so hard making transitions. I remember I was pretty stressed when I weaned Amelia off her swaddle. I didn''t even want ONE night of disrupted sleep, much less the 5 you are having. It took a few tries but we got there in the end.

I have no idea! It''s so difficult. I swear D''s voice sounds hoarse from crying/screaming so much. DH and I feel so badly for him. We (DH more than me since I did most of the work at night!) wants to just give up and have him cosleep with us. We stopped swaddling D a little over a week ago too. He kept breaking free from the miracle blanket so we knew it was time. He''s dealing with lots of new things during the night.

He is indeed! No miracle blanket AND in the crib by himself - poor thing, that''s a lot to deal with.

Has he been crying since you weaned him from the blanket? You said he sleeps fine without it as long as he''s co-sleeping right? So the blanket isn''t too much a factor anymore?

Where does he take his naps? Perhaps you can start there? (So many questions, I know.

)

Hopefully the other moms who did the transition can help you better than I can.

 

[snlee]

Date: 12/7/2008 1:45:19 AM
Author: TravelingGal
Oh, and this is a long shot, do you wear any lotions or anything daily? Maybe a small blanket with your scent might comfort him? Obviously you would just want to put it in his crib under your supervision and take it out when you are not there, but I''m thinking something familiar to him? I''d say spray breast milk on it, but that would be kind of gross!!

LOL at spraying breast milk! I''ve read and received the following recommendations -
- for the mom to sleep with a pillow case and put it in the crib with him
- put a rolled up blanket around his head so there''s no draft
- put rolled up receiving blankets on both sides of him so he feels like someone is holding him
- put a blanket on the bottom half of his body to keep him warm.
All that stuff in there makes me so nervous! I''ve tried all of them while I''m watching and none seem to work.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 12/7/2008 2:02:26 AM
Author: puffy
snlee when we transitioned B to his crib at 6 weeks (early i know), i started out just putting him in it for naps. and when he was able to put himself to sleep for nap time, i put him in the crib at night. he was actually fine with it. before that, he was in the co-sleeper that was next to our bed and he was being way too noisy for me to sleep. so i had to move him out. he was STTN pretty much by then so i didn''t really have to have him in our room anymore. so, i guess what i''m trying to say is to just try it for nap times until he gets used to the idea of it then try it at night. do you have a noise machine or a CD or black noise? that might help also. but honestly, if he is co-sleeping and you are all able to sleep, then i really don''t see the harm in it at his age.

tgal glad you are feeling better! Oz sounds like it''s going to be fun. i feel that way too about B when we go see family that we haven''t seen in awhile and all they want to do is pass B around, i get so annoyed. but luckily now, he knows what he wants so if someone he doesn''t want touching him touches him, he grunts and goes the other way. haha. i''m sure you guys will all have a great time. hopefully Amelia will adjust.

jas your boys are so darn CUTE!!! they are getting big!!

Thanks Puffy...I wish Amelia could go the other way and escape too!

I transitioned Amelia to the crib at 6 weeks too. We just sort of did it cold turkey - but I wonder if it was easier for you and me because B and Amelia weren''t actually *in* our beds. I knew I did not want to co-sleep in the long run so I never went down that road. Amelia went from the hospital cot to a bassinet (where I slept near her but not next to hear in the living room) to the crib. So she always slept by herself. She always seemed fine at the hospital, so I figured the bassinet at home would be similar and she never complained. I thought the crib would be too big and scary but it didn''t faze her either.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 12/7/2008 2:06:20 AM
Author: snlee

Date: 12/7/2008 1:45:19 AM
Author: TravelingGal
Oh, and this is a long shot, do you wear any lotions or anything daily? Maybe a small blanket with your scent might comfort him? Obviously you would just want to put it in his crib under your supervision and take it out when you are not there, but I''m thinking something familiar to him? I''d say spray breast milk on it, but that would be kind of gross!!

LOL at spraying breast milk! I''ve read and received the following recommendations -
- for the mom to sleep with a pillow case and put it in the crib with him
- put a rolled up blanket around his head so there''s no draft
- put rolled up receiving blankets on both sides of him so he feels like someone is holding him
- put a blanket on the bottom half of his body to keep him warm.
All that stuff in there makes me so nervous! I''ve tried all of them while I''m watching and none seem to work.

That would make me nervous too, especially the blanket around his head. Gosh snlee, I wish there was a foolproof way we could help you. It seems like ages ago that Amelia was 3 months old but the stress of nighttime is still very fresh in my mind. I absolutely hated it and can feel your frustration and anxiety through the computer!

 

[snlee]

TGal, you are correct, he seems to be sleeping well without the swaddling if he''s cosleeping. I''ve tried the naps during the day in the crib but haven''t been diligent about it. I will try to do that more regularly.

Thanks for your suggestions TGal and puffy!

 

[TravelingGal]

Good luck snlee. My last effort at a suggestion would be to do a wind down routine every time you put it down and make it the SAME routine. It may help calm him down and in the long run let him know that sleep is coming. Could be a feeding, or a soothing rock in your arms plus a song. Just *something* that helps him get into a sleeping frame of mind. Consistency - it''s all about consistency!

 

[snlee]

TGal, thanks for your sympathies. Oops, I think I made it sound extremely dangerous. It's not really around his head touching him. The rolled up blanket is like a half circle a few inches away from his head. Still makes me nervous though!

It's getting late. Good night ladies! I'm off to another challenging night. I know it'll eventually get better. Hopefully very SOON! I guess I should be thankful he's capable of STTN at 10 weeks so maybe we should just let him cosleep. Why mess with a good thing? Ahhhh the decisions!

 

[qtiekiki]

snlee
I don''t know what''s the difference between NotSox and Babylegs if there''s any. The composition is the same as the original Babylegs. It looks the same, even the logo on them look the same except the different letters. I did read on some forums when trying to figure the difference between the two that NotSox is/was sold at Target. I''ve never seen them at my Target though. The price didn''t come out cheaper than the Babylegs that are on sale. Because the NotSox was $5, and S&H was $3 and then $1 for additional item. So the two I bought ended up being $7 each.

Sound like you don''t want to co-sleep in the long run, so I would be consistence and keep at transiting D to his crib. He needs to get use to a routine of sleeping in his crib. I know it''s hard, but you can do it. I also don''t want to co-sleep when the baby is a toddler, so we put M in her crib since day 1.

I am considering Sophie the Giraffe and her cousin (the Chan Pie Gnon design chew toy). The review for the Chan Pie Gnon toy is generally good except one person said that it resemblances something provocative, but I think they look cute.

 

[qtiekiki]

jackiejas
Jackson and Logan are adorable. They are so big now.