PS Mommies Thread!

[softly softly]

Date: 7/9/2008 5:47:45 PM
Author: mrssalvo
softly, the dr's recommend keeping babies out of the sun here too. that's why if you are nursing they are now recommending vit. D drops b/c breast milks has very little vit. D. I have 2 older kids and there is just no way I can keep Jake in the shade or inside all summer long so I just slather him up with sunscreen and take him in the pool. I do keep him under the shade when we aren't actually in the water.


re: the job away from parents. we are actually in a similar situation right now. I currently live in the same city as my parents and my sister. hubby's job offer will be about 6 hours away. we will however only be 45 minutes from his parents who are wonderful but it definitely won't be the same for me. I am very close to my family and the decision to move was a tough one but the job was an important career move for him and our future stability so off we go. Honestly, he pursued a couple of jobs on the other side of the country where we'd only see family a couple of times a year and I think that would have been to far. family is just too important to me to be further than driving distance, even if it means a little less money. Everyone is different though and I have friends that love having parents as far away as possible.

Thanks for the reply MrsS. It's funny, before we had kids I used to be in the can't get far enough away from his parents camp, and I was also very proud of myself for having the courage to move away from my parents in my twenties and experience other parts of the country. I would also have loved to live overseas, but that never eventuated.

Now the thought of living a 4 hour plane ride and a 3 day car ride (mostly through desert) actually feels like we would be exiling ourselves - and this is in a city I spent over 3 years in previously and loved living in. But as much as it may sound crass I suspect the financial and career incentives may just have the ultimate sway in our case.

ETA I'll be very interested in your response Tgal. How does Tguy find having his first baby so far from his parents? I found when my son was born and we were at that point so far from family slightly sad because they weren't around to admire him and experience his early months.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 7/9/2008 8:19:24 PM
Author: softly softly


Thanks for the reply MrsS. It''s funny, before we had kids I used to be in the can''t get far enough away from his parents camp, and I was also very proud of myself for having the courage to move away from my parents in my twenties and experience other parts of the country. I would also have loved to live overseas, but that never eventuated.

Now the thought of living a 4 hour plane ride and a 3 day car ride (mostly through desert) actually feels like we would be exiling ourselves - and this is in a city I spent over 3 years in previously and loved living in. But as much as it may sound crass I suspect the financial and career incentives may just have the ultimate sway in our case.

ETA I''ll be very interested in your response Tgal. How does Tguy find having his first baby so far from his parents? I found when my son was born and we were at that point so far from family slightly sad because they weren''t around to admire him and experience his early months.

OK, girl''s down and we are getting ready to have our 100 day celebration dinner, so I have a minute to put my two cents in...

When TGuy moved from Oz, we didn''t know if we would get married, much less have kids. Now that we do have a kid, I really feel bad for his parents. They have two other grandchildren already by TGuy''s sister, and they love them. They are coming at the end of this month and his mum is probably a bit sad she missed so much already.

From TGuy''s point of view, I think he misses them but he just seems to go on with his daily life and not think about it much at all. It will be interesting to see how he feels when they come and go for this visit.

From my point of view, I''m sad that Amelia will probably never be as near and dear to them as their other grandchildren just due to promiximity. TGuy''s parents are amazingly loving people and I don''t feel like they play favorites, but it''s hard to really adore someone you are only going to see once a year, maybe every other year...at least for a while, you know what I mean?

My mother is only 2 miles down the road and I think going forward, now that my dad has passed away, I will be lost without her as she really wants to help out and be with Amelia. I am SO glad she is here as she is MY mom and being selfish, if someone''s mom/parents can be nearby, I''m glad it''s mine.

Personally, I could not move and take Amelia away from my mom. Not now that she has seen her. But TGuy''s sister did it to his parents a lot and they just made sure to visit a lot...that''s the kind of people they are. If you choose to move, everyone will manage. Financial security is important once you have kids!!

 

[LitigatorChick]

On Vit D, my doc highly recommended it. I just gave it to Miller in his bottle (he got 1 a day while I was BFing) or just from the dropper straight into his mouth.

 

[softly softly]

[/quote] OK, girl's down and we are getting ready to have our 100 day celebration dinner, so I have a minute to put my two cents in...


When TGuy moved from Oz, we didn't know if we would get married, much less have kids. Now that we do have a kid, I really feel bad for his parents. They have two other grandchildren already by TGuy's sister, and they love them. They are coming at the end of this month and his mum is probably a bit sad she missed so much already.


From TGuy's point of view, I think he misses them but he just seems to go on with his daily life and not think about it much at all. It will be interesting to see how he feels when they come and go for this visit.


From my point of view, I'm sad that Amelia will probably never be as near and dear to them as their other grandchildren just due to promiximity. TGuy's parents are amazingly loving people and I don't feel like they play favorites, but it's hard to really adore someone you are only going to see once a year, maybe every other year...at least for a while, you know what I mean?


My mother is only 2 miles down the road and I think going forward, now that my dad has passed away, I will be lost without her as she really wants to help out and be with Amelia. I am SO glad she is here as she is MY mom and being selfish, if someone's mom/parents can be nearby, I'm glad it's mine.


Personally, I could not move and take Amelia away from my mom. Not now that she has seen her. But TGuy's sister did it to his parents a lot and they just made sure to visit a lot...that's the kind of people they are. If you choose to move, everyone will manage. Financial security is important once you have kids!![/quote]



I can really understand what you mean about Tguy's parents and Amelia. My bother lives in London and has two little girls who my parents have only seen a couple of times and it is hard for both sides because of the distance involved. My parents spent a couple of months over there last year and I think they found it hard to get to know my brother's eldest daughter because she wasn't especially welcoming because she is just a little kid and she didn't really recognise them as grandparents.

We would only be moving to Perth rather than to the other side of the world so we would still see each other sort of regularly but it wouldn't be the same as it is now and that does make me sad because if we leave now the kids are really too young to remember their grandparents being such an important part of their lives.

Also I can't really overlook how wonderful both sets of parents have been about babysitting the kids to give us a break - as much as I love the kids I really cherish any time I get to myself. If we move we have to give all that up and the job my husband is looking at would involve travel on a monthly basis. It really is a tricky decision.

How wonderful that Tguy's parents are coming to visit soon. I'm sure they can't wait to meet Amelia.

 

[Burk]

I am so sorry this is going to be a "poor me and my baby" post! I will do my best to come back and read what''s been going on and respond individually when things get better.

So, Tayva is doing TERRIBLE!! We finally got her the other med (ended up having to pay $100 out of our pocket b/c there was this whole disaster with the insurance company yada yada yada). Anyway and she''s been on it since last night and I think she''s doing WORSE (if that''s possible). She will not sleep. She wakes up screaming 3-4 times at night. She is spitting up all the time (if she eats). This morning she had the hiccups and with every hiccup came spit up. I just feel so bad for her and I''m so tired that I find myself losing my patience at times when she won''t go down for a nap even though she''s rubbing her eyes and fussy. They can''t get her in for the UGI until next week and my doc says we need to keep trying these meds and see what comes back on the UGI. She went from sleeping 16 or so hours in a 24 hr period to now at 13. She HAS to be over tired. I think that attributes to some of the fussiness but I don''t know what to do for her. She won''t play by herself for very long and is so irritable at times. I guess I would be to if I couldn''t sleep because my belly hurt. I''m just so frustrated because the reflux thing is supposed to get BETTER as they get older, not WORSE. Okay, vent over. Thanks to anyone who actually read this entire book!

 

[pavelover]

Oh Burk, I am so sorry that Tavya is having such a terrible time right now. I wish I had some good suggestions for you or even something comforting. I can''t imagine how tired you all must be.
Try to hang in there- did the dr tell you how long the medicine should take to work? Does it work just on the tummy or have to build up a level in her body to work? Is your gi doctor ordering this or your pedi? I know you already will but stay in touch with them about how she is doing- maybe they will agree that it is making her worse and will tell you to stop it? Hope today goes better for you!!

 

[Dreamer_D]

Burk I am so sorry for you a poor liitle Tayva! While the meds are being worked on, are there things that will comfort her like co-sleeping or carrying her in a carrier on your back so she is close to you all the time? Those aren''t permanent solutions but maybe it will make her feel safe and help her not get so distressed?

 

[ellaila]

Aw, Burk, I'm so sorry, sweetie. And don't beat yourself up for getting frustrated with everything - it's HARD to be a mom at times even in the best of situations, so when you add in complications, it's only natural to feel overwhelmed. I know how hard it was dealing with Gabe's reflux, and Tayva has got it so so much worse -- I can't even imagine how draining it is for you (and of course for her). (Well, I can imagine because I can see it in your posts

)

I think all thed meds we tried were supposed to take a few days minimum to really start working, so maybe that's the case with this new medicine as well. Any chance she could've been worse last night for another reason - like teething? And when they're teething, they swallow more saliva - which I assume if you're really refluxy would come back up, right? Maybe try those Hyland Teething tablets to see if she calms down any? Not going to bed and/or waking up screaming has def. been a sign of teething for us!

TGal, happy 100 day to Amelia!! And I also forgot to strap in the babies (yes, BOTH of them!) once, so see, even us SuperMoms make mistakes now and then

. We were at baby yoga and someone helped me put them in their car seats and then we just wound up talking for a bit and I didn't realize they never got strapped in -- until I got home!

re: having family close by ... I gotta say it is a good thing! Out of my and Q's parents, only my Dad is nearby and he is definitely the closest to Gabe and Katelyn by default. My Mom lives in FL and flies up when she can (and we're going to see her at the end of the month), and she calls CONSTANTLY and talks to them on speakerphone and sends cards, etc., but it's just not the same as one-on-one personal time, you know? I know how sad it makes my mom to not be able to be here for their milestones and for holidays. I was never one of those people that wanted my whole family to be together ALL the time and to be in everyone else's business, but now that I've got kids, I really do wish that we all lived closer. I know how hard it is with being in different states (we've got parents in MA, NY, and FL; and siblings/nieces/nephews in TX, VA, IL, and LA)- I couldn't even imagine dealing with different countries and time zones! That must make it really tricky. And the other thing is that when grandparents have to travel to visit with you, it's always a Big Deal, you know? Like we can go to my Dad's house for a few hours and everything is calm and cool. But when my Mom comes, it's an airport trip, and meals out, and taking the babies out on display to her friends, and just 24/7ness, you know? It's just got a totally different feel to it. It's not bad necessarily ... just different.

 

[Linda W]

Burke,

I am so sorry to read about poor little Tayva. I do hope the meds she is on helps, or they find the right one soon. OK, I am new to this. Is reflux what they used to call colic??????????????

Please give her a kiss for me and I hope things get better soon and you both get some much needed sleep.

Love, LInda

 

[Linda W]

Ella: Are you going to post more pictures, of your adorable twins???????

They are sooooo cute.



Linda

 

[Burk]

I knew I would feel better if I posted about Miss T''s issues. Thanks so much everyone!!

Pave~Thank you! They say it''ll take some time to work. The new med has to work with the other one I guess? Also, I think being off of zantac without an antacid replacement until yesterday probably made things harder. We''re going to give it the weekend and I''m supposed to call back on Monday. We are working with the gi doc who is very good and isn''t afraid to be aggressive which I like.

Dreamer~Thank you! We have had her sleep with us for the early parts of the night and when we think she''s calmed down moved her into her crib and that seems to work. During the day I''ve been keeping her with me at all times some way or another and that seems to help. She hates it when I leave the room. I have even been taking her to the bathroom with me...she LOVES my bathroom rugs!

Ella~thanks! I knew you could relate. I don''t know how you did it with two babies! I''m glad you mentioned that some of the behaviors are similar to teething behaviors, because I was thinking that myself. I have been giving her teething tablets today and she is down for a nap right now so maybe that helped!

Linda~Thank you! She is considered colicy. Reflux is one of the many things that can make a baby "colicy." She just woke up so I''m off to give her a kiss for you........

Tgal~Hope you and Tguy had a good 100th day celebration!

 

[TravelingGal]

Aw Burk...I check in hoping every day will get better for her, not worse. Some days you must feel like there is no end in sight. I''m so sorry.

Yes, TGuy and I did have a nice 100 day celebration, thank you!

Ella, I know not strapping in the kids is not funny, but you made it seem funny. I guess we''re all in the same boat!

Sorry I was MIA most of the day on this thread. I was just agog at what was going on over in another forum. I''m getting old and cranky. Hehehehe.

Nothing too new in Amelia news. I''m thinking of moving up her bedtime 30 minutes earlier because she''s starting to get sleepier earlier.

 

[mrssalvo]

Burk, you poor thing and poor Tayva. I hope she can get some relief and rest soon.

things are pretty much routine for me. jake is smiling all the time now and is starting to giggle/laugh when I tickle or tease him. I just LOVE it when they start giggling.

 

[sasa]

Burk, poor Tayva & poor mama...hope the new med start working soon & I hope she is teething not her reflux getting worse...

 

[lili]

Burk
Poor sweet Tayva.
And poor mama too.
Hope the new meds take into effect soon and those darn little pearlies come out soon.

TGal
Happy 100-day to Amelia.
Is this something like the 1 month thing in Chinese culture?
What do you guys do to celebrate it?

 

[lili]

Date: 7/10/2008 11:17:58 PM
Author: mrssalvo
things are pretty much routine for me. jake is smiling all the time now and is starting to giggle/laugh when I tickle or tease him. I just LOVE it when they start giggling.

How sweet

I love those giggles too.
I tried tickling Jade, but that little girl just have some pretty thick skin.
She gave me the "whatcha doing" look and was not amused.
What got her into a giggling fit is when I make snoring and ducky noises

 

[softly softly]

Burk how awful for Tayva I hope her medication starts working soon, poor thing.

 

[ellaila]

Date: 7/10/2008 10:23:49 PM
Author: TravelingGal
Aw Burk...I check in hoping every day will get better for her, not worse. Some days you must feel like there is no end in sight. I''m so sorry.

Yes, TGuy and I did have a nice 100 day celebration, thank you!

Ella, I know not strapping in the kids is not funny, but you made it seem funny. I guess we''re all in the same boat!

Sorry I was MIA most of the day on this thread. I was just agog at what was going on over in another forum. I''m getting old and cranky. Hehehehe.

Nothing too new in Amelia news. I''m thinking of moving up her bedtime 30 minutes earlier because she''s starting to get sleepier earlier.

I don''t check the other forums much, so I don''t know what this is referring to ... do tell! I loves me some PS heated exchanges (though I never take part in them)!

Burk, how''d Tayva do last night?

Oh, gigglers!!!

I still don''t think my babies are truly ticklish yet, to be honest. Sometimes Gabe seems it in certain places, mostly the neck, but neither really squirm much from tummy or feet tickling. I''m starting to question whether they''re my kids because I seriously fear kicking my pedicurist in the face when he scrubs my feet b/c I''m so squirmy and ticklish!

I can''t believe we''ve got another twin pregnancy here! Am I a trendsetter or what?

Very exciting!!!!

 

[Jas12]

No kidding Ella, you were heavy-handed with your sprinkling of twins-dust on this forum!

Burk--i feel so terrible for you and Tayva, Like you siad, i thought kids were supposed to grow out of it, not get worse

sending healing vibes your way....


Tgal--you have been writing about all your bad-mommy-moments but you are a great mom putting aside (temporarily) your social life etc. to have amelia in bed at 6:30. I am selfish cuz i don''t put Co down till around 9. He could probably go down at around 7 (when he takes his last cat-nap) but i can''t stand being home for good by dinner time. I am not a homebody and usually go out 2-3 times a day but i really shouldn''t keep him up just for my needs! He seems to be quite happy on his current schedule, but i do feel a bit guilty.


So last night charlie wanted to know when we would start trying for kid # 2

He''s head over heels for Cohen and wants ''more more more'' which is cute and all but buddy, i am barely recovered from #1 !! I told him to ask me again this time next year....

 

[ellaila]

My babies update:

Katelyn''s got two teeth! Ahhhh, so goshdarn cute!!!

Gabe is feeding himself with a spoon!

He started it last night, and he''s totally got the hang of it. I''m floored. He doesn''t scoop food for himself from the bowl, I still do that, but he aims that thing right for his mouth. We are heading into messy times now!! But it''s awesome

Seriously, these babies just amaze and impress me everyday at this age. It''s so cool! So I think we may be ready to try Puffs soon - yeah!

 

[sasa]

TGal, happy 100 day to Amelia!!

Jas, DH is also asking about baby #2, I was like we''ll talk about it when litte B turn two

ellaila, Yeah on two teeth! did u take a picture? Gabe is feeding himself already? Baby grow up so fast..

 

[TravelingGal]

lili, yes, I think it's like the chinese/vietnamese 30 day. Just celebrating that you made it this far I forgot, so we just had dinner ourselves. My mom came over with gifts and we took pics of Amelia alongside my 100 day photo over 35 years ago. I'll try to post it, even though Amelia looks totally discombobulated.

Your description of how you make Jade giggle made me laugh, btw.

Ella, the thread was deleted...it got that inane. And since it was, I won't say anything except to say the landscape of the LIW forum has changed a lot since you, Tacori, SB, MsF and some of the others were there. Trust me, you would have been disgusted.

Have you got teeth and spoon feeding pics?

And you definitely ARE a trendsetter with these twin pregnancies. I'm afraid to talk to you for fear of twins. Mind you, before I had Amelia, I would have LOVED LOVED LOVED twins for my first pregnancy, especially a boy and a girl like you had. Now that I have had only one, I don't think I can handle two at one time...nor do I want three kids. But I guess we don't get to choose these things!

Jas, I'm not always homebody either (although I do like it when I am), so I totally understand what you are saying. I am lucky in that if I REALLY want to go out, I can ask my mom to come over for a few hours at night. I usually have her come early so I don't feel like I am "using" her and we hang out with the kid and I have my mom put Amelia to bed because she enjoys it and feels helpful. Then my mom can kick back and read or whatever and I try to be home by 10 or 11 at the latest. It is A LOT easier to ask someone to watch the baby when I know it won't be hard work. So contrary to what you think (and are kindly saying), I put Amelia down early BECAUSE I want to continue my social life. But if I can't get mom to watch her (or if I feel bad asking), I figure that all my friends are the same old same old and I'm really not missing anything.

And for the record, I think you are a GREAT mom!

Charlie probably wants another one because you made the whole thing look easy. You did it without drugs so he probably thinks you're superwoman, and you look totally back to pre-preggo so he probably doesn't realize what havoc being pregnant wreaks on your body. Or...it's because Co is just so darn adorable that, yes, he wants more. That speaks volumes about Charlie. TGuy and I aren't even having "relations" because we're so petrified to get pregnant so soon (I haven't gotten my lazy butt over to the pharm to get my BC pills yet).

Bobo, I have to say, you take the funniest pics of little B. I LOVE your new avatar. Just cracking up here.

 

[TravelingGal]

OK, here are some updated pics (can''t be asking all the time if I don''t put them up.)

First two are of Amelia with hats on. She hates hats, but decided one day to humor me so I had to take a photo.

This hat is just too silly (and she''ll probably never get a chance to wear it here in Cali) so I threw it on her to take a photo.

 

[TravelingGal]

And I just love her expression on this one...I took her reflection in the bathroom mirror. She looks confused!!

 

[TravelingGal]

Not the best pic of her, but here she is on her 100 day next to my 100 day photo.

 

[TravelingGal]

And lastly, I was FINALLY able to catch a photo of her with a big smile. Of course it turned out blurry, but I''ll take it!!!

 

[snlee]

TGal, Happy 100 days to Amelia! What cute pictures! Even though she does look mixed, she looks a lot like you in your 100 day picture. What a cute picture! I bought the same sleeper for our little boy that Amelia is wearing in her smile picture!

 

[Aloros]

Just wanted to pop in to say that Amelia is adorable! Love the hat photo! She looks so mildly disgruntled.

She actually looks a lot like my sister did at that age. A LOT! And it''s neat that you got to take a photo of her next to your 100-day photo.

For the record, my sis is now a 6'' tall model who has to beat the boys off with a stick.

 

[Burk]

Tgal~Thank you! Cute pics! I love the big smile!

Mrss~Thanks. So fun when they start the giggling. Makes me smile just thinking about baby giggles!

Bobo~Thanks! Your new avatar is adorable!!

lili~Thank you for thinking of us. T is not really ticklish either...except a little on her neck.

SS~Thanks! I''ve been meaning to post about moving away from family. We are in the same situation....better job for DH and I could stay at home, but we''d be away from family. We''re still mulling it over, as it is awefully hard to weight the pros and cons. I feel for ya!

Ella~I had no idea what Tgal was talking about either. I need to pay closer attention!

T had a great night last night. Not one night waking! So cute that Gabe is feeding himself! T tries and I let her "assist" but I''m afraid to let her do it herself. And OH MY!! TWO teeth! What a big girl.

Jas~Thanks! So funny Charlie wants to talk about number 2! My DH still sys we''re "one and done"

T had a much better night last night so hopefully she''s on the road to recovery!! She had her 6 mo appt today. She was 28" long (about 95th percentile) weighed 17 lb 4 oz (75 percentile) and head was in the 50th percentile. My big girl (minus the tiny mellon!

) was so good for her shots considering everything she''s been through lately. Ok, off to pump her full of meds......

 

[softly softly]

Hey ladies, I think I need something to prop open my eyes. Horrible night here - my son developed a nasty rasping (or as he calls it raspberry) cough. It''s happened before, so we had the right medication on hand, but he got so distressed we couldn''t get him to take it.

In the end I had to turn the television on for him (at 11pm) to try and distract him enough to get the medicine in. He had a very restless night which meant not much sleep for him or us. My husband was then mad enough to get up at 6am to go for a 60 kilometer bike ride! It''s Zero Degrees Celsius here!!!!