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Diver, You are one hot mama!! love the pix of Delaney, her expression cracks me up....nice birthday invitation...

Love all the new avatar!

Ok, we have some tough decision on our hands and I will like you ladies opinion. Right now MIL looks after little B while both of us go to work. We already had some clash as how we want things done regarding little B.

Like we''re feeding him solid right now and he is not loving the solid, usually just couple bites and he''ll turn his head away. and MIL told me many times that it''s not worth it giving him solid, he don''t eat it anyway. Just wait until he is one and give him table food. I don''t want to do it that way, I think he should continue with the solid even though he only took couple bites every meal time.

We had a big blow up between DH and MIL the past week because MIL slip that she haven''t been feeding little B solid, she''s just lying to us when we ask her how is little B doing with today''s solid feeding. and this is just one small example.

Right now I''m debating if I should just quite my job and stay home with little B FT which is going to cause some financial hardship on us and I''d really don''t know if we can survive on just one income. Since we''re saving for a down payment on a house, if I quite my job we can forget about the house.

or spend $600 a month and send him off to another sitter? which is going to start a war with my MIL because she''ll think we''re sending her one and only grandson away (she got 6 granddaughters and just this one grandson, all you asian out there will probably understand more of this) and it will make her look bad in front of other relatives.

what really bugs me is MIL''s attitude. she has this I have 25 years of caring for kids experience and you guys can''t tell me how to care for a baby attitude. We just can''t reason with her...DH had another big fight with her last night over little B and the tension is just driving me nuts.

Sorry for the long post, I guess I really need to vent...
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Bobo, I am sorry you are in this position. What does your Dh want you to do? I can relate to your problem (somewhat). At least you have your DH on your side. NO ONE understood why I freaked when my MIL gave T milk at 7 months
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DH doesn''t say anything when MIL INSISTS on rocking T to sleep
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Oh, the list can go on...but this isn''t about me
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You need to do what is right for YOUR family. If working is right, and a daycare would be right than that''s what you need to do. Feelings will heal (hopefully) overtime. How old is Bobo again? (sorry it is hard to keep track)
 
Diver,

That is the cutest baby birthday invite! Confucius say you will have a great time!
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Tacori, little B is 6 months and 3 weeks. I wanted to send little B to daycare (the one that is at home) but MIL give a long speech on how experience she is and other ppl won''t care for little B like she is that we felt bad to send her only grandson away from her.

But let me tell ya the list goes on and on and one of it is rocking him to sleep. She put him in the stroller and push him till he fall asleep. That is why we are having such a hard time to sleep train him. DH and I had fights over on how to put him to sleep and finally one day he saw how little B is and with me hurting my back from trying to rock him to sleep (CIO don''t do it for him, he''ll cry so hard he puke and it''s so hard for me to watch that I''d rather rock him to sleep.) now DH is sleep training little B.
 
Bobo, solids was hard with T at little B's age. I can only promise you it WILL get easier. Just keep at it. Now she is like a little bird with her mouth wide open and whines if I am taking too long
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Diva! I don't know your MIL but I know mine (and hopefully yours) DOES want the best for her grandchild. She thinks she is doing everything right (but if she asks when we are giving her juice ONE more time I will scream
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) I think you need a sit down. She will be defensive but tell her you want to work through this but blank and blank needs to change. Have her come to a pedi appointment with you. I cannot imagine ANY doctor would want little B to be rocked to sleep. Maybe hearing it from a doctor would get through to her. Then if things don't change you need to look into a major change.

As for CIO maybe you should leave the house. He will get upset but he'll survive and be a happier baby b/c of it. Well rested babies are HAPPY! I know at my 6 month appointment I was still doing a 3am feed and my doc said I needed to drop it by my next appointment. That night she never woke up for it. (Good listener I guess). How many times a night is he waking up?

ETA: LOVE the sunglasses! Such a cutie!
 
Tacori, we tried sitting her down and talk to her but she is so stubborn. She just say she is older and have lot more experience then we do...and just ignore us. We tell her many things is from pedi suggestion, she''ll just say she don''t believe in doctors and she''ll do it her way.

little B only wake about once or twice a night and usually we patted him he''ll go right back to sleep, it''s the putting him down to sleep is the hard part. Now DH is trying his way which is stay by his side and sing or talk to to him when he start to cry and want to be picked up...so far it''s been working 2 out of 5 time...so we''ll see

love Tessa''s cheeks...remind me of my little boy''s cheeks...so kissable~
 
Bobo, your situation sucks. I think you know what you need to do
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Good luck friend!
 
Thanks Tacori!


little B have appt. with photographer this Sat. for his six months shoot. For all the mommies that used photographer before, do we need to tip the photographer at the end??
 
Date: 8/26/2008 4:47:58 PM
Author: Bobo ^__*
Thanks Tacori!



little B have appt. with photographer this Sat. for his six months shoot. For all the mommies that used photographer before, do we need to tip the photographer at the end??
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I did not.
 
Oh Bobo, I am so sorry you are going through this, but I have to say, that avatar of B put the BIGGEST smile on my face. Awwwww what a honey! As for solids, I really didn''t even start Jake on them until he was 1 and we just went straight to table food. He just wasn''t interested. I offered it about once a day, but he usually refused. He''d eat some vanilla yogurt, smashed avocado, or smashed banana once he was about 8 or 9 months old from time to time..but boyfriend just wanted his bottle. He still eats like a bird. Some kids are just like that. I wish *I* didn''t want so many solids!! ROTFLMAO!!

Curly: Wow, your poor mom! I totally relate to how you feel, wanting her to snap out of it..no you aren''t selfish, but perhaps new baby girl will give her the boost she needs to cheer up & feel better. My aunt was really sick the 7 months before I had D, and my dad was having to drive 2.5 hours each way a few times a week to pick her up & bring her into the city for doc appts. (she lives in the backwoods..lol) And while I was very worried about her, part of me was like OH COME ON AND GET BETTER ALREADY! I need my parents too!! I had very little help while I was pg and my mom flaked on me, so I was starting to panic.

I''m glad you are feeling good though, and I can''t believe you only have 5 weeks.

So....BOTTLES...I saw this twin mommy with these cool Paci-feeders. They are bottles that have tubing that goes to a binky like nipple. Well I ordered one. Can I tell you guys how many times I am out & have to be in the car & D needs a bottle? My kids will not hold their own bottles either. Lazy. I bottle fed Jake until he was 19 months old. (I''m not the kind of mom to rush bottle or paci weaning) I figure now that I am teaching aerobics again, its a good way to feed her on the way to the club. One of the clubs I work for does not feed nor change the kids, so its a pain if commuting interferes with a mealtime.

Where was this contraption when we were roadtripping to Montana??? ?
 
Diver, I guess I am lucky! T''s been holding her own bottle for months now. Seriously one of the best days of my life when she started doing that. I have seen an ad for that bottle. I will be curious to hear how it works.
 
Date: 8/26/2008 3:10:40 PM
Author: Bobo ^__*
Diver, You are one hot mama!! love the pix of Delaney, her expression cracks me up....nice birthday invitation...

Love all the new avatar!

Ok, we have some tough decision on our hands and I will like you ladies opinion. Right now MIL looks after little B while both of us go to work. We already had some clash as how we want things done regarding little B.

Like we''re feeding him solid right now and he is not loving the solid, usually just couple bites and he''ll turn his head away. and MIL told me many times that it''s not worth it giving him solid, he don''t eat it anyway. Just wait until he is one and give him table food. I don''t want to do it that way, I think he should continue with the solid even though he only took couple bites every meal time.

We had a big blow up between DH and MIL the past week because MIL slip that she haven''t been feeding little B solid, she''s just lying to us when we ask her how is little B doing with today''s solid feeding. and this is just one small example.

Right now I''m debating if I should just quite my job and stay home with little B FT which is going to cause some financial hardship on us and I''d really don''t know if we can survive on just one income. Since we''re saving for a down payment on a house, if I quite my job we can forget about the house.

or spend $600 a month and send him off to another sitter? which is going to start a war with my MIL because she''ll think we''re sending her one and only grandson away (she got 6 granddaughters and just this one grandson, all you asian out there will probably understand more of this) and it will make her look bad in front of other relatives.

what really bugs me is MIL''s attitude. she has this I have 25 years of caring for kids experience and you guys can''t tell me how to care for a baby attitude. We just can''t reason with her...DH had another big fight with her last night over little B and the tension is just driving me nuts.

Sorry for the long post, I guess I really need to vent...
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Oh, honey I know just how you are feeling. See my thread titled "sacrifices" for the whole story, but in short my mom bailed on her promise to quit her job to care for James so I could go back to work full-time and now we''re stuck. She has offered $400 per month to help with daycare, but that''s only about 1/2 the cost - even with a home-based person and not a center. If we proceed as we are we can forget about buying our own place because we won''t have any money to save for a downpayment that''s big enough to qualify for a mortgage.
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We''ve basically decided to move in with DH''s parents for a few years to save money and that way if my mom bails, yet again, on her promise of $400 per month we won''t be up s**t creek with no paddle. Right now we''re working on getting out of our lease on the house we live in - keeping our fingers crossed on that one. It won''t be the best but we need to do what''s best for James - and you need to do what''s best for your family. I''ll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers (((HUGS))).
 
Diver- You look awesome i am totally jealous. ian and D must be so close to the same age...his birthday is sept 20th and I will attach his invite as well. I was pretty proud of it till i saw yours. That is fantastic!!!

Bobo- I can relate on so many levels to you. My DH watches Ian most of the time but his mom wants to do it a few times a week...she is on my last nerve. seriously. this week she berated me for putting ians food in plastic and microwaving syran wrap...yet when he went to her house she let him in the pool without sunscreen for an hour! Um, plastic is yet to be proven to cause cancer, the sun is.

MIL drives me nuts. it doesnt help that i am not loving my new job. I really just want to never go back. That really isnt an option right now. We have some debt i want to pay off and well, the economy isnt getting better for DH. It is so hard, when I want to be home with DS, I''m stressed with work and my MIL is on me about everything!

Curly- I cant believe you are 35 weeks already?! Where does the time go?

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Bobo: I feel for you. I had to fight my MIL for control over my 1st daughter and I finally threatened to cut off all contact if she continued to go against my wishes (we are not Asian but I know this would be a tougher road for you to take than my family.) I sincerely feel that a child can only have one set of parents and your MIL behavior will definitely impact your relationship with your son when he is old enough to realize you and DH disagree with his caregiver.

Good luck!
 
mrsm~Too bad the swing nap doesn't work anymore. That was a lifesaver for us! Good thinking doing the baptsim right away....see pics below!
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Diver~Adorable invite! Creative. I might be asking for ideas when T's 1st comes around......

Curly~ I cannot believe you're so close to baby number 2! Lily sounds like such a trip to be around. I wish our kids could all meet and play!

Tacori~Thanks!

Bobo~I'm so sorry for the situation you're in! Could you switch to the new daycare and tell you MIL it's because you're worried about the tension her watching Little B is causing and that you don't want to ruin your relationship? Maybe put it in a way where she thinks you're looking out for her interests....you don't want to have disagreements with her, ect? Please keep us posted! As for as solids go...we started early (right around 4 mos) and T didn't really have any interst at first, but I kept trying every day or every other day and one day all of a sudden she ate like a champ and has ever since. You'll never know if he has changed his mind unless you keep trying!
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mrsf~sorry you're having a hard time with work. I can totally relate! I cried after dropping T off today....just when I thought I was getting better. So hard to be away from the little ones!

Okay....so here are some baptism pics. I hate that you can't post more than one at a time, but I have to post all 6 of these because it gives you a good feel for the three ring circus that was T's baptism! Starting with right when we got up there....this lasted all of about 30 seconds....

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then this started...

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then this...I think she was trying to tell the Pastor what to do....

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then we had this.....

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And last but certainly not least....T eating the beautiful cloth given to us after they poored the water on her head...

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So in conclusion, I think we'll be getting the next baby baptised before he or she is 7 months!
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OMG Burk, those pictures of T are priceless. My daughter and I are sitting here laughing. She is such a cutie pie. We both LOVE the faces she is making. She is just tooooooo darn cute for words. I am so glad you will have these pictures to look back on.


Linda
 
Thanks Linda! She really was good. No fussing or anything, she wanted to talk to the pastor and get down and explore. I''m glad my SIL was able to get some good pictures to capture it!
 
Burk, I would have been smiling at her the whole time, if I were sitting there. The faces that babies make, are just priceless. "sigh", wish I had more grandbabies, my grandsons are getting older, tee hee.

Linda
 
Hey ladies...

I am sitting here in Wisconsin, as pooped as can be. Been reading and want to respond so much, but it has to wait as I need to hit the sack and it will take me awhile to make a long response.

But I have to say, Burk, those baptism photos had me totally giggling like crazy in my hotel room!! LOVE them!
 
Diver
Isn''t D much too young to be wearing makeup?
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Haha, seriously, her lashes are so long and thick they put those fake lashes to shame.
Love love your invite...it''s beautifully done.
And the food sound yummy, especially the RV cupcakes
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Burk
Those baptism pix are priceless.
I wouldn''t have been able to contain myself if were I there.
I bet you it was quite a giggle fest for the audience
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Curly
Wow, you are so close....
Can''t wait to meet your little one...
Did you ever settle on her name?

And Lily sounds like she''s going to be a fabulous big sister.

Oh god, I sure hope J is not teething.
BFing would not be fun
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She''s already pretty aggressive at times when the letdown is not fast enough for her.

MsF
Your invite is awesome as well.
Very boyish. Love the pix of Ian with his hat.
Wow, can''t believe all these kiddies are turning one already.
Pretty soon, it''ll be Tessa and then Ella''s bigG and lil MsK.

Tacori
Hehe, Tessa may be tiny and petite...but she sounds like a handful :)
Can''t believe she''s already hitting those stairs!
So what type of cupcakes are you having for T''s b-day?
 
Jas12

Forgot, was going to second what msb suggested for the wording on the thank you card for you therapist.
Or you can replace Thank you with I'm so happy (since the pix is of Co w/ a big ole smile)
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Anyway, J is a poor traveler for sure.
She never naps in the carseat or stroller.
Probably my fault for not swaddling her early on....
so she's used to being free.
She hates the restraints on the carseat and would squeal just about everytime we put her in there.

I'm hoping that the bigger carseat (which we're going to get soon since she's outgoing this bucket seat one) will be more comfortable.

Poor Co with the shots, but that must have been a restful afternoon for you with him clonking out afterward huh? :)
J was the same when she got her shots.
Napped for 4 hours and then slept through the night twice.

And ouch about your sacrum.
Hopefully, your hormones will do its thing w/o you having to wean Co.
Is there anything else you can do like physical therapy or medicine to coax it back in place?
 
Linda: I know, babies aren''t babies long enough for me. Tonight D fell asleep in my arms & I just sat here and stared at her, kissing her little forehead & it was sheer bliss.

Burk: OOOMMMMGGGG those pics are a RIOT! I love Tayva, she is so beautiful, and her expressions were hilarious. I''m sure D''s will go the same, I''m still waiting to hear back from the church. Oy. Again...your dh. Holy hotness batgirl!! Nice work! LOL (sorry....just feel compelled to comment when you post pics of him! LOL). The two of you make a lovely pair & obviously adorable babies!

Tgal: Whatcha doin in WI? Are you alone for work? Enjoy the rest!

gak gak gak! Romy & Michelle''s HS reunion just came on TURN THE CHANNEL TURN THE CHANNEL! Ugh, I can''t relive my reunion again. bad bad bad.


Tacori: I just can''t get over how long Tessa''s hair is. She is a beauty & those cheeks are yummy....love the new avatar. How are you doing?


Ok, well, maybe I''ll watch Romy & Michelle. Pretty funny dance scene...
 
Jas12: glad u liked my suggestion =D....sorry about ur situation though
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hopefully it''ll all be back to normal in no time...

Bobo: sorry about ur MIL situation..trust me i know how it is (dont we all??
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), but i honestly think that you should stand up for wat you believe is best for your son...i had the same situation where i had many ppl wanting to interfere saying wat i did was wrong and they''ve raised x number of babies and blah blah blah...i just calmly told them that i wanted this relationship they had with my son to work, but if they kept insisting on doing things their way instead of how i want them to be done, then they will not be able to see little K as much...(i honestly DIDNT care if i hurt anyone''s feeling...they will all to get over it at some point...)

TGal: good to hear from u :)

Burk: OH my goodness!! those pics are just adorable..i LOVE them all!! (and ur looking pretty urself :) )

Curly: wow, i can''t believe ur 35 weeks already!! time sure did fly by...sorry to hear about ur mother
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Diver/MrsF: love the invites!!! u guys are making me feel REALLY bad that i didnt make a big deal out of sons first birthday
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...i did have 3 birthday parties but no invites, no big event nothing....i thought he wouldn''t understand much anyway, so thought id save the big bday for when he was 2...


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had to share proud mommy moment...my son for the first time gave me a big slobbering wet kiss yesterday!! I LOVED IT!!!
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...we keep telling him ''give mommy a kiss'' or ''give daddy a kiss'' but he always just LAUGHS his head off and walks away
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....yesterday i said the same thing and he leans over and gives me this big wet kiss smack on my cheek!!! couldn''t have been happier!! then to top it off he gave me a hug!!! ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!!! i almost started bawling rite then and there!!!
 

Thanks ladies for sharing your stories, it''s good to know I''m not the only one that has this kind of battle with MIL.


Diva, I will go read your thread when I get a chance and thanks for sharing.


msflutter, I''m sorry to hear what your MIL did. I will be piss if I were you. Sorry you are not loving your new job.Hope things will get better..


MMD, I so wish I can just tell MIL I will cut off all contact if she continue like this, but I don''t want DH get stuck in the middle.


Burk, I don''t know what my DH decision will be, I want to leave the final say to him since it''s his mother that''s causing the trouble. I think little B prefer table food instead of baby food. He will happily eat toast and rice cracker but will only give baby food two bites and he''ll stop. Love the pixs of Tayva, she is so cute~ you have a beautiful family!


Thanks msb700.

 
Burk, I had to look at your bap. pics again. D & T would get along JUST GREAT!

LOL...
 
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