PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/3/2010 2:26:31 PM
Author: Blenheim
TGal - Aw, thanks. I realized just after I left for lunch that I probably wasn''t clear enough with the selfish comment - a large part of why I''m feeling selfish is that I would really prefer to spend that hour watching TV instead of sitting and comforting a screaming baby, and if I leave him to scream (warning - overly emotional gross over-exaggeration ahead!) then I''m choosing TV over him. If we go that route, I think I need to reframe it to match your thinking.

Ebree - Hearing about your experience is helpful - thanks!

ETA - dust for Sophia!

Hahaha...um, isn''t that normal? I was comforting my child last night for some time because she had another outbreak of hives and I kept thinking, um...how long do I have to be here...I have my Kindle waiting for me!

BTW, even though I think Ferber''s method doesn''t make sense from a consistency POV, there must be something to it. I think I''ve mentioned one of my close friends could not do CIO so she used Ferber...except like EBree, she did have physical contact when touching her son. She called it the "pick him up, put him down" method. I would think it would be more confusing for the kid, but she said after 2 solid weeks of it (and plenty of frustration), it worked. Didn''t have any real sleep issues after that that I know of.

 

[neatfreak]

MANDARINE A few things about flat head. #1, twins are more susceptible. I think because they are crammed in the womb. So don't beat yourself up over it. And is Alex Baby A? Our therapist said that Baby A is even more susceptible for some reason. Maybe more pressure=weird heads? Or simply unless you have a nanny twins are just going to be not in momma's arms more often. Who knows.

Second, Max had a head that looked JUST like Alex's. Now, his head has always been shaped a little flatter in back and broader in front, and I suspect that added to how quickly it appeared. Since it was already a bit flatter in back it got really flat, really quick. But he never really had bulges in front thank goodness.

Anyway, if you catch it early (which you have) just do your best to prop him when he is in a bouncer, carseat, sleeping,etc. We used a wedge of foam or a rolled up blanket and just propped the flat side so he would sleep facing the other way. For Max it was flat in back but one side was flatter, so we propped him. I also tried to leave him in the upright swing instead of the bouncer, etc.

Anyway, our pedi referred us to a therapist. We went twice, a month apart. The first time she took measurements and did some exercises with him to see if he was having muscle preference or simply a sleeping preference. She decided it was simply sleep. So she gave us a few exercises to do and ways to prop him. We went back a month later (and during this time he started rolling and sleeping on his tummy a bit) and it had gotten much better. And it just got better from there without much effort on my part, probably mostly due to the fact that he started sleeping on his tummy once he could roll.

So don't freak out, it's normal, happens to a lot of babies and even more twins. It's not your fault. Just try to be conscious of it and get him to a PT to get measured so they can monitor it. And don't let them talk you into a helmet just yet,most of the time it resolves on it's own. So if his features aren't deformed, don't do it! They are crazy expensive and often the PT's get referral $ from the helmet companies.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/3/2010 2:58:45 PM
Author: neatfreak
MANDARINE A few things about flat head. #1, twins are more susceptible. I think because they are crammed in the womb. So don''t beat yourself up over it. And is Alex Baby A? Our therapist said that Baby A is even more susceptible for some reason. Maybe more pressure=weird heads? Or simply unless you have a nanny twins are just going to be not in momma''s arms more often. Who knows.

Second, Max had a head that looked JUST like Alex''s. Now, his head has always been shaped a little flatter in back and broader in front, and I suspect that added to how quickly it appeared. Since it was already a bit flatter in back it got really flat, really quick. But he never really had bulges in front thank goodness.

Anyway, if you catch it early (which you have) just do your best to prop him when he is in a bouncer, carseat, sleeping,etc. We used a wedge of foam or a rolled up blanket and just propped the flat side so he would sleep facing the other way. For Max it was flat in back but one side was flatter, so we propped him. I also tried to leave him in the upright swing instead of the bouncer, etc.

Anyway, our pedi referred us to a therapist. We went twice, a month apart. The first time she took measurements and did some exercises with him to see if he was having muscle preference or simply a sleeping preference. She decided it was simply sleep. So she gave us a few exercises to do and ways to prop him. We went back a month later (and during this time he started rolling and sleeping on his tummy a bit) and it had gotten much better. And it just got better from there without much effort on my part, probably mostly due to the fact that he started sleeping on his tummy once he could roll.

So don''t freak out, it''s normal, happens to a lot of babies and even more twins. It''s not your fault. Just try to be conscious of it and get him to a PT to get measured so they can monitor it. And don''t let them talk you into a helmet just yet,most of the time it resolves on it''s own. So if his features aren''t deformed, don''t do it! They are crazy expensive and often the PT''s get referral $ from the helmet companies.

Good to know neatfreak...I don''t want my friend with the triplets to freak out, because she was there when I was going through flathead therapy with Amelia and is probably going to be paranoid about it. Interesting bit about the womb! I didn''t know you went to the therapist, interesting! Good thing it was a sleep preference...Amelia was obviously a muscle issue and BOY was therapy ugly. The therapist must have thought she was an angry, screaming baby all the time.

I have never seen her so enraged since. Seriously, she was beyond pissed off.

Oh, and Amelia started to use the jumperoo at about 4 months...she didn''t jump at that point, but she loved being in it and looking at the toys. It''s GREAT for flathead issues!!

Mandy, I also agree with NF about the helmets. My PT said most often it is not necessary. She was a wonderful therapist.

 

[sunkist]

Viz your boys sleeping are too precious!

I''m so sorry that you have so much anxiety over the job sitch right now. I think working from home part time is a great option for moms that need to make it work. I know a friend of mine writes contracts for loans for apartment builders. She can work on it at night after her boys are asleep.

I dont know if you listen to DrLaura (I do sometimes

) but she has told many women that when you decide that taking care of your LO is the most important thing then it''s not something you discuss, you just inform your husband that you are leaving your job and are going to stay home and take care of your son and together you''ll make it all work out.

But, I myself have never been in that situation, so I''m sure I have no idea how hard it is.

Wishing you some sleep and some solutions to your situation

 

[E B]

Happy 8 months to Lex!

viz- Poor Charlie, and poor you! I hope you can find a reasonable solution. A 10(11 w/travel)-hour day sounds rough.

Date: 2/3/2010 2:19:43 PM
Author: AmberWaves

At night she sleeps on her back, alternating sides of her head (she does this by herself), when she's in her swing, we have the option to change which side it faces, so she can look at the scene at the back of the swing, so sometimes she faces left, sometimes right. I hold her a lot, and she spends a ton of time on her stomach, too (with monitoring). Our pediatrician hasn't mentioned it, but I'm very paranoid.

I don't think you need to be too worried. Henry would move his head back and forth by himself in the beginning, too, and he hasn't had any problems. He DID develop a bald spot from the rubbing, though. His co-sleeper would be covered in tiny hairs.

(Like his baby mullet?

)

 

[phoenixgirl]

Mandy, Claire really likes the Bumbo; maybe your boys would too? It forces them to hold their heads up by themselves just like tummy time. Claire''s head wobbles around like Stevie Wonder when she sits in it, but I think her head control is much better than when we first got it (Friday).

My guess is that if your child really has a problem with flat head, you''ll be going, oh dear, look at my poor child''s misshapen head . . . not wondering, is this flat-head? My nephew was referred to a specialist for one of those helmets, which was going to cost my sister $7k. And of course, once you go to the helmet place, their business is to sell you the helmet, so they''re not going to tell you that it might resolve itself. My sister opted not to get the helmet, and my nephew looks fine now at 2.5.

But she did buy me a Boppy head insert for my carseat to help avoid the problems he had.

Re carseat: when Claire is in her carseat for a while, she always has red irritation lines from where her pants or the fabric was bunched up and held in place. That''s another reason I avoid extended periods in the carseat, but if it were the only way to get her to sleep, I might change my tune.

 

[Mandarine]

Thank you guys

I went to the Dr...I wanted to go anyway because I suspected these guys were suffering from reflux.

Flathead The Dr said he wasn't really concerned....but that yes, they do seem to be getting flat heads and one side slightly more than the other. Alex's is more pronounced than Lucas. TGal, I also was looking at old pictures, like you recommended, and could see the difference. He said about propping them on one side, then the next night the other one. He said to do as much tummy time as possible but said that he was sure it would resolve itself once they started sitting up more, rolling over, etc. At this point I'm not sure if I should go to a PT or just keep an eye on it?. I'm definitely going to try to be more diligent about tummy time and will start trying to prop them up on different sides each night. The crib soothers are on one side, which happens to be the flatter side...so maybe I'll start switching their position in the crib...although this may not work since I also have to incline the crib (for the reflux problem).

Neat, that's interesting about twins! makes me feel better

...Alex was Twin A and he was the smaller one and was a bit crowded by his brother!.

Reflux and Rice formula

So it turns out they do suffer a bit from reflux. I suspected this because they spit up a LOT...and the poor guys always make sour looking faces. They spit up clear liquid, sometimes with white specks, sometimes all liquid...they always seem uncomfortable about 2 hours after eating and they always seem like they are hungry. I had a feeling this was the case but thought maybe this was normal baby behavior...until my friend came this weekend with her baby. Sure he spits up, but nothing like these guys!. They spit up constantly...after feeding, in between, during feeding, etc. The Dr felt between their bellies and chest and they immediately got very uncomfortable...which I guess is a sign of reflux.

Anyway, the Dr recommended 3 things and I wanted to know if anyone had any thoughts;

1) Switch to Enfamil AR (added rice starch). He said that should make a huge difference. The boys are almost 4 months and although he always recommends waiting for solids, he thinks they will really benefit from switching to this formula (they're on premium Lipil now). He said it will help thicken up some of the acid so that it doesn't come up so easily.

2) Zantax...twice a day and about 45 ml.

3) Incline their cribs and let them sit up right after eating (like in the bouncy chair).

He said this could also be the reason why they are waking up so hungry in the middle of the night...and why this increased in the last efw weeks. He thinks the reflux has irritated them and it may be bothering them more now...and their instinct to calm it down is to eat...but then sometimes they stop eating and scream, because it turns out it may hurt them more.

Anyway, I'm willing to try it. I wanted to wait to add rice cereal...but I think he may be right. I'm a little afraid the rice will constipate them (they only go every other day as it is).

Their case is not really an extreme case, but I think it's enough for them to be uncomfortable. Does anyone have experience with all of this?.


ETA: Thank you all for chiming in and all the new pics are adorable! I'm just exhausted (up every 2 hours last night...fun!) and it's been a LONG day (insurance problems, babies cranky from being woken up from naps, Dr's running late, etc)....

 

[Blenheim]

TGal - I know I need to substitute "normal" or "human" in place of "selfish" but as I said I''m not being entirely rational right now! I think I''m going to go ahead and pick up a copy of Ferber from the library in the next few days here.

Ebree - LOL! The baby mullet is exactly why I decided to cut George''s hair. Not saying that you need to of course.. everyone IRL thought I was crazy if that was the only thing prompting the haircut. I think they were all looking for hair-blocking-vision type issues.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/3/2010 8:18:29 AM
Author: Mandarine

I think Alex has flat head...and now I feel like a terrible mom!!!

I do make them do tummy time, but they don''t ever last too long. I try to do it right after the nap which is when they are in the best mood. The thing is, they do spend a lot of time in bouncy chairs, boppys, etc...because I just simply can''t be carrying the two of them around all day

...if I take them out, they stay in their car seat for the same reason....if we stop I may take one out for a little while, but it''s tough to be carrying them around....and when there are people here I let them cuddle them, but don''t want them in arms too much because then once they leave, the babies will probably want the same from me and I just can''t do it.

here is a picture I took with the computer this morning...what do you guys think?

Also, my husband has a flat sort of profile...could it simply be genetics?...Lucas''s head is rounder in the back, but it''s been since birth.

Does he have any of ther other head shape issues? That link that TGal posted originally has all kinds of movies and pictures that are interesting and helpful. There is even a sort of "asses the kids head" thingy you can walk through.

His head does look a little flat on the back, but whether it is an issue or not I have no clue! I know I noticed some deformity in Hunter''s head and basically made every effort possible to keep him off his back when he was awake. But it is hard with twins

And you are *not* a bad mom. You would be a bad mom if you didn''t care if he might have a problem, but you obviously care and want to help him and that is all we can do is parents -- care and try. We can''t guarantee we will be successful.

 

[Mandarine]

The Dr checked their whole heads and faces...also something about the eyes and foreheads, and that''s why he said he wasn''t concerned....

My poor ''touch of flat head'' identical cute boys

(hehe Mela)

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/3/2010 10:49:52 AM
Author: fiery

**********

So I was going through and putting together everyone''s LO''s b-days because I like to keep track () and I realized, and she probably doesn''t want me to mention this, that Hunter''s b-day is less than 3 weeks away!

***

I know!!! I can''t even begin to fathom that he is almost a year old. It baffles my mind completely. Having kids really makes the time fly, I feel like I am running full speed towards the grave

 

[E B]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:08:24 PM
Author: Blenheim

Ebree - LOL! The baby mullet is exactly why I decided to cut George''s hair. Not saying that you need to of course.. everyone IRL thought I was crazy if that was the only thing prompting the haircut. I think they were all looking for hair-blocking-vision type issues.

That photo was taken back when he''d lost almost all of his hair except for what you see- the thick strip in the back, which wouldn''t budge! Probably three-ish months ago? It''s looking a lot more even now.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Viz For what it is worth, I love my job a lot, but in your position I would also consider cutting back expenses and taking a leave to spend time with the kid. One thing to bear in mind, once he is about 6 months old you will probably feel differently about leaving him in daycare. For me and all my mom friends, once we''d been home 6 months we started getting cabin fever a little. So it may just feel different at that time. Bah. Most jobs are not designed for family unless you have a wife at home

That''s it! We all need wives!

 

[ChinaCat]

Hi ladies.

Viz- Oh, what a sweet sweet picture of your two babies!! Not gonna lie, your hours sound brutal. Can you tell us generally what you do? Hard to help with ideas unless we know what field we're talking about. My advice is two-fold. 1. Give yourself a short-term goal- say a month or 2 months or whatever- to just survive and get through working. In that time, don't dwell on whether you can quit or not. Not to say that you shouldn't feel what you feel, but table your decisions for this time period. Think like you can't quit now and it's not an option, so try to make the best of it and find some positives. 2. Once you get through this period, re-evaluate. If it hasn't gotten better, come up with a plan. At the end of the day, it's just a job. I don't know what you do, but I can't imagine that there isn't some form of what you do that would require lesser hours. May not pay as much or be as prestigious or whatever, but there are ALWAYS options. You might just have to adjust your thinking.

For example, when I went back to work the first two weeks were so miserable and I kept thinking there's no way I can sustain this. BUT for the time being, I need my job so I just went in with the attitude that I have to work for now, this is the financially the best thing for me and my family, which includes O. And it comes with sacrifices but at the end of the day, I'm his mom and he knows I'm his mom and tons of women I know work and have great, well-adjusted kids. Now, it's not true that I absolutely HAVE to work at THIS job with THESE hours and THIS pay. After a month, I re-evaluated. I found that it got way easier and even though I miss O and have moments of guilt and regret, overall this works for me and O is doing great with his nanny. Now, if I felt differently, then the reality is I could easily (well, let's take the economy out of the equation for now) find a different job that pays less but requires less hours, a job that I probably wouldn't have considered before, but as we all know, priorities change.

I think you need to give yourself a break and let things normalize a bit before you make big decisions. Give it some time. But know that you can always find another way if you have to. And it will be ok. Charlie will be ok.

Mela- So in the line for Starbucks I was thinking abour your "clicking" problem and think I've figured it out!!! Could it be your biological clock ticking????

Click. Click. Click. Mela needs a baby! Click. Click. Click.
Also, can I come to Florida with you??? That sounds heavenly. And warm.

Blen- Love George's hair pic! O's does something similar after he gets a bath.

CIO- I'm with Fiery. I was always on board with CIO. Now that I think I may actually have to use it, I am dreading it. Intellectually, I have no problem with it, but every fiber of my being resists hearing him cry. Amazing the biology of having a baby. I think we are close to having to use it though. Like Blen said, I am getting to the enough is enough stage and I just can't physically work and not get enough sleep. For us, he's just waking up once a night but it's still getting to be too much.

Fiery- DUST for pretty Sophia tomorrow!

ETA: Agree with Dreamer, I definitely need a wife!!! Also, I think 6 months would have been a perfect amount of time of mat leave for me. 3 months is too little and I would have gone crazy wtih a year. Viz, can you take any additional time?

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:14:52 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

Date: 2/3/2010 8:18:29 AM
Author: Mandarine

I think Alex has flat head...and now I feel like a terrible mom!!!

I do make them do tummy time, but they don't ever last too long. I try to do it right after the nap which is when they are in the best mood. The thing is, they do spend a lot of time in bouncy chairs, boppys, etc...because I just simply can't be carrying the two of them around all day

...if I take them out, they stay in their car seat for the same reason....if we stop I may take one out for a little while, but it's tough to be carrying them around....and when there are people here I let them cuddle them, but don't want them in arms too much because then once they leave, the babies will probably want the same from me and I just can't do it.

here is a picture I took with the computer this morning...what do you guys think?

Also, my husband has a flat sort of profile...could it simply be genetics?...Lucas's head is rounder in the back, but it's been since birth.

Does he have any of ther other head shape issues? That link that TGal posted originally has all kinds of movies and pictures that are interesting and helpful. There is even a sort of 'asses the kids head' thingy you can walk through.

His head does look a little flat on the back, but whether it is an issue or not I have no clue! I know I noticed some deformity in Hunter's head and basically made every effort possible to keep him off his back when he was awake. But it is hard with twins

And you are *not* a bad mom. You would be a bad mom if you didn't care if he might have a problem, but you obviously care and want to help him and that is all we can do is parents -- care and try. We can't guarantee we will be successful.

LOL, asses the kids head! Geez, if I did put my ass on my kid's head, it would be flat for SURE!!!

Mandy, the doc isn't going to be concerned about it. Generally in the scheme of what they deal with, it's no cause for concern. My ped is great, but did not particularly fret about my friend's son's flat spot (we all go to the same ped). If YOU are concerned about it, don't be shy about asking for a PT referral. However, I do agree that most of time, it seems to resolve itself once they learn how to be on their tummies more.

ETA, just read there are no other weird bulge issues with the kid. In that case Mandarine, I'd just be dilligent for the next month and see how they go.

 

[neatfreak]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:19:57 PM
Author: Mandarine
The Dr checked their whole heads and faces...also something about the eyes and foreheads, and that''s why he said he wasn''t concerned....


My poor ''touch of flat head'' identical cute boys

(hehe Mela)

If the doctor went as far as to check their eyes and foreheads and isn''t concerned I wouldn''t be worried. My doc did and referred us to the PT just to be on the safe side, but the PT said they really don''t worry unless the face is deformed as a result or it looks like it''s getting worse and not better.

I would just start propping them up and putting Alex in the jumperoo or swing instead of bouncy when you can. The jumperoo will become a favorite very soon and that''s great because then their head isn''t against anything.

I am sure it''ll get better soon. Isn''t it weird about Baby A? Our therapist said that if one baby in a set of twins gets it, it is almost always Baby A. Something about the pressure being greater so their head is more malleable or something...who knows.

TGal I don''t think I mentioned it and if I did it was a quick mention because nothing came out of it and honestly I wasn''t too worried since it wasn''t a muscle weakness issue just a sleep preference.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:35:00 PM
Author: neatfreak


If the doctor went as far as to check their eyes and foreheads and isn''t concerned I wouldn''t be worried. My doc did and referred us to the PT just to be on the safe side, but the PT said they really don''t worry unless the face is deformed as a result or it looks like it''s getting worse and not better.

I would just start propping them up and putting Alex in the jumperoo or swing instead of bouncy when you can. The jumperoo will become a favorite very soon and that''s great because then their head isn''t against anything.

I am sure it''ll get better soon. Isn''t it weird about Baby A? Our therapist said that if one baby in a set of twins gets it, it is almost always Baby A. Something about the pressure being greater so their head is more malleable or something...who knows.

TGal I don''t think I mentioned it and if I did it was a quick mention because nothing came out of it and honestly I wasn''t too worried since it wasn''t a muscle weakness issue just a sleep preference.

Yeah, there is enough to be worried about isn''t there! Seems so nuts now, but for 3 months, so much of my focus was on Amelia''s head due to torticollis. The PT would feel out her head every week when I went and I was so afraid I''d "failed" by letting some stealth flat spot grow. You should have seen me BEAM the day she told me Amelia''s head was "perfect"...nothing could get me in a bad mood that day. I kept talking to Amelia that day by calling her "hey you, perfect head child, have a bottle."

No one ever said parenting was sane.

 

[Pandora II]

Viz - I agree that 6 months would be good. You feel much more ready/desperate for adult conversation by then plus the LOs are a lot more self-sufficient.

Ebree - Daisy had a mullet so I cut it off and have it pressed in her baby book.

She also had a bald spot on the back where she would rub her head back and forth.

Mandarine - Have you thought of one of these? I was recommended them by a friend, but Daisy was always a side-sleeper so I didn't bother getting one.

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:46:20 PM
Author: Pandora II

Mandarine - Have you thought of one of these? I was recommended them by a friend, but Daisy was always a side-sleeper so I didn''t bother getting one.

Interesting product, but OMG...is it just my filthy mind or is that a HORRIBLE name????

 

[Dreamer_D]

Blen Just as an aside, as a psychologist I really question Ferber, it just doesn''t make sense to me because it uses a reinforcement schedule that I think teaches the child to cry longer and longer, rather than allowing them to learn to self-soothe. I imagine it works, but if it taked 3 weeks instead of 3 nights, I am not sure that is the best thing for baby. At least that was our thinking when we were going through it with Hunter. It is terrible to listen to them cry, but I wonder if standing there patting their back is more about making the parent feel better than it is about actually helping the baby? Anways, I have no other suggestions, but just wanted to tell you my thoughts! You will do what is best.

 

[fieryred33143]

Mandy was it you that said you use a sleep positioner or was it Amber??

They sell sleep positioners with a cushion "pillow" that helps reduce/prevent flat head. We have one that we didn't use much because she kept scooting off of it but I can give away if you want it.

It kind of looks like this one but is all terry cloth.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:24:51 PM
Author: TravelingGal

Date: 2/3/2010 4:14:52 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie



Does he have any of ther other head shape issues? That link that TGal posted originally has all kinds of movies and pictures that are interesting and helpful. There is even a sort of ''asses the kids head'' thingy you can walk through.

His head does look a little flat on the back, but whether it is an issue or not I have no clue! I know I noticed some deformity in Hunter''s head and basically made every effort possible to keep him off his back when he was awake. But it is hard with twins

And you are *not* a bad mom. You would be a bad mom if you didn''t care if he might have a problem, but you obviously care and want to help him and that is all we can do is parents -- care and try. We can''t guarantee we will be successful.

LOL, asses the kids head! Geez, if I did put my ass on my kid''s head, it would be flat for SURE!!!

LOL! I''m a PhD!

 

[fieryred33143]

Here''s the one we have. It''s really soft and they sell it at Target and BRU if you guys are interested in looking for a similar sleep positioner (sorry it''s blurry):

 

[Mandarine]

that''s interesting Pandora!!!! ...LMAO on the name too! hehehe

Thank you Fiery! That does look like it may work. We do use sleep positioners, but the ones that only go to the sides. I''m just not sure they would stay on it either since they do move quite a bit. Maybe I should try it though!. You should save that for your cousin though...I can run to get one and try it out, thank you so much anyway

 

[fieryred33143]

Yeah we bought that one when she was about 2/3 months old because I thought she had some reflux issues and I wanted her to be elevated a little. She kept scooting off of it so her head would be on the side somewhere. Poor girl lol. But maybe when they are laying down during the day, you can use it.

I wouldn''t worry too much about it because they are hitting that age where their heads will be moving a lot at night.

 

[E B]

Date: 2/3/2010 4:49:43 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie
Blen Just as an aside, as a psychologist I really question Ferber, it just doesn't make sense to me because it uses a reinforcement schedule that I think teaches the child to cry longer and longer, rather than allowing them to learn to self-soothe. I imagine it works, but if it taked 3 weeks instead of 3 nights, I am not sure that is the best thing for baby. At least that was our thinking when we were going through it with Hunter. It is terrible to listen to them cry, but I wonder if standing there patting their back is more about making the parent feel better than it is about actually helping the baby? Anways, I have no other suggestions, but just wanted to tell you my thoughts! You will do what is best.

I think it might have been both, for me. I became incredibly anxious when I had to listen to him wail. Crawl-the-walls anxious. At one point, during one of his failed naps, I punched my pillow. I was tense and angry, mostly at myself and a little at Ferber/Weissbluth/Ezzo.

When I'd go in and rub him, he'd stop crying completely. It was a minute of peace I (and I felt like he, at the time) needed, but you're right- it might have hindered progress. Either way, it didn't take us even close to three weeks for it to work at night (*furiously knocks on wood*), but I'm sure it depends on the baby.

 

[Mandarine]

Sorry to be annoying, but did anyone read my questions about the reflux and new formula/Zantac combo?. Just hoping someone else has tried this...

I''m hoping it helps them and not make them fussier!!!

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 2/3/2010 5:21:31 PM
Author: Mandarine
Sorry to be annoying, but did anyone read my questions about the reflux and new formula/Zantac combo?. Just hoping someone else has tried this...

I''m hoping it helps them and not make them fussier!!!

I think that Sabine did zantac with Jacks. Are you on Bump because she''s on there during the day and you can page her. She''s not Sabine on there though lol

 

[MustangGal]

Maderine - I''d try the AR formula before going the Zantex route, expecially if they just have a mild case. You could try 50/50 with the AR and the regular if you''re worried about them getting backed up.

 

[fieryred33143]

Hey MG, Kyle''s b-day is coming up soon too right??