PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

[vizsla]

china - your post made me cry (although not that hard these days

) i just need to find something that has a better work/life balance. ideally (if we take winning the lotto out of the equation) i''d love to work 3 days a week. that keeps the social/grown-up part of me in check, while still being there for charlie. but part time = no health insurance. or, rather, health insurance that we would be responsible for paying each month and then it just stops making $$ sense. some days i think why didn''t i become a nurse. 3 12 hr shifts a week? genius. wine? you got it!

i worry about PPD too. it''s the constant anxiety that kills me. we had such a rough go of it the first three months (and, who am i kidding, a good nights sleep would be nice) i guess i''m just always waiting for the other shoe to drop. what is going to be the next ''thing'' that happens to us. being away from charlie makes me feel like i can''t protect him from what is bound to happen. i can get everything ready for daycare and organize our day so that we have as much quality time as possible but i''m still not there for him all day. makes me sad to write it out.

 

[vizsla]

ooops - forgot to comment on the BF. my situation is slightly different buuuuutttt aside from putting cabbage leaves in your bra

. my midwife recommended the following:
she could put me on a regular 'ol BC pill that will cut your supply by almost half AND/OR i could start increasing the time between pumpings/feedings. but this means that you will be on a different pumping schedule than O is feeding - and pumping all of the time stinks.

but, since i was exclusively pumping anyway i just started to increase my time. i was on every 4 hours, then friday-sunday started doing every 5 hours, last night i pumped at 7pm and didn't pump again until 5 this morning. sure, my boobs hurt a little, but nothing like the early days. i pump every 5 hours during the day. in a couple of days i'll go to 6 hours, then 7 then maybe just 2x a day and eventually once or just stop. should take another 2 weeks? so 3 weeks total.

also, for nostalgia i'd like to try and feed charlie one more time before i stop completely... which will probably make me cry (heck, it makes me cry just to think it) - but don't want to get my feelings hurt when he wants nothing to do with me. i should make sure i'm good and full so he feels like he's at a buffet.

did that help? i'm super duper nervous to just stop cold turkey.... engorgement scares me.

 

[phoenixgirl]

Yay, Claire did better today! She ate both bottles. The trick is to hold her facing out, apparently.

I tried to take a nap while she was at daycare, but I couldn''t relax. That''s been happening to me recently. One night this week I woke DH up to complain that I couldn''t sleep and to have him rub my head. I would love to sleep for a whole night.

So it seems like the pumping will work out OK. My guess is that Claire won''t have all 3 bottles every day, so I''ll have an extra bottle to work with occasionally. I''m pumping about 3.6 ounces at a time, and I''m aiming for 4, so I need to do an extra pump at night to make up the difference. My sister said she never really pumps more than 3 ounces, and I''ve been pumping about 3 times a day in addition to regular feedings all month, so I don''t think my production is going to go up much from here. But with the freezer stash of 18 bottles and extra pumpings here and there, I think we''ll be ok. My only concern is that the first pump of the day may only be an hour or two after she ate, so I probably won''t get 3 ounces then, and then there will be more of a deficit to make up (and eventually she''ll need more than 4 ounces). But I am determined to do it.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 12:07:08 PM
Author: AmberWaves
Since I had the beauty of pushing my big baby and ending up with a c, I wonder what''ll happen? I mean, nothing was torn but I did feel the pressure and nothing in the ''butt'' area is the same now, despite not pushing her out.

Hmmm... I am sorry to say that you will probably have some of the negative issue associated with v-brith! Do you notice your pelvic muscles are weak? For me this was most noticable when I walked and when I liften one leg independently of the other.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 12:15:17 PM
Author: AmberWaves
Breastfeeders: Do you leak during sex? I wonder about this, as I''m not too keen on dousing the husband with Captain Righty during the first sex since umm, 11 months almost exactly.

No, but I never really leaked or got engorged for some reason! I do find that I DETEST his even going near my boobs now, whereas before I used to really really love it. Siggghhhh... it just feels *wrong* I guess. Plus I lost all sensation in my nipples. The joys of motherhood!

 

[ChinaCat]

Viz- Didn''t mean to make you cry!!! We are all here for you though and we''ve all been through some form of what you are going through. Thanks for your answer on the weaning. O takes bottles during the day and I only nurse him at bedtime and if he gets up at night. I was thinking of just dropping one pumping, and then another, etc., but perhaps extending time b/w may be an easier way to go. It sucks and I am so sad even thinking about it.

 

[Blenheim]

I was wondering if anyone could help out with getting G to sleep in the crib. He WAS able to do it, but for the past four nights bedtime has been hell. In the past, I''ve either nursed him to sleep and then put him in the crib, or nursed him until he''s drowsy and then put him in the crib and patted his back until he goes to sleep. If he woke up, one of us would go in and rub or pat his back and he''d drift back off to sleep. Sometimes he''d get worked up and start trying to crawl or "walk" around in the crib, and we''d lay him on his back and rub his belly a couple of times and then he''d start to calm down and finally go back to sleep. This still works IF he''s on the bed with us. But if he''s in the crib and we don''t pick him up, just in the last few nights, he''s started to wail and screech and gets worked up to the point where we can''t soothe him. If we pick him up, he quiets within seconds, and then starts to screech the second we set him back down. He can keep this up for hours. I don''t think there''s any physical thing causing him discomfort, because he''s been fine during the day. We''re still bedsharing midnight onwards... I don''t know if that''s making the situation worse? I just want him to sleep in the freaking crib from 8-12.

Anyway, does anyone have any advice or recommendations or anything? I''d like to avoid CIO but I''m not really sure what to do.

Oh, and can I offer a suggestion for the next round of pics? My MIL unearthed some 9 month photos of DH, which are hilarious. Is anyone up for a baby/mama as a baby/daddy as a baby montage thing this go round?

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 1:17:38 PM
Author: cdt1101
Mela - clicking??? HAHAHAHA! sorry, but I almost spit out my soup when I read that! No clicking for me, but sex is just not the same since baby.

My DH and I were never very active (he has low testosterone), so we were like once a week *most* of the time before baby, now it''s more like twice a month

For the most part, we are both fine w/ that, neither complains, but sometimes I do wish that we both had more desire.

And I agree w/ everyone else, DEFINITELY get liquored up before DTD the 1st time after baby

For me, everything felt VERY tight and still does which makes it not the most comfortable sometimes.

But yeah, I don''t have high hopes to ever get KU unexpectantly because we just don''t do it enough. We definitely have to both be on board and *try* to conceive. Not very romantic

.

It is what it is though, I accepted LONG ago that my DH is just not one of those men that''s up for a romp all the time.

DREAMER - I STILL have issues w/ my tailbone 8 pp! It sucks, it feels weird for lack of a better word and sometimes if I sit a certain way it pops

. Goes numb a lot too. I definitely do not look forward to the pain I was in after birth though...hopefully I''ll dodge that bullet the second time around (w/ the tailbone).

I have that too! In general, I find that my hips/lower pelvic region is just out of whack and not as flexible as it was. I really want to be all back 100% before getting pg again. I think I need to start taking Yoga again. Hunter was all on the left side when I carried him, and so my body compensated and my whote right side is out of alignment

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 2/2/2010 4:33:37 PM
Author: Blenheim
I was wondering if anyone could help out with getting G to sleep in the crib. He WAS able to do it, but for the past four nights bedtime has been hell. In the past, I've either nursed him to sleep and then put him in the crib, or nursed him until he's drowsy and then put him in the crib and patted his back until he goes to sleep. If he woke up, one of us would go in and rub or pat his back and he'd drift back off to sleep. Sometimes he'd get worked up and start trying to crawl or 'walk' around in the crib, and we'd lay him on his back and rub his belly a couple of times and then he'd start to calm down and finally go back to sleep. This still works IF he's on the bed with us. But if he's in the crib and we don't pick him up, just in the last few nights, he's started to wail and screech and gets worked up to the point where we can't soothe him. If we pick him up, he quiets within seconds, and then starts to screech the second we set him back down. He can keep this up for hours. I don't think there's any physical thing causing him discomfort, because he's been fine during the day. We're still bedsharing midnight onwards... I don't know if that's making the situation worse? I just want him to sleep in the freaking crib from 8-12.

Anyway, does anyone have any advice or recommendations or anything? I'd like to avoid CIO but I'm not really sure what to do.

Oh, and can I offer a suggestion for the next round of pics? My MIL unearthed some 9 month photos of DH, which are hilarious. Is anyone up for a baby/mama as a baby/daddy as a baby montage thing this go round?

Blen, obviously Sophia is much younger but could it be that he's more "aware" of the fact that he gets to sleep in your bed and is now protesting the crib because of it? Where does he nap?

And I love that idea. I'll have to figure out how to scan the photo or do a cell phone pic of a pic heehee It actually reminded me that I do have a baby photo of myself in my desk and that I was a) way darker than Sophia and b) had less hair but curlier lol

Oh and I'll absolutely have to find a pic of R when he was younger and had blonde hair. Yes blonde! We're on a "Sophia Hair Watch" because her hair is getting really light so wondering if it'll turn light brown or go blonde. That would be sooooooo weird.

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 4:33:37 PM
Author: Blenheim
I was wondering if anyone could help out with getting G to sleep in the crib. He WAS able to do it, but for the past four nights bedtime has been hell. In the past, I''ve either nursed him to sleep and then put him in the crib, or nursed him until he''s drowsy and then put him in the crib and patted his back until he goes to sleep. If he woke up, one of us would go in and rub or pat his back and he''d drift back off to sleep. Sometimes he''d get worked up and start trying to crawl or ''walk'' around in the crib, and we''d lay him on his back and rub his belly a couple of times and then he''d start to calm down and finally go back to sleep. This still works IF he''s on the bed with us. But if he''s in the crib and we don''t pick him up, just in the last few nights, he''s started to wail and screech and gets worked up to the point where we can''t soothe him. If we pick him up, he quiets within seconds, and then starts to screech the second we set him back down. He can keep this up for hours. I don''t think there''s any physical thing causing him discomfort, because he''s been fine during the day. We''re still bedsharing midnight onwards... I don''t know if that''s making the situation worse? I just want him to sleep in the freaking crib from 8-12.

Anyway, does anyone have any advice or recommendations or anything? I''d like to avoid CIO but I''m not really sure what to do.

Oh, and can I offer a suggestion for the next round of pics? My MIL unearthed some 9 month photos of DH, which are hilarious. Is anyone up for a baby/mama as a baby/daddy as a baby montage thing this go round?

Hunter did the same thing for a while. I would go in and nurse him, he''d get dozey, then I''d put hum down and he would be awake and freaking out! I would try sending DH in and he would hold him, and same problem, he would freak out if we tried to put him down. In the end, we decided that he would just ahve to sort it out for himself. I know it feels mean, and sometimes I question it, but I cannot sit there with him all night. Depending on what was going on he would fuss for 20-40 minutes, often screaming bloody murder, and then fall asleep. Since we originally used CIO 3 months ago, we have had to do this about 2-3 times I would guess?

Do you think he is teething? That often is why Hunter wakes up. Try dosing him with motrin (it last 8 hours) and see if it helps.

I also wonder... do you think he is getting confused by the crib and co-sleeping being both used? I wonder, does he know when it is crib time and when it is mama/daddy time? I wonder if he needs a complete transition or some other solution?

 

[ChinaCat]

Blen- No advice, but hoping G figures it out soon. LOVE the idea of mom/dad/baby pics. Love to see who our sweet PS babies look like!

 

[ChinaCat]

Fiery- I just read this on one of my fave TV sites (Watch With Kristin). She has seen tonight's show and says:

"Tonight's two-hour premiere is my favorite episode since Lost's groundbreaking pilot five years ago. The show seems instantly broader and more meaningful than it was before. It's as if the fate of the whole world now depends on what is happening on this island. Hmmm..."

NOW I really can't wait...

Sorry, now back to all things baby!

Speaking of, how many babies do we have that share names with Lost characters???

Jack(s)
Des
Claire
Charlie

Love it!!!

ETA: Fiery, AND THIS:
"I now know what's in store for next week and in all seriousness could not sleep last night thinking about all the ramifications of it. It will be an entirely different series with an entirely different framework after the end of next Tuesday's episode."

How dorky am I that I am so glad it didn't come on in September when I was in serious baby coma mode and now can actually enjoy it since O goes to bed at a decent hour?

 

[Blenheim]

He''s in his crib for naps. But come to think of it, he usually naps for around 45 min to an hour. And then when he goes to bed for the night, we can often get him to sleep in the crib for about that same time frame before the shenanigans ensue. Maybe he''s associating crib sleep with getting up after he goes through one sleep cycle, and bed sleep with sleeping a long time? I was wondering if it''s time to transfer him to the crib entirely, if we''re expecting him to sleep there at least part of the time. I just don''t feel ready to do that (I like cuddling with him), and he obviously prefers the bed as well.

But this could be a sign that it''s time regardless.

I don''t feel any teeth about to come through or anything, but I think it''s supposed to be worse when they''re lower down, right? He''s always sticking things in his mouth so I can''t really gauge anything based on that. We have some infant Tylenol, so I''ll try that shortly before bedtime tonight to see if that makes it at all better.

DD, I remembered that you went through something similar and that CIO worked well for you. It has crossed my mind. If he''s fighting the crib and is going to fight regardless of whether we''re there or not, well, I just don''t know.

 

[fieryred33143]

China-That made me seriously want it to be 8 already!! FI is getting dinner ready and I promised I''ll leave here at a decent hour so that we can put Sophia to bed at 7:30 on the nose! So excited!!

He has been hounding me to watch these dharma clips. It''s supposed to be a documentary on the dharma initiative (obviously fake documentary) that really puts things together. He''s been mentioning it for weeks. I''ll have to find the links for you. So excited!!!!!!!


Blen-I know you weren''t happy with the idea of CIO so I say that if you still want to bed share, then bed share! But I do think that he''s probably more aware of the fact that crib does not equal mom and dad. I also agree with what you think that he associates the crib with shorter naps and bed with long sleep.

Have I shared this link with you guys? I swear it cracks me up. If you don''t find the humor in it, then it is totally acceptable to think I''m a loser hahahaha

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lj-x9ygQEGA

 

[ChinaCat]

Fiery- I''m laughing so hard I''m crying and my secretary came in and had this scared look on her face and asked me if I was ok. That is frakkin hysterical. What a creepy video!

 

[fieryred33143]

China, the first time I saw that video I could not stop laughing hahahaha

 

[mela lu]

Holy CRAP THAT WAS FUNNY!!!!!!! BAH ha ha. Oh, I enjoyed that immensely. WOW.

Blen - I really don''t know, as I don''t bed share, but I do co-nap often during the day. He sleeps WAY better (longer) when we''re together...which is great! His naps in his crib are short - only one sleep cycle. So, same issue, just not at night. I really don''t know what to recommend, but I would probably bet that CIO won''t really work because he doesn''t know how to tell time. He won''t understand why sometimes he has to cry, and other times he gets to go into the family bed. KWIM? I feel like either you have to do the whole night in the crib, with CIO; or start the night in the crib, using the pat-pat soothe back to sleep until midnight.

Don''t know if that helped at all...but that''s my 2 cents.

 

[Sha]

Re: postpartum sex: DH and did it about 7.5 weeks post-partum. I was really apprehensive about it, wondering if I'd feel looser, or feel any desire, etc., but surprisingly it was quite good. Things still felt tight down there, which was good - DH said it felt about the same too. It didn't really hurt, either. I felt a bit stinging at one point but that was it. No lbreast leakage either.

We've only done it twice so far. I do I feel a bit more libido now than I did pre-pregnancy (zero sex drive), even with the tiredness, which is surprising/.

 

[Bella_mezzo]

I''m home sick today so I''ve been all over the PS threads today

That video was hilarious. I watched like four of them and this one is also tears run down your face funny! (it''s love is a battlefield--I love pat benetar)

Thanks for making my day home sick not so bad

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dsZ-BMKVbSc&feature=related

 

[sunkist]

Date: 2/2/2010 10:17:14 AM
Author: AmberWaves
Okay, now, how about a Socal meetup?? How funny, we started with diamond meetups, now we''re on to more precious commodity!

Yah!! I''d love a SoCal meet up!

Man, lots of talk going on today!

I''m *trying* to have a good day today. I''m sorry to say that I think I got everyone beat on how little sleep they got last night. I got 3 hours total of sleep. One hour before hubby came to bed and no sleep after he came to bed until after Wes''s 8am feeding

Then I felt better and got another 2 hours finally!

It wasn''t sweet little Wes that was keeping me up, it was me fretting and being too hard on myself for the way things are right now and for how things are with my hubby right now.

I''m just not doing everything I want to do and being as good of a person as I want to be. Then with hubby, I wish he would let go of some of the petty day-to-day things and focus on what''s really important, like family and our faith. Then when I try to discuss it all with him I cry and I hate it when I do that! Ahhhh. Anyways, after no sleep and getting Wes up for the day and then putting him down for his morning nap, I left DH with Wes and I went out for a walk around the neighborhood. Cleared my head a little. So I''m kind of feeling better, but still a little mopey today.

K, ''nuff about my day. Sexy time!? Mandy I''m with you that it''s not happening yet! I admit that up until my 7week PP check up, getting the all clear, and then trying it out for the first time I was totally in the mood! But after trying once and then twice, I''m not sure we''ll ever have sexy-time again

First of all it hurts!! second, I don''t likey lubes. They hurt me

Anyone else have that problem??? Ya, and I just filled my mini-pill prescription again today and I''m wondering, Why??? There''s no way Im gonna get pregnant cause nothing happens.

And Fiery after all this I have to say THANK YOU

for posting that music video!hahahahahaha! You made me feel so much better

That is hilaryous!! I''ve never seen that real video with the real words, I mean, but I''m sure I prefer it this way! Imagine me trying to laugh so hard I''m crying but all in silence because my sleeping baby is next to me!

hahahhaha!

 

[mela lu]

Date: 2/2/2010 7:19:49 PM
Author: sunkist

Date: 2/2/2010 10:17:14 AM
second, I don''t likey lubes. They hurt me

Anyone else have that problem???

Lube gives me the itchies, so we use olive oil. It works great for me and I get no reaction.

Try not to be so hard on yourself. We all have bad days, and you''re entitled. Just keep your eye on the long-term / bigger prize, and try not to sweat the small stuff.

These PP hormones don''t help...I know. Hang in there (hug)

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 6:33:47 PM
Author: mela lu
Holy CRAP THAT WAS FUNNY!!!!!!! BAH ha ha. Oh, I enjoyed that immensely. WOW.

Blen - I really don''t know, as I don''t bed share, but I do co-nap often during the day. He sleeps WAY better (longer) when we''re together...which is great! His naps in his crib are short - only one sleep cycle. So, same issue, just not at night. I really don''t know what to recommend, but I would probably bet that CIO won''t really work because he doesn''t know how to tell time. He won''t understand why sometimes he has to cry, and other times he gets to go into the family bed. KWIM? I feel like either you have to do the whole night in the crib, with CIO; or start the night in the crib, using the pat-pat soothe back to sleep until midnight.

Don''t know if that helped at all...but that''s my 2 cents.

Ditto this I suspect. We have friends with an 18 month old who is still not STTN and I think the reason is inconsistency. Sometimes mom or dad goes to co-sleep with her, sometimes she is supposed to sleep in her crib. Not saying this is where you are at, Blen, but I think sleep issues can be a consequence of inconsistency, even if it is just perceived inconsistency because baby brains are sophisiticated enough to know when it is the time when you sleep alone and when is the time you sleep with mommy and daddy. I think that people who historically co-slept long term probably all went to bed at the same time, or else baby was carried/babyworn until it was family bedtime?

Meeeelaaaaa You are going to have to let him learn the transition for naps eventually you know

hhaaa.... kidding kidding.

 

[sunkist]

Re: Flathead - I noticed yesterday that I think Wes is getting it on one side of his head cause he favors that side when he sleeps! I cant remember but didnt TGal talk about that before?

 

[Dreamer_D]

Yes, she did. I asked about it when Hunter was around a month old. At the start of this thread.

 

[Mandarine]

I tried looking for the flat head posts but didn''t find them...Sunkist let me know if you do as I''m interested too!

I think Alex may have a slight case of flat head. It''s not on the sides though, it''s in the back of the head.... poor guy

 

[TravelingGal]

Date: 2/2/2010 7:26:26 PM
Author: dreamer_dachsie

Date: 2/2/2010 6:33:47 PM
Author: mela lu
Holy CRAP THAT WAS FUNNY!!!!!!! BAH ha ha. Oh, I enjoyed that immensely. WOW.

Blen - I really don't know, as I don't bed share, but I do co-nap often during the day. He sleeps WAY better (longer) when we're together...which is great! His naps in his crib are short - only one sleep cycle. So, same issue, just not at night. I really don't know what to recommend, but I would probably bet that CIO won't really work because he doesn't know how to tell time. He won't understand why sometimes he has to cry, and other times he gets to go into the family bed. KWIM? I feel like either you have to do the whole night in the crib, with CIO; or start the night in the crib, using the pat-pat soothe back to sleep until midnight.

Don't know if that helped at all...but that's my 2 cents.

Ditto this I suspect. We have friends with an 18 month old who is still not STTN and I think the reason is inconsistency. Sometimes mom or dad goes to co-sleep with her, sometimes she is supposed to sleep in her crib. Not saying this is where you are at, Blen, but I think sleep issues can be a consequence of inconsistency, even if it is just perceived inconsistency because baby brains are sophisiticated enough to know when it is the time when you sleep alone and when is the time you sleep with mommy and daddy. I think that people who historically co-slept long term probably all went to bed at the same time, or else baby was carried/babyworn until it was family bedtime?

Meeeelaaaaa You are going to have to let him learn the transition for naps eventually you know

hhaaa.... kidding kidding.

Thritto my guess.

Sunkist, yes, I did talk about flathead. Amelia had torticolis and we caught it early. She went to therapy from about 4 (or 5) weeks until 4 months old. Pop by the other thread if you have questions...I don't always read this thread consistently.

ETA I see Mandy has questions too...I'll check back to see if you have questions here, but basically just common sense - if you aren't changing their positions and not doing tummy time, they are going to get flat heads. Amelia's case was more on the extreme side...she completely had her head cranked in one direction and resisted if I pushed her the other way.

Change positions often, don't leave them in the carseat more than necessary, etc. Flathead isn't going to make them dumb or anything, but it can deform their faces in extreme cases. I've mentioned it before, but think of it like a waterballoon that you set on the table. The back flattens and it gets wider. Same with the brain...a dent in the back is going to make the brain go somewhere else, often broadening the face or even causing protrusion.

Most flat spots just sort themselves out though.

 

[TravelingGal]

I can''t find the link that I had that really made obvious what to look for, but here''s a site that shows how a flat back spot causes protrusion in the front of the head. In the second pic from the left, even though it''s a mild case, you can see that the front right is sticking out more than the front left.

http://www.cranialtech.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=category&layout=blog&id=71&Itemid=132

 

[TravelingGal]

One more link with clearer drawings. Brachycephaly is the one I see with most of my friend''s kids. Their heads look exactly like this from the top and they have wide foreheads. A lot of people do this to their kids and don''t know it.

http://www.cranialtech.com/

 

[Dreamer_D]

Date: 2/2/2010 9:59:44 PM
Author: TravelingGal
One more link with clearer drawings. Brachycephaly is the one I see with most of my friend''s kids. Their heads look exactly like this from the top and they have wide foreheads. A lot of people do this to their kids and don''t know it.

http://www.cranialtech.com/

There is a little boy in my daycare who is a moderate case of this. Honestly, the poor liittle guy looks so odd! And another of our friends'' kid is the plagio one. Gosh is it really just about positioning?? Seems like a kid would have to spend a tonne of time on their back to end up totally flat like that. Luckily, I carried Hunter a lot and he loved Tummy time, he has a very nice shaped head now despite some mild torticolis in the early months.

 

[Pandora II]

Blen, not sure how helpful this will be but I can tell you what I notice with Daisy...

During the day if we co-nap in our bed she will sleep for up to 3 hours, if she''s on her own (still in our bed) then I''m lucky to get an hour, normally it''s about 30 minutes.

In the evening I put her to bed around 8pm and I can guarantee that I will have to go in at least twice between then and midnight/1am when DH and I go to bed. Once we are all in bed then she''ll sleep right through till 8.30ish. She''ll feed a couple of times during the night but doesn''t actually wake-up to do so.

I think it may well be that George thinks "mummy next to me = night-time" and "mummy not next to me = nap-time".

We plan to let Daisy move herself out of our bed so I can''t help on the moving him to a cot full-time thing as I don''t know how it works in practice...

Definitely up for the photo collage!

Mandarine - Sexy time...

Luckily DH is not that into it, before TTC it was probably once or twice a month, during TTC we DTD more in a month that probably the whole previous year! A combination of morning sickness, depression and exhaustion plus DH not being ''into'' pregnant women meant that we had a go just twice - and one of them because we thought it would be wrong not to DTD at least once on our honeymoon!

Since having Daisy, we had a go at 3.5 months and that is it so far. I had/have a lot of trauma to my nether regions both in terms of pelvic floor weakness and a still not healed episiotomy. I don''t know what I do if I had a husband who was wanting to DTD all the time... probably tell him to get an interim mistress!