PS Mommy Thread-Newborn to 12 months!

[Mara]

oh mere i forgot to say that we got the ikea poang chair for our nursery and it''s like a bouncer...we really like it but we don''t use it in the nursery and we don''t really use it to ''bounce'' either. i think it just depends what your preference is for chairs. i didn''t really think we''d use the rocker/glider all that much and figured a chair like the poang (or like your ektorp) that can be used later in another room was more our thing.

 

[meresal]

Viz- I actually looked online to see if we could purchase a "kit" to put underneath the chair that would make it a glider! No luck yet... but you have given me hope. This might be a "project" for Dad!!

Fiery- Sophia is so cute! Thanks for the advice on the glider, I worry that I will wish I had one after... and your post makes me pretty sure I will! lol. Maybe I just need to get out and look at more options.

Mara- Thanks for the advice! I actually looked at a few of your posts on this from a few months ago. Re: the poang chair... I am 5-8 and C is 6-4... the poang chair is so low and the seat goes so far back (and at a downward angle), that we both have to use both of our arms just to get out of it. I just couldn''t do it with a baby and possibly a bottle or blanket in each arm. Have you had a problem with that at all?
We are also, like you, trying to keep "extra uses" in mind when we are purchasing things for the nursery. This chair would be perfect because all you have to do is buy a new cover and it automatically fits anywhere else in the house.

 

[E B]

mere,

I don''t know what your budget is, but ''Best Chairs'' makes gliders that look like regular stuffed armchairs. We have a ''Best'' that glides AND reclines!

And we can use it in our living room when our children are older.

Here''s an example: Best Peyton Swivel Glider

They make many other styles as well.

 

[MustangGal]

mer - I have a leather recliner in the nursery (thinking we''d move it to another room later) and I hardly use it. I didn''t like the way gliders "glide", I like the rocking motion better, but even when Kyle was fussy we never really used the recliner. So I would be fine with the chair you like. At 12 months now we use the recliner to fold laundry and to read stories, and thats about it.

 

[Mara]

mere, yep i have had an issue getting out of the chair. greg doesn''t have any issues, he''s 6''1" and i am 5''7"...but when i am way back in the chair it is hard to get out of it with J in my arms if i don''t want to wake him. actually the other night i was in the LR alone at night and i was trying to get out of it without waking J and i went too far fwd and the chair collapsed on top of me!! i endedup on my butt on the floor. J didn''t even wake up hahaha but i was totally freaked. it was my fault for moving too far fwd on the seat so i had all my weight on the front...but yeah i def am more careful now. THOUGH i think that a lot of my issue getting out of it previously had to do with not wanting to engage too much of my ab muscles since i was still healing. now that i am pretty much healed i could prob get out of it ok. but yeah for the first 4-5 weeks you might not feel comfortable with it. i used to have the ektorp couch a long time ago for my apartment and i really liked it, it was comfy. so i am sure the chair is prob similar plus yep you can use it in another room for sure!! i would just say maybe get a darker color so you don''t have to worry about stains!

 

[NovemberBride]

Mer,

I ahve the same as EB, a best chair that both glides and reclines. We love it. At this point we haven''t used the gliding much yet, but I hope to use it more when she''s older (it''s hard to glide and feed at the same time, which is mostly when I am sitting). I love the reclining feature though. One other thought, I am not sure if that''s the exact one you are considering, but I wouldn''t recommend getting a white rocker for a nursery.

 

[Sha]

Sophia and Charlie -

Sooooooooooooo cute!!!!

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

Viz, I think it''s good that you have a place to talk stuff out! Now that you explained the situation, I understand what you mean. I wouldn''t tolerate the 2 against 1 thing because even though it''s cute that your DH is trying to establish a special connection with his son, it also sounds like he''s excluding you from the family. I''m sure that''s not what he means, but he should be aware of how it could be taken. The other thing is that I firmly believe in presenting a united front as parents so even though C is young, if your DH keeps saying that stuff, when C is older, he might get the impression that he''s more important to Dad than Mom is. Does that make sense? I really believe this is innocent on your DH''s part and he''s just totally into having a son.

As for the complaining...well, this is a struggle for me. I absolutely LOVE spending time with Ben, but I have my moments when I complain (usually when I''m tapped out from one of his fussy periods). I can totally understand why it would be hard for you to hear your DH complain when you would kill to have more time with C.

I will keep my fingers crossed that things get better for you guys. The first few months of new parenthood are SO hard, but you guys will get through. You just have to learn to relate to each other as parents as well as spouses.

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I remembered the third thing I forgot earlier....

I have GAINED weight this week! I admit that I haven''t been doing anything to try to lose the last bit of weight, but before, I didn''t have to -- breastfeeding and life in general took it off. I''ve been busier over the past couple of weeks than ever before post-partum, so I''m guessing my age is working against me.

Most of the time, I simply don''t care. I''m starving much of the time, so I eat -- and at times, I know I don''t make the best choices. But then when I get dressed in the morning, I feel sort of depressed because I''m wearing a size 9 jeans (that are a bit big) and I have like 10 pairs of Lucky jeans in size 2 in my closet. I want to do South Beach but have read that you shouldn''t diet until 2 months post-partum. I would rather stay at this weight, wearing these same stupid jeans, for 2 months and continue to nurse than to get back to my old size, but it doesn''t make it any easier to not have lost any but the initial 20 lbs.

 

[vizsla]

thanks RPS i'm 50% finnish (and known to be stubborn) so that doesn't help. (and neither does DH, because *of course* he is never wrong) anyhoo.. it just seems like a lot right now, things are compounding - and i'm too tired to "talk" at night to resolve anything or tell him when he says things how it hurts my feelings - and that makes things worse - i need a warm spring day more than anything right about now.

i finally stopped nursing and GAINED weight too

i was thinking that BF made your body hold onto those last lbs and that i would lose them too.. yeah, no such luck. and i'm not willing to give up my 'good' designer jeans either!

jillian michaels 30day shred here i come!

 

[phoenixgirl]

OK, so I''ve grounded DH for the week.

Well, really I just said that I hoped we''d have a quiet week since this weekend is another busy one (and I have to work all day Saturday for this AP exam prep session

-- but at least I''ll get $$$ as a bonus when my students pass the exam).

To be fair to the man, he really does most of the baby duty when he''s home. He''s taken over all of the cooking and is currently at the grocery store. He needs him time too, and as an uber-extravert, that means going out for him. The problem is just that until school is over, I am having a hard time juggling what is left for me to worry about -- feeding Claire and spending time with her and doing my job. DH is really doing a lot; really, laundry is the last thing I''m taking care of, and DH even does that if I break down and decide I can''t. This past weekend was a once in a life-time bike show that will never visit our town again and that he''s been looking forward to for months. It was the kind of thing I really couldn''t tell him "no" on. But since I need a break now too, I plan on saying no to anything I deem frivolous until I can catch my breath.

We''ve also decided that DH will pick Claire up most days so I can stay at school and get some grading done. I had been flying out the door with this feeling that I had to get Claire as soon as possible to spend more time with her (and to try to beat the giving of the third bottle!), but I wasn''t getting any grading done and got behind, which caused me to feel more stress.

So Claire STTN again last night! We tanked her up around 8, and then she slept until 6. But today she was on a 4+ hour cycle at daycare, so we saved the third bottle, but now she''s only eaten 3x today. Perhaps she is moving from 6 to 5x a day.

 

[taovandel]

Hugs to everyone with husband problems...i''m super grateful for my DH now.

super cute pictures everyone.

Fiery: I''m confused..the Dr. said her potential eye problem is because of her nose??

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 3/1/2010 6:08:10 PM
Author: taovandel
Hugs to everyone with husband problems...i''m super grateful for my DH now.

super cute pictures everyone.

Fiery: I''m confused..the Dr. said her potential eye problem is because of her nose??

LOL!

It''s because of the bridge of her nose and the way the skin is folded over. FI and I both have wide noses (as does our families) so I think it may be something she has to grow into. It''s her left eye where I notice it the most but sometimes her left eye looks normal and the other looks more inward.

 

[Sabine]

Fiery, I see the same thing in Jacks at times...one eye just looks more "in the corner" than the other when he''s looking to the side, but my dh has assured me over and over again that it''s normal. Glad your dr. thinks it''s nothing! Those pics are sooo cute! I think the pink/green combo of her outfit and the stroller is a great color combo for her! Hopefully you will grow to love your stroller...as for me, I totally LOVE our combi cosmo!

Mer, I would say that a rocker/glider may be necessary depending on the baby. Do you have any other chairs in your house that rock though? If so, you could probably get away with not having one in the nursery, and then if you happen to have a LO that gets addicted to rocking or needs to be rocked a lot, you could always put that chair in the nursery for the amount of time you need it. Honestly, when ds was having horrible sleep issues before we sleep trained, I had to hold him for his entire naps, and the rocking really helped.

I''m starting to think I''m lucky that my dh''s only real hobby or interest right now is video games. I still get annoyed when he plays a lot, but he''s been very good on his days off and only playing when ds is napping/in bed for the night. Sometimes I just wish he would spend more time with ME at those times, but I''m often on the computer, reading, cleaning, etc. myself. I actually asked him the other night if he was sure he didn''t need some time out of the house on his own or with some of his colleagues, because I''ve done girl''s nights, but he really hasn''t gone out at all, and he said honestly if he had time off, he''d rather be home relaxing.

Jackson is 7 months today! Here''s a pic since I haven''t been around on Fridays. He''s been in super good moods lately even though he''s teething something awful. I really can''t wait to see a tooth!

 

[ChinaCat]

Ginger- Good luck at the LC appt tomorrow. I never actually had an appt with her, generally BF went well enough that I never had to. But I did my BF class there and went in all the time with questions and I always got great advice and never felt judged or pressured. That seems a bit strange that she wants you to get new bottles???? Personally I haven’t felt pressured to buy stuff when I go in there, in fact the girls have talked me out of buying a few things at times. But I am not sure I’ve met the owner, she might have an agenda. Let me know!!!!

Viz- DH and I went through a rough patch as well. It does get better, but yes, I had to let go of a lot of resentments I was carrying around. Your TTT idea is cute!

Phxgirl- You don’t sound like you have PPD to me. I was worried I did at one time, but after going to a therapist, we agreed that it was just newborn + new mom + going back to work + exhaustion. You sound like a new mom whose just a bit fed up with how much your life has changed and how little DH’s has changed. It sucks for him that he has to curtail his social activities, but so did you.

Ebree and Steph- What’s up with the screen name changes??? Am I missing something? Ebree can I still call you Ebree?

CDT- Yes! No! Yes????? Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Kimi- Congrats!

Fiery- I love me some Sophia.

AFM- Sorry I''ve been MIA. DH and I took our first mini-break without O and went and laid on the beach in Mexico for a few days. HEAVEN. It was a perfect vacation. I think it was the perfect time to go. O is 6.5 months so he feels old enough that I wasn''t worried about him, but he doesn''t quite "know" yet that I''m gone. My mommy confession is that I was totally ok being in Mexico away from O. I missed him, thought about him a lot, called and checked in on him and had my parents send me txt pictures, but I really enjoyed my alone time- SLEEPING IN, drinking margaritas with no worries, reading a book, just deciding on what I wanted to do and when without having my schedule being dictated by the most adorable little tyrant.

I was sooo excited to get home and see him, but it wasn''t nearly as hard as I thought it was going to be.

Mara- I ended up taking my pump with me to Mexico and it was no big deal at all.

 

[vizsla]

fiery- i meant to comment earlier on your pics... OMG is she just the most beeeaaauuutttiifffuuulll little girl or what?? a serious heart breaker gah!

hey there cc! was wondering where you were. FUN FUN FUN!! that's awesome about mexico! way jealous! where did you go? i'm trying to think of a 60th/35th combo birthday trip to take my mom and my sister on this fall. i'm debating between a mexican getaway and NYC.

letting go? ahhhh the major battle i fight every day. so.hard.for.me.

and i don't want you all to think i don't have a super sweet hubby - i do - and he is incredibly helpful and thoughtful and all that good hubby stuff. it's just a few things that GRATE on my nerves!

it *really* doesn't help that neither one of us has gotten more than 3 hrs of straight sleep in 4 months. (wish i was exaggerating, i'm not.) and this week the little guy is making up for all of the food he didn't eat last week when he was sick. he's eating every 2.5 hours ... all day... all night... last night he was up at 9, 12, 3, and then up for the day today at 5:15. we are just so tired. if he wasn't eating full bottles i would be inclined to try and get him back to sleep w/out feeding... but since he only eats 4oz at a time (and weighs nearly 13.5lbs) he NEEDS to eat. ugh... i just want to reason with him like "hey baby, maybe think about eating more at each feeding." bleh... and i'm so sorry, but i'm getting completely resentful of babies who STTN... i need to read some more of my dr.sears 'high needs baby' book to bring me back to center.

might take a small break here and regroup after the weekend. it's supposed to be sunny and warm on saturday... OMG do i need some vitamin D.

ETA: mommy confession... i always forget about these, but remembered one. due to the aforementioned sleep deprivation - about once a week i LITERALLY wear the same tank/tee shirt combo for 2 days... like today for instance - i'm wearing the same tank/tee from yesterday.. haven't taken it off... wore it to bed - got up and put a sweater over it. i did re-deodorant my pits and changed the necessary undergarments but that's it.... OMG i need to shower the SECOND i get home

 

[steph72276]

Hey, girls. Sorry I haven''t been posting much...it''s been pretty crazy around here. E has decided he wants to be a party animal at night and has not been getting much sleep. Last night he was up every.single.hour. And he would fall right back to sleep if I picked him up and held him, but he didn''t want to be put in his crib/swing/carseat. So needless to say I am very tired. Adam is going to go in late tomorrow morning, so he can relieve me some tonight and help out. I know he would do it when he goes in at regular time, but I hate to ask him when he works 12+ hour days and I stay at home...ugh, mom guilt! Anyway, we got our proofs back from our photo shoot and they turned out SOOOO cute. I will post some as soon as I get the disk. Have a great day everyone!


Blen, cute about the boys playing together.

Mara, thanks for the info re: the MM tea. I will have to run by WF this weekend to pick some up. So jealous about your long stretches of sleep at night, but right there with ya on the fussiness thing. Hopefully it will pass for both of them soon.

PG, hugs...hope you are feeling better soon.

Ginger, good luck with the appt.

Sha, your pic from Friday was sooo super cute!!

RPS, I did the same thing and gained back a few lbs...so frustrating. But I''ve been walking in the neighborhood and the scale is slowly going back in the right direction.

Viz, hope things get better with your hubby soon. Cute pic!!

CDT, hope you are feeling better and taking care of yourself.

DJ, thanks for the post about Kimi! Yay!

Mere, we actually moved our rocker out to the living room since I am in there so much for late night feedings. I will probably move it back in to the nursery later when I''m not up all night.

EB, yea for H scooting! He will be all over the place soon!

Fiery, S is ADORABLE!!! Love her sweet smile.

Sabine, happy 7 months to J...so cute!

CC, just decided to get rid of all the numbers in my name. Yea for Mexico...sounds like Heaven right about now!

Hello to everyone else, gotta go feed my little porker again!!!

 

[sbde]

Date: 2/5/2010 12:48:00 PM
Author: sbde
blenheim:

just wanted to pipe in re: george''s eyes. i worried that J had a similar problem early on and went to see a pediatric opthamologist as well. they checked things out and diagnosed him with pseudostrabismus, which essentially means that all is ok with his eyes but because babies nose bridges are wider than adults, their eyes sometimes seem to be out of whack. the key thing they asked me to keep a look out for was in pictures, check to see the where the reflection of the light/flash is in their eyes. if it hits at the same position in both eyes, then they are fine. in the 2nd pic you posted of george the flash seems to be hitting the same point in both his eyes, so i hope you get a similar diagnosis and everything is ok.

i''ve attached a pic here that i found online which should help explain - you can see that the children look a bit cross eyed but the light is reflected at the same position in both eyes.

linky

hope this helps! good luck at the appointment today

fiery & tao:

just reposting an old response of mine from back when blen was getting george''s eyes checked. i was worried about my son early on as well and the pediatric opthamologist gave us the same nose bridge reasoning as to why his eyes seemed out of whack at times. i''ve explained it a bit better above.

i would recommend all moms who have concerns to keep an eye on the way flash hits their babies eyes in pictures as per my link above. if all looks symmetric then things are usually ok, even if the little peanuts seem crosseyed at times

 

[rockpaperscissors67]

Good morning!

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Fiery, Sophia's so adorable. She reminds me of a friend's little girl who I think is absolutely gorgeous -- she has big brown eyes and dark hair. I told her Daddy he'd better have his shotgun ready for when the boys start coming around.

Viz, you may find that after a brief period of time, you drop that final weight easily. With Will, I held on to about 10 lbs. while he was nursing and I did end up having to do low carb for a little over a month to get rid of it, but once it was gone, it stayed gone until I got pregnant again. I don't blame you for not being willing to give up your jeans! In recent years, I had a terrible time finding jeans that fit me and I do not want to have to go through that search again. I have been really tempted to go buy a pair of Lucky's in whatever size will fit me now, even if it means I only wear them for another month. I know it's a total waste of money...but it would make me feel so much better.

PG, I hope the week is quiet for you! I honestly don't know how you (or any teachers) do it because I know at least around here, they're overworked and severely underpaid for what they do.

Sabine, that picture is so cute! It's good that you have a helper with the laundry, huh?

China, I am jealousing so hard over your mini-vacation. I think I would just about kill to have a few days somewhere warm and sunny. I'm glad that leaving O was ok -- I do think it's a bit easier when a baby is with your parents and you know you can trust them to take good care of your child.

Steph, good to see you! I sympathize with having a party animal -- for the past couple of nights, Ben hasn't wanted to go down for the night until REALLY late. I may have to start walking at lunch time to see if that helps with the weight issue. The weather here has been so crappy, though, that I just don't feel like being out. It's no wonder I'm not losing when I sit on my butt on my couch most of the day.

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The big news of the day is that I need to go buy Ben a new car seat. He's been using the one we had for Will, which was great...except I was doing some surfing this morning and found a recall on the seat. It's also almost 5 years old, so I feel better about just getting a new one rather than continuing to use this one. The one we have is an Evenflo Discovery and I'll buy another one because we like the bent handle. They're not very expensive, so I'd rather be safe than sorry.

I think we're going to have some issues with MIL. We went over to visit last night and Ben was a bit out of sorts. We had stopped at a friend's house to drop off a present for her little girl then gone to dinner and then to the IL's. I fed Ben at dinner and since he was awake for most of the afternoon, I knew the fussing at IL's was because he was really tired. MIL kept asking if I was sure he wasn't hungry. Well, I was pretty sure -- and then I was really sure after SO took Ben and got him to sleep. MIL also remarked about how skinny Ben's legs are, and then asked what I ate that gave him gas. For heaven's sake, he's a baby. They get gas! I got the impression that we're going to get to hear a lot about how we need to feed this boy, which is really going to annoy me. I don't think MIL understands exactly how hard I'm working to try to get his weight up, but since I've gone through this with every kid, I don't get super worried about slow weight gain as long as the baby is hitting milestones appropriately and having lots of wet/dirty diapers. I told SO that this better not become an issue because I am committed to bfing as long as Ben wants (as well as pumping during work) and if the remarks continue, he will either have to address it or we'll see his mom less for a while.

She's really a lovely woman, but she worries about everything and everyone and doesn't keep it to herself. Most days, she calls SO at least once to check on everyone. If we're traveling somewhere, she will call to make sure we arrived safely. For instance, the other day when we drove to SO's sister's house, MIL called once in the evening when we were driving home and SO told her we'd pulled over in a parking lot so I could feed Ben. MIL called an hour later to find out if we'd made it home. It's nice that she's so concerned about us, but at the same time, it feels like she doesn't trust us to be able to take care of ourselves!

So, yeah...I have a feeling I'm going to have at least a year of hearing that we need to feed this child! And here I was under the impression that babies don't need to be fed....

 

[taovandel]

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Picture is of Evan

 

[AmberWaves]

RPS: I sent you a bunch of PS friend recs!

Yesterday Piper was sooo fussy, just totally wanting to be held all day, didn''t take naps. I had to take my lunch break and use it to walk her! I ended up walking for 45 minutes. Then the second we got back she woke up again. Bummer! She still smiled and ate normally but had a bit of a "boogey" fest going on, so maybe she was under the weather. She went down at 9:30pm and slept straight until 3:30, then went back down until 6am, so maybe she was super tired?

? regarding sunglasses for babies: anyone have these? Useless/pointless?

? regarding baby nursing: Piper has been latching on normally, eating for awhile then choking all of a sudden. She coughs for a bit, then smiles and goes back to eating. What is going on there?

So remember I mentioned going away for a night and leaving Piper with family? Yeah, that''s this weekend and I thought it was next. So we''re not going.

I just needed more time. Yes, I am THAT mom.

 

[Ella]

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[AmberWaves]

Thank you Ella, feel free to delete that post if you want!

 

[fieryred33143]

Date: 3/2/2010 10:11:58 AM
Author: sbde

Date: 2/5/2010 12:48:00 PM
Author: sbde
blenheim:

just wanted to pipe in re: george''s eyes. i worried that J had a similar problem early on and went to see a pediatric opthamologist as well. they checked things out and diagnosed him with pseudostrabismus, which essentially means that all is ok with his eyes but because babies nose bridges are wider than adults, their eyes sometimes seem to be out of whack. the key thing they asked me to keep a look out for was in pictures, check to see the where the reflection of the light/flash is in their eyes. if it hits at the same position in both eyes, then they are fine. in the 2nd pic you posted of george the flash seems to be hitting the same point in both his eyes, so i hope you get a similar diagnosis and everything is ok.

i''ve attached a pic here that i found online which should help explain - you can see that the children look a bit cross eyed but the light is reflected at the same position in both eyes.

linky

hope this helps! good luck at the appointment today

fiery & tao:

just reposting an old response of mine from back when blen was getting george''s eyes checked. i was worried about my son early on as well and the pediatric opthamologist gave us the same nose bridge reasoning as to why his eyes seemed out of whack at times. i''ve explained it a bit better above.

i would recommend all moms who have concerns to keep an eye on the way flash hits their babies eyes in pictures as per my link above. if all looks symmetric then things are usually ok, even if the little peanuts seem crosseyed at times

Thank you sbde. I actually thought of your post when the pedi mentioned it.

She did a test with a flashlight that had a target with a bunch of lines. She showed me that the light lined up in her eyes in the same spot. I still think here eyes may be a little off because in some pictures, it doesn''t end in the same exact spot on both sides but is off just a little. I''ll see what the specialist says. Thanks for the info!

 

[fieryred33143]

Thanks ladies on the comments of Sophia

RPS: We go through the same thing with MIL so no advice from me LOL. I have pretty much gotten over a lot when it comes to her feeding Sophia. I gave her a list (in Spanish!) of foods that she can/can''t have at her age. I found out this morning that she started giving her juice

. She asked me if there was something I was doing that was causing her not to want to drink her bottle as much. I said no and then asked her if there was something different about her routine and in the middle of her babble she mentions giving DD apple jucie because "it''s time she starts drinking juice." I told her no juice until she''s a year old and then called FI to make sure he reimburses her for what she paid for the juice and also tells her again that no juice until she''s a year old.

Steph-Can''t wait to see the pics!

 

[Blenheim]

Ugh... the little boy that G had been playing with had been sick with vomiting/diahrea that his mom thought was because she had just given him crab for the first time, but then her husband got sick yesterday and then DH got sick last night and then this morning G had the worst poo ever. It - TMI - was really runny and got all over the bed, him, me, the wall (!?). I ended up just throwing him in the tub and then undressing both of us in there. And then he peed all over himself and got mad. Crossing fingers that he doesn''t get as bad as DH did.

All of the pics are so cute.

Nursery chairs - We just used the Poang, and I had trouble trying to bounce it as it was a bit on the stiff side. From daycare and now living with my in-laws (who have their old nursery rocker now living in their living room), it''s obvious that G likes being rocked when he''s having issues falling asleep. I think we''re going to end up borrowing the old nursery rocker next time around.

Sunglasses - we never bothered. He usually has a hat or sunshade or something over him when we''re out in bright weather.

Amber - Does the choking coincide with your letdown? You could have forceful letdown or something like that and she''s just not always expecting it?

 

[Sha]

Date: 3/1/2010 8:23:27 PM
Author: ChinaCat
Ginger- Good luck at the LC appt tomorrow. I never actually had an appt with her, generally BF went well enough that I never had to. But I did my BF class there and went in all the time with questions and I always got great advice and never felt judged or pressured. That seems a bit strange that she wants you to get new bottles???? Personally I haven’t felt pressured to buy stuff when I go in there, in fact the girls have talked me out of buying a few things at times. But I am not sure I’ve met the owner, she might have an agenda. Let me know!!!!

Viz- DH and I went through a rough patch as well. It does get better, but yes, I had to let go of a lot of resentments I was carrying around. Your TTT idea is cute!

Phxgirl- You don’t sound like you have PPD to me. I was worried I did at one time, but after going to a therapist, we agreed that it was just newborn + new mom + going back to work + exhaustion. You sound like a new mom whose just a bit fed up with how much your life has changed and how little DH’s has changed. It sucks for him that he has to curtail his social activities, but so did you.

Ebree and Steph- What’s up with the screen name changes??? Am I missing something? Ebree can I still call you Ebree?

CDT- Yes! No! Yes????? Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Kimi- Congrats!

Fiery- I love me some Sophia.

AFM- Sorry I''ve been MIA. DH and I took our first mini-break without O and went and laid on the beach in Mexico for a few days. HEAVEN. It was a perfect vacation. I think it was the perfect time to go. O is 6.5 months so he feels old enough that I wasn''t worried about him, but he doesn''t quite ''know'' yet that I''m gone. My mommy confession is that I was totally ok being in Mexico away from O. I missed him, thought about him a lot, called and checked in on him and had my parents send me txt pictures, but I really enjoyed my alone time- SLEEPING IN, drinking margaritas with no worries, reading a book, just deciding on what I wanted to do and when without having my schedule being dictated by the most adorable little tyrant.

I was sooo excited to get home and see him, but it wasn''t nearly as hard as I thought it was going to be.

Mara- I ended up taking my pump with me to Mexico and it was no big deal at all.

Ahh....How nice...

Glad you got a break and didn''t feel guilty about it. Taking those little breaks helps you be a better mom, IMO. A mini vacation sounds so heavenly right about now. I''m so exhausted today I can barely play with Dalila the way she wants me to.... I keep hoping she goes to sleep so that I can take a nap.

I think DH and I will look at taking a little vacation when Dalila is about 6 months too.

Re: DH issues - I can relate. DH is good with playing and cuddling with Dalila, but no much when it comes to the sacrificial part - e.g changing her, losing some of his sleep, or holding her so that I can get a break, etc. Sometimes I really resent him for that. It''s been 3 months and he''s slept soundly practically every night. Granted, I''m the only one who can breastfeed her, and he has to get up for work - but STILL - I''m working too! And I don''t get a break. Even if he didn''t get up with me - offering to massage my sore back or hold/entertain her for a few hours so that I could get some rest, would be nice, once in a while.

It feels like my life has changed a lot, but his..? Not so much.

Sabine - love that picture of Jack. What a handsome face! I can''t wait till Dalila can sit up by herself like that.

rockpaperscissors - Yah, my mother is just like your MIL. Maybe not as extreme - but she does send us emails every night reminding of things ''not to do/to do''s'' for Dalila, most of which we know already. She''s definitely a worrier, like your MIL.

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Is anybody''s else''s back killing them? I didn''t realize how difficult motherhood would be on my back and knees. LIfting Dalila up and holding her for 50% of the day is definitely taking a toll on my lower back-so does breastfeeding and even pumping. I guess because I don''t support my back properly when I''m nursing her. My knees are feeling the strain as well when I lift her up from a sitting position. And my thumbs are also sore!

 

[Mara]

amber, also the LC we met with seemed to intimate that sometimes mom''s might have multiple letdowns while feeding. could she be getting a 2nd one and that is what the choking is?

steph, ugh i am so sorry E doesn''t want to sleep well for you guys at night. it is totally tough!! honestly, sometimes i get a little down that J is so fussy during the day but then i think well at least he sleeps at night and he eats a lot, whereas in books you always read about the kid who won''t eat, won''t sleep and fusses nonstop. so i think well at least we are going along with 2 out of 3 ok!! plus i just really hope it''s his stage for now.

i just don''t know whether he is OVERstimulated and fusses because he needs to nap, or UNDERstimulated and fusses because he''s bored. whatever the case he def fights sleep big time during the day. during the night, the kid has no chance, we dope him up with so much food, there''s no choice but to pass out.

i am feeling a little envy today because two of my friends who have kids who were born around our same time have kids who weigh a lot more. one kid was 4 lbs up his first month and the other was up 2.5 lbs. poor J is not even up 1 lb. bad mom guilt. so that''s why we''ve decided to pack him as full as he can take it and see what his scale is like next week at the appt.

J is still fighting sleep during the day, in fact after soothing him for 20 min he was asleep but then popped his eyes open the minute i put him down so now he is fussing it out in the crib for a little while. but last nite he slept 6 hours and then a stretch of 4.

re: weight ... RPS add me to the group who lost a chunk but still has some to go. i can''t get the scale to move unless its +1 or -1 and it''s just back and forth. i went to the gym yesterday, YAY for gym time for the first time since i was pregnant at 20 weeks. i loved the boring old elliptical even haha, i just did 25 min on the ellipt and then 15 min of arm weights but it was something! i can''t wait to really get back into it and get rid of these last 13 lbs. i also feel like i am maybe not eating enough for BF''ing so my body is trying to hang onto the fat it needs. i am trying to remind myself to eat more but i just am not that hungry, and when i DO get hungry it''s usually in the middle of soothing J or something and i can''t take a break to eat a granola bar or something when he is this.close.to.sleep.

re FB... i am friends with pretty much no one except a few PSers i have met in real life...and since most of my family and greg''s family is on there with us (to see about baby), i tend to keep it pretty private and personal. i might do a PS mom account like so many others have but i just haven''t decided if i want to monitor 2 accts as my personal FB takes up a fair amt of time already since we do have so much family on it and they already complain i don''t post enough stuff for them! newborn, hello!

steph i can''t wait to see your photos!! we finally got ours up in the gallery and they are so great!! i can''t wait to send our announcements.

RPS are you sure your MIL is not my MOM? i adore my mom but seriously, same Q''s. are you sure he''s not hungry/are you feeding him enough and why does he have gas? i am like either way mom i don''t know but he''ll be FINE. she did watch him yesterday for me while i went to the gym and i fed him and she just carried him around for 2 hours. she LOVES to hold him. i was like here we go...spoilage already.

sha..my back totally hurts from carrying J around and bending over his bassinet and the changing table. and Greg strained his this wkd as well!! i def have bad posture and tend to hunch anyway so i am sure that all this baby stuff is not helping either. oh well, if this doesn''t strengthen it nothing will!

 

[Mandarine]

wow...I take a break for a day and look what happens!...too much too respond to...and I''m not even going to try!

My dad & stepmom were here for a couple of nights so I got to sleep in until 8:30 or so two days in a row...wow it feels GOOD!. Today my boys decided they were done sleeping at 5:22am (they had eaten at 3:30am)....so I''m glad my family was here because they were eager to play with the boys at that time, while I was ready to go back to bed!!!

The boys got their shots today (4 month shots at almost 5 months....d@mn insurance problems!!!). Anyway, Alexis 15lbs 1oz and Lucas is 15lbs 5oz!. I thought Lucas would be much bigger because he looks chubbier, but I guess they "carry" their weight differently! (aka: Lucas has the extra 4 oz in his cheeks!)

So far they are doing ok, just a little fussy

Viz I swear you are my twin....high need babies and very similar situation with DH!!! Hang in there....

 

[steph72276]

Hey, guys...here are a few of the pics I had taken. I can''t decide on a pic for the announcements...I might have to do a collage. Please tell me which one you would choose...thanks!

 

[steph72276]

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